# I have a crush..........well, maybe just carnal desire...... **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [May 12, 2005, 9:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-have-a-crush-well-maybe-just-carnal-desire/303603 "2005-05-12T21:17:50Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Canadiangirl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/dc4da7/32.png) [@Canadiangirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Canadiangirl)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2005, 9:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-have-a-crush-well-maybe-just-carnal-desire/303603/1 "2005-05-12T21:17:50Z")
There’s a fellow who belongs to a group I do…he’s hot! Just separated, nasty story, great hands (girls, I’m assuming you know what I’m talking about 😉 , this amazing voice, I feel like I’m 15 around him. Now the reality: I’m married to a great guy…what’s wrong with me that I would want to cross the line with this hottie? Any other ladies out there have this happen to them? I"m talking daytime fantasies, all of it. ---
**Author:** ![Mr.Blue\_Sky](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/d26b3c/32.png) [@Mr.Blue\_Sky](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mr.Blue_Sky)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2005, 9:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-have-a-crush-well-maybe-just-carnal-desire/303603/2 "2005-05-12T21:19:55Z")
It’s not unusual (just ask Tom Jones). As long as you don’t try and act out your fantasies, you’ll be okay. What happens in your mind, stays in your mind. ---
**Author:** ![QuickSilver](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/quicksilver/32/7832_2.png) [@QuickSilver](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/QuickSilver)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2005, 9:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-have-a-crush-well-maybe-just-carnal-desire/303603/3 "2005-05-12T21:29:32Z")
Constant craving. It’s always been. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Wesley\_Clark](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/wesley_clark/32/20581_2.png) [@Wesley\_Clark](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Wesley_Clark)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2005, 9:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-have-a-crush-well-maybe-just-carnal-desire/303603/4 "2005-05-12T21:56:59Z")
Can someone explain the hand comment to me? If you can do it in a haiku I’ll be all the more pleased, but a regular type will work too. ---
**Author:** ![Mr.Blue\_Sky](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/d26b3c/32.png) [@Mr.Blue\_Sky](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mr.Blue_Sky)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2005, 10:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-have-a-crush-well-maybe-just-carnal-desire/303603/5 "2005-05-12T22:00:07Z")
> [@Wesley Clark](#): > > Can someone explain the hand comment to me? If you can do it in a haiku I’ll be all the more pleased, but a regular type will work too. Big hands = big penis. ---
**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2005, 10:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-have-a-crush-well-maybe-just-carnal-desire/303603/6 "2005-05-12T22:00:50Z")
> [@Canadiangirl](#): > > Now the reality: I’m married to a great guy…what’s wrong with me that I would want to cross the line with this hottie? Any other ladies out there have this happen to them? I"m talking daytime fantasies, all of it. It happened to me not too long ago. There is a man of my acquaintance who has done more than catch my eye. It’s life. ---
**Author:** ![Wesley\_Clark](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/wesley_clark/32/20581_2.png) [@Wesley\_Clark](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Wesley_Clark)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2005, 10:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-have-a-crush-well-maybe-just-carnal-desire/303603/7 "2005-05-12T22:04:03Z")
> [@Mr. Blue Sky](#): > > Big hands = big penis. What happened to big feet? My [Dr. Scholl](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=316005&highlight=scholl) shoes are a size 13W, so I have that going for me. Plus I know nothing turns women on more than a 25 year old guy who buys shoes designed for old men at the local walmart. I await your emails/IMs/propositions. ---
**Author:** ![Kent\_Clark](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kent_clark/32/105_2.png) [@Kent\_Clark](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kent_Clark)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2005, 10:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-have-a-crush-well-maybe-just-carnal-desire/303603/8 "2005-05-12T22:29:46Z")
> [@Canadiangirl](#): > > Any other ladies out there have this happen to them? I"m talking daytime fantasies, all of it. Will you take a similar story from a guy? My oldest, closest friend was living in another city. Occasionally he dropped some bit of information about the woman he dated, but I didn’t think much about it. Then they got engaged and I finally met her. I fell in love with her immediately. Oh yes, there was carnal desire, but I also decided that she was the woman who had been put on Earth to be my soul mate and fate gave with one hand by letting us meet, while taking away with the other by having her attached to – did I mention he was my **oldest, closest friend**? And that I was somewhat inconveniently already married? Eventually I fell out of love with her and went on with my life. A little fantasy is good. Just keep it at that. ---
**Author:** ![AngelicGemma](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/439d5e/32.png) [@AngelicGemma](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AngelicGemma)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2005, 10:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-have-a-crush-well-maybe-just-carnal-desire/303603/9 "2005-05-12T22:33:11Z")
Lust is perfectly normal. It doesn’t matter as long as you don’t do anything about it. ---
**Author:** ![Spatial\_Rift\_47](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/a8b319/32.png) [@Spatial\_Rift\_47](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Spatial_Rift_47)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2005, 11:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-have-a-crush-well-maybe-just-carnal-desire/303603/10 "2005-05-12T23:03:55Z")
I’ve experienced the same thing on occasion. I’ve been with my girlfriend for almost 18 months, but she’s 150 miles away. So occasionally I’ll see a girl on campus whose primary point of attraction is that she’s on campus. When I see such a person, with whom I might otherwise become more infatuated, I just recognize it for what it is, shrug it off, and move on. Doing so is made dramatically easier by the fact that I almost never see them again. If were required to have, say, a continued working relationship with this hypothetical other girl, then that would be more difficult and I’d probably just pursue whatever channels for ending the working relationship (i.e. changing partners or something). Fantasies are perfectly natural and nothing to worry about. The extremely rare and odd instance of such a fantasy actually having the capacity of developing into a longer and more fulfilling relationship than the existing one is so very unlikely that I won’t even mention it here … er, oops. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Telperien](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/65b543/32.png) [@Telperien](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Telperien)\ **Post date:** [May 13, 2005, 12:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-have-a-crush-well-maybe-just-carnal-desire/303603/11 "2005-05-13T00:03:12Z")
I, er, had this project partner this semester. Wow. That’s all I can say about her. The most perfect woman to ever grace this unworthy piece of ground. Anything further and I sound stupid, so that’s all I’m saying. ---
**Author:** ![TwoOnSunday](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/22d042/32.png) [@TwoOnSunday](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TwoOnSunday)\ **Post date:** [May 13, 2005, 12:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-have-a-crush-well-maybe-just-carnal-desire/303603/12 "2005-05-13T00:24:24Z")
> [@Wesley Clark](#): > > What happened to big feet? My [Dr. Scholl](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=316005&highlight=scholl) shoes are a size 13W, so I have that going for me. Plus I know nothing turns women on more than a 25 year old guy who buys shoes designed for old men at the local walmart. > > I await your emails/IMs/propositions. You’re right, there’s nothing sexier than velcro and a comfort-fit padded insert! Take me NOW! ---
**Author:** ![WhyNot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/c77e96/32.png) [@WhyNot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/WhyNot)\ **Post date:** [May 13, 2005, 12:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-have-a-crush-well-maybe-just-carnal-desire/303603/13 "2005-05-13T00:40:08Z")
> [@Wesley Clark](#): > > Can someone explain the hand comment to me? If you can do it in a haiku I’ll be all the more pleased, but a regular type will work too. The space from outstretched index finger to thumb tip - 'bout the length of dick. Size of shoe, alas, no correlation at all too disappointing. ---
**Author:** ![Wesley\_Clark](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/wesley_clark/32/20581_2.png) [@Wesley\_Clark](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Wesley_Clark)\ **Post date:** [May 13, 2005, 12:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-have-a-crush-well-maybe-just-carnal-desire/303603/14 "2005-05-13T00:59:46Z")
> [@WhyNot](#): > > The space from outstretched > index finger to thumb tip - > 'bout the length of dick. Weird, i’ve never heard of it. I just tried it though and it is only 0.5" off. ---
**Author:** ![betenoir](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/258eb7/32.png) [@betenoir](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/betenoir)\ **Post date:** [May 13, 2005, 1:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-have-a-crush-well-maybe-just-carnal-desire/303603/15 "2005-05-13T01:29:00Z")
> [@WhyNot](#): > > The space from outstretched > index finger to thumb tip - > 'bout the length of dick. :dubious: Feh. I’ve seen plenty of both (hands and dicks) and I don’t see a corolation. In fact much as we might wish otherwise I don’t believe there’s any external (ie outside of the clothing) indicator of a man’s endowments. Let’s face it girls (and relavent boys) it’s a crap shoot. Or to put it more positively, in the Crackerjack Box that is Sleeping with Men, you have to open it up before you get to see what the prize is. I can’t speak for CG, but I took her comment to mean he had sexy hands…the kind you can imagine all over you. And to address the OP…I think it’s ridiculous to imagine that once you get married you become a enunch to the rest of the world. Those people who are married for 50-60-70 years? They never thought about anyone else? Not likely. That’s what masturbation fantasies are for. Just don’t take it too seriously. ---
**Author:** ![Canadiangirl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/dc4da7/32.png) [@Canadiangirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Canadiangirl)\ **Post date:** [May 13, 2005, 1:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-have-a-crush-well-maybe-just-carnal-desire/303603/16 "2005-05-13T13:17:38Z")
Well, the hands comment, from what I really meant…you know the scenes in some romantic movies with the hands above the head and the male’s hands are on top and their strong and soft at the same time…ok, I can’t write any more - my hands are starting to shake and my heart is beating faster…and sometimes it’s just the way men hold their hands or hold on to other things and you watch their fingers…and…well…ahem…gotta go ---
**Author:** ![Scoundrel\_Swanswater](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/dfb087/32.png) [@Scoundrel\_Swanswater](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Scoundrel_Swanswater)\ **Post date:** [May 13, 2005, 1:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-have-a-crush-well-maybe-just-carnal-desire/303603/17 "2005-05-13T13:28:04Z")
Trust me (somebody with relatively big hands and feet) … there is no correlation whatsoever. (Or maybe I am a mutant) ---
**Author:** ![Kalhoun](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/3bc359/32.png) [@Kalhoun](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kalhoun)\ **Post date:** [May 13, 2005, 1:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-have-a-crush-well-maybe-just-carnal-desire/303603/18 "2005-05-13T13:32:42Z")
> [@Canadiangirl](#): > > There’s a fellow who belongs to a group I do…he’s hot! Just separated, nasty story, great hands (girls, I’m assuming you know what I’m talking about 😉 , this amazing voice, I feel like I’m 15 around him. > > Now the reality: I’m married to a great guy…what’s wrong with me that I would want to cross the line with this hottie? Any other ladies out there have this happen to them? I"m talking daytime fantasies, all of it. I don’t understand the “great hands” thing, unless you’ve already crossed the line. I cannot tell by looking at someone’s hands if they’re great. ---
**Author:** ![Canadiangirl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/dc4da7/32.png) [@Canadiangirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Canadiangirl)\ **Post date:** [May 13, 2005, 1:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-have-a-crush-well-maybe-just-carnal-desire/303603/19 "2005-05-13T13:47:59Z")
Kalhoun: No, I haven’t crossed the line, well, except in my thoughts, which are rapidly becoming x-rated…I’ll give the hands thing another try…difference between office hands and tradesmen’s hands…office hands are too soft and not strong looking…tradesman’s hands are rough and sometimes calloused but you know they’ll feel just rough enough to…well, 'nough said about this subject! ---
**Author:** ![Canadiangirl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/dc4da7/32.png) [@Canadiangirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Canadiangirl)\ **Post date:** [May 13, 2005, 1:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-have-a-crush-well-maybe-just-carnal-desire/303603/20 "2005-05-13T13:49:13Z")
Kunilou - yeah, that’s exactly it…HE IS SO HOT!!! [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-have-a-crush-well-maybe-just-carnal-desire/303603.md?page=2)