# I haven't had sex in three years **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [November 25, 2013, 9:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-havent-had-sex-in-three-years/674779 "2013-11-25T21:22:15Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Jesse\_Pinkman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/a183cd/32.png) [@Jesse\_Pinkman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jesse_Pinkman)\ **Post date:** [November 25, 2013, 9:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-havent-had-sex-in-three-years/674779/1 "2013-11-25T21:22:15Z")
And I’m only 26. Lack of sex has made me lose my drive or desire to do anything in life. Hey, the whole meaning is to procreate and have children, but if no girl ever wants to do that with me regardless of what I do, then why bother? They say “it happens when you stop trying,” but that’s clearly bullshit. ---
**Author:** ![Inner\_Stickler](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/inner_stickler/32/318_2.png) [@Inner\_Stickler](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Inner_Stickler)\ **Post date:** [November 25, 2013, 9:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-havent-had-sex-in-three-years/674779/2 "2013-11-25T21:27:54Z")
Have you carefully considered the validity of your premises? ---
**Author:** ![Jesse\_Pinkman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/a183cd/32.png) [@Jesse\_Pinkman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jesse_Pinkman)\ **Post date:** [November 25, 2013, 9:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-havent-had-sex-in-three-years/674779/3 "2013-11-25T21:28:38Z")
> [@Inner\_Stickler](#): > > Have you carefully considered the validity of your premises? I’m not even sure what you mean by that. ---
**Author:** ![hotflungwok](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/edb3f5/32.png) [@hotflungwok](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/hotflungwok)\ **Post date:** [November 25, 2013, 9:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-havent-had-sex-in-three-years/674779/4 "2013-11-25T21:29:42Z")
10 years and counting. ---
**Author:** ![Yllaria](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/yllaria/32/3452_2.png) [@Yllaria](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Yllaria)\ **Post date:** [November 25, 2013, 9:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-havent-had-sex-in-three-years/674779/5 "2013-11-25T21:36:06Z")
Your premise: > [@Jesse\_Pinkman](#): > > . . . Hey, the whole meaning is to procreate and have children, . . . It’s validity is being questioned. Can has reconsideration? ---
**Author:** ![Inner\_Stickler](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/inner_stickler/32/318_2.png) [@Inner\_Stickler](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Inner_Stickler)\ **Post date:** [November 25, 2013, 9:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-havent-had-sex-in-three-years/674779/6 "2013-11-25T21:39:09Z")
> [@Jesse\_Pinkman](#): > > I’m not even sure what you mean by that. _Is_ the purpose of life to procreate? Is the biological imperative to pass on one’s genes the sole or most important aspect of being human and even if so, does it have to be that for an individual? Does a lack of children render a person’s other accomplishments irrelevant? If you decide that a sexual relationship and children is what you would find most fulfilling in your life, what can you do to make that happen? edit: the only thing life owes us is a death. Everything else is a bonus. ---
**Author:** ![Jesse\_Pinkman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/a183cd/32.png) [@Jesse\_Pinkman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jesse_Pinkman)\ **Post date:** [November 25, 2013, 9:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-havent-had-sex-in-three-years/674779/7 "2013-11-25T21:40:18Z")
> [@Inner\_Stickler](#): > > _Is_ the purpose of life to procreate? Is the biological imperative to pass on one’s genes the sole or most important aspect of being human and even if so, does it have to be that for an individual? Does a lack of children render a person’s other accomplishments irrelevant? > If you decide that a sexual relationship and children is what you would find most fulfilling in your life, what can you do to make that happen? Well it certainly matters to me. And If I knew what to do to make it happen, I would have done it by now. ---
**Author:** ![SiXSwordS](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/49beb7/32.png) [@SiXSwordS](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SiXSwordS)\ **Post date:** [November 25, 2013, 9:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-havent-had-sex-in-three-years/674779/8 "2013-11-25T21:40:49Z")
> [@Jesse\_Pinkman](#): > > Lack of sex has made me lose my drive or desire to do anything in life. Cart … Horse ?? ---
**Author:** ![SerafinaPekala](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ecae2f/32.png) [@SerafinaPekala](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SerafinaPekala)\ **Post date:** [November 25, 2013, 9:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-havent-had-sex-in-three-years/674779/9 "2013-11-25T21:44:06Z")
A. Why not quitcherbitchin and take matters into your own hands. B. There are enough orphans in the world. We dont need more progeny. Adopt some if you feel compelled to be a father. Or get a dog. ---
**Author:** ![Kimballkid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/b5a626/32.png) [@Kimballkid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kimballkid)\ **Post date:** [November 25, 2013, 9:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-havent-had-sex-in-three-years/674779/10 "2013-11-25T21:45:18Z")
Maybe you aren’t getting any because you’re such a downer. I wouldn’t recommend approaching women with that whole procreation thing. ---
**Author:** ![Jesse\_Pinkman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/a183cd/32.png) [@Jesse\_Pinkman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jesse_Pinkman)\ **Post date:** [November 25, 2013, 9:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-havent-had-sex-in-three-years/674779/11 "2013-11-25T21:47:12Z")
> [@SerafinaPekala](#): > > A. Why not quitcherbitchin and take matters into your own hands. > > B. There are enough orphans in the world. We dont need more progeny. Adopt some if you feel compelled to be a father. Or get a dog. A. Like I haven’t already tried. B. Well I certainly can’t raise a kid alone… ---
**Author:** ![Falchion](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/a88e57/32.png) [@Falchion](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Falchion)\ **Post date:** [November 25, 2013, 9:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-havent-had-sex-in-three-years/674779/12 "2013-11-25T21:47:19Z")
> [@Kimballkid](#): > > Maybe you aren’t getting any because you’re such a downer. I wouldn’t recommend approaching women with that whole procreation thing. I don’t know about you, but I’ve had great success going up to women in bars and telling them that my life has no meaning if I cannot make them great with child. ---
**Author:** ![Jesse\_Pinkman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/a183cd/32.png) [@Jesse\_Pinkman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jesse_Pinkman)\ **Post date:** [November 25, 2013, 9:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-havent-had-sex-in-three-years/674779/13 "2013-11-25T21:48:16Z")
> [@Falchion](#): > > I don’t know about you, but I’ve had great success going up to women in bars and telling them that my life has no meaning if I cannot make them great with child. Do you honestly think I’m dumb enough to say that shit to someone in a bar? ---
**Author:** ![QuickSilver](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/quicksilver/32/7832_2.png) [@QuickSilver](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/QuickSilver)\ **Post date:** [November 25, 2013, 9:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-havent-had-sex-in-three-years/674779/14 "2013-11-25T21:50:02Z")
At this point, what have you got to lose? ---
**Author:** ![SerafinaPekala](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ecae2f/32.png) [@SerafinaPekala](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SerafinaPekala)\ **Post date:** [November 25, 2013, 9:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-havent-had-sex-in-three-years/674779/15 "2013-11-25T21:50:35Z")
> [@Jesse\_Pinkman](#): > > Do you honestly think I’m dumb enough to say that shit to someone in a bar? nm ---
**Author:** ![Inner\_Stickler](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/inner_stickler/32/318_2.png) [@Inner\_Stickler](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Inner_Stickler)\ **Post date:** [November 25, 2013, 9:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-havent-had-sex-in-three-years/674779/16 "2013-11-25T21:50:43Z")
> [@Jesse\_Pinkman](#): > > Well it certainly matters to me. And If I knew what to do to make it happen, I would have done it by now. Do you have a friend who might be able to shed some light on what part of your MO is cockblocking you? ---
**Author:** ![Jesse\_Pinkman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/a183cd/32.png) [@Jesse\_Pinkman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jesse_Pinkman)\ **Post date:** [November 25, 2013, 9:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-havent-had-sex-in-three-years/674779/17 "2013-11-25T21:51:21Z")
> [@Inner\_Stickler](#): > > Do you have a friend who might be able to shed some light on what part of your MO is cockblocking you? Yes. It’s never any help. ---
**Author:** ![Kimballkid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/b5a626/32.png) [@Kimballkid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kimballkid)\ **Post date:** [November 25, 2013, 9:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-havent-had-sex-in-three-years/674779/18 "2013-11-25T21:54:12Z")
Have you tried the ‘Wanna fuck?’ approach. It seems to work for some people. ---
**Author:** ![Inner\_Stickler](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/inner_stickler/32/318_2.png) [@Inner\_Stickler](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Inner_Stickler)\ **Post date:** [November 25, 2013, 9:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-havent-had-sex-in-three-years/674779/19 "2013-11-25T21:54:20Z")
What would be help? ---
**Author:** ![SerafinaPekala](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ecae2f/32.png) [@SerafinaPekala](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SerafinaPekala)\ **Post date:** [November 25, 2013, 9:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-havent-had-sex-in-three-years/674779/20 "2013-11-25T21:55:30Z")
Jesse jesse jesse … Have you heard of [Negaholics Anonymous](http://www.everythingisterrible.com/2012/09/negaholics-anonymous.html)? [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-havent-had-sex-in-three-years/674779.md?page=2)