# I haven't had sex in three years **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [November 25, 2013, 9:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-havent-had-sex-in-three-years/674779 "2013-11-25T21:22:15Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 6
**Author:** ![drewtwo99](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/d07c76/32.png) [@drewtwo99](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/drewtwo99)\ **Post date:** [November 26, 2013, 4:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-havent-had-sex-in-three-years/674779/101 "2013-11-26T16:28:20Z")
Wow you are an insufferable piece of work. ---
**Author:** ![SerafinaPekala](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ecae2f/32.png) [@SerafinaPekala](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SerafinaPekala)\ **Post date:** [November 26, 2013, 4:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-havent-had-sex-in-three-years/674779/102 "2013-11-26T16:45:23Z")
Jesse, I wasnt kidding about getting a dog. Dogs are chick-magnets for one thing. Something beautiful like a [Great Pyrenees](http://www.nationalpyr.org/), if you have the room and can devote time to walking a big dog. They are loving and will get you outside your own needs and wants for a while. Good luck! ---
**Author:** ![Jesse\_Pinkman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/a183cd/32.png) [@Jesse\_Pinkman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jesse_Pinkman)\ **Post date:** [November 26, 2013, 5:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-havent-had-sex-in-three-years/674779/103 "2013-11-26T17:05:05Z")
> [@SerafinaPekala](#): > > Absolutely. IMHO therapy is a two-way street and you get out of it exactly what you put into it. Its excruciatingly painful and hard work. If you want to get anything out of it that is. Trust me, I know. I put in the work multiple times. It proved to be ineffective. I don’t know how else to put it. ---
**Author:** ![GrandWino](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/grandwino/32/67_2.png) [@GrandWino](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GrandWino)\ **Post date:** [November 26, 2013, 5:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-havent-had-sex-in-three-years/674779/104 "2013-11-26T17:07:45Z")
> [@Jesse\_Pinkman](#): > > I’ve already tried multiple therapists. Therapy doesn’t work. All that happens is you sit there and talk about bullshit and nothing ever changes. I think the fact that you call it “talking about bullshit” might say a lot about how open you are to therapy in general. ---
**Author:** ![Telemark](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/telemark/32/372_2.png) [@Telemark](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Telemark)\ **Post date:** [November 26, 2013, 5:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-havent-had-sex-in-three-years/674779/105 "2013-11-26T17:09:07Z")
> [@Jesse\_Pinkman](#): > > Trust me, I know. I put in the work multiple times. It proved to be ineffective. Then why are you coming here seeking exactly the same sort of advice? ---
**Author:** ![Shodan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/9f8e36/32.png) [@Shodan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shodan)\ **Post date:** [November 26, 2013, 5:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-havent-had-sex-in-three-years/674779/106 "2013-11-26T17:09:49Z")
I cannot imagine why someone as eager as you are to improve your situation isn’t getting more ass than a barber’s chair. Regards, Shodan ---
**Author:** ![Jesse\_Pinkman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/a183cd/32.png) [@Jesse\_Pinkman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jesse_Pinkman)\ **Post date:** [November 26, 2013, 5:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-havent-had-sex-in-three-years/674779/107 "2013-11-26T17:12:45Z")
> [@Telemark](#): > > Then why are you coming here seeking exactly the same sort of advice? Because I thought someone might have other advice. ---
**Author:** ![drewtwo99](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/d07c76/32.png) [@drewtwo99](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/drewtwo99)\ **Post date:** [November 26, 2013, 5:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-havent-had-sex-in-three-years/674779/108 "2013-11-26T17:12:50Z")
Shodan, you are on a roll today at making me laugh out loud. ---
**Author:** ![Jesse\_Pinkman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/a183cd/32.png) [@Jesse\_Pinkman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jesse_Pinkman)\ **Post date:** [November 26, 2013, 5:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-havent-had-sex-in-three-years/674779/109 "2013-11-26T17:13:45Z")
> [@Shodan](#): > > I cannot imagine why someone as eager as you are to improve your situation isn’t getting more ass than a barber’s chair. > > Regards, > Shodan Yeah, just like how I can’t imagine why someone isn’t motivated to try when their repeated past attempts didn’t work. ---
**Author:** ![Jesse\_Pinkman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/a183cd/32.png) [@Jesse\_Pinkman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jesse_Pinkman)\ **Post date:** [November 26, 2013, 5:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-havent-had-sex-in-three-years/674779/110 "2013-11-26T17:27:42Z")
> [@Bob Ducca](#): > > I think the fact that you call it “talking about bullshit” might say a lot about how open you are to therapy in general. Well I was plenty open to it before. I can’t help but be jaded towards it now… ---
**Author:** ![QuickSilver](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/quicksilver/32/7832_2.png) [@QuickSilver](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/QuickSilver)\ **Post date:** [November 26, 2013, 5:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-havent-had-sex-in-three-years/674779/111 "2013-11-26T17:50:51Z")
Maybe you’re just happier being miserable? ---
**Author:** ![GrandWino](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/grandwino/32/67_2.png) [@GrandWino](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GrandWino)\ **Post date:** [November 26, 2013, 5:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-havent-had-sex-in-three-years/674779/112 "2013-11-26T17:51:36Z")
> [@Jesse\_Pinkman](#): > > Well I was plenty open to it before. I can’t help but be jaded towards it now… Don’t leave us in suspense, what are those ellipses leading to? ---
**Author:** ![Telemark](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/telemark/32/372_2.png) [@Telemark](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Telemark)\ **Post date:** [November 26, 2013, 5:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-havent-had-sex-in-three-years/674779/113 "2013-11-26T17:53:07Z")
> [@Jesse\_Pinkman](#): > > Because I thought someone might have other advice. You don’t seem receptive to any advice. It still comes down to you looking for a magic incantation to solve all your problems. We can’t really help you there. ---
**Author:** ![Shodan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/9f8e36/32.png) [@Shodan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shodan)\ **Post date:** [November 26, 2013, 5:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-havent-had-sex-in-three-years/674779/114 "2013-11-26T17:55:06Z")
> [@Jesse\_Pinkman](#): > > Yeah, just like how I can’t imagine why someone isn’t motivated to try when their repeated past attempts didn’t work. Did you try any of my suggestions? Regards, Shodan ---
**Author:** ![simster](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/simster/32/1047_2.png) [@simster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/simster)\ **Post date:** [November 26, 2013, 6:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-havent-had-sex-in-three-years/674779/115 "2013-11-26T18:00:27Z")
I’m beginning to think the problem with his parents listening problem(s) is inherited. ---
**Author:** ![Jesse\_Pinkman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/a183cd/32.png) [@Jesse\_Pinkman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jesse_Pinkman)\ **Post date:** [November 26, 2013, 6:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-havent-had-sex-in-three-years/674779/116 "2013-11-26T18:11:20Z")
> [@Shodan](#): > > Did you try any of my suggestions? > > Regards, > Shodan Yes, I have. Many times. ---
**Author:** ![QuickSilver](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/quicksilver/32/7832_2.png) [@QuickSilver](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/QuickSilver)\ **Post date:** [November 26, 2013, 6:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-havent-had-sex-in-three-years/674779/117 "2013-11-26T18:19:32Z")
The essence of **Shodan** ’s advice is not to give up. What did you do?.. > [@Jesse\_Pinkman](#): > > Yeah, just like how I can’t imagine why someone isn’t motivated to try when their repeated past attempts didn’t work. I see now. :smack: ---
**Author:** ![Jesse\_Pinkman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/a183cd/32.png) [@Jesse\_Pinkman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jesse_Pinkman)\ **Post date:** [November 26, 2013, 6:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-havent-had-sex-in-three-years/674779/118 "2013-11-26T18:23:59Z")
> [@QuickSilver](#): > > The essence of **Shodan** ’s advice is not to give up. > > What did you do?.. > > I see now. :smack: Well I’m sorry, but at this point there’s too much failure to prevent giving up. I’m sorry to have wasted everyone’s time. ---
**Author:** ![jonesj2205](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/ecc23a/32.png) [@jonesj2205](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jonesj2205)\ **Post date:** [November 26, 2013, 6:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-havent-had-sex-in-three-years/674779/119 "2013-11-26T18:24:44Z")
> [@Jesse\_Pinkman](#): > > I did everything they told me to do. The same way you’ve done everything people here have suggested? You seem to be willing to put forth a (minimal) amount of effort and if it unsuccessful it’s not your fault you did everything you were told. Not exactly working out for you though. ---
**Author:** ![Shodan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/9f8e36/32.png) [@Shodan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shodan)\ **Post date:** [November 26, 2013, 6:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-havent-had-sex-in-three-years/674779/120 "2013-11-26T18:28:07Z")
What do you mean “at this point”? You aren’t in any different position than when you started the thread. Regards, Shodan [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-havent-had-sex-in-three-years/674779.md?page=5) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-havent-had-sex-in-three-years/674779.md?page=7)