# I Hate People! I'm So Angry!!! Why Me?! **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [May 31, 2003, 9:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hate-people-im-so-angry-why-me/178835 "2003-05-31T21:58:06Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 5
**Author:** ![Little\_Plastic\_Ninja](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/f07891/32.png) [@Little\_Plastic\_Ninja](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Little_Plastic_Ninja)\ **Post date:** [June 2, 2003, 8:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hate-people-im-so-angry-why-me/178835/81 "2003-06-02T20:32:25Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by jacksen9 \* > \*\*What color schemes are you considering? I hear Bed Bath and Beyond is having a sale. Maybe the three of you could shop together and afterwords, stop by Starbucks for some relaxing small talk. Get their email addresses. You could read the same books over the summer and then spend some of your leisure time doing a book study together in the fall. > > just kidding.\*\* I dunno, it sounds like a good ideam to me. šŸ˜ƒ I know where youā€™re coming from, **MeanOldLady**. And itā€™s pretty obvious that you have personal space issues. Hell, I do too. I hated, hated, HATED sharing a double when I was in college, even though the room was easily twice the size of any of the actual dorm rooms on campus (check to see if thereā€™s any cooperative housing near Stanford. Best experience of my life). Still, try to approach your roommates with apositive attitude. Itā€™s going to be hardā€¦but if it gets bad, you can at least hide in the library instead of your roomā€¦ ---
**Author:** ![Little\_Plastic\_Ninja](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/f07891/32.png) [@Little\_Plastic\_Ninja](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Little_Plastic_Ninja)\ **Post date:** [June 2, 2003, 8:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hate-people-im-so-angry-why-me/178835/82 "2003-06-02T20:41:48Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Zenster \* > **And for dessert, here in California there are bazillions (this is an understatement) of non-natives with often moronic attitudes that can make life miserable. Letā€™s bring up the noxious and abundant hoards of yuppies, both on campus and off to provide the masterstroke (as in massive brain aneurysm) that polishes things off.** Giggle. šŸ˜ƒ This makes me remember how much we complain about Californians down here in Austin. Before you jump on me, yes, I have lived in California, and one of my closest friends (bitter bastard though he is) is a Californian born and bred. The major complaint (not a serious complaint, and we donā€™t go out and bash cars with California license plates, FYI) is that they come in from Cali with their corporations, get condos in downtown, and then COMPLAIN MIGHTILY because theyā€™re living 2 blocks away from the bar district and itā€™s noisy at night. Theyā€™re introducing noise ordinances now, which is going to utterly kill the live music scene in town. :mad: They also try to make Austinites wear suits. Even our business execs donā€™t wear suits if they can avoid it, and if theyā€™re forced to, they wonā€™t wear 'em in public. Trying to stuff most Austinites into a suit is like trying to walk a cat on a leash. šŸ˜› But the weather in the summer tends to get them in the end. Anyone used to summer days rarely exceeding 90 degrees is going to be utterly miserable in our 100+ degree mid June - early September. Sure, we Texans are sweating too, but weā€™re used to pain. šŸ˜ƒ Definite understanding for Zen and Mean, though. The University of Texas might not be as big a name as Stanford, but the studios here go for $400 on average. ---
**Author:** ![Little\_Plastic\_Ninja](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/f07891/32.png) [@Little\_Plastic\_Ninja](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Little_Plastic_Ninja)\ **Post date:** [June 2, 2003, 8:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hate-people-im-so-angry-why-me/178835/83 "2003-06-02T20:46:14Z")
Ideamā€¦ I wonder what an Ideam is. Sounds like a cheese. ---
**Author:** ![MeanOldLady](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/meanoldlady/32/10737_2.png) [@MeanOldLady](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MeanOldLady)\ **Post date:** [June 2, 2003, 8:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hate-people-im-so-angry-why-me/178835/84 "2003-06-02T20:47:12Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by blainer \* > \*\*Am I the only one who is having trouble sympathizing with a Stanford student that canā€™t afford rent? Itā€™s, what, $35k a year now? > > \ > > God, I hate Stanford. Go Bears! šŸ˜‰ \*\* Iā€™m on financial aid, dear. I donā€™t pay $35k/year, my parents donā€™t even make $35k/year combined. And whatā€™s this ā€œGo Bearsā€ nonsense? You blasphemous blasphemer! I should pit you just for that. ::shakes fist angrily:: FWIW, it would have ended up costing me more to go to Cal than it costs me to go here. Calā€™s financial aid blows. Go Cardinal. **Ninja** and **alice** , right now Iā€™m just hoping to Jiminy that I get replaced. If I donā€™t then Iā€™ll pray for nice girls. Sure, Iā€™ll make it, but even if they are nice, itā€™s still gonna be tough to not go stark ravinā€™ mad with all those people in my face 24/7._sigh_ Such is life. Sometimes it lubricates your anus while screwing you and sometimes it doesnā€™t. **Rysler** , what am I complaining about so much? Gator? The chick whose body parts were overflowing into my seat? Tell me how big that gun is. You know, the one being pointed at your head, threatening to be fired unless you to read my threads. šŸ˜‰ Yup, it sure is going to suck for my future roommates. Iā€™m sure they complained about it to someone too. There goes that lack of lubrication again. ---
**Author:** ![lieu](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/c2a13f/32.png) [@lieu](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lieu)\ **Post date:** [June 2, 2003, 8:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hate-people-im-so-angry-why-me/178835/85 "2003-06-02T20:55:08Z")
Times like that, I just try and remember that calm, comorting expression of Mother Theresaā€™sā€¦ _ā€œThatā€™s fucked up.ā€_ ---
**Author:** ![Tansu](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/67e7ee/32.png) [@Tansu](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tansu)\ **Post date:** [June 2, 2003, 9:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hate-people-im-so-angry-why-me/178835/86 "2003-06-02T21:19:28Z")
Aw. I was looking forward to some kind of parody thread and then it wasnā€™t. Pissflaps. But I suppose it stood up OK as some kind of docu-drama about the intended and unintended effects of hyperbole. So, cloud, silver lining, whatever. For what itā€™s worth, I personally wouldnā€™t have relished sharing a bedroom with anyone when I was 20. It seems odd to me that non-romantically involved people over the age of 18 should have to sleep in the same bedroom like sisters every night. Sharing a house or a flat with friends on the other hand, I was certainly up for that. But so long as everyoneā€™s civil to each other and doesnā€™t step outside the bounds of reasonable behaviour, it can be lived with. With gritted teeth and spending time in the library. ---
**Author:** ![Alma](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ecd19e/32.png) [@Alma](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Alma)\ **Post date:** [June 3, 2003, 12:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hate-people-im-so-angry-why-me/178835/87 "2003-06-03T00:17:47Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by MeanOldLady \* > \*\ ***Alma** , you wrote that 20 page dissertation to tell me to be nice to my roommates? Did I ever say I was NOT going to be? If so, Iā€™d like ya to point it out. I said I was ever so pissed about being fucked in the ass by the housing lottery again. I guess itā€™s a crime to get mad when shitty shit happens, eh? \*\* No more than it is a crime to relate oneā€™s own experience to give an opposing viewpoint. I should have realized that unsolicited advice on a public forum is some sort of insult. I apologize for sharing my own story in your precious thread. I also apologize that my story was too long for you. ---
**Author:** ![MeanOldLady](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/meanoldlady/32/10737_2.png) [@MeanOldLady](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MeanOldLady)\ **Post date:** [June 3, 2003, 12:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hate-people-im-so-angry-why-me/178835/88 "2003-06-03T00:48:04Z")
**Alma** , yes, you should have realized that your unsolicited advice was an insult, but youā€™re forgiven anyway. Heh, no but seriously, you donā€™t see the difference between sharing your story to let me know that youā€™ve been through the same thing and can sympathaize and telling me the purpose of sharing is to let me know I should ā€œsuck it upā€ and that Iā€™m making other people ā€œfeel like shitā€? I guess that would have been good advice if I mentioned that I planned on being a big grouch to my roommates and was lashing out left and right. Yes, Iā€™m pissed out my living arrangement, but I have no intentions of making an already miserable living arrangement even more miserable. I was just pissed off at yet a THIRD shitty housing assignment. If my senior year sucks, I swear Iā€™m gonna lost it (or whatā€™s left of it, anyway). Anywho, sorry about Veera being such a bitch. Even if she had zero regard for anyone else (and she clearly did not), at least out of selfishness youā€™d think sheā€™d not be a comlete cuntmonkey in order to avoid making things more difficult for herself. You should have told her to stop being an asshole. I sure would have. And now I have a research paper to continue. This is the third time I told myself Iā€™d stop posting on these boards and get something done. Iā€™m serious this time. Really. Cheers. ---
**Author:** ![lezlers](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/258eb7/32.png) [@lezlers](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lezlers)\ **Post date:** [June 3, 2003, 1:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hate-people-im-so-angry-why-me/178835/89 "2003-06-03T01:06:53Z")
**MOL** , I feel for you. I grew up in Palo Alto, so Iā€™m _very_ familiar with how expensive it is (my family and at one point all lived in a studio b/c we couldnā€™t afford anything else). I went to school at S.F. State (I didnā€™t have a chance in hell of getting into an Ivy, like you) and only stayed in the dorms for the first year. That was about all I could handle. I agree with whoever brought up the possiblilty of getting an apartment in the East Bay and taking the train to school. With your student discount, it wouldnā€™t be that bad. Or perhaps renting a room. There are always people trying to rent them out. Youā€™d still be living with strangers, but at least youā€™d have your own room. I did that when I first moved to Napa and now I have my own apartment (ahhhhhhhh). I feel you with the people thing. Iā€™m a people person, I love being around people, but I need my ā€œalone timeā€ too. I get really anxious when I donā€™t have it. I couldnā€™t imagine living in that tiny of a space with 2 other people. Living in that tiny of a space with 1 other person (in the dorms) was my own personal hell for a year. Look into some alternatives, there _are_ some. Good luck. ---
**Author:** ![lezlers](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/258eb7/32.png) [@lezlers](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lezlers)\ **Post date:** [June 3, 2003, 1:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hate-people-im-so-angry-why-me/178835/90 "2003-06-03T01:17:28Z")
ooh. I forgot to mention, have you looked around Mountain View? Itā€™s a little cheaper down there, and you might find a room for rent that you could remotely afford. ---
**Author:** ![shep\_proudfoot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/90db22/32.png) [@shep\_proudfoot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/shep_proudfoot)\ **Post date:** [June 3, 2003, 6:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hate-people-im-so-angry-why-me/178835/91 "2003-06-03T06:44:08Z")
I take it that you go to Stanford. Stanford is one of the best institutions in the country. I donā€™t care about your problem because you will probably fall into a 100,000 dollar a year job once you leave that place. 100,000 dollars will put you in the lower middle class strata in the Bay Area, but thatā€™s Ok, you donā€™t have to live there, and you can live like a swearing goddess in most other parts of the country. Go Stanford. SP ---
**Author:** ![lezlers](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/258eb7/32.png) [@lezlers](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lezlers)\ **Post date:** [June 3, 2003, 6:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hate-people-im-so-angry-why-me/178835/92 "2003-06-03T06:47:51Z")
Ah yes. I remember shep from a driving thread way back when. Still an idiot I seeā€¦ :rolleyes: For the record, just because someone goes to an Ivy League school doesnā€™t mean theyā€™re guranteed a 6 figure salary. ---
**Author:** ![MeanOldLady](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/meanoldlady/32/10737_2.png) [@MeanOldLady](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MeanOldLady)\ **Post date:** [June 3, 2003, 8:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hate-people-im-so-angry-why-me/178835/93 "2003-06-03T20:18:15Z")
FTR, Stanford is not an [Ivy](http://dictionary.reference.com/search?q=ivy%20league). But yeah, at the beginning of the school year my best friend and I decided that we werenā€™t to keen on our living situations and tried to find an apt off campus in a nearby town. Bwahahaha! That didnā€™t go over too well. Cheaper than Shallow Alto, sure, but still waaaaaaay too much for us. No more of this off campus business for me. Now my plan is to pray to Og that I get reassigned. Even if I donā€™t, Iā€™m gettinā€™ the fuck outta dodge and am going to spend 2 quarters abroad anyway. Thatā€™s still 1 quarter of living like that, but 1 is a heck of a lot better than all 3. Man, just the thought of sharing that little space with that many people ::twitches:: is driving me mad. ---
**Author:** ![lezlers](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/258eb7/32.png) [@lezlers](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lezlers)\ **Post date:** [June 3, 2003, 9:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hate-people-im-so-angry-why-me/178835/94 "2003-06-03T21:57:01Z")
Well, Stanford may not be an _official_ Ivy League, but itā€™s commonly thought of as such. ---
**Author:** ![GaWd](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/f08c70/32.png) [@GaWd](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GaWd)\ **Post date:** [June 3, 2003, 11:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hate-people-im-so-angry-why-me/178835/95 "2003-06-03T23:26:17Z")
I just thought Iā€™d add my half a cent hereā€¦ GET. A. FUCKING. HELMET. Or get some lithium or something. Maybe take up residence on the lawn at school or something, but donā€™t be such a downer to everyone elseā€™s life just because youe ā€œhate everyone, hate people, hate this, hate thatā€. Christ. Sam ---
**Author:** ![MeanOldLady](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/meanoldlady/32/10737_2.png) [@MeanOldLady](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MeanOldLady)\ **Post date:** [June 4, 2003, 12:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hate-people-im-so-angry-why-me/178835/96 "2003-06-04T00:12:47Z")
:dubious: Err, ā€œ **GaWd** ā€, did you even READ any of this thread or just the OP? ::yawn:: What an assmonkey. ---
**Author:** ![voguevixen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/b5ac83/32.png) [@voguevixen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/voguevixen)\ **Post date:** [June 4, 2003, 1:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hate-people-im-so-angry-why-me/178835/97 "2003-06-04T01:57:54Z")
Yeah **GaWd** , just because you are love doesnā€™t mean everyone else has to be. I know you made us in your own image, but couldnā€™t you have tweaked us a bit so weā€™re not so gosh-awful annoying to each other? ---
**Author:** ![kambuckta](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/53a042/32.png) [@kambuckta](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kambuckta)\ **Post date:** [June 4, 2003, 2:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hate-people-im-so-angry-why-me/178835/98 "2003-06-04T02:56:23Z")
**MOL** , do you have any idea what impact _words_ can haveā€¦especially on a messageboard? While you are jumping up and down saying that people are misinterpreting you and taking you too seriously, your OP left little doubt in many minds that you are pretty disturbing individual. When a person says that there are only three (3) people in the world that they deign to give the time of day to, it raises some interesting questions about the mind of that person. Yeah, yeah, we now know that you were just venting, and that you are pissed-off about having to share a room with two others. I too would be pretty anxious about such a prospect. Iā€™ve done my time of shared-housing (both in my single days, and later with kids) and it ainā€™t always pleasant. Mostly it is downright shitty. Nobody is denying that. But the tone of your OP (and your later posts as well) seems to suggest that you are more than just a bit _pissed-off_. You made it very clear that it is the rest of the world that is to blame for your anti-social attitudes. Nooooooā€¦there isnā€™t anything wrong with YOUā€¦itā€™s the arseholes that you have to share the planet with who are screwing everything up. Iā€™m not saying you have to like sharing, but as you have pointed out, it is your only option at the moment. Given that, I suggest you get some counselling to try to come to an understanding of why you feel that the world (and itā€™s 5 billion minus 3 inhabitants) are so ā€˜disgustingā€™. It might help you in the future when you have to deal with situations involving close human contact. Good luck. ---
**Author:** ![HelloKitty](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/ecccb3/32.png) [@HelloKitty](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/HelloKitty)\ **Post date:** [June 4, 2003, 4:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hate-people-im-so-angry-why-me/178835/99 "2003-06-04T04:58:50Z")
Hey, Iā€™m with you, **MOL** I really donā€™t like people all that much myself, and I think the reason for that is I was forced to spend 6 semesters in a college dorm room with 3 roomates and one bathroom. I think that developed a general dislike of people in general. Donā€™t get me wrongā€“I have a great circle of friends, and a huge family full of eccentric and fun people, but dealing with ā€œeverydayā€ people is something I definitely do not enjoy. I understand where youā€™re coming from, people can definitely suck, and living with them is not fun. ---
**Author:** ![Chief\_Crunch](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e8c25b/32.png) [@Chief\_Crunch](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chief_Crunch)\ **Post date:** [June 4, 2003, 5:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hate-people-im-so-angry-why-me/178835/100 "2003-06-04T05:12:36Z")
I can understand from where MOLā€™s coming. While I wouldnā€™t say I _dislike_ people, I generally prefer to be alone. When oneā€™s living in a dorm with roommates, you are virtually **always** in a social situation. That prospect made me sick to my stomach when I was in college. I am not arrogant or asocial. Iā€™m actually quite friendly, yet somewhat reserved in real life. I have friends I hang out with on occasion. I am not ā€œantisocialā€ which is term that best descibes the personality of people like Tim McVeigh nor is my desire ā€œpathologicalā€ in anyway. The OP was distressed and used some colorful hyberbole. Give her a break. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hate-people-im-so-angry-why-me/178835.md?page=4) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hate-people-im-so-angry-why-me/178835.md?page=6)