# I hate feeling this way... **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [August 15, 2003, 1:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hate-feeling-this-way/195292 "2003-08-15T01:18:31Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 9\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![rayray5884](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/57b2e6/32.png) [@rayray5884](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/rayray5884)\ **Post date:** [August 15, 2003, 1:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hate-feeling-this-way/195292/1 "2003-08-15T01:18:31Z")
So for some reason I have this extremely negative feeling about alcohol. I see no reason to drink and (given current feelings) may never drink myself. This feeling also extends towards other people in my life. Right now that person is my girlfriend. I’m currently a sophomore in college and she is a freshmen at the same college. It’s hard enough for me to even think about all the drinking just college life involves but now my g/f is here and I know that she’s going to drink with the rest of them. The problem here is that I just cant get over this feeling I have. Just thinking about her going out and drinking and/or getting drunk puts a knot in my throat. It also doesn’t help me when it seems like 99% of the student population thinks drinking is the greatest thing. Of all the people I know there is one that doesnt think drinking is necessary. I just feel like I’m the only person in the world that feels this way and I can’t stand it. I think I’ve rambled on enough now. If anyone has anything to say I’d really appreciate the feedback. ---
**Author:** ![NevarMore](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/7feea3/32.png) [@NevarMore](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/NevarMore)\ **Post date:** [August 15, 2003, 1:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hate-feeling-this-way/195292/2 "2003-08-15T01:22:54Z")
I’m in a similar situation. I like to drink, but getting drunk is secondary. I learned to drink from my old brother, by the time I was old enough for him to let me hang out, he was old enough to be buying the expensive hooch. My friends on the other hand like getting trashed 2 or 3 nights a week (in the summer) on lousy beer, cheap liquor, and 40’s. My advice, go be with your girl, at the least you’ll ensure that shes safe and has a ride home. If its that big of a deal to you, perhaps it would be worth mentioning to her. Also, have you ever TRIED any alcohlic beverages? I find a good beer or a rum n’ coke at the end of a long day before bed to be nice and soothing. ---
**Author:** ![if6was9](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/e47c2d/32.png) [@if6was9](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/if6was9)\ **Post date:** [August 15, 2003, 1:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hate-feeling-this-way/195292/3 "2003-08-15T01:23:00Z")
**rayray,** not only is it 99% of the STUDENT population, but it’s 99% of the GENERAL population! 😉 I don’t mean to pick, but you should try it sometime! ---
**Author:** ![Lobsang](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lobsang/32/4067_2.png) [@Lobsang](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lobsang)\ **Post date:** [August 15, 2003, 1:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hate-feeling-this-way/195292/4 "2003-08-15T01:25:11Z")
Not wanting to drink is not something to be ashamed of, it is something admirable. Ask your girlfriend not to drink. Tell her you are worried. She might respect your wishes, you won’t know unless you ask. ---
**Author:** ![Lobsang](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lobsang/32/4067_2.png) [@Lobsang](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lobsang)\ **Post date:** [August 15, 2003, 1:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hate-feeling-this-way/195292/5 "2003-08-15T01:26:15Z")
BTW I envy you. ---
**Author:** ![mod29](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/97f17d/32.png) [@mod29](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/mod29)\ **Post date:** [August 15, 2003, 3:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hate-feeling-this-way/195292/6 "2003-08-15T03:31:06Z")
couple to ‘split the sheets’ over alcohol use. Hope that doesn’t happen, of course. But that is one of the things alcohol does best (along with ruining lives in countless other ways). You should concentrate on your school work and become as successful as you can. When you have your excellent salary, car, and beach-front home, believe me, you will have long forgotten the bar-hopping college gf. You won’t know WHAT to do with all the women. ---
**Author:** ![rayray5884](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/57b2e6/32.png) [@rayray5884](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/rayray5884)\ **Post date:** [August 15, 2003, 4:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hate-feeling-this-way/195292/7 "2003-08-15T04:23:15Z")
No **NevarMore** I have never had a drink. I just don’t find it necessary to need some sort of foreign substance in my body to relax or feel better. Nothing against you at all but thats just me. Im not ashamed of not drinking **Lobsang** but it sucks being the ONLY one that doesn’t. Everyone else I know seems to be desensitized to the affects of alcohol use. And it’s funny, everyone that hears my response to the question, “do you drink” is always so supportive and as you put it envious. So if you envy someone who doesnt drink why do you continue to drink? Thats definetely something I dont want happening to us **mod29**. I wouldn’t say shes a bar-hopping college girl but I just can’t stand it when she does drink. I have discussed it with her but I think I’m coming across as controlling no matter how hard I try not too. I would also like to add to my previous post that I have no clue why I have this feeling. I’ve never had an alcoholic relative, never seen someone injured by the affects of alcohol, or had it beat into me by my parents that it was something to never do. Thanks for the feedback guys, keep it coming! ---
**Author:** ![Vastard](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/b9e5f3/32.png) [@Vastard](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Vastard)\ **Post date:** [August 15, 2003, 4:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hate-feeling-this-way/195292/8 "2003-08-15T04:38:16Z")
I’m a bit similar to you, \*\* Rayray \*\*. While I have no problem with other people drinking (as long as they do so safely), I hate getting drunk myself – drinking tends to make me depressed unless I’m very careful about it. However, since I have no desire to be stuck in my room on weekend nights when other people are out partying, I’ve managed to cultivate a drunken mindset – if you can get yourself very relaxed and very giddy (caffeine helps!), you have all the benefits of the drink and none of the negative side-effects. This would make it so that you could go out with your gf and make sure she’s ok, without having a miserable time sitting on the sidelines while everyone else gets drunk. ---
**Author:** ![rayray5884](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/57b2e6/32.png) [@rayray5884](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/rayray5884)\ **Post date:** [August 15, 2003, 6:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hate-feeling-this-way/195292/9 "2003-08-15T06:07:31Z")
Yeah, thats kind of where I’m stuck **Vastard**. I’d like to go with her to make sure shes safe but I really dont want to get stuck being the only one not having “fun”.