# I hate this-I HATE IT I HATE IT I HATE IT!!! **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [December 18, 2002, 1:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hate-this-i-hate-it-i-hate-it-i-hate-it/143463 "2002-12-18T01:17:28Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 18\ **Page:** 6
**Author:** ![DeadlyAccurate](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ac91a4/32.png) [@DeadlyAccurate](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DeadlyAccurate)\ **Post date:** [December 19, 2002, 9:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hate-this-i-hate-it-i-hate-it-i-hate-it/143463/101 "2002-12-19T21:33:45Z")
:o I’m sorry I got your name wrong, **LordVor**. :o ---
**Author:** ![jazzmine](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/5daacb/32.png) [@jazzmine](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jazzmine)\ **Post date:** [December 19, 2002, 11:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hate-this-i-hate-it-i-hate-it-i-hate-it/143463/102 "2002-12-19T23:18:21Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by jayjay \* > **And I live with my mother. Oh, wait, I said that. It’s worth a repeat, actually. Not that I don’t appreciate the near-saintly patience and generosity of my mom at this point, but I was raised to believe that the offspring are expected to go out and make their own way in life, as separate beings, not to keep crawling back to the nest when they’ve gotten their wings clipped (three times so far!). It’s kind of embarassing, to tell the truth.** Hey, if you want to do the Will and Grace thing with me, I’m so there. ---
**Author:** ![Guinastasia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guinastasia/32/5751_2.png) [@Guinastasia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Guinastasia)\ **Post date:** [December 19, 2002, 11:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hate-this-i-hate-it-i-hate-it-i-hate-it/143463/103 "2002-12-19T23:34:06Z")
This is going to be my last post for a while-I’ve asked **Tuba** to put my account on hold for a while. That’s what I mean by sabbatical. But I want to at least let you guys know about it, before the big SABBATICAL appears under my name. (I know I’m too weak right now to avoid coming here!) Honestly, you guys are right-I am depressed, avoiding life, and that’s not right. (I can’t disconnect the internet, as the whole family uses it, and I don’t pay for it myself-and please, no comments about my family paying for it, okay? That would be below the belt). I went to the library today and got out some long, thick heavy old classics, which I plan on reading. Tomorrow, I’m going over to the mall and seeing if any little boutiques are hiring-right now, the want ads are pretty slim as I can see. I probably won’t be back for a while-at least until I get my shit together. I won’t disappear online totally, so feel free to drop me an e-mail if you like, or hey, any hatemail. I get off on it. (I don’t just surf-I do a lot of research, including a biography site for the Karadjordjevic royals I’m working on, as well as some graphics and stories I’m writing.) Wish me luck. Also, my great-aunt is coming to stay with us for Christmas, so that’s something. Thanks guys. My ass needs kicking, and I knew I could count on you to do it. Have a great holiday, and a Happy New Year! Love, Kathi ---
**Author:** ![DeadlyAccurate](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ac91a4/32.png) [@DeadlyAccurate](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DeadlyAccurate)\ **Post date:** [December 19, 2002, 11:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hate-this-i-hate-it-i-hate-it-i-hate-it/143463/104 "2002-12-19T23:41:04Z")
Good luck, **Guin**. ---
**Author:** ![LordVor](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/90ced4/32.png) [@LordVor](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LordVor)\ **Post date:** [December 19, 2002, 11:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hate-this-i-hate-it-i-hate-it-i-hate-it/143463/105 "2002-12-19T23:47:29Z")
Good luck. Really, I hope you get your shit together and end up living the life you want. Or, at least, you fall back onto a plan ‘b’ and are able to live a better life than you’re living now. -lv ---
**Author:** ![t-keela](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/a3d4f5/32.png) [@t-keela](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/t-keela)\ **Post date:** [December 20, 2002, 7:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hate-this-i-hate-it-i-hate-it-i-hate-it/143463/106 "2002-12-20T07:36:20Z")
Does this mean I have to start being nice again? ---
**Author:** ![Munch](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/munch/32/5281_2.png) [@Munch](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Munch)\ **Post date:** [December 26, 2002, 8:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hate-this-i-hate-it-i-hate-it-i-hate-it/143463/107 "2002-12-26T20:52:24Z")
Was just wondering where Quin had been off to, and just found this thread. Sure hope it isn’t locked… Anyway, if you’re reading this Guin, hope you’re doing well. ---
**Author:** ![Eva\_Luna](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/e495f1/32.png) [@Eva\_Luna](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Eva_Luna)\ **Post date:** [December 27, 2002, 3:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hate-this-i-hate-it-i-hate-it-i-hate-it/143463/108 "2002-12-27T15:23:07Z")
I like [LouisB’s\*\* idea. Also, speaking from experience, not-for-profits are willing to hire people with brains, but questionable experience qualifications, but they don’t pay so well. This way, they get a smart person for cheap, and you get some experience that looks wonderful on a resume. Straight out of college, I was a job counselor for over 200 unemployed former Soviets. It paid less than a receptionist job, but had great benefits (including dental!), and gave me experience I never would have gotten anywhere else. Also, a number of friends have completed degrees by working for a university in administrative jobs for relatively low pay, but free classes. Maybe you could get a teaching certificate that way? Of course, feel free to get your rant out of your system first… ---
**Author:** ![techchick68](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ea5d25/32.png) [@techchick68](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/techchick68)\ **Post date:** [December 28, 2002, 12:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hate-this-i-hate-it-i-hate-it-i-hate-it/143463/109 "2002-12-28T00:41:36Z")
I only read the OP… Go volunteer if you are that bored enough to HATE everything. There are a ton of opportunities to volunteer until you decide to get off your ass and get a job or whatever. At least you wont hate your life so damn much. Think, woman, think. ---
**Author:** ![cuauhtemoc](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/ecb155/32.png) [@cuauhtemoc](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cuauhtemoc)\ **Post date:** [December 28, 2002, 3:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hate-this-i-hate-it-i-hate-it-i-hate-it/143463/110 "2002-12-28T03:22:10Z")
I have decided that I’m with **Guinastasia**. I hate this too. It fucking sucks. It can bite me. ---
**Author:** ![TVeblen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/4bbf92/32.png) [@TVeblen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TVeblen)\ **Post date:** [December 28, 2002, 3:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hate-this-i-hate-it-i-hate-it-i-hate-it/143463/111 "2002-12-28T03:24:15Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by techchick68 \* > \*\*I only read the OP… > > Go volunteer if you are that bored enough to HATE everything. > > There are a ton of opportunities to volunteer until you decide to get off your ass and get a job or whatever. At least you wont hate your life so damn much. > > Think, woman, think. \*\* **techchick** , ease up on her, okay? Making changes isn’t easy but she’s working on it. IMO she took the “tough love” criticism with remarkable grace. _Originally posted by **Guin** _ > [@](#): > > Honestly, you guys are right-I am depressed, avoiding life, and that’s not right… > I went to the library today and got out some long, thick heavy old classics, which I plan on reading. Tomorrow, I’m going over to the mall and seeing if any little boutiques are hiring-right now, the want ads are pretty slim as I can see.[sub]condensed for space[/sub] She also said she’s going try to limit her online time as well. If she’s taken everyone’s words to heart and is trying to apply them, even in baby steps, that’s all to the good. Veb ---
**Author:** ![The\_Wrong\_Girl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/b782af/32.png) [@The\_Wrong\_Girl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Wrong_Girl)\ **Post date:** [December 28, 2002, 3:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hate-this-i-hate-it-i-hate-it-i-hate-it/143463/112 "2002-12-28T03:27:40Z")
Good luck, **Guin** –Here’s another yinzer doper rooting for you. Have a good new year. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Wikkit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/c0e974/32.png) [@Wikkit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Wikkit)\ **Post date:** [December 28, 2002, 5:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hate-this-i-hate-it-i-hate-it-i-hate-it/143463/113 "2002-12-28T05:47:03Z")
Thanks, techchick; no one said anything like that in this three page thread. Note to self: never read any posts that say they only read the OP. ---
**Author:** ![techchick68](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ea5d25/32.png) [@techchick68](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/techchick68)\ **Post date:** [December 29, 2002, 12:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hate-this-i-hate-it-i-hate-it-i-hate-it/143463/114 "2002-12-29T00:46:42Z")
Well, sometimes tough “love” or comments are the best way to get people to wake up **TVeblen**. Lord knows I have had many over here in my past. It took people making me _think_ in a somewhat harsh way and I am a better person because of it. I “aint” perfect by any means but sometimes a strong message is the best way to get people out of ruts. Oh and **Wikkit** , I didn’t want to read the whole thread, I wanted to give her my thoughts not inspired by other people’s thoughts or comments. Had I caught this thread at the beginning, I would have said the same thing. ---
**Author:** ![Wikkit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/c0e974/32.png) [@Wikkit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Wikkit)\ **Post date:** [December 29, 2002, 1:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hate-this-i-hate-it-i-hate-it-i-hate-it/143463/115 "2002-12-29T01:15:50Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by techchick68 \* > \*\*Oh and **Wikkit** , I didn’t want to read the whole thread, I wanted to give her my thoughts not inspired by other people’s thoughts or comments. Had I caught this thread at the beginning, I would have said the same thing. \*\* Ah, yes. Much better to duplicate other’s people posts in your own words than to have a reasoned and reasonable opinion. ---
**Author:** ![techchick68](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ea5d25/32.png) [@techchick68](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/techchick68)\ **Post date:** [December 29, 2002, 1:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hate-this-i-hate-it-i-hate-it-i-hate-it/143463/116 "2002-12-29T01:28:05Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Wikkit \* > \*\*Ah, yes. Much better to duplicate other’s people posts in your own words than to have a reasoned and reasonable opinion. \*\* Can’t please everyone, such is life. ---
**Author:** ![Wikkit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/c0e974/32.png) [@Wikkit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Wikkit)\ **Post date:** [December 29, 2002, 3:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hate-this-i-hate-it-i-hate-it-i-hate-it/143463/117 "2002-12-29T03:54:48Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by techchick68 \* > \*\*Can’t please everyone, such is life. \*\* Good to see you don’t try. Sure must make things easier. ---
**Author:** ![Bad\_News\_Baboon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/5fc32e/32.png) [@Bad\_News\_Baboon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bad_News_Baboon)\ **Post date:** [December 29, 2002, 6:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hate-this-i-hate-it-i-hate-it-i-hate-it/143463/118 "2002-12-29T18:47:44Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by techchick68 \* > \*\*I only read the OP… > > Go volunteer if you are that bored enough to HATE everything. > > There are a ton of opportunities to volunteer until you decide to get off your ass and get a job or whatever. At least you wont hate your life so damn much. > > Think, woman, think. \*\* ok, I have to admit confusion. Is there something I am not getting? I see that **Techchick** replied a few times on page two. I dunno, I also have to agree that it’s not in good form to simply read the OP and then offer advice (on page 3 no less) that has been said at least 5 times by different people (including yourself). I could understand it if she was still here and still bitching, but she’s not. So I don’t get the anger in that last post, Techchick. I really don’t. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hate-this-i-hate-it-i-hate-it-i-hate-it/143463.md?page=5)