# I hope your baby burns her eyes out **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [April 1, 2010, 9:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hope-your-baby-burns-her-eyes-out/534551 "2010-04-01T09:21:29Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 4\ **Page:** 20
**Author:** ![Bryan\_Ekers](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bryan_ekers/32/183_2.png) [@Bryan\_Ekers](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bryan_Ekers)\ **Post date:** [April 30, 2015, 4:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hope-your-baby-burns-her-eyes-out/534551/382 "2015-04-30T04:08:37Z")
> [@BigT](#): > > The only reason why **Fenris** was in this thread is because he wanted to attack **Frylock** in his thread that has nothing to do with the topic at hand. In fairness, Frylock’s horrifically permissive parenting style is turning his child into a serial killer that will terrorize America in the 2030s, hence Fenris’s display of concern. ---
**Author:** ![zweisamkeit](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/zweisamkeit/32/4360_2.png) [@zweisamkeit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/zweisamkeit)\ **Post date:** [April 30, 2015, 5:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hope-your-baby-burns-her-eyes-out/534551/383 "2015-04-30T05:00:26Z")
> [@Frylock](#): > > Sorry **BigT** , to be clear, I like you and I like your posts usually, but in this case you’re under the same failure to even comprehend the nature of the thread as several other people. If so many people “fail to even comprehend” your arguments in many threads, on many different subjects/arguments and over many _years_ … Perhaps you aren’t nearly as clear a communicator as you insist you are. ---
**Author:** ![eulalia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/eulalia/32/457_2.png) [@eulalia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/eulalia)\ **Post date:** [April 30, 2015, 8:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hope-your-baby-burns-her-eyes-out/534551/384 "2015-04-30T08:38:52Z")
> [@Bryan\_Ekers](#): > > So now that we’ve firmly established Frylock is a terrible parent, has anone ever tried Tabasco on popcorn? Yum. Not Tabasco, but I like it with sesame chili oil. Doesn’t Tabasco make it a little soggy? ---
**Author:** ![SciFiSam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/47e85d/32.png) [@SciFiSam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SciFiSam)\ **Post date:** [April 30, 2015, 10:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hope-your-baby-burns-her-eyes-out/534551/385 "2015-04-30T10:21:33Z")
> [@Frylock](#): > > Oh god. Oh god oh god oh god. > > I’m not going to read the whole thread again but to my recollection, I made two, count them, two factual assertions: > > 1. My kid was jumping on a couch. > > 2. It was reasonable for me to allow it. > > Both of these things were true, and any thought anyone had which made them seem incompatible with each other could only be had by way of some _assumption_ or other. > > Any such assumption displayed the vice of _lack of charity_. To display that vice is to be a jerk. I don’t justify myself to jerks. Hence the tenor of my posts here. It wasn’t reasonable for you to allow it; you weren’t really allowing it, you were just putting aside as less important than you chasing after the tons of other people’s kids you for some reason had with you in a waiting room. You knew what your son was doing was wrong but you had other priorities at the time. If you’d posted this reason then some people - not all, but some - would have been sympathetic. As opposed to everyone piling in on you. None of the hypotheticals you put up were anywhere like what the actual explanation was. I actually thought the eventual explanation was going to be along the lines of my son has ADHD or autism and acts out even worse if he doesn’t have this one way of acting out. (Bouncing is a method of self-regulation some autistic children actually use). We’ve tried lots of other ways but this waiting room is a particularly difficult place to try out methods of self-control so we don’t have many options. Then I would still have expected you to explain that in very brief terms to the other person in the waiting room but it would at least have been reasonable for your child to have acted that way and for you to have allowed it. Instead, no, it’s just that you didn’t actually think his behaviour was reasonable - you were just too busy to deal with it. And given that you were out of sight the other person “grabbing” your child actually makes sense - grabbing could easily be “stopping child from falling.” [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-hope-your-baby-burns-her-eyes-out/534551.md?page=19)