# I have to tell somebody... **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [August 28, 2006, 1:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-have-to-tell-somebody/370476 "2006-08-28T01:08:08Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 19\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![rwhbyu](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/da6949/32.png) [@rwhbyu](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/rwhbyu)\ **Post date:** [August 28, 2006, 1:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-have-to-tell-somebody/370476/1 "2006-08-28T01:08:08Z")
So we just found out a week ago that my wife is pregnant, and we have decided not to tell anyone until about christmas time, for all the normal reasons, plus our weird relationships with our families. My wife has told two VERY close friends, and if I don’t tell someone, I will probably eventually spill the beans to someone I shouldn’t. So now that I have told somebody I should be good. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![freckafree](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/freckafree/32/3050_2.png) [@freckafree](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/freckafree)\ **Post date:** [August 28, 2006, 1:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-have-to-tell-somebody/370476/2 "2006-08-28T01:26:22Z")
Happy, happy, happy to you and your wife! ---
**Author:** ![Scarlett67](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/scarlett67/32/7387_2.png) [@Scarlett67](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Scarlett67)\ **Post date:** [August 28, 2006, 1:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-have-to-tell-somebody/370476/3 "2006-08-28T01:31:10Z")
Congratulations and best wishes! ---
**Author:** ![TokyoBayer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tokyobayer/32/13989_2.png) [@TokyoBayer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TokyoBayer)\ **Post date:** [August 28, 2006, 1:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-have-to-tell-somebody/370476/4 "2006-08-28T01:57:47Z")
Congratulations! I know the feeling of wanting to tell people the great news. Is this your first? ---
**Author:** ![rwhbyu](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/da6949/32.png) [@rwhbyu](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/rwhbyu)\ **Post date:** [August 28, 2006, 2:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-have-to-tell-somebody/370476/5 "2006-08-28T02:06:29Z")
Yeah, its our first. Thats one of the reasons we decided to keep it quiet for a bit. We just know to many people who would react in numerous crazy ways. Plus the whole possibility of it not working out anyway(knocking on wood). ---
**Author:** ![twickster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ec9cab/32.png) [@twickster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/twickster)\ **Post date:** [August 28, 2006, 2:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-have-to-tell-somebody/370476/6 "2006-08-28T02:09:57Z")
Congrats and best wishes. ---
**Author:** ![Ruby](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/13edae/32.png) [@Ruby](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ruby)\ **Post date:** [August 28, 2006, 5:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-have-to-tell-somebody/370476/7 "2006-08-28T05:02:16Z")
[QUOTE=rwhbyu] \Plus the whole possibility of it not working out anyway(knocking on wood). [/QUOTE] Having never been pregnant, I’ve never understood this. If (God forbid) she lost the baby, wouldn’t you want your friends and family to be there for you and just as emotionally invested as you and your wife? Congrats to the whole rwhbyu clan (soon to be plus one)! ---
**Author:** ![Nava](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/da6949/32.png) [@Nava](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nava)\ **Post date:** [August 28, 2006, 6:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-have-to-tell-somebody/370476/8 "2006-08-28T06:48:13Z")
[QUOTE=Ruby] Having never been pregnant, I’ve never understood this. If (God forbid) she lost the baby, wouldn’t you want your friends and family to be there for you and just as emotionally invested as you and your wife? Congrats to the whole rwhbyu clan (soon to be plus one)! [/QUOTE] Not really. When Dad had been dead for two years (two whole years!) I still ran into people who pretty much broke down in tears when offering me their condolences. Jesus’ Nails, get a grip! And no, they hadn’t just found out. Plus telling people too early leads to what’s known here as “a donkey’s pregnancy”. People keep asking when is it due, when is it due, how old is your kid… the baby isn’t due for another two months yet the dad-to-be runs into someone who is mad he wasn’t invited to the baptism… when is it due, when is it due? They sound like a 5 year old waiting for Christmas, at least the ones who won’t be involved with diapers. Gratz, Daddy 🙂 You can come tell us anything you want, we promise we won’t be asking when is it due. ---
**Author:** ![Cazzle](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cazzle/32/75_2.png) [@Cazzle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cazzle)\ **Post date:** [August 28, 2006, 8:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-have-to-tell-somebody/370476/9 "2006-08-28T08:03:33Z")
Congratulations! Hope you two have a happy and relatively uneventful nine months ahead. All the best! > [@Ruby](#): > > Having never been pregnant, I’ve never understood this. If (God forbid) she lost the baby, wouldn’t you want your friends and family to be there for you and just as emotionally invested as you and your wife? Some people think it’s bad luck to tell. I’m with you, I don’t understand why you wouldn’t tell your nearest and dearest (the people you’d lean on for support if the worst did happen), but it is more understandable when you start getting to the outer circle of friends and people you don’t see all that often. I suspect that some people keep it from everyone so that excited family members don’t spill the beans to others which could be awkward if you did suffer a loss. ---
**Author:** ![Dottygumdrop](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ce73a5/32.png) [@Dottygumdrop](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dottygumdrop)\ **Post date:** [August 28, 2006, 8:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-have-to-tell-somebody/370476/10 "2006-08-28T08:37:09Z")
Congratulations! Welcome to the club! ---
**Author:** ![Khadaji](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/9e8a1a/32.png) [@Khadaji](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Khadaji)\ **Post date:** [August 28, 2006, 11:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-have-to-tell-somebody/370476/11 "2006-08-28T11:35:52Z")
Congratulations. Here is a wish for a safe pregnancy. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![PetW](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/d2c977/32.png) [@PetW](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PetW)\ **Post date:** [August 28, 2006, 11:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-have-to-tell-somebody/370476/12 "2006-08-28T11:50:02Z")
[QUOTE=Nava] Jesus’ Nails, get a grip! [/QUOTE] That’s horrible, mind if I start using it? 😃 ---
**Author:** ![PetW](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/d2c977/32.png) [@PetW](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PetW)\ **Post date:** [August 28, 2006, 11:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-have-to-tell-somebody/370476/13 "2006-08-28T11:51:40Z")
And congratulations! ---
**Author:** ![Nava](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/da6949/32.png) [@Nava](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nava)\ **Post date:** [August 28, 2006, 11:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-have-to-tell-somebody/370476/14 "2006-08-28T11:57:20Z")
[QUOTE=PetW] That’s horrible, mind if I start using it? 😃 [/QUOTE] Go ahead, I don’t have the copyright. “Jesus’ nails” is actually a direct translation from Spanish. Should’a got that copyright… ---
**Author:** ![rwhbyu](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/da6949/32.png) [@rwhbyu](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/rwhbyu)\ **Post date:** [August 28, 2006, 5:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-have-to-tell-somebody/370476/15 "2006-08-28T17:36:04Z")
Thanks for all the good wishes… As for telling people, its kind of a mix of the reasons people have already mentioned. Mostly its because we both are people who like to live our own lives and when we are cool with our new situation and feel like we have come to our own terms about it, we will let other people in on it. Plus some of our family is crazy. Friends… crazier than that. ---
**Author:** ![Slypork](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/9fc29f/32.png) [@Slypork](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Slypork)\ **Post date:** [August 28, 2006, 8:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-have-to-tell-somebody/370476/16 "2006-08-28T20:59:11Z")
Congrats and may it be a smooth pregnancy for both of you! ---
**Author:** ![AngelicGemma](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/439d5e/32.png) [@AngelicGemma](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AngelicGemma)\ **Post date:** [August 28, 2006, 9:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-have-to-tell-somebody/370476/17 "2006-08-28T21:51:06Z")
Congratulations! And Christmas must seem like an eternity away! Good luck keeping it secret. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Stainz](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ecd19e/32.png) [@Stainz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Stainz)\ **Post date:** [August 29, 2006, 6:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-have-to-tell-somebody/370476/18 "2006-08-29T06:00:25Z")
Congratulations!!! We told our immediate family about a month after we found out we were expecting. We told friends and co-workers at 3 months. In case something went wrong, we didn’t want to have to tell EVERYONE we knew the sad news. It was just easier that way. It was HARD to keep the secret, especially since I was starting to show. By Christmas time your lady will be 4-5 months pregnant right? People may be speculating… ---
**Author:** ![rwhbyu](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/da6949/32.png) [@rwhbyu](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/rwhbyu)\ **Post date:** [August 29, 2006, 6:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-have-to-tell-somebody/370476/19 "2006-08-29T06:27:56Z")
Yeah she will be about 5 months… I figure people at work will figure it out and maybe some of the observant people we see more regularly. We don’t live close to ANY of our family though so it should not be too hard.