# I have a date this Saturday! **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [May 30, 2013, 6:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-have-a-date-this-saturday/659737 "2013-05-30T18:09:37Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 13\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![MyFootsZZZ](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/myfootszzz/32/12580_2.png) [@MyFootsZZZ](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MyFootsZZZ)\ **Post date:** [June 2, 2013, 5:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-have-a-date-this-saturday/659737/21 "2013-06-02T17:43:06Z")
> [@billfish678](#): > > Great news. > > Now we need to get the women Dopers in here to help him “decode” dating signals so he doesn’t mess this up. > > You know, subtle stuff like she strips down to nothing but red panties and red bra back at her place because “its kinda hot in here” > > Help him out gals! Haha. I doubt I’ll see any signs like that any time soon. I asked if I could hold her hand in the movie theater, and she said it was too soon. I felt like a jerk for asking afterwards, but it beats getting rejected during the movie. So I most likely won’t be asking again for a while. ---
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [June 2, 2013, 6:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-have-a-date-this-saturday/659737/22 "2013-06-02T18:23:10Z")
> [@MyFootsZZZ](#): > > I asked if I could hold her hand in the movie theater, and she said it was too soon. I felt like a jerk for asking afterwards, but it beats getting rejected during the movie. How is that _not_ getting rejected? I mean, she rejected you with words instead of with actions, but still, she rejected your advances. 😕 ---
**Author:** ![MyFootsZZZ](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/myfootszzz/32/12580_2.png) [@MyFootsZZZ](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MyFootsZZZ)\ **Post date:** [June 2, 2013, 6:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-have-a-date-this-saturday/659737/23 "2013-06-02T18:33:21Z")
Oh, I got rejected. But not during the movie, which to me, would suck even worse. I guess I feel better that I communicated it with her before I go grabbing her hand in the theater, but her pulling away. Now I don’t have to dwell over getting rejected during the flick. She seems a little guarded, so I have to be patient. ---
**Author:** ![R3d\_Anonymous](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/aeb1de/32.png) [@R3d\_Anonymous](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/R3d_Anonymous)\ **Post date:** [June 2, 2013, 6:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-have-a-date-this-saturday/659737/24 "2013-06-02T18:41:08Z")
Personally, I think it would have been slightly better just to take her hand as asking kind of seems awkward. I mean, if she were to pull away, you could apologize. I don’t know, but it just seems weird to ask things like this - kind of how you don’t ask before you kiss (at least that’s what I have heard). ---
**Author:** ![MyFootsZZZ](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/myfootszzz/32/12580_2.png) [@MyFootsZZZ](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MyFootsZZZ)\ **Post date:** [June 2, 2013, 6:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-have-a-date-this-saturday/659737/25 "2013-06-02T18:50:44Z")
For some reason I’m glad I asked first regarding hand holding. And as weird as it sounds, I think she was too. I mean, if I had tried in the theater, I think she would have felt more uncomfortable. I REALLY do! edit; I won’t be asking ever again. If there’s a time where I feel it’s the right time, I will go for it. ---
**Author:** ![billfish678](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/7bcc69/32.png) [@billfish678](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/billfish678)\ **Post date:** [June 2, 2013, 6:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-have-a-date-this-saturday/659737/26 "2013-06-02T18:51:28Z")
You’re screwed any way you go as a man. Hence all this crazy signal reading crap. Random kiss too early? They flee like deer. Too late or miss the signals? Deflating balloon sound. Be a gentleman and ask? Incompetent looser. Generalizations of mine of course that maybe totally off base. Different women respond to different approaches. The problem is you don’t have a good idea of which one you are dealing with a lot of the time. Not to harsh on the OP. I hope it goes well for you and keep it up! And in this case it sounds like he played it right! Go team caveman! ---
**Author:** ![MyFootsZZZ](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/myfootszzz/32/12580_2.png) [@MyFootsZZZ](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MyFootsZZZ)\ **Post date:** [June 2, 2013, 7:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-have-a-date-this-saturday/659737/27 "2013-06-02T19:15:36Z")
Should I pay for the both of us? ---
**Author:** ![NGC2024](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/f475e1/32.png) [@NGC2024](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/NGC2024)\ **Post date:** [June 2, 2013, 7:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-have-a-date-this-saturday/659737/28 "2013-06-02T19:22:37Z")
> [@MyFootsZZZ](#): > > Should I pay for the both of us? Yes. ---
**Author:** ![GrandWino](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/grandwino/32/67_2.png) [@GrandWino](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GrandWino)\ **Post date:** [June 3, 2013, 6:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-have-a-date-this-saturday/659737/29 "2013-06-03T18:10:20Z")
> [@MyFootsZZZ](#): > > Should I pay for the both of us? If it’s not too late, get the tickets in advance and let her know you did so. Don’t mention anything about the cost or money. Conveniently “forget” to have her pay you back for it, or if she offers to pay for the ticket just say “How about you get the popcorn or something?” ---
**Author:** ![Living\_Well\_Is\_Best\_Revenge](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/6bbea6/32.png) [@Living\_Well\_Is\_Best\_Revenge](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Living_Well_Is_Best_Revenge)\ **Post date:** [June 3, 2013, 6:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-have-a-date-this-saturday/659737/30 "2013-06-03T18:20:57Z")
> [@billfish678](#): > > You’re screwed any way you go as a man. Hence all this crazy signal reading crap. > > Random kiss too early? They flee like deer. Too late or miss the signals? Deflating balloon sound. Be a gentleman and ask? Incompetent looser. Generalizations of mine of course that maybe totally off base. Different women respond to different approaches. The problem is you don’t have a good idea of which one you are dealing with a lot of the time. > > Not to harsh on the OP. I hope it goes well for you and keep it up! > > And in this case it sounds like he played it right! Go team caveman! Dude, you come across super bitter. ---
**Author:** ![billfish678](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/7bcc69/32.png) [@billfish678](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/billfish678)\ **Post date:** [June 3, 2013, 6:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-have-a-date-this-saturday/659737/31 "2013-06-03T18:24:49Z")
Could be. Not gonna argue that point. ---
**Author:** ![purplehorseshoe](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/purplehorseshoe/32/2996_2.png) [@purplehorseshoe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/purplehorseshoe)\ **Post date:** [June 3, 2013, 6:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-have-a-date-this-saturday/659737/32 "2013-06-03T18:47:31Z")
> [@Bob Ducca](#): > > If it’s not too late, get the tickets in advance and let her know you did so. Don’t mention anything about the cost or money. Conveniently “forget” to have her pay you back for it, or if she offers to pay for the ticket just say “How about you get the popcorn or something?” Excellent advice! 🙂 Hope you two have a nice time, **ZZZ** ---
**Author:** ![Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e8c25b/32.png) [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Really_Not_All_That_Bright)\ **Post date:** [June 3, 2013, 7:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-have-a-date-this-saturday/659737/33 "2013-06-03T19:40:23Z")
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