# I just don't know what to do with myself... **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [December 31, 2000, 4:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-just-dont-know-what-to-do-with-myself/47867 "2000-12-31T04:16:31Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Welfy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/e56c9b/32.png) [@Welfy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Welfy)\ **Post date:** [December 31, 2000, 4:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-just-dont-know-what-to-do-with-myself/47867/1 "2000-12-31T04:16:31Z")
Ray broke up with me. I really don’t know how to react except to shiver violently. I feel really sick. My heart hurts. ---
**Author:** ![Arden\_Ranger](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/b487fb/32.png) [@Arden\_Ranger](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Arden_Ranger)\ **Post date:** [December 31, 2000, 4:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-just-dont-know-what-to-do-with-myself/47867/2 "2000-12-31T04:21:12Z")
There’s really nothing anyone can say that will make you feel better, but: {{{{{{Welfy}}}}}} Assuming you don’t mind hugs from total strangers. ---
**Author:** ![Montfort](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/d6d6ee/32.png) [@Montfort](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Montfort)\ **Post date:** [December 31, 2000, 4:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-just-dont-know-what-to-do-with-myself/47867/3 "2000-12-31T04:22:34Z")
**Welfy** , I’m really sorry to hear that. You’re a wonderful person, and one of my favourite Dopers (for what it’s worth). Look at it as a chance for a new beginning. A new year is upon us, make it the Year of the Welf. ((((Welfy)))) ---
**Author:** ![psycat90](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/7ea924/32.png) [@psycat90](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/psycat90)\ **Post date:** [December 31, 2000, 4:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-just-dont-know-what-to-do-with-myself/47867/4 "2000-12-31T04:26:38Z")
I’m sorry you hurt, Welfy. I hope you feel better soon. All I can say is that even though you may hurt, and may hurt for awhile, you have to know that the pain will pass, and that you are so young, you have so much more time in front of you to find your true love, as Ray obviously was not. Best wishes hon, try to cheer up and know you have friends here. Feel free to ICQ me if you have it, and if you ever just feel like venting. I’m a good listener. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Welfy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/e56c9b/32.png) [@Welfy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Welfy)\ **Post date:** [December 31, 2000, 4:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-just-dont-know-what-to-do-with-myself/47867/5 "2000-12-31T04:26:42Z")
Thanks, you two. Now he claims that he didn’t _really_ break up with me, that he’s just giving me space, but I consider them to be about the same thing. Let your yes be yes and your no be no, dammit. Males are so complicated. _curls up in a corner_ ---
**Author:** ![Welfy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/e56c9b/32.png) [@Welfy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Welfy)\ **Post date:** [December 31, 2000, 4:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-just-dont-know-what-to-do-with-myself/47867/6 "2000-12-31T04:29:51Z")
Argh, simul-post. Thanks to psycat also. Are there any good mountains for hermits, so I can get my space? ---
**Author:** ![Wicked\_Blue](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/2acd7d/32.png) [@Wicked\_Blue](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Wicked_Blue)\ **Post date:** [December 31, 2000, 4:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-just-dont-know-what-to-do-with-myself/47867/7 "2000-12-31T04:38:52Z")
Oh Welfy! You must be feeling horrible. ☹ I am so sorry to hear that. I wish I could say something better that ‘breaking up freakin sucks’. You’ll feel better, though. Talk to him, talk it over, and say what you have to say. It’s rough at first, but it does get easier with time. Be strong, Rose ---
**Author:** ![Mauvaise](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mauvaise/32/11084_2.png) [@Mauvaise](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mauvaise)\ **Post date:** [December 31, 2000, 4:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-just-dont-know-what-to-do-with-myself/47867/8 "2000-12-31T04:41:49Z")
Oh, Welfy ☹ I’m so sorry to hear that. What a crappy thing to do. Let him have his space. You concentrate on you. If it’s meant to be, once he sees that you are not withering away without him, he’ll wake up and realise that he risks losing you. {{{{Welfy}}}} ---
**Author:** ![TheMoonGazer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/b2d939/32.png) [@TheMoonGazer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TheMoonGazer)\ **Post date:** [December 31, 2000, 4:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-just-dont-know-what-to-do-with-myself/47867/9 "2000-12-31T04:49:32Z")
Aw gee, well, kick him in the stones. It’ll make you feel better. ---
**Author:** ![Persephone](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/ecc23a/32.png) [@Persephone](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Persephone)\ **Post date:** [December 31, 2000, 4:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-just-dont-know-what-to-do-with-myself/47867/10 "2000-12-31T04:53:44Z")
((((Welfy)))) ---
**Author:** ![Typo\_Negative](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/typo_negative/32/484_2.png) [@Typo\_Negative](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Typo_Negative)\ **Post date:** [December 31, 2000, 5:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-just-dont-know-what-to-do-with-myself/47867/11 "2000-12-31T05:06:54Z")
Actually, males are not complicated, we are simple. Sometimes tooooo simple, to the point of idiocy. I know how it hurts. It _will_ get better, though. {{{{ **Welfy** }}}}}}} ---
**Author:** ![dropzone](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dropzone/32/7515_2.png) [@dropzone](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dropzone)\ **Post date:** [December 31, 2000, 5:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-just-dont-know-what-to-do-with-myself/47867/12 "2000-12-31T05:22:50Z")
I’m a guy, so sincere-sounding social niceties aren’t a strong suit. However, I have assembled, special for you, the standard assortment of comforting things I could say: 1. Aw, you were WAY too good for that loser, anyway! 2. I thought he was gay all along. The sex? He was just compensating. And thinking about Brad Pitt while he did it. 3. It’s best you learned what a shallow jerk he is now, rather than later. 4. Guys never know when they have it good. 5. There are PLENTY of fish in the sea, and I wouldn’t be surprised if one of your friends wasn’t working up the courage to ask you out RIGHT NOW. Feel better yet? ---
**Author:** ![Welfy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/e56c9b/32.png) [@Welfy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Welfy)\ **Post date:** [December 31, 2000, 5:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-just-dont-know-what-to-do-with-myself/47867/13 "2000-12-31T05:28:37Z")
[little sad welf voice]\*But I like Ray…[/][little sad welf voice] ☹ ---
**Author:** ![Nocturne](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/9fc348/32.png) [@Nocturne](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nocturne)\ **Post date:** [December 31, 2000, 5:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-just-dont-know-what-to-do-with-myself/47867/14 "2000-12-31T05:34:12Z")
(((((Welfy))))) I can’t say much, but geez, that sucks. ---
**Author:** ![Crack\_dOff](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/a4c791/32.png) [@Crack\_dOff](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Crack_dOff)\ **Post date:** [December 31, 2000, 6:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-just-dont-know-what-to-do-with-myself/47867/15 "2000-12-31T06:12:49Z")
**Welfy** , I am truly saddened to hear this news. I don’t even know you, but my heart and thoughts go out to you. Take care of yourself, ok? If it will make you feel any better, I’m a male and you can come over and kick me in the shins… ---
**Author:** ![StephenG](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/7feea3/32.png) [@StephenG](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/StephenG)\ **Post date:** [December 31, 2000, 6:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-just-dont-know-what-to-do-with-myself/47867/16 "2000-12-31T06:25:04Z")
{{{{ **Welfy** }}}}} My utmost condolences. ☹ I know how you feel, almost. I love Claire, too, and I’m finding it very difficult to let go, even after 4 months. But, like spooje and Wicked Blue said, it will get better in time. I know that’s cold comfort now, but … anh, he’ll wise up eventually. ---
**Author:** ![Freudian\_Slit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/5daacb/32.png) [@Freudian\_Slit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Freudian_Slit)\ **Post date:** [December 31, 2000, 6:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-just-dont-know-what-to-do-with-myself/47867/17 "2000-12-31T06:26:54Z")
I agree. he wasn’t good enough. You’re one of my fave dopers too and not just b/c of that promise to throw me a post count party. {{{WElfy}}} You deserve better than _that_ chump, you’re a really nice person. Any guy who would do that isn’t worth your time. that souns cliched but i mean it, man…:o I hope you feel better, love you! 😛 ---
**Author:** ![Homer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/df788c/32.png) [@Homer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Homer)\ **Post date:** [December 31, 2000, 7:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-just-dont-know-what-to-do-with-myself/47867/18 "2000-12-31T07:06:31Z")
> [@](#): > > I just don’t know what to do with myself… You can come over to my house. 😉 I hope that’s not TOO terribly inappropriate. Raytard doesn’t know what he’s lost. –Tim ---
**Author:** ![Anniz](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/cc9497/32.png) [@Anniz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anniz)\ **Post date:** [December 31, 2000, 7:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-just-dont-know-what-to-do-with-myself/47867/19 "2000-12-31T07:23:06Z")
Oh, I’m so sorry. I wish I could give you a real hug, but, I can’t, so I send you one. I wish you the best, you deserv it. {{{{{{{{{{ **Welfy** }}}}}}}}}} ---
**Author:** ![Eutychus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/a3d4f5/32.png) [@Eutychus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Eutychus)\ **Post date:** [December 31, 2000, 2:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-just-dont-know-what-to-do-with-myself/47867/20 "2000-12-31T14:50:21Z")
“In sadness or trouble Here’s my advice: Take down your pants And slide on the ice.” Okay … maybe that didn’t help much but, it’s early here. {{{Welfy}}} cheer up, kid. You deserve the best. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-just-dont-know-what-to-do-with-myself/47867.md?page=2)