# I just found out my friend is a swinger.

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**Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\
**Created:** [April 8, 2003, 2:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-just-found-out-my-friend-is-a-swinger/167223 "2003-04-08T02:47:29Z")\
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**Author:** ![Guinastasia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guinastasia/32/5751_2.png) [@Guinastasia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Guinastasia)\
**Post date:** [April 9, 2003, 1:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-just-found-out-my-friend-is-a-swinger/167223/21 "2003-04-09T01:27:37Z")

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Eeeeww…

This reminds of the one episode of “That '70s Show”, where Red and Kitty go to a party, only to find out the people there are in a “Key Club”.

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**Author:** ![ThatGuyWithPants](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/df788c/32.png) [@ThatGuyWithPants](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ThatGuyWithPants)\
**Post date:** [April 9, 2003, 2:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-just-found-out-my-friend-is-a-swinger/167223/22 "2003-04-09T02:34:17Z")

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> \*Originally posted by Turek \*  
> \*\*Hence the line about the paradox. \*\*

Gotcha. Just sayin, thats all.

Oooh, I do feel bad for the kids in the situation too…

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**Author:** ![GuanoLad](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guanolad/32/42_2.png) [@GuanoLad](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GuanoLad)\
**Post date:** [April 9, 2003, 2:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-just-found-out-my-friend-is-a-swinger/167223/23 "2003-04-09T02:42:42Z")

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Ask your friend if she’s happy with it. Then offer advice as appropriate. If she’s happy, then let her do as she will. But if she’s looking for advice to stop without hurting anyone’s feelings or something (?), then go from there.

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**Author:** ![RTFirefly](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/c77e96/32.png) [@RTFirefly](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/RTFirefly)\
**Post date:** [April 9, 2003, 2:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-just-found-out-my-friend-is-a-swinger/167223/24 "2003-04-09T02:59:46Z")

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I know “Won’t _someone_ think of the _children_” is a big laugh line around here, but as **PunditLisa** points out, occasionally it’s not a bad idea. There’s lots of ways this can work out in ways that make some or all of the kids’ lives miserable, and it doesn’t seem like the adults on the case are really thinking about this very much.

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