I’ve got one declawed cat (14 years old) and one not-declawed cat (5 years old). My declawed Siamese never took no for an answer–she’d scratch anything–but I’m still sorry I had it done. Sometimes she acts like her paw still hurts (I did this 6 years ago) so there may have been some minor nerve damage. My other cat has all his claws and is good about not scratching my older cat. When he scratches something else, we either spray him or pick him up and bring him over to his scratching post and run his paws on them while cooing goofy things like, “Good boy, Jack. See, this is where little kitties exercise their claws.”
As for the spaying of James’ cat–are you saying that nowhere in Canada is there an animal control center (like our ASPCA) that will do spaying for a discount? Here in New York they practically beg you to bring your cats in. Give one of those places a call.
My husband and I had to switch sides of the bed, because the cats jump up on one side and they were always landing–well, where it really hurt alot. He’d wake up in the middle of the night swearing. Now I sleep on that side. He sleeps better now.
BTW, my Jack is a little tuxedo cat. He’s the cutest cat on the planet that isn’t Siamese (that, of course, would be my other cat, Squirt). 