# I hate how my smile looks **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [December 5, 2013, 10:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hate-how-my-smile-looks/675608 "2013-12-05T22:31:08Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Robot\_Arm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/robot_arm/32/18280_2.png) [@Robot\_Arm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Robot_Arm)\ **Post date:** [December 9, 2013, 12:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hate-how-my-smile-looks/675608/21 "2013-12-09T12:23:13Z")
> [@Jesse\_Pinkman](#): > > I’ve lost interest in my hobbies because they just don’t seem worth the effort anymore. I barely ever make it to the gym because no one finds me attractive regardless of the shape I’m in. It’s hard to stay motivated at work because I know I’ll never have a family that will benefit from my hard work. Everything just seems to suck more. Meanwhile, everyone else doesn’t have any problems with it, which just makes you feel even worse. Try to stop thinking that you’re doing those things for other people. Be a little greedy. Do the hobbies that you enjoy for the simple fact that you enjoy them. Go to the gym (or not) because you like the way it makes you look and feel. If you’re looking for new hobbies or challenges, try something new that you’ve always thought looked fun or interesting. You have as much right as anyone else to do those things just for yourself, not because they’ll make you more worthy to someone else. Now, it’s possible to take that sort of thing too far, to be too self-centered and demanding, but it doesn’t sound like you’re there just yet. And yes, I’m aware that that advice is much easier said than done. ---
**Author:** ![grude](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/e47774/32.png) [@grude](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/grude)\ **Post date:** [December 9, 2013, 12:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hate-how-my-smile-looks/675608/22 "2013-12-09T12:31:53Z")
This thread is wayyyy too vague, it isn’t even clear whether you even want a girlfriend or not. Without more info no one can offer any reasonable advice. I can however tell you that someone can find you attractive, that is a guarantee. You see the men in relationships right? Come on. ---
**Author:** ![lavenderviolet](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/cdc98d/32.png) [@lavenderviolet](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lavenderviolet)\ **Post date:** [December 9, 2013, 1:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hate-how-my-smile-looks/675608/23 "2013-12-09T13:07:59Z")
I can guarantee that there are women who would find you attractive. If serial killers on death row and [the world’s fattest man](http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/7692672.stm) can find girlfriends (which they can), then of course someone out there can be attracted to you. They may not be the women you WANT to find you attractive, but they are out there. So, rest assured: if you want to be in a relationship and put yourself in situations where you can meet single women, eventually, it will happen. Of course, you will probably attract a better class of women if you can project that you are happy in your life and confident in yourself. Even if it’s not true, “fake it til you make it” does seem to work in these situations. ---
**Author:** ![BobLibDem](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/boblibdem/32/3149_2.png) [@BobLibDem](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BobLibDem)\ **Post date:** [December 9, 2013, 1:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hate-how-my-smile-looks/675608/24 "2013-12-09T13:20:38Z")
Been there, done that. I was 24 before I started dating, now I’ve been married 28 years. Be the person you want to be. The perfect match will come. ---
**Author:** ![armedmonkey](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/d6d6ee/32.png) [@armedmonkey](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/armedmonkey)\ **Post date:** [December 9, 2013, 1:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hate-how-my-smile-looks/675608/25 "2013-12-09T13:29:28Z")
Didn’t we just do this [a couple of week ago](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=708749) with you? You ain’t getting any sympathy or advice from me, especially with how you ended your last “woe is me, I can’t find a woman” MPSIMS thread. Let me [jog your memory](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=708749&page=5) from eight days ago. > [@Jesse Pinkman](#): > > Never mind. I banged a 21 year old college student on Friday night. I’d tell all the people in here giving me shit to eat my ass if I wasn’t certain they’d enjoy the taste. You stay classy, **Jesse** ---
**Author:** ![Telemark](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/telemark/32/372_2.png) [@Telemark](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Telemark)\ **Post date:** [December 9, 2013, 2:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hate-how-my-smile-looks/675608/26 "2013-12-09T14:01:22Z")
> [@armedmonkey](#): > > Didn’t we just do this [a couple of week ago](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=708749) with you? You ain’t getting any sympathy or advice from me, especially with how you ended your last “woe is me, I can’t find a woman” MPSIMS thread. Let me [jog your memory](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=708749&page=5) from eight days ago. > You stay classy, **Jesse** This is MPSIMS so I think folks should be tempered in their scorn, but **Jesse** is following the script for folks in his situation on the SDMB. It’s predictable, and not likely to earn support. ---
**Author:** ![Idle\_Thoughts](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/838e76/32.png) [@Idle\_Thoughts](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Idle_Thoughts)\ **Post date:** [December 9, 2013, 3:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hate-how-my-smile-looks/675608/27 "2013-12-09T15:26:17Z")
> [@Jesse\_Pinkman](#): > > I like my username how it is, BITCH! Yes, I understand the reference. Yes, I get the joke. No, it’s still not totally okay to do this, even if you’re 100 percent joking. So joke aside, know that it’s not okay to call other posters names outside of the BBQ Pit. “I was just joking/It’s a well-known cultural thing/line” is not a defense for insults on here. From [here](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showpost.php?p=7697044&postcount=10): > [@](#): > > Generally, you may not directly insult or personally attack other posters. The strictness of this rule varies a bit by forum, but the basic rule is that you should attack what the other person says, not the other person. This rule applies to all insults, including jokes and quotes from books & movies … ---
**Author:** ![gallows\_fodder](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/8c91f0/32.png) [@gallows\_fodder](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gallows_fodder)\ **Post date:** [December 9, 2013, 4:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hate-how-my-smile-looks/675608/28 "2013-12-09T16:26:58Z")
What kind of life are you leading that you only have hobbies and interests in order to attract a girlfriend? ---
**Author:** ![Suburban\_Plankton](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/suburban_plankton/32/219_2.png) [@Suburban\_Plankton](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Suburban_Plankton)\ **Post date:** [December 9, 2013, 4:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hate-how-my-smile-looks/675608/29 "2013-12-09T16:32:55Z")
> [@Idle\_Thoughts](#): > > Yes, I understand the reference. Yes, I get the joke. > No, it’s still not totally okay to do this, even if you’re 100 percent joking. > > So joke aside, know that it’s not okay to call other posters names outside of the BBQ Pit. > “I was just joking/It’s a well-known cultural thing/line” is not a defense for insults on here. I understand the mod note here, but for the record, I laughed. And in fairness, I suppose I \*did \*kinda-sorta accuse the OP of being a meth-addict… ---
**Author:** ![twickster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ec9cab/32.png) [@twickster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/twickster)\ **Post date:** [December 9, 2013, 6:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hate-how-my-smile-looks/675608/30 "2013-12-09T18:33:03Z")
**Jesse** , please don’t keep starting new threads that are all pretty much variations on the same sad sack theme. I have merged your two most recent efforts into a single thread. **twickster** , MPSIMS moderator ---
**Author:** ![TokyoBayer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tokyobayer/32/13989_2.png) [@TokyoBayer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TokyoBayer)\ **Post date:** [December 9, 2013, 11:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hate-how-my-smile-looks/675608/31 "2013-12-09T23:17:37Z")
Your last problem only lasted a few weeks, so it can’t be too bad. ---
**Author:** ![Jesse\_Pinkman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/a183cd/32.png) [@Jesse\_Pinkman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jesse_Pinkman)\ **Post date:** [December 10, 2013, 8:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hate-how-my-smile-looks/675608/32 "2013-12-10T20:38:41Z")
> [@gallows\_fodder](#): > > What kind of life are you leading that you only have hobbies and interests in order to attract a girlfriend? Well, I used to be quite happy and have lots of hobbies. But once I realized I’m going to die alone and unloved, it’s been impossible to enjoy anything. Any enjoyment is overrun by the shitty feeling of always being alone. ---
**Author:** ![Jesse\_Pinkman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/a183cd/32.png) [@Jesse\_Pinkman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jesse_Pinkman)\ **Post date:** [December 10, 2013, 8:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hate-how-my-smile-looks/675608/33 "2013-12-10T20:39:43Z")
> [@TokyoBayer](#): > > Your last problem only lasted a few weeks, so it can’t be too bad. Did you not read the topic? It was much longer than that… ---
**Author:** ![Jesse\_Pinkman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/a183cd/32.png) [@Jesse\_Pinkman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jesse_Pinkman)\ **Post date:** [December 10, 2013, 8:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hate-how-my-smile-looks/675608/34 "2013-12-10T20:41:29Z")
> [@Dr\_Doom](#): > > So are you just being a tiny bit too self-critical with this smile issue? It was really only one girl, and she went on to permafry herself on acid, so I’ve been doubtful of anything she says since. ---
**Author:** ![digs](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/digs/32/14889_2.png) [@digs](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/digs)\ **Post date:** [December 10, 2013, 8:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hate-how-my-smile-looks/675608/35 "2013-12-10T20:54:48Z")
So, wait, you start an entire thread based on how you hate something about yourself. Now you’re saying “oh, wait, maybe not.” I waded through all of your “Whoa is me. I can’t get any sex” thread, only to find “Oh, never mind. Just did.” on the fifth page. Don’t you have a F’book account or somewhere you can post these things? Or what about _actual human beings?_ Any friend or acquaintance’s opinion would be a lot more helpful than ours. ---
**Author:** ![Jesse\_Pinkman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/a183cd/32.png) [@Jesse\_Pinkman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jesse_Pinkman)\ **Post date:** [December 11, 2013, 12:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hate-how-my-smile-looks/675608/36 "2013-12-11T00:48:42Z")
> [@lavenderviolet](#): > > I can guarantee that there are women who would find you attractive. > If serial killers on death row and [the world’s fattest man](http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/7692672.stm) can find girlfriends (which they can), then of course someone out there can be attracted to you. They may not be the women you WANT to find you attractive, but they are out there. > So, rest assured: if you want to be in a relationship and put yourself in situations where you can meet single women, eventually, it will happen. > Of course, you will probably attract a better class of women if you can project that you are happy in your life and confident in yourself. Even if it’s not true, “fake it til you make it” does seem to work in these situations. Well after so much failure, I’ve lost the ability to fake it. So what do I do now? ---
**Author:** ![Jesse\_Pinkman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/a183cd/32.png) [@Jesse\_Pinkman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jesse_Pinkman)\ **Post date:** [December 11, 2013, 12:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hate-how-my-smile-looks/675608/37 "2013-12-11T00:50:40Z")
> [@digs](#): > > So, wait, you start an entire thread based on how you hate something about yourself. Now you’re saying “oh, wait, maybe not.” I waded through all of your “Whoa is me. I can’t get any sex” thread, only to find “Oh, never mind. Just did.” on the fifth page. > > Don’t you have a F’book account or somewhere you can post these things? Or what about _actual human beings?_ Any friend or acquaintance’s opinion would be a lot more helpful than ours. No one I know has anything helpful to say on the matter. They just reply with scorn, probably because I’m hopeless. ---
**Author:** ![Jesse\_Pinkman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/a183cd/32.png) [@Jesse\_Pinkman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jesse_Pinkman)\ **Post date:** [December 11, 2013, 7:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hate-how-my-smile-looks/675608/38 "2013-12-11T07:09:44Z")
Ugh, soon I’ll be 27 and I still will have never had a girlfriend. If that’s not reason to kill yourself then I don’t know what is. ---
**Author:** ![MrDurden](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/ed655f/32.png) [@MrDurden](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MrDurden)\ **Post date:** [December 11, 2013, 7:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hate-how-my-smile-looks/675608/39 "2013-12-11T07:54:41Z")
> [@Jesse\_Pinkman](#): > > Ugh, soon I’ll be 27 and I still will have never had a girlfriend. If that’s not reason to kill yourself then I don’t know what is. Yeah, but according to you, you bang girls on the reg. It aint a bad life dude. Go out, drink, have fun and take someone home. ---
**Author:** ![Jesse\_Pinkman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/a183cd/32.png) [@Jesse\_Pinkman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jesse_Pinkman)\ **Post date:** [December 11, 2013, 8:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hate-how-my-smile-looks/675608/40 "2013-12-11T08:02:04Z")
> [@MrDurden](#): > > Yeah, but according to you, you bang girls on the reg. It aint a bad life dude. Go out, drink, have fun and take someone home. No, I really don’t. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hate-how-my-smile-looks/675608.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hate-how-my-smile-looks/675608.md?page=3)