# I have a boyfriend! How'd you meet your SO? **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [April 25, 2005, 4:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-have-a-boyfriend-howd-you-meet-your-so/301042 "2005-04-25T16:34:01Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![The\_Weird\_One](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/7bcc69/32.png) [@The\_Weird\_One](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Weird_One)\ **Post date:** [April 25, 2005, 4:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-have-a-boyfriend-howd-you-meet-your-so/301042/1 "2005-04-25T16:34:01Z")
Last Thursday, after three years of flings and one-night stands, I finally landed me a boyfriend (hereafter dubbed **The Cute One** ). I have been grinning like an idiot ever since šŸ˜ƒ , as evidenced by [this photo.](http://www.aerfillustration.com/CutieandWeird.bmp) We were introduced by my stepsister and her boyfriend, who went to school with him. I took an interest as soon as I determined that he was available, but I couldnā€™t figure out if he was interested in me or not. Finally, last Thursday, I invited him over for dinner and a movie. Enabled by alcohol, I was flirting outrageously (ā€œCan I feel your beard?ā€) but he still wasnā€™t giving me any signals. Finally, the movie ended. He got up to go. He stood _right next_ to me. _Alright_, I thought, _this is it._ He walked past me to the TV. I held my position, and when he came back, he had to squeeze between me and the table. Our eyes met . . . and then we started a marathon 3-hour smooching session. Note to self: no more drunken smootching 'till 4 am on a workday. Anybody else want to share how they got together with their SO? ---
**Author:** ![LindyHopper](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/ebca7d/32.png) [@LindyHopper](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LindyHopper)\ **Post date:** [April 25, 2005, 4:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-have-a-boyfriend-howd-you-meet-your-so/301042/2 "2005-04-25T16:46:58Z")
Sure, Iā€™ll play. Iā€™d been divorced for a year and a half (or so), and hadnā€™t really been looking to meet anyone. Got lonely, and decided that Iā€™d make more of an effort. Lo and behold, some friends (who Iā€™d literally just met a couple of weeks before) invited me to a party at their house. It was going to be a Latin-themed partyā€“ā€œSangria Sunsetā€ or something like that, and they said we could bring food if we wanted. So I made my special Cuban beef salad dish, dressed in my salsa-iest clothes (really loud, multicolored shirt, black pants, concho belt, black boots), and went. The entire day (even after I made the food), Iā€™d been debating with myself whether or not to go; I didnā€™t think Iā€™d know many people there. But then I said to myself, ā€œSelf, you just said you wanted to meet people. How in the world are you going to meet anyone if you never go anywhere where thereā€™ll be strangers?ā€ So I went. And met the girl of my dreams; she was a friend of the partyā€™s hosts. We got to talking, and I liked her a lot. Enough to ask the hostess for contact information after sheā€™d gone. We went out a couple of weeks later, and now, a year and a half later, weā€™re still together. Living together, even. I found out months later that my outfit had given her _serious_ pause. Heh. Oh, and by the wayā€“it looks to me like your names are reversed. šŸ˜‰ ---
**Author:** ![Kalhoun](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/3bc359/32.png) [@Kalhoun](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kalhoun)\ **Post date:** [April 25, 2005, 5:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-have-a-boyfriend-howd-you-meet-your-so/301042/3 "2005-04-25T17:05:17Z")
> [@The Weird One](#): > > Last Thursday, after three years of flings and one-night stands, I finally landed me a boyfriend (hereafter dubbed **The Cute One** ). I have been grinning like an idiot ever since šŸ˜ƒ , as evidenced by [this photo.](http://www.aerfillustration.com/CutieandWeird.bmp) > We were introduced by my stepsister and her boyfriend, who went to school with him. I took an interest as soon as I determined that he was available, but I couldnā€™t figure out if he was interested in me or not. Finally, last Thursday, I invited him over for dinner and a movie. Enabled by alcohol, I was flirting outrageously (ā€œCan I feel your beard?ā€) but he still wasnā€™t giving me any signals. Finally, the movie ended. He got up to go. He stood _right next_ to me. _Alright_, I thought, _this is it._ He walked past me to the TV. I held my position, and when he came back, he had to squeeze between me and the table. Our eyes met . . . and then we started a marathon 3-hour smooching session. Note to self: no more drunken smootching 'till 4 am on a workday. > > Anybody else want to share how they got together with their SO? My husband used to be my brother in law. We met at a family gathering. ---
**Author:** ![Ethilrist](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ethilrist/32/4604_2.png) [@Ethilrist](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ethilrist)\ **Post date:** [April 25, 2005, 5:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-have-a-boyfriend-howd-you-meet-your-so/301042/4 "2005-04-25T17:07:38Z")
> [@The Weird One](#): > > Note to self: no more drunken smootching 'till 4 am on a workday. :dubious: Thatā€™s an odd time to start smooching, but if it works for you, go for it! Met my lady playing D&D. She was the GMā€™s Girlfriend. They broke up. He moved out. I moved in. My character died. ---
**Author:** ![Daithi\_Lacha](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/daithi_lacha/32/5430_2.png) [@Daithi\_Lacha](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Daithi_Lacha)\ **Post date:** [April 25, 2005, 5:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-have-a-boyfriend-howd-you-meet-your-so/301042/5 "2005-04-25T17:22:34Z")
I was working at a gourmet deli in Amagansett, NY, where a bunch of Irish girls worked. A pair was hired; two friends. Both cute, but I fancied one more than the other. So they left the deli, and I tracked them down about a month later. They had a place together, so I asked them if theyā€™d like to have a tour of our local beaches by moonlight. Yes, fine, off we go. A fun evening, drop them off, and the one I like says, ā€œSo, Daithi - are you doing anything tomorrow?ā€ Heart beats faster - ā€œNo, Iā€™m not!ā€ ā€œGood,ā€ she says. ā€œMy friend here isnā€™t either - you two should go out!ā€ Well, that was 1987. The friend became Mrs. Lacha, so I guess the date went OKā€¦ ---
**Author:** ![Little\_Bird](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/3ec8ea/32.png) [@Little\_Bird](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Little_Bird)\ **Post date:** [April 25, 2005, 5:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-have-a-boyfriend-howd-you-meet-your-so/301042/6 "2005-04-25T17:22:42Z")
**Oh my GAWD!!** If you two arenā€™t just the cutest little things evaaaahh! I love the red-head, BTW. Anywayā€“Bird Man and I met at work. We started on the same day in the same training group. When we finally started dating about three months later everyone was like ā€œYeah, werenā€™t you already together before you started working here?ā€ It was rather written in the sky and what not. We get married in 40 days. _grin_ ---
**Author:** ![Kythereia](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/e8c25b/32.png) [@Kythereia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kythereia)\ **Post date:** [April 25, 2005, 5:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-have-a-boyfriend-howd-you-meet-your-so/301042/7 "2005-04-25T17:39:34Z")
I donā€™t have one. ā˜¹ _opens up umbrella, sits under little rain cloud that forms above head and starts raining, is blue_ ā˜¹ (Now that Iā€™ve completely pooped everyoneā€™s partyā€¦) ---
**Author:** ![Shirley\_Ujest](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/45deac/32.png) [@Shirley\_Ujest](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shirley_Ujest)\ **Post date:** [April 25, 2005, 5:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-have-a-boyfriend-howd-you-meet-your-so/301042/8 "2005-04-25T17:42:31Z")
> [@Kalhoun](#): > > My husband used to be my brother in law. We met at a family gathering. You have one of the most interesting family trees. šŸ˜ƒ > [@](#): > > How in the world are you going to meet anyone if you never go anywhere where thereā€™ll be strangers?" So I went. I had been dumped by the boyfriend and had had the rebound guy ( who lived out of state.) and was busy with my pathetic life (work, home with mom-work-home with mom) and I decided that \*Mr. Wonderful Was Just Not Going To Bang On The Door, Sweep Me Away And Take Me Off To Live Happily Ever After In Perfectville Where my kids are perfect, I never gain weight and I somehow learn to care about cooking and cleaningā€¦or we have a maid. So I was asked out by this guy that came into where I worked who was nice enough in a bland kind of way. Figured we would do dinner and a movie. Iā€™d pay for the movie or something and then that would be it, because I knew Iā€™d go into a coma with this guy before the door was closed on my side of the car after he picked me up. So, he taked me to a softball game. I would have died of pure boredom if it werenā€™t for the hottie in outfield in his uniform. Mr. Vanilla Personality close friend. Mr. Ujest. The rest, as they say, is history. ---
**Author:** ![Telperien](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/65b543/32.png) [@Telperien](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Telperien)\ **Post date:** [April 25, 2005, 5:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-have-a-boyfriend-howd-you-meet-your-so/301042/9 "2005-04-25T17:46:41Z")
> [@Kythereia](#): > > I donā€™t have one. > > ā˜¹ _opens up umbrella, sits under little rain cloud that forms above head and starts raining, is blue_ ā˜¹ > > (Now that Iā€™ve completely pooped everyoneā€™s partyā€¦) No worries, hon. Just sit over here with me and weā€™ll go, ā€œAwwww,ā€ at everyoneā€™s cute stories. ---
**Author:** ![ShibbOleth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/848f3c/32.png) [@ShibbOleth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ShibbOleth)\ **Post date:** [April 25, 2005, 5:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-have-a-boyfriend-howd-you-meet-your-so/301042/10 "2005-04-25T17:47:44Z")
**The Weird One** : you two even sort of look alike (itā€™s the glasses, Iā€™m sure). That photo looks like a couple that have been together and insynch with each other for a while. Donā€™t tell him, that, though: youā€™ll jinx it! And you are hot ā€“ youā€™re lucky you didnā€™t have to beat him over the head with a cluestick to get him to kiss you! ---
**Author:** ![Stranger\_On\_A\_Train](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/13edae/32.png) [@Stranger\_On\_A\_Train](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Stranger_On_A_Train)\ **Post date:** [April 25, 2005, 5:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-have-a-boyfriend-howd-you-meet-your-so/301042/11 "2005-04-25T17:55:24Z")
> [@Kythereia](#): > > I donā€™t have one. > > ā˜¹ _opens up umbrella, sits under little rain cloud that forms above head and starts raining, is blue_ ā˜¹ Yeah, me neiā€™r. Is there room under that umbrella? Stranger ---
**Author:** ![SolGrundy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/bbce88/32.png) [@SolGrundy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SolGrundy)\ **Post date:** [April 25, 2005, 5:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-have-a-boyfriend-howd-you-meet-your-so/301042/12 "2005-04-25T17:56:56Z")
I met him on an internet message board. ---
**Author:** ![scout1222](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/34f0e0/32.png) [@scout1222](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/scout1222)\ **Post date:** [April 25, 2005, 5:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-have-a-boyfriend-howd-you-meet-your-so/301042/13 "2005-04-25T17:59:19Z")
I met my SO over Yahoo Personals. He contacted me and raved about my profile (written by our very own **Rue DeDay**!). Despite the fact that he described himself as an occasional smoker, he seemed reasonable enough to meet for coffee. Iā€™m glad I did, because 8 months later Iā€™m happy as a freakinā€™ clam. And since he, too, is a cutie patootie, Iā€™m going to show you a picture of [us](http://public.fotki.com/scout1222/disney_trip_march_2005/disney_couple.html) at Disneyland. Itā€™s not the greatest picture of ME, but HE photographs well. ---
**Author:** ![Kythereia](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/e8c25b/32.png) [@Kythereia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kythereia)\ **Post date:** [April 25, 2005, 6:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-have-a-boyfriend-howd-you-meet-your-so/301042/14 "2005-04-25T18:02:57Z")
> [@Stranger On A Train](#): > > Yeah, me neiā€™r. Is there room under that umbrella? > > Stranger Sure, itā€™s big enough for two. šŸ˜‰ _brings umbrella over to **Harimad-sol** , snuggles up close to both of them_ ---
**Author:** ![Cyn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/a88e4f/32.png) [@Cyn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cyn)\ **Post date:** [April 25, 2005, 6:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-have-a-boyfriend-howd-you-meet-your-so/301042/15 "2005-04-25T18:05:57Z")
Via the internet, of course. My girlfriend was checking out the Yahoo Personals and dragged me over to see the ads. You could still IM them if they were online and she wanted to chat with some. I liked **Drachillix** , but he was way too young, so I deleted his ad from the list my friend made for me. In the next few days, I was chatting with several men but his name didnā€™t delete and I accidently started talking to him. Giving him my phone number. Meeting him. Dating him. Marrying him. ---
**Author:** ![Homebrew](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/c89c15/32.png) [@Homebrew](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Homebrew)\ **Post date:** [April 25, 2005, 6:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-have-a-boyfriend-howd-you-meet-your-so/301042/16 "2005-04-25T18:26:49Z")
> [@Harimad-sol](#): > > Just sit over here with me and weā€™ll go, ā€œAwwww,ā€ at everyoneā€™s cute stories. Will it be okay if we quietly make gagging noises when the coupled folk arenā€™t looking? ---
**Author:** ![Telperien](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/65b543/32.png) [@Telperien](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Telperien)\ **Post date:** [April 25, 2005, 6:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-have-a-boyfriend-howd-you-meet-your-so/301042/17 "2005-04-25T18:28:53Z")
> [@Homebrew](#): > > Will it be okay if we quietly make gagging noises when the coupled folk arenā€™t looking? I suppose so. ---
**Author:** ![fishbicycle](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/aeb1de/32.png) [@fishbicycle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/fishbicycle)\ **Post date:** [April 25, 2005, 6:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-have-a-boyfriend-howd-you-meet-your-so/301042/18 "2005-04-25T18:44:16Z")
She turned up unexpectedly in my mailbox, in Canada, in the spring of 1996. Well, not her, but a letter from her, where she was at university in Mississippi. I had a classified ad in a publication for Beatles collectors. She responded to buy something. Not long afterward, she wrote again to buy something, twice more, IIRC. I didnā€™t hear from her for a couple of months, then she wrote to say that she was moving back to Florida and couldnā€™t buy anything this time, but would I still write to her? Well, of course I would! We got to be friends by mail over the summer and fall, and I flew down here to meet her in December. She visited me the following April and August, I came back in December, and at the end of April, 1998, I flew down here for the last time, to stay. We were married on May 9th. Itā€™s been wonderful. ---
**Author:** ![GingerOfTheNorth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/cdc98d/32.png) [@GingerOfTheNorth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GingerOfTheNorth)\ **Post date:** [April 25, 2005, 7:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-have-a-boyfriend-howd-you-meet-your-so/301042/19 "2005-04-25T19:17:13Z")
I called him a name in MPSIMS. He didnā€™t know what it meant. IMs ensued. ---
**Author:** ![TheFaerie](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/c57346/32.png) [@TheFaerie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TheFaerie)\ **Post date:** [April 25, 2005, 7:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-have-a-boyfriend-howd-you-meet-your-so/301042/20 "2005-04-25T19:52:37Z")
It was supposed to be a casual fling (Him: ā€œYou wannaā€¦?ā€ Me: ā€œIā€™m in a relationship and youā€™re not my usual type, but sure, why not!ā€) It immediately got serious. The Elf and I have been together for nearly 4 years now. Actually itā€™s a very long story, with many dramatic twists and turns, but we are deliriously happy together. I think Iā€™ll send him a I love you emailā€¦ šŸ™‚ [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-have-a-boyfriend-howd-you-meet-your-so/301042.md?page=2)