# I just blew that, right . . . (dating whiff, probably boring)

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**Category:** In My Humble Opinion\
**Created:** [February 14, 2012, 12:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-just-blew-that-right-dating-whiff-probably-boring/612775 "2012-02-14T00:59:36Z")\
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**Author:** ![mnemosyne](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/c4cdca/32.png) [@mnemosyne](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/mnemosyne)\
**Post date:** [February 14, 2012, 11:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-just-blew-that-right-dating-whiff-probably-boring/612775/21 "2012-02-14T23:41:08Z")

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> [@Merneith](#):
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> See - I disagree. I don’t think it’s stalkery to try and find her again. If he finds her and she’s not interested - then it’s stalkery if he persists. And like I said, stalkery if he quizes the bus stop people about her. But just to go and wait one time for her seems perfectly reasonable to me.

Ok, but not with flowers. You don’t buy flowers for someone who you met for 15 minutes whose name you don’t know on the off chance that you’ll run in to her again at the bus stop. It’s too intense and might intimidate her.

As I said, it’s a matter of degree; swinging by the area and hanging out for 5-10 minutes on the way home once or twice is one thing. Hanging around for an hour every day is another.

If, by chance, you (or the OP, rather) meet up with her again, get her name and agree to meet up for coffee or something, then by all means buy flowers for the first date and claim a belated Valentines Day. That’s cute and perfectly acceptable.

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**Author:** ![Rhiannon8404](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/rhiannon8404/32/17929_2.png) [@Rhiannon8404](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rhiannon8404)\
**Post date:** [February 14, 2012, 11:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-just-blew-that-right-dating-whiff-probably-boring/612775/22 "2012-02-14T23:51:19Z")

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I agree about the not with flowers part. That would be presumptuous.

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**Author:** ![Trom](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/958977/32.png) [@Trom](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Trom)\
**Post date:** [February 14, 2012, 11:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-just-blew-that-right-dating-whiff-probably-boring/612775/23 "2012-02-14T23:55:41Z")

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[http://westernmass.craigslist.org/mis/](http://westernmass.craigslist.org/mis/)

Why not?

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