# I hate my sister. She's such a bitch. **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [May 30, 2003, 4:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hate-my-sister-shes-such-a-bitch/178451 "2003-05-30T04:07:31Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 13\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Duke](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e8c25b/32.png) [@Duke](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Duke)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2003, 3:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hate-my-sister-shes-such-a-bitch/178451/21 "2003-05-30T15:36:32Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Ludovic \* > \*\ ***Duke** , I , too, thought of that song…but in what way could it be considered “College Music”? \*\* You know…it’s music aimed for the “college kid” crowd. Otherwise saddled with the shopworn adjective “alternative music.” ---
**Author:** ![lezlers](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/258eb7/32.png) [@lezlers](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lezlers)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2003, 4:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hate-my-sister-shes-such-a-bitch/178451/22 "2003-05-30T16:01:23Z")
Man, the only thing that keeps me from screaming when I hear these stories is that these leeche’s karma is _so_ gonna kick them in their asses… ---
**Author:** ![Profane\_Creation](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/839c29/32.png) [@Profane\_Creation](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Profane_Creation)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2003, 7:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hate-my-sister-shes-such-a-bitch/178451/23 "2003-05-30T19:51:12Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Wintermute \* > \*\*With my mom, it’s the other way around; she keeps letting them move in with _her_. Along with their boyfriends, baby daddies, children, dog, cats, etc, etc, etc. Then, whenever I call (which is not much, anymore), she will bitch and moan about what pains they are, how they leech off her, how mean they are to her and each other. > > I can’t fix her co-dependancy, and neither can you, **1kBR Kid**. Don’t get me wrong; I think it’s great that you can help your mom out. Just don’t get sucked into the drama. If she won’t leave, or goes back, there may not be anything more you can do. Help them as much as possible, but don’t put yourself at risk. Sometimes you just have to detach with love. \*\* Oh fuck that. ‘Put yourself at risk’? How is she at risk? Oh, is her sister not going appreciate her efforts to help her mom? Oh no! ‘Detach’? What, detach from mom because she over-helps the bad sister? Why on God’s green earth should 1kBR let her sister’s bad attitude get in the way of keeping her mom in her life? C’mon, you can’t be serious!! ---
**Author:** ![lezlers](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/258eb7/32.png) [@lezlers](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lezlers)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2003, 8:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hate-my-sister-shes-such-a-bitch/178451/24 "2003-05-30T20:32:25Z")
I think you misunderstood **Wintermute** ’s post **Profane Creation**. I believe WM meant detach herself from the situation, not from her mother. As in, if her mother isn’t going to accept her help, to not kill herself trying to give that help. ---
**Author:** ![1kBR\_Kid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/1/dc4da7/32.png) [@1kBR\_Kid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/1kBR_Kid)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2003, 11:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hate-my-sister-shes-such-a-bitch/178451/25 "2003-05-30T23:27:12Z")
ummmm. I’m a dude. 🙂 I know that she may not move out and I have accepted the fact that I can’t change her codependency. But hey, at least I got my brothers out. I’ll work on getting the dog. Oh, did I mention that BIL’s dad is a multimillionaire? 😕 ---
**Author:** ![lezlers](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/258eb7/32.png) [@lezlers](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lezlers)\ **Post date:** [May 31, 2003, 2:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hate-my-sister-shes-such-a-bitch/178451/26 "2003-05-31T02:01:41Z")
Sorry dude, your username isn’t exactly gender specific. 😉 A multimillonaire huh? That doesn’t suprise me. I actually know (well, a twice removed kind of “know”) some very rich people who have relatives on the verge of poverty. Sad really. ---
**Author:** ![Profane\_Creation](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/839c29/32.png) [@Profane\_Creation](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Profane_Creation)\ **Post date:** [May 31, 2003, 3:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hate-my-sister-shes-such-a-bitch/178451/27 "2003-05-31T03:04:03Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by lezlers \* > \*\*I think you misunderstood **Wintermute** ’s post **Profane Creation**. > > I believe WM meant detach herself from the situation, not from her mother. As in, if her mother isn’t going to accept her help, to not kill herself trying to give that help. \*\* Hmm, well, I hope so. Perhaps a clarification may happen to straighten me out if need be. But not a big deal anyway. ---
**Author:** ![mumblegrunt](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/e47774/32.png) [@mumblegrunt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/mumblegrunt)\ **Post date:** [June 25, 2011, 6:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hate-my-sister-shes-such-a-bitch/178451/28 "2011-06-25T06:11:36Z")
I know this is an old thread, but I need to rant about this or I might explode. A little background on me first. I live in Australia, and I have been living there since I was 9. But the thing is, when I arrived, I was really dreading coming here, and the house was so shite that I really freaked out about living here. Then I went to my new school, and I got NO friends at all for 2 years, during which time I was consistently bullied in various ways and excluded so much that I developed Borderline Personality Disorder (which means I am emotionally unstable and I am borderline psychotic apparently. I am doubtful of the last one though.) Anyway, about two weeks ago a tree fell on my house. This was really tough for me, because it landed on bedroom, and as I said I am emotionally unstable, so I was freaking out. I had to move in with my sister who is two years my junior, and who has a huge room to her self (I am 16, she’s 14). She was cool to start, but then she started moving all my stuff around. I came in one day, and everything I took into her room, clothes, schoolbooks, computer etc was tipped onto my bed. I flipped out cos of the whole BPD thing, and then my sister decided to bitch on me to my dad, saying about how I was “taking over her room” and was “insulting her with my presence”. He got super-pissed at me, then told me not to annoy my sister or I would be sleeping outside. A few hours later, I was sitting on my bed, when my sis starts full-on screaming at the top of her voice, I ask her whats wrong, and she says I didn’t make HER bed that morning. Then my dad comes in and shouts at me for making my sister upset (she was behind my dad’s back then, making obscene gestures and smirking), and now I am in deep shit and that is just the tip of the whole FUCKING island that she built… ---
**Author:** ![Uber\_the\_Goober](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/58956e/32.png) [@Uber\_the\_Goober](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Uber_the_Goober)\ **Post date:** [June 25, 2011, 6:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hate-my-sister-shes-such-a-bitch/178451/29 "2011-06-25T18:49:21Z")
> [@1kBR\_Kid](#): > > About a year ago, her husband lost his job. They were worried they would lose their house. My mom and two brothers agreed to move in and help with the house payment. > > Sounds cool. I’m figuring they pay about half the monthly note. Wrong. They pay damn near the entire monthly payment. > > What do they get for…the same amount they were paying before??? > > My brother can’t watch movies. He lives for movies. He’s a video store mgr because he loves movies. See, the brat nephew gets the TV 'til 7pm or so, the sis and BIL get it until 10ish. After that, they want quiet in the house. The brat has a TV and VCR upstairs, but he gets to hog the living room TV. WTF??? > > My other brother wants to hot rod his car but has no space to work on it. Half the garage is filled with sister’s junk. The other half is for her car. BTW- She has a 2year old Honda Accord and her husband has a 2year old Chevy pickup. > > Mom has the den with a curtain for a door. > > Sis agreed to cook them 2 meals a day but that stopped about a week after they moved in. Now, she leaves long bitchy notes on the dry erase board if they touch her food. > > Mom put some of her stuff in storage because there’s just not enough room in sis’ house. Sis put some stuff in there too and said she would pay half. She doesn’t. > > She treats them all like second class citizens and they’re paying her to do it. > > I visited a couple of weeks ago and saw how bad it was. I told my mom and brothers they need to get a new place to live. Sounded good to them but brothers don’t have credit /mom has no money right now. I agreed to help with deposits just to get them out of there. We looked for a house and found a rental 3,000sq ft 4BDR for decent price. I applied for it and got it. (worst case scanario: I can pay the rent on it if they all lose their jobs. I don’t think that will ever happen but I accept that it could. Hey, I love my family) Mom says she can’t do it right now. See, BIL has a job and is also in a job traing program until Sept. Sis has a part-time job a quilt store. Mom can’t leave right now because BIL might have to quit that training program. > > Well, here’s an idea; how 'bout if sis gets two full time jobs or sells the Honda?? This is something that really chaps my ass; mom drives a ‘92 Honda and sis’ 2001 is not new enough. She wants a newer one next year and of course this all hinges on leeching money out of my mom and brothers. When I was an early teen, my mom was divorced, raising 4 kids and driving us around in a 10 year old chevy van. We lived in a rent house. My dad almost never paid child support. When they finally garnished his wages it was only 500 bucks a month. (He was making like 45k/year). > > What the fuck? My mom made mistakes for sure but she always did her best for us. She dedicated her life to providing for us. Now my sister is fucking her up the ass just because mom will take it. > She even wants mom to make up the money that my brothers will not be paying. I’m both furious and heartbroken that my sister is treating mom like shit just because she can. > > On top of all that, she’s mean to her DOG ☹ He’s a Labrador Retriever (Chocolate variety). He lives for the tennis ball. OH MY GOD Louie loves the tennis ball. But they never play with him. (I always play with him when I visit) They always make him just lay in his bed. I let him outside to go pee and when he wanted in he barked…kinda quietly. She went to the door to…let him in??? Nope. She opened the door and yelled “shut up!”. I mean god damn. A dog can’t just say “fuck this, I’m outta here”. A dog loves people unconditionally. He just wants to play. ☹ He also has a big lump on his chest and another on his stomach right by a back leg. They won’t take him to the vet. She had said I could have him but I’m sure she won’t give him to me now just for spite, since I’m taking away my brothers and 2/3 of her house payment. Bitch. > > Well, they finally mentioned that they are moving out and I helped them. BIL sez next time I visit I should consider a hotel since they won’t have room for me. GUESS WHAT YOU HENPECKED ASS WIPE- I have a room in a 3,000sq ft house! Why the fuck would I want to sleep on your god damned couch???_ **I** _ don’t believe in taking a dump on people just because I can. > > Mom wishes we could all get along. I figure we don’t live in a perfect world and if anyone wants family to kiss her ass then she can kiss mine. Fuck her. Bummer. Sounds like white trash to me. I chose to distance myself from my own white trash family members. Not worth the drama. ---
**Author:** ![Freudian\_Slit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/5daacb/32.png) [@Freudian\_Slit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Freudian_Slit)\ **Post date:** [June 25, 2011, 6:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hate-my-sister-shes-such-a-bitch/178451/30 "2011-06-25T18:53:31Z")
> [@1kBR\_Kid](#): > > Well, here’s an idea; how 'bout if sis gets two full time jobs or sells the Honda?? How do you work two full time jobs? Also, if your mom has no money how are she and your brothers paying almost all the monthly house payments? ---
**Author:** ![Inner\_Stickler](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/inner_stickler/32/318_2.png) [@Inner\_Stickler](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Inner_Stickler)\ **Post date:** [June 25, 2011, 7:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hate-my-sister-shes-such-a-bitch/178451/31 "2011-06-25T19:08:53Z")
Good questions! The answers will not be forthcoming, unfortunately as the OP was posted in 2003 and the poster’s last activity was in 2004. ---
**Author:** ![Freudian\_Slit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/5daacb/32.png) [@Freudian\_Slit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Freudian_Slit)\ **Post date:** [June 25, 2011, 7:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hate-my-sister-shes-such-a-bitch/178451/32 "2011-06-25T19:38:15Z")
Eep! How’d I miss that? I’m usually so good about spotting the zombies. ---
**Author:** ![Miller](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/miller/32/481_2.png) [@Miller](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Miller)\ **Post date:** [June 25, 2011, 8:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hate-my-sister-shes-such-a-bitch/178451/33 "2011-06-25T20:00:11Z")
This is a very old thread on a personal issue, from someone who doesn’t post here any more, so I’m closing it. **mumblegrunt** , if you want to rant about something, go ahead and start a new thread for that purpose, instead of bringing back threads that have been dormant for years. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hate-my-sister-shes-such-a-bitch/178451.md?page=1)