# I hate all my girlfriend's freinds **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [May 12, 2003, 5:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hate-all-my-girlfriends-freinds/174738 "2003-05-12T17:26:10Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![msmith537](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/d9b06d/32.png) [@msmith537](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/msmith537)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2003, 5:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hate-all-my-girlfriends-freinds/174738/1 "2003-05-12T17:26:10Z")
I’ve been dating my girlfriend for a number of years now and I really hate all her friends: Her work friends are completely boring. Her friends from college are mostly married and live out in the wilderness. All they talk about is married shit. Her business school friends are tedious to listen to as well. All they talk about is business stuff which I don’t really care about when I’m not at work. And I don’t work. One guy, I meet for the first time the other day and he starts asking all these inappropriate personal questions. (he may have also touched my shoulder which as anyone who knows me knows…I do not liked to be touched by anyone for any reason at any time) Most of her sorority sisters are complete psychos Sitting me next to her friend’s significant sausage is not entertaining. Do not expect us to just strike up a conversation just because we both have penises. I do not need her guy friends telling me how “great” she is based on their perception from seeing her a few hours every week all dressed up and on her best behavior. After you watch her gain 50 lbs, have her screech at you for 2 hours because you showed up 5 minutes after some arbitrary deadline, then tell me how “cool” she is. Don’t ask me when we are getting married. If my girlfriend has not told you about enagagement plans, they are not in the works. I do not like that idiot couple she is friends with even though I get stuck drinking with the husband at ever one of her reunions. I do not appreciate having to take a 3 hr train ride to visit her friends in East Bumblefuck. Maybe for once, these people can come to Manhattan for a change? I’m sure there’s a TGIFridays or a sports bar they can go to. I hate going to her friend’s wedings. For once, I would like to go to a weding without paper plates, a family brawl or a 300 lb “special” child running amok. Do not have your friends ask me if their pants make them look fat. The pants do not make them look fat. Their asses do. “Red Lobster” is not my idea of “going out”. That’s about all I got for now. ---
**Author:** ![Ego\_Mk2](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/58956e/32.png) [@Ego\_Mk2](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ego_Mk2)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2003, 5:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hate-all-my-girlfriends-freinds/174738/2 "2003-05-12T17:32:56Z")
Why are you dating this woman? ---
**Author:** ![Soul\_Brother\_Number\_Two](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/soul_brother_number_two/32/3515_2.png) [@Soul\_Brother\_Number\_Two](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Soul_Brother_Number_Two)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2003, 5:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hate-all-my-girlfriends-freinds/174738/3 "2003-05-12T17:33:59Z")
More to the point, why is she dating you? ---
**Author:** ![Gatopescado](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/gatopescado/32/5711_2.png) [@Gatopescado](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gatopescado)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2003, 5:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hate-all-my-girlfriends-freinds/174738/4 "2003-05-12T17:36:25Z")
Don’cha even like that one little hottie who is willing to 3-way with ya? * * * Never kiss an animal that can lick its own butt. ---
**Author:** ![alice\_in\_wonderland](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/alice_in_wonderland/32/176_2.png) [@alice\_in\_wonderland](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/alice_in_wonderland)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2003, 5:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hate-all-my-girlfriends-freinds/174738/5 "2003-05-12T17:39:20Z")
I’m thinking she should dump your ass in a big, big hurry. It may be faux, but the way you wrote your OP paints you as an obnoxious, insensitve, boring shit. I think she should run quicky, in the opposite direction. ---
**Author:** ![Phlosphr](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/c68b51/32.png) [@Phlosphr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Phlosphr)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2003, 5:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hate-all-my-girlfriends-freinds/174738/6 "2003-05-12T17:40:12Z")
Same Q. Why date her? Why not find a woman with the same interests/gene pool as you? Unless she is your _ **Sugar-Momma** _ - and is paying your way through life in which case you would have no right to say the things you do, then get on with it and quit your bitch’in! > [@](#): > > Her business school friends are tedious to listen to as well. All they talk about is business stuff which I don’t really care about when I’m not at work. And I don’t work. How can you say you don’t like to talk about _business stuff_ when you are at work if you don’t work? Pull it together man!! ---
**Author:** ![Waverly](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/57b2e6/32.png) [@Waverly](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Waverly)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2003, 5:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hate-all-my-girlfriends-freinds/174738/7 "2003-05-12T17:40:17Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by msmith537 \* > Sitting me next to her friend’s significant sausage is not entertaining. Do not expect us to just strike up a conversation just because we both have penises. Clearly they should have seated you at a table by yourself, where your ill humor and stunted personality would be less likely to ruin the evening. You absolutely suck. ---
**Author:** ![Yumanite](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/y/b487fb/32.png) [@Yumanite](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Yumanite)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2003, 5:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hate-all-my-girlfriends-freinds/174738/8 "2003-05-12T17:47:09Z")
You obviously need to dump this chick and find one with better friends. And a hotter sister. :rolleyes: ---
**Author:** ![Giraffe](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/giraffe/32/129_2.png) [@Giraffe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Giraffe)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2003, 5:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hate-all-my-girlfriends-freinds/174738/9 "2003-05-12T17:54:20Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by msmith537 \* > **I do not need her guy friends telling me how “great” she is based on their perception from seeing her a few hours every week all dressed up and on her best behavior. After you watch her gain 50 lbs, have her screech at you for 2 hours because you showed up 5 minutes after some arbitrary deadline, then tell me how “cool” she is.** Yeah, I can see how irritating it would be to have to listen to someone who thinks your girlfriend has good qualities, when she’s actually just a fat screeching shrew. You’re the one forced to date this woman – the last thing you need to hear is that someone else actually likes her. You’re an asshole. ---
**Author:** ![5-HT](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/5/f19dbf/32.png) [@5-HT](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/5-HT)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2003, 5:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hate-all-my-girlfriends-freinds/174738/10 "2003-05-12T17:59:04Z")
I can totally relate on the friend issue. One of my exes was like this, we ALWAYS had to go out with her friends, and I couldn’t fucking stand any of them. I loved her to death though, so I did my best to be pleasent and put up with them. In your case, however, I agree with some of the other comments. Why are you still with her? You don’t seem to like her much more than you like her friends. ---
**Author:** ![Velma](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/85e7bf/32.png) [@Velma](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Velma)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2003, 6:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hate-all-my-girlfriends-freinds/174738/11 "2003-05-12T18:00:48Z")
Does anyone else think this OP is a joke? ---
**Author:** ![Kalhoun](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/3bc359/32.png) [@Kalhoun](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kalhoun)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2003, 6:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hate-all-my-girlfriends-freinds/174738/12 "2003-05-12T18:05:49Z")
The OP’s high post count is amazing given the…uh…way he expresses himself regarding his loved ones. ---
**Author:** ![msmith537](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/d9b06d/32.png) [@msmith537](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/msmith537)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2003, 7:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hate-all-my-girlfriends-freinds/174738/13 "2003-05-12T19:15:10Z")
I’ll try to answer everyone’s questions Ego\_Mk2 - The problem isn’t with my girlfriend. The problem is that I find her friends annoying. essvee - You would have to ask her that. gatopescado - I’m not sure what you are talking about. alice\_in\_wonderland - Maybe it does. But I am simply venting my frustration at some of lifes annoyances. Basically you are seeing the combined aggrivation from a dozen or so people ove several years summed up in one post. I think it’s probably better than telling her these things. Phlosphr - As I said, the problem isn’t really with her. - What I was trying to say was that I don’t enjoy listening to her and her friends talk about work or school related stuff since (a) I don’t work with them or (b) go to school with them. Personally, I think it’s rude when you are with a group of people and they are talking about something they know you can’t participate in. There is no meaningful way I can be part of a conversation about Bob Johnson from Marketing or how much of a geek Professor Washington was since I (or the other randoms at the table) don’t know them. Waverly - Clearly you should go back to whining about your garbage pickup or bitching about how stressed you are at work. I don’t need social lessons from someone who comes into a thread that is not directed at him and then tells the OP he “sucks”. Giraffe - Here’s a witty retort for you: fuck you. -I don’t have a problem with what they say…it’s how and why they say it. What possible reason do I need to know that this guy thinks my girfriend is so great? I know how great my girlfriend is. . It’s obvious that his compliments are for her benefit. 5-HT - Finally someone else who understands what I am talking about. I can’t believe the rest of you people have never dated anyone with irritating friends or annoying habits. Must be nice to have such a perfect SO. ---
**Author:** ![alice\_in\_wonderland](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/alice_in_wonderland/32/176_2.png) [@alice\_in\_wonderland](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/alice_in_wonderland)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2003, 7:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hate-all-my-girlfriends-freinds/174738/14 "2003-05-12T19:21:23Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by msmith537 \* > \*\*Must be nice to have such a perfect SO. \*\* Ya know - maybe some of us just choose to focus on the positive aspects of our partners, rather then implying that they’re fat, screetching cows with boring friends. Guess what - the only common denominator with her friends is you. Frankly, if you’re pointing the finger of blame at someone for your lack of enjoyment in their company, I suggest you point it in the mirror. You sound bound and determined to have a miserable time when you go out with “her” friends. Frankly, if you’ve been dating her for years and years it’s rather telling to me that none of these people have morphed into “your” friends as well. ---
**Author:** ![Bren\_Cameron\_1](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/7bcc69/32.png) [@Bren\_Cameron\_1](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bren_Cameron_1)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2003, 7:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hate-all-my-girlfriends-freinds/174738/15 "2003-05-12T19:27:12Z")
> [@](#): > > **I do not need her guy friends telling me how “great” she is based on their perception from seeing her a few hours every week all dressed up and on her best behavior. After you watch her gain 50 lbs, have her screech at you for 2 hours because you showed up 5 minutes after some arbitrary deadline, then tell me how “cool” she is.** > [@](#): > > \*\*The problem isn’t with my girlfriend. The problem is that I find her friends annoying. > > **[snip]** > > What possible reason do I need to know that this guy thinks my girfriend is so great? I know how great my girlfriend is. > > \*\* The technical term for this is “cognitive dissonance.” You’re a real treat, aren’t you. ---
**Author:** ![UrbanChic](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/9dc877/32.png) [@UrbanChic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/UrbanChic)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2003, 7:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hate-all-my-girlfriends-freinds/174738/16 "2003-05-12T19:28:29Z")
Wow, man, chill! I don’t think the other posters are taking issue with you not digging her friends. I think this line is what’s working against you: > [@](#): > > I do not need her guy friends telling me how “great” she is based on their perception from seeing her a few hours every week all dressed up and on her best behavior. **After you watch her gain 50 lbs, have her screech at you for 2 hours because you showed up 5 minutes after some arbitrary deadline,** then tell me how “cool” she is. > _emphasis mine_ ---
**Author:** ![Incubus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/c68b51/32.png) [@Incubus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Incubus)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2003, 7:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hate-all-my-girlfriends-freinds/174738/17 "2003-05-12T19:45:52Z")
No, I think that part of the OP is explaining how many of her friends might be seeing an ‘idealized’ version of her, while he sees the other side of it- all the unpleasantness and so forth. It reminds me of a friend of mine who had his girlfriend living with him. I was quite jealous of that- I had always thought having your SO live with you would be so great. I couldn’t understand why he was so miserable. Then they broke up. A while later I went to a convention with his ex-girlfriend, and we shared a hotel room. Two days with her was enough for me to realize how miserable my best friend was. The best part of the weekend was ditching her to spend the night drinking with B-movie stars. Now my best friend is the one who is jealous 😃 ---
**Author:** ![UrbanChic](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/9dc877/32.png) [@UrbanChic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/UrbanChic)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2003, 7:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hate-all-my-girlfriends-freinds/174738/18 "2003-05-12T19:52:06Z")
Hey, I don’t have a problem with the OP one way or another. I was just pointing out the part I think is bothering other posters. I, actually, understand what he was getting at. As the saying goes, show me a beautiful woman and I’ll show you a man who’s tired of fucking her. ---
**Author:** ![Bren\_Cameron\_1](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/7bcc69/32.png) [@Bren\_Cameron\_1](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bren_Cameron_1)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2003, 7:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hate-all-my-girlfriends-freinds/174738/19 "2003-05-12T19:55:36Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Incubus \* > \*\*No, I think that part of the OP is explaining how many of her friends might be seeing an ‘idealized’ version of her, while he sees the other side of it- all the unpleasantness and so forth. > > It reminds me of a friend of mine who had his girlfriend living with him. I was quite jealous of that- I had always thought having your SO live with you would be so great. I couldn’t understand why he was so miserable. > > Then they broke up. A while later I went to a convention with his ex-girlfriend, and we shared a hotel room. Two days with her was enough for me to realize how miserable my best friend was. \*\* So why is he still with her? There’s so much venom there, that’s not just your average “she leaves her pantyhose in the sink and borrows my razor” irritation. If he’s that miserable, it’s more than just her friends he can’t stand, and he needs to be out of there. If he’s not, then why say things like that? And then his responses to other posters in the thread calling him on it only reinforce the impression that he’s being a jerk. ---
**Author:** ![Waverly](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/57b2e6/32.png) [@Waverly](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Waverly)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2003, 8:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hate-all-my-girlfriends-freinds/174738/20 "2003-05-12T20:36:55Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by msmith537 \* > Waverly - Clearly you should go back to whining about your garbage pickup or bitching about how stressed you are at work. I don’t need social lessons from someone who comes into a thread that is not directed at him and then tells the OP he “sucks”. You took the time to search out my posts, and the best insult you can come up with is that I should “go back” to them? I’ll tell ya what: I posted them on a public message board, and whatever responses I get, positive or negative, are pretty much my own doing. I’m not so egotistical to think I either a fan base or a hate club. Anyone wishing to start one has my blessing. I’ll tell ya something else: Your thread is _also_ on that very same public message board. The responses you get are either deserved, or you can’t tell a story clearly enough to get accurate responses. Either way, my response is that you suck. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hate-all-my-girlfriends-freinds/174738.md?page=2)