# I just got DUMPED...\*cries\* **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [October 16, 2001, 7:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-just-got-dumped-cries/87681 "2001-10-16T07:25:36Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Broken\_Doll](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/bbce88/32.png) [@Broken\_Doll](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Broken_Doll)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2001, 7:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-just-got-dumped-cries/87681/1 "2001-10-16T07:25:36Z")
That’s right, my girlfriend [or should I say ‘ex-girlfriend’] just dumped me over the phone. “But I still want to be friends!” “You’re a really great person, Liz!” “I just didn’t feel that connection anymore!” Oh whatever, go FUCK YOURSELF, GODDAMNIT! _cries a little_ I hate everyone right now. I’m going to go eat a block of chocolate in bed. Make me feel better. ---
**Author:** ![Rye](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e56c9b/32.png) [@Rye](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rye)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2001, 7:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-just-got-dumped-cries/87681/2 "2001-10-16T07:27:14Z")
I’ve never had a girlfriend, does that make you feel better? ---
**Author:** ![Broken\_Doll](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/bbce88/32.png) [@Broken\_Doll](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Broken_Doll)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2001, 7:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-just-got-dumped-cries/87681/3 "2001-10-16T07:29:08Z")
Not really, no. Just a word of advice: NEVER GO OUT WITH ANYONE! IT’S NOT WORTH IT! ---
**Author:** ![Rye](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e56c9b/32.png) [@Rye](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rye)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2001, 7:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-just-got-dumped-cries/87681/4 "2001-10-16T07:31:23Z")
I beg to differ, but really… I find the best thing to do when I’m sad or hate someone, is find something they like, and destroy it, or humiliate them. ---
**Author:** ![Andy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/aeb1de/32.png) [@Andy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Andy)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2001, 7:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-just-got-dumped-cries/87681/5 "2001-10-16T07:46:16Z")
Great advice Rye :rolleyes: You’ll get over it eventually but in the meantime it will hurt like hell. ---
**Author:** ![Rye](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e56c9b/32.png) [@Rye](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rye)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2001, 7:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-just-got-dumped-cries/87681/6 "2001-10-16T07:48:22Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Andy \* > \*\*Great advice Rye :rolleyes: > \*\* Hey, it could work… ---
**Author:** ![leander](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/bcef8e/32.png) [@leander](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/leander)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2001, 8:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-just-got-dumped-cries/87681/7 "2001-10-16T08:19:25Z")
Okay, how about this:[ul]Fuck her, she’s not worth it. You deserve better. You’ll find another. Fate is on your side. Scream, cry, laugh, throw things… YOU WILL FIND ANOTHER!!! If it wasn’t meant to be…(plenty of fish…) [/ul]But in reality, it **always** hurts. It will always hurt. Ask a married guy. Ask about the pain, the suffering, the heartache. And then ask them if it’s worth it. Cause when you wake up next to the woman you love, and you know that it’s forever, there is **NO** better feelin on earth. Guaranteed. ---
**Author:** ![Cougarfang](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/c67d28/32.png) [@Cougarfang](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cougarfang)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2001, 8:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-just-got-dumped-cries/87681/8 "2001-10-16T08:55:08Z")
sounds like a pit post to me… _comfort, comfort, sympathize, rub, rub, pat, pat, purrrrrrrrrrrrr_ feel better now? 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Primaflora](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/898d66/32.png) [@Primaflora](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Primaflora)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2001, 8:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-just-got-dumped-cries/87681/9 "2001-10-16T08:56:46Z")
Bummer Broken Doll :(. Break-ups suck, esp break-ups which are unexpected. ::wanders off wondering vaguely about why people make assumptions about gender and giggling:: ---
**Author:** ![Gozu\_Tashoya](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/7993a0/32.png) [@Gozu\_Tashoya](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gozu_Tashoya)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2001, 8:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-just-got-dumped-cries/87681/10 "2001-10-16T08:58:59Z")
Breaking up always hurts, but don’t let that cloud your mind against entering into another relationship farther down the line, or else the Evil Bitterness Demons, who don’t want _anybody_ to be happy, win. In the meantime, get plenty of sleep, and think whatever happy thoughts you can. If you’re in a mood for distraction, maybe [this game](http://www.ferryhalim.com/orisinal/games/chicken.htm) can help. Best wishes, and good luck. ---
**Author:** ![dropzone](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dropzone/32/7515_2.png) [@dropzone](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dropzone)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2001, 12:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-just-got-dumped-cries/87681/11 "2001-10-16T12:43:34Z")
Ah, to be half my age, a lot closer to Australia, and, apparently, a girl. (sigh) ---
**Author:** ![puk](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/ea5d25/32.png) [@puk](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/puk)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2001, 1:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-just-got-dumped-cries/87681/12 "2001-10-16T13:20:43Z")
terribly terribly sorry for you **Doll**. I hope you’re close to your parents. At times like this, their understanding, love and support can be very valuable. good luck and hugs. Puk,[sub]who finally finds someone who has the same birthday[/sub] ---
**Author:** ![dpr](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/8797f3/32.png) [@dpr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dpr)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2001, 1:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-just-got-dumped-cries/87681/13 "2001-10-16T13:22:03Z")
Truly sorry to hear it Broken Doll. It’s never easy and there certainly aren’t any words I can share to ease the pain. Love is a wonderful thing but sadly the intensity is a two-way street. I don’t know what I’d do that’s for sure. Here if you want to chat 'k? ---
**Author:** ![Superdude](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/superdude/32/13450_2.png) [@Superdude](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Superdude)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2001, 1:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-just-got-dumped-cries/87681/14 "2001-10-16T13:56:49Z")
Must…resist…urge to…flirt Must…resist… Urge…growing stronger… …Must resist… ---
**Author:** ![handy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/b5a626/32.png) [@handy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/handy)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2001, 2:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-just-got-dumped-cries/87681/15 "2001-10-16T14:21:31Z")
" NEVER GO OUT WITH ANYONE! IT’S NOT WORTH IT! " That’s what they say now, but just wait in a few months, you’ll have another partner 🙂 The rule is always the same, you spend you time with them, take your chances & see what you get. BTW, I think doing it on the phone is rather cowardly. ---
**Author:** ![vanilla](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/f19dbf/32.png) [@vanilla](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/vanilla)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2001, 2:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-just-got-dumped-cries/87681/16 "2001-10-16T14:25:11Z")
on the phone? Heck, I once had an ex (we listened to the same late night radio station) have the Disk Jockey (!) break up with me over the station for him!! ha! ---
**Author:** ![Hello\_Again](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/85e7bf/32.png) [@Hello\_Again](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hello_Again)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2001, 2:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-just-got-dumped-cries/87681/17 "2001-10-16T14:37:46Z")
I once broke up with a guy over email while I was in Bulgaria and he was in the States. To convince me that this was not THE lowest thing on earth, my friend told me of the time she dumped a guy using his _answering machine_. As a wise friend once told me, right now you’re probably in the “everything was so Perfect and why did it have to end?” Phase. After some time, you will begin to understand the problems of the relationship, this is known as the “Realization of Ex’s faults” Phase followed soon after by the Righteous Anger Phase. I’m so sorry Broken Doll. These things suck. ---
**Author:** ![bobjones](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/b5a626/32.png) [@bobjones](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bobjones)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2001, 2:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-just-got-dumped-cries/87681/18 "2001-10-16T14:46:26Z")
I can definitely feel you on this one. Just yesterday, I got yet another “Let’s just be friends” talk. I swear if I hear that from another person I’m gonna vommit. ---
**Author:** ![Futile\_Gesture](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/f05b48/32.png) [@Futile\_Gesture](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Futile_Gesture)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2001, 3:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-just-got-dumped-cries/87681/19 "2001-10-16T15:15:35Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by bobjones \* > \*\*I can definitely feel you on this one. Just yesterday, I got yet another “Let’s just be friends” talk. I swear if I hear that from another person I’m gonna vommit. \*\* At least it wasn’t the old “It’s not you, it’s me.” talk. There’s one that needs shortened to INYIM. Think of the band width it’d save! ---
**Author:** ![Ellen\_Cherry](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ellen_cherry/32/3600_2.png) [@Ellen\_Cherry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ellen_Cherry)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2001, 3:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-just-got-dumped-cries/87681/20 "2001-10-16T15:24:31Z")
You’re a good person, Broken Doll. It’s her loss! The chocolate will help. You’ll be happy again, I promise! You really, really will. Hope the hurt doesn’t last long. Take care of yourself. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-just-got-dumped-cries/87681.md?page=2)