# I like to get kissed before I get fucked **URL:** \ **Category:** Cafe Society\ **Created:** [April 2, 2008, 3:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-like-to-get-kissed-before-i-get-fucked/443634 "2008-04-02T03:03:05Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Argent\_Towers](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/e8c25b/32.png) [@Argent\_Towers](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Argent_Towers)\ **Post date:** [April 2, 2008, 3:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-like-to-get-kissed-before-i-get-fucked/443634/1 "2008-04-02T03:03:05Z")
I just heard Leo DiCaprio say “I like to get kissed before I get fucked” (fucked as in, screwed over on a deal, not actual sex) in _Blood Diamond._ Al Pacino’s character says virtually the same exact thing (“Kiss me. When I’m getting fucked, I like to get kissed a lot.”) in _Dog Day Afternoon._ What I want to know is, is this an expression that’s in common use, or was it just invented straight up for _Dog Day Afternoon_ and then plagiarised/referenced/homaged in _Blood Diamond?_ ---
**Author:** ![Anastasaeon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/73ab20/32.png) [@Anastasaeon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anastasaeon)\ **Post date:** [April 2, 2008, 3:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-like-to-get-kissed-before-i-get-fucked/443634/2 "2008-04-02T03:06:12Z")
Interesting question. It’s a phrase I’ve heard and/or used most of my life. If someone screws you over, you might say, “Aw, damnit, fucked without a kiss.” Not sure where it came from, though. I’ve probably been saying since I was a pre-teen. _Dog Day Afternoon_, however, predates my arrival on the scene by three years. I’d be interested to know the orgins, too. ---
**Author:** ![jackelope](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/a6a055/32.png) [@jackelope](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jackelope)\ **Post date:** [April 2, 2008, 3:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-like-to-get-kissed-before-i-get-fucked/443634/3 "2008-04-02T03:06:30Z")
I’ve heard it used in conversation before, at least as early as 1987 or so. “Did the salesman kiss you when you bought that shirt?” “Uh, no. Why?” “Well, I like to get kissed before I get fucked.” Granted, that was post-_Dog Day Afternoon_, but I can state with certainty that the person who said it had never seen the movie. ---
**Author:** ![Euthanasiast](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/6f9a4e/32.png) [@Euthanasiast](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Euthanasiast)\ **Post date:** [April 2, 2008, 3:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-like-to-get-kissed-before-i-get-fucked/443634/4 "2008-04-02T03:08:29Z")
Also in **Wanted Dead or Alive**. ---
**Author:** ![whistlepig](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/73ab20/32.png) [@whistlepig](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/whistlepig)\ **Post date:** [April 2, 2008, 3:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-like-to-get-kissed-before-i-get-fucked/443634/5 "2008-04-02T03:51:37Z")
I remember hearing it in the late 1970’s. ---
**Author:** ![Ogre](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/ecb155/32.png) [@Ogre](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ogre)\ **Post date:** [April 2, 2008, 4:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-like-to-get-kissed-before-i-get-fucked/443634/6 "2008-04-02T04:29:52Z")
I’ve heard it, and variants of it, for most of my life. One variant: “If you’re gonna fuck me, at least give me a reach-around.” ---
**Author:** ![kaylasdad99](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kaylasdad99/32/3398_2.png) [@kaylasdad99](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kaylasdad99)\ **Post date:** [April 2, 2008, 4:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-like-to-get-kissed-before-i-get-fucked/443634/7 "2008-04-02T04:35:03Z")
Oh, it’s far older than that. Cary Grant says it, word for word, to Katherine Hepburn in _Bringing Up Baby_. Right after she destroys his dinosaur skeleton. ---
**Author:** ![The\_Shroud](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/439d5e/32.png) [@The\_Shroud](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Shroud)\ **Post date:** [April 2, 2008, 5:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-like-to-get-kissed-before-i-get-fucked/443634/8 "2008-04-02T05:27:36Z")
[QUOTE=kaylasdad99] Oh, it’s far older than that. Cary Grant says it, word for word, to Katherine Hepburn in _Bringing Up Baby_. Right after she destroys his dinosaur skeleton. [/QUOTE] 😃 (…but I thought it was when the “miserable cur” buried his bone.) ---
**Author:** ![E.Thorp](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/898d66/32.png) [@E.Thorp](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/E.Thorp)\ **Post date:** [April 2, 2008, 6:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-like-to-get-kissed-before-i-get-fucked/443634/9 "2008-04-02T06:47:58Z")
Nothing to add to the thread, but why do I love the SDMB? Because someone uses a spoiler box on **Bringing Up Baby**. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![NightRabbit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/bbce88/32.png) [@NightRabbit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/NightRabbit)\ **Post date:** [April 2, 2008, 6:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-like-to-get-kissed-before-i-get-fucked/443634/10 "2008-04-02T06:54:22Z")
This has to be a regional expression, or at least every region except mine, because I’ve never heard that phrase in conversation, ever! I’ve also never lived anywhere but the northeast. ---
**Author:** ![Omniscient](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/omniscient/32/3290_2.png) [@Omniscient](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Omniscient)\ **Post date:** [April 2, 2008, 7:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-like-to-get-kissed-before-i-get-fucked/443634/11 "2008-04-02T07:00:15Z")
[QUOTE=Ogre] I’ve heard it, and variants of it, for most of my life. One variant: “If you’re gonna fuck me, at least give me a reach-around.” [/QUOTE] Most often you’ll hear something like “I just got fucked and he didn’t even use any lube.” Also “They could have at least bought me dinner before they fucked me.”. It’s a pretty common meme that probably goes way back in many forms. ---
**Author:** ![Pushkin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/ee59a6/32.png) [@Pushkin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Pushkin)\ **Post date:** [April 2, 2008, 9:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-like-to-get-kissed-before-i-get-fucked/443634/12 "2008-04-02T09:38:18Z")
[QUOTE=Argent Towers] What I want to know is, is this an expression that’s in common use, or was it just invented straight up for _Dog Day Afternoon_ and then plagiarised/referenced/homaged in _Blood Diamond?_ [/QUOTE] Not sure, but my girlfriend uses it a lot and I don’t think she’s seen those films either. ---
**Author:** ![minlokwat](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/minlokwat/32/2844_2.png) [@minlokwat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/minlokwat)\ **Post date:** [April 2, 2008, 10:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-like-to-get-kissed-before-i-get-fucked/443634/13 "2008-04-02T10:51:00Z")
Well since we’re veering off onto a side road with this thread… Drill Instructor Hartman from **Full Metal Jacket** gave us the memorable line: > [@](#): > > I’ll bet you’re the kind of guy that would fuck a person in the ass and not even have the goddam common courtesy to give him a reach-around. Ah that R. Lee Ermey. What a card! ---
**Author:** ![singular1](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ba9def/32.png) [@singular1](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/singular1)\ **Post date:** [April 2, 2008, 11:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-like-to-get-kissed-before-i-get-fucked/443634/14 "2008-04-02T11:02:31Z")
[QUOTE=NightRabbit] This has to be a regional expression, or at least every region except mine, because I’ve never heard that phrase in conversation, ever! I’ve also never lived anywhere but the northeast. [/QUOTE] Nope, it’s used there. I grew up in NW PA, and I’ve heard it/used it or a variant since at least the 60s. ---
**Author:** ![Shoeless](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/shoeless/32/7099_2.png) [@Shoeless](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shoeless)\ **Post date:** [April 2, 2008, 1:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-like-to-get-kissed-before-i-get-fucked/443634/15 "2008-04-02T13:59:38Z")
In the “Repo Man” theme, Iggy Pop sings: _I was a teenage dinosaur Stoned and obsolete I didn’t get fucked and I didn’t get kissed I got so fucking pissed_ ---
**Author:** ![KneadToKnow](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kneadtoknow/32/3999_2.png) [@KneadToKnow](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/KneadToKnow)\ **Post date:** [April 2, 2008, 2:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-like-to-get-kissed-before-i-get-fucked/443634/16 "2008-04-02T14:14:17Z")
“_Kiss you?!?_ I shouldn’t even be doing _this_!” ---
**Author:** ![Otto](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/bbe5ce/32.png) [@Otto](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Otto)\ **Post date:** [April 2, 2008, 2:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-like-to-get-kissed-before-i-get-fucked/443634/17 "2008-04-02T14:29:05Z")
[QUOTE=Pushkin] Not sure, but my girlfriend uses it a lot and I don’t think she’s seen those films either. [/QUOTE] Um, maybe you should start kissing her then. ---
**Author:** ![Pushkin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/ee59a6/32.png) [@Pushkin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Pushkin)\ **Post date:** [April 2, 2008, 2:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-like-to-get-kissed-before-i-get-fucked/443634/18 "2008-04-02T14:40:46Z")
[QUOTE=Otto] Um, maybe you should start kissing her then. [/QUOTE] Uh, yeah. Probably should. Next time maybe. I’ll remember. ---
**Author:** ![Zeldar](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/b77776/32.png) [@Zeldar](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Zeldar)\ **Post date:** [April 2, 2008, 3:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-like-to-get-kissed-before-i-get-fucked/443634/19 "2008-04-02T15:26:37Z")
[QUOTE=Ogre] I’ve heard it, and variants of it, for most of my life. One variant: “If you’re gonna fuck me, at least give me a reach-around.” [/QUOTE] R. Lee Ermey in _Full Metal Jacket_, right? I have no idea how old an expression it is, but I would hazard that it wasn’t invented as part of a movie screenplay. It would have been a common expression before that. That is _just_ a guess, though. ---
**Author:** ![kaylasdad99](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kaylasdad99/32/3398_2.png) [@kaylasdad99](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kaylasdad99)\ **Post date:** [April 7, 2008, 6:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-like-to-get-kissed-before-i-get-fucked/443634/20 "2008-04-07T18:54:47Z")
[QUOTE=E. Thorp] Nothing to add to the thread, but why do I love the SDMB? Because someone uses a spoiler box on **Bringing Up Baby**. 🙂 [/QUOTE] There are two phrases that spring to mind here. One is: _Everything old is new again._ The other? _Better safe than sorry._ 😉 [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-like-to-get-kissed-before-i-get-fucked/443634.md?page=2)