# I have a loudly senile new neighbor -- or -- None of us want to be here, dear, so shut the fuck up! **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [March 26, 2019, 2:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-have-a-loudly-senile-new-neighbor-or-none-of-us-want-to-be-here-dear-so-shut-the-fuck-up/831559 "2019-03-26T14:43:46Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![dropzone](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dropzone/32/7515_2.png) [@dropzone](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dropzone)\ **Post date:** [March 26, 2019, 10:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-have-a-loudly-senile-new-neighbor-or-none-of-us-want-to-be-here-dear-so-shut-the-fuck-up/831559/41 "2019-03-26T22:59:38Z")
> [@Beckdawrek](#): > > Wow. Thats crazy. Everyone has a twin somewhere, they say. This one would be ten years older. I used to look ten years younger, until I got a haircut and look (Gak!) my own age. ---
**Author:** ![kaylasdad99](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kaylasdad99/32/3398_2.png) [@kaylasdad99](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kaylasdad99)\ **Post date:** [March 26, 2019, 11:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-have-a-loudly-senile-new-neighbor-or-none-of-us-want-to-be-here-dear-so-shut-the-fuck-up/831559/42 "2019-03-26T23:00:09Z")
> [@dropzone](#): > > But I _ **AM** _ in the barrel/nursing home! Time for a living will. Just remember that you’re not allowed forge her signature on one of those. ---
**Author:** ![Helena330](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/helena330/32/531_2.png) [@Helena330](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Helena330)\ **Post date:** [March 26, 2019, 11:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-have-a-loudly-senile-new-neighbor-or-none-of-us-want-to-be-here-dear-so-shut-the-fuck-up/831559/43 "2019-03-26T23:36:33Z")
> [@dropzone](#): > > I did because I was being a jerk. You were posting on a message board to release some of that anger. You didn’t actually hurt anyone. Now that you’re out of the situation, you have compassion for older people with mental issues like most of us do. You reacted pretty normally in such a stressful situation. People who haven’t been in it have no idea. You didn’t do anything wrong. ETA: Except for telling her to shut up. ---
**Author:** ![dropzone](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dropzone/32/7515_2.png) [@dropzone](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dropzone)\ **Post date:** [March 27, 2019, 1:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-have-a-loudly-senile-new-neighbor-or-none-of-us-want-to-be-here-dear-so-shut-the-fuck-up/831559/44 "2019-03-27T01:33:44Z")
She’s back, but another favorite nurse (appropriately aged, ginger blonde, thoroughly West Side Irish) sat with her until she calmed down. They have the right meds for her now. The panoply of family members she calls for and yells at are her parents and others who left this plane 3/4 of a century ago. Someone asked how I know so much about the comings and goings here: 1. I sleep poorly. 2. I’m not deaf so I hear everything. 3. I’m a gentle flirt so I’m on the nurses’ good side. 4. I understand what they are talking about. 5. I express an interest in what’s going on with them. 6. I’m intensely bored. ---
**Author:** ![dropzone](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dropzone/32/7515_2.png) [@dropzone](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dropzone)\ **Post date:** [March 27, 2019, 3:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-have-a-loudly-senile-new-neighbor-or-none-of-us-want-to-be-here-dear-so-shut-the-fuck-up/831559/45 "2019-03-27T15:18:55Z")
It looks like she’s there round the clock. If I were more outgoing I’d drop bt and say hi. Some asshole slipped me a diuretic. I can tell by frequency, color, and because I filled a 1 liter urinal since 7am. I don’t like being uninformed about my meds. is this done at all nursing homes? I’m beginning to feel like Nellie Bly. ---
**Author:** ![cochrane](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cochrane/32/10441_2.png) [@cochrane](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cochrane)\ **Post date:** [March 27, 2019, 3:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-have-a-loudly-senile-new-neighbor-or-none-of-us-want-to-be-here-dear-so-shut-the-fuck-up/831559/46 "2019-03-27T15:25:07Z")
> [@dropzone](#): > > It looks like she’s there round the clock. If I were more outgoing I’d drop bt and say hi. > > Some asshole slipped me a diuretic. I can tell by frequency, color, and because I filled a 1 liter urinal since 7am. I don’t like being uninformed about my meds. is this done at all nursing homes? I’m beginning to feel like Nellie Bly. Not in my experience. The nurses normally dispense the meds. If you’re not sure what your nurse is giving you, just ask her. Or ask your doctor or NP when they drop in to see you. ---
**Author:** ![dropzone](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dropzone/32/7515_2.png) [@dropzone](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dropzone)\ **Post date:** [March 27, 2019, 3:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-have-a-loudly-senile-new-neighbor-or-none-of-us-want-to-be-here-dear-so-shut-the-fuck-up/831559/47 "2019-03-27T15:43:38Z")
It’s on my list because I ship excess water, but I normally pick out what I don’t want or need, like stool softeners. ---
**Author:** ![carnivorousplant](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/carnivorousplant/32/3563_2.png) [@carnivorousplant](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/carnivorousplant)\ **Post date:** [March 27, 2019, 7:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-have-a-loudly-senile-new-neighbor-or-none-of-us-want-to-be-here-dear-so-shut-the-fuck-up/831559/48 "2019-03-27T19:00:36Z")
> [@dropzone](#): > > But I _ **AM** _ in the barrel/nursing home! Time for a living will. Do you need my PO Box as well as my street address? ---
**Author:** ![Gatopescado](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/gatopescado/32/5711_2.png) [@Gatopescado](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gatopescado)\ **Post date:** [March 27, 2019, 10:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-have-a-loudly-senile-new-neighbor-or-none-of-us-want-to-be-here-dear-so-shut-the-fuck-up/831559/49 "2019-03-27T22:31:02Z")
This is a Happy Little Thread! ---
**Author:** ![Broomstick](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/broomstick/32/246_2.png) [@Broomstick](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Broomstick)\ **Post date:** [March 27, 2019, 10:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-have-a-loudly-senile-new-neighbor-or-none-of-us-want-to-be-here-dear-so-shut-the-fuck-up/831559/50 "2019-03-27T22:38:42Z")
> [@dropzone](#): > > So, I’ve been dealing with open sores because of lymphedema for years. A Green Bottle Fly got under a bandage and laid eggs on a sore. I didn’t notice until it got wriggly down there and then I started to feel little nips. I removed the bandage and was met with a mass of maggots. They don’t like alcohol and curled up and died but then I remembered that Green Bottles, with their beautiful iridescent green shells, are carrion flies. I think my infamous Exploding Abscess Story finally got one-upped. Where’s the barfing smiley again? Also, **dropzone,** you’re not supposed to use just any random fly maggots. You want maggots raised in relatively clean circumstances, and preferably use a species that only eats necrotic i.e. dead tissue rather than those that are less fussy. Or, sure, you can use common green bottles but you have to remove the little squirmers before they start chowing down on live tissue. As you learned. There are also a couple species that are particularly effective against strep bacteria, but since you have _S. aurens_ that’s probably not a concern in your case. ---
**Author:** ![cochrane](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cochrane/32/10441_2.png) [@cochrane](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cochrane)\ **Post date:** [March 28, 2019, 1:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-have-a-loudly-senile-new-neighbor-or-none-of-us-want-to-be-here-dear-so-shut-the-fuck-up/831559/51 "2019-03-28T01:46:48Z")
> [@Broomstick](#): > > I think my infamous Exploding Abscess Story finally got one-upped. Where’s the barfing smiley again? > > Also, **dropzone,** you’re not supposed to use just any random fly maggots. You want maggots raised in relatively clean circumstances, and preferably use a species that only eats necrotic i.e. dead tissue rather than those that are less fussy. Or, sure, you can use common green bottles but you have to remove the little squirmers before they start chowing down on live tissue. As you learned. There are also a couple species that are particularly effective against strep bacteria, but since you have _S. aurens_ that’s probably not a concern in your case. I don’t think **dropzone** intentionally put the fly in his wound. ---
**Author:** ![Beckdawrek](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/beckdawrek/32/3647_2.png) [@Beckdawrek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Beckdawrek)\ **Post date:** [March 28, 2019, 1:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-have-a-loudly-senile-new-neighbor-or-none-of-us-want-to-be-here-dear-so-shut-the-fuck-up/831559/52 "2019-03-28T01:58:52Z")
Link the abcess story. I need to read that. ---
**Author:** ![Morgyn](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/morgyn/32/3041_2.png) [@Morgyn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Morgyn)\ **Post date:** [March 28, 2019, 2:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-have-a-loudly-senile-new-neighbor-or-none-of-us-want-to-be-here-dear-so-shut-the-fuck-up/831559/53 "2019-03-28T02:34:51Z")
> [@Beckdawrek](#): > > Link the abcess story. I need to read that. [Broomstick’s Abscess Story](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=106449). Starts at post 44 and goes on for a ways. ---
**Author:** ![The\_Vorlon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/d07c76/32.png) [@The\_Vorlon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Vorlon)\ **Post date:** [March 28, 2019, 5:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-have-a-loudly-senile-new-neighbor-or-none-of-us-want-to-be-here-dear-so-shut-the-fuck-up/831559/54 "2019-03-28T05:47:19Z")
> [@Beckdawrek](#): > > Link the abcess story. I need to read that. Ooooooo, a virgin!!! I SO wish **Beckdawrek** has a camera on her computer… ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [March 28, 2019, 5:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-have-a-loudly-senile-new-neighbor-or-none-of-us-want-to-be-here-dear-so-shut-the-fuck-up/831559/55 "2019-03-28T05:59:11Z")
My father and two of his four siblings died of Alzheimer’s… but not before making life hell for their caregivers. There’s a chance that I’ll get it too. If I do, I’ll end it all before I become a burden to my husband. I’ve discussed this with him and though he objects, he understands. ---
**Author:** ![Beckdawrek](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/beckdawrek/32/3647_2.png) [@Beckdawrek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Beckdawrek)\ **Post date:** [March 28, 2019, 6:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-have-a-loudly-senile-new-neighbor-or-none-of-us-want-to-be-here-dear-so-shut-the-fuck-up/831559/56 "2019-03-28T06:02:44Z")
> [@The\_Vorlon](#): > > Ooooooo, a virgin!!! > > I SO wish **Beckdawrek** has a camera on her computer… Man, that was a situation. If I had the camera on you would’ve seen me cringing and reading with my mouth open. I may have screamed twice. ---
**Author:** ![Broomstick](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/broomstick/32/246_2.png) [@Broomstick](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Broomstick)\ **Post date:** [March 28, 2019, 9:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-have-a-loudly-senile-new-neighbor-or-none-of-us-want-to-be-here-dear-so-shut-the-fuck-up/831559/57 "2019-03-28T09:49:06Z")
> [@cochrane](#): > > I don’t think **dropzone** intentionally put the fly in his wound. I didn’t think so either - in fact, it’s pretty plain from the narrative it was the fly’s doing. Just pointing out that in modern maggot therapy they prefer not to use random wild maggots but rather laboratory raised “clean” maggots that truly prefer dead flesh to live. It’s a little more controlled. Sort of the difference between brewing beer with random wild yeast and brewing with a specific strain of yeast. ---
**Author:** ![Broomstick](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/broomstick/32/246_2.png) [@Broomstick](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Broomstick)\ **Post date:** [March 28, 2019, 9:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-have-a-loudly-senile-new-neighbor-or-none-of-us-want-to-be-here-dear-so-shut-the-fuck-up/831559/58 "2019-03-28T09:51:41Z")
> [@Beckdawrek](#): > > Man, that was a situation. If I had the camera on you would’ve seen me cringing and reading with my mouth open. I may have screamed twice. At least you had a stronger stomach than the medical student, right? ---
**Author:** ![running\_coach](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/running_coach/32/15836_2.png) [@running\_coach](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/running_coach)\ **Post date:** [March 28, 2019, 10:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-have-a-loudly-senile-new-neighbor-or-none-of-us-want-to-be-here-dear-so-shut-the-fuck-up/831559/59 "2019-03-28T10:42:05Z")
> [@Beckdawrek](#): > > Man, that was a situation. If I had the camera on you would’ve seen me cringing and reading with my mouth open. I may have screamed twice. Only twice? _respect_ ---
**Author:** ![dropzone](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dropzone/32/7515_2.png) [@dropzone](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dropzone)\ **Post date:** [March 28, 2019, 4:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-have-a-loudly-senile-new-neighbor-or-none-of-us-want-to-be-here-dear-so-shut-the-fuck-up/831559/60 "2019-03-28T16:00:38Z")
Shit, I’m not reading though I’ve had one of my own! :eek: She’s apparently a “sundowner.” She was belle of the ball until 5:00PM. Then it was like a light switch was thrown. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-have-a-loudly-senile-new-neighbor-or-none-of-us-want-to-be-here-dear-so-shut-the-fuck-up/831559.md?page=2) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-have-a-loudly-senile-new-neighbor-or-none-of-us-want-to-be-here-dear-so-shut-the-fuck-up/831559.md?page=4)