# I LOVE my prenuptial agreement! **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [October 5, 2012, 3:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-love-my-prenuptial-agreement/636814 "2012-10-05T15:22:22Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Foxy40](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/a9a28c/32.png) [@Foxy40](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Foxy40)\ **Post date:** [October 5, 2012, 3:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-love-my-prenuptial-agreement/636814/1 "2012-10-05T15:22:22Z")
I will be divorcing my husband. We have been married for 16 years and have separated before but this time it is the real deal. Although I knew that we signed a prenuptial agreement, I hadn’t really looked at it since we signed it. Up until a hour ago, I thought I would have to pay him off for the equity in the house. However, it is very clear in the agreement that property held by one person and paid directly from that person’s earning not held in a joint account will not be a joint asset. Even if purchased after the marriage. I am so happy my lawyer knew what he was doing. We both earned very little back then but I knew my career was taking off and the disparity would some day be great. Unfortunately for him, the years have proven me right. If this attorney was still in practice, I would send him a bottle of champagne. ---
**Author:** ![Omar\_Little](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/omar_little/32/269_2.png) [@Omar\_Little](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Omar_Little)\ **Post date:** [October 5, 2012, 3:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-love-my-prenuptial-agreement/636814/2 "2012-10-05T15:26:20Z")
Congratulations! ---
**Author:** ![steronz](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/steronz/32/11765_2.png) [@steronz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/steronz)\ **Post date:** [October 5, 2012, 3:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-love-my-prenuptial-agreement/636814/3 "2012-10-05T15:39:40Z")
It sounds like you’re screwing him out of some money because you can, not because it’s right. ---
**Author:** ![Chefguy](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/chefguy/32/138_2.png) [@Chefguy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chefguy)\ **Post date:** [October 5, 2012, 3:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-love-my-prenuptial-agreement/636814/4 "2012-10-05T15:46:56Z")
> [@steronz](#): > > It sounds like you’re screwing him out of some money because you can, not because it’s right. What an odd statement, since you have zero idea of the situation leading to the divorce. ---
**Author:** ![don\_t\_ask](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e68b1a/32.png) [@don\_t\_ask](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/don_t_ask)\ **Post date:** [October 5, 2012, 3:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-love-my-prenuptial-agreement/636814/5 "2012-10-05T15:47:42Z")
That’s amazing. How did he sign that, was his lawyer drunk or on drugs? ---
**Author:** ![Khadaji](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/9e8a1a/32.png) [@Khadaji](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Khadaji)\ **Post date:** [October 5, 2012, 3:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-love-my-prenuptial-agreement/636814/6 "2012-10-05T15:51:38Z")
Pretty cool. And good luck. ---
**Author:** ![steronz](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/steronz/32/11765_2.png) [@steronz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/steronz)\ **Post date:** [October 5, 2012, 3:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-love-my-prenuptial-agreement/636814/7 "2012-10-05T15:52:52Z")
> [@Chefguy](#): > > What an odd statement, since you have zero idea of the situation leading to the divorce. What’s odd about it? That I’ve expressed an opinion based on scant evidence? Is that _odd_ around here? ---
**Author:** ![elbows](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/b3f665/32.png) [@elbows](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/elbows)\ **Post date:** [October 5, 2012, 3:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-love-my-prenuptial-agreement/636814/8 "2012-10-05T15:53:38Z")
One can only assume he understood the implications of what he was signing or cared not enough to find out. Either way, congratulations on your wisdom! ---
**Author:** ![lieu](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/c2a13f/32.png) [@lieu](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lieu)\ **Post date:** [October 5, 2012, 3:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-love-my-prenuptial-agreement/636814/9 "2012-10-05T15:54:52Z")
> [@Foxy40](#): > > If this attorney was still in practice, I would send him a bottle of champagne. Better yet, maybe he’s single and loaded. ---
**Author:** ![grude](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/e47774/32.png) [@grude](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/grude)\ **Post date:** [October 5, 2012, 3:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-love-my-prenuptial-agreement/636814/10 "2012-10-05T15:58:40Z")
Sounds like you ARE screwing him out of money, I mean unless it was a sham marriage he did support you and help you in your career. I’d say the same thing if the genders are reversed. ---
**Author:** ![Sicks\_Ate](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/258eb7/32.png) [@Sicks\_Ate](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sicks_Ate)\ **Post date:** [October 5, 2012, 3:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-love-my-prenuptial-agreement/636814/11 "2012-10-05T15:59:21Z")
> [@lieu](#): > > Better yet, maybe he’s single and loaded. And gay! The X is going to need someone new to support him since\*\* Foxy40 \*\*is bailing. ---
**Author:** ![astro](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/9dc877/32.png) [@astro](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/astro)\ **Post date:** [October 5, 2012, 3:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-love-my-prenuptial-agreement/636814/12 "2012-10-05T15:59:54Z")
How nice for you. If this was Mr. Foxy40 posting about how clever he and his attorney had been in screwing his financially hapless wife I wonder if it would be taken. Regardless of the reasons for your divorce high fiving yourself for something like this is kind of vile. ---
**Author:** ![Mosier](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/7ea924/32.png) [@Mosier](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mosier)\ **Post date:** [October 5, 2012, 4:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-love-my-prenuptial-agreement/636814/13 "2012-10-05T16:03:51Z")
That’s kind of the point of prenuptial agreements. Although if you didn’t even know what you were signing, I’m betting your ex-husband didn’t either. That kind of sucks. ---
**Author:** ![Foxy40](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/a9a28c/32.png) [@Foxy40](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Foxy40)\ **Post date:** [October 5, 2012, 4:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-love-my-prenuptial-agreement/636814/14 "2012-10-05T16:05:07Z")
> [@astro](#): > > How nice for you. > > If this was Mr. Foxy40 posting about how clever he and his attorney had been in screwing his financially hapless wife I wonder if it would be taken. Regardless of the reasons for your divorce high fiving yourself for something like this is kind of vile. Another person that knows nothing of the situation and still feels this is “vile”. If it makes you feel better, he gets to keep half a house that was left to him after his father passed. For the record, I have high fived many a male that was prudent enough to get a prenuptial. Not having one in this day and age is far too naive. ---
**Author:** ![Foxy40](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/a9a28c/32.png) [@Foxy40](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Foxy40)\ **Post date:** [October 5, 2012, 4:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-love-my-prenuptial-agreement/636814/15 "2012-10-05T16:07:33Z")
> [@Mosier](#): > > That’s kind of the point of prenuptial agreements. Although if you didn’t even know what you were signing, I’m betting your ex-husband didn’t either. That kind of sucks. I didn’t remember that particular point. I am sure his attorney went through it all and he hasn’t asked for the house or any money. I just thought he may have a claim and am very relieved to find he does not. ---
**Author:** ![Foxy40](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/a9a28c/32.png) [@Foxy40](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Foxy40)\ **Post date:** [October 5, 2012, 4:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-love-my-prenuptial-agreement/636814/16 "2012-10-05T16:10:11Z")
> [@Sicks\_Ate](#): > > And gay! The X is going to need someone new to support him since\*\* Foxy40 \*\*is bailing. No doubt. Not only do I have no idea how he is going to feed and cloth himself, I don’t really care. Perhaps he will request to work more at his job than just enough to supply him with cigarettes, pot and gas. ---
**Author:** ![Sicks\_Ate](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/258eb7/32.png) [@Sicks\_Ate](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sicks_Ate)\ **Post date:** [October 5, 2012, 4:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-love-my-prenuptial-agreement/636814/17 "2012-10-05T16:10:48Z")
> [@Mosier](#): > > That’s kind of the point of prenuptial agreements. Although if you didn’t even know what you were signing, I’m betting your ex-husband didn’t either. That kind of sucks. > [@Foxy40](#): > > I didn’t remember that particular point. I am sure his attorney went through it all and he hasn’t asked for the house or any money. I just thought he may have a claim and am very relieved to find he does not. I’m kind of hoping that he realizes that he made the house payment out of his account _one_ month 7 years ago, which would mean that he has a claim. Hilarity and hijinks ensue. ---
**Author:** ![sachertorte](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sachertorte/32/3727_2.png) [@sachertorte](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/sachertorte)\ **Post date:** [October 5, 2012, 4:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-love-my-prenuptial-agreement/636814/18 "2012-10-05T16:12:30Z")
> [@Foxy40](#): > > If it makes you feel better, he gets to keep half a house that was left to him after his father passed. his father Oh, how generous of you. :rolleyes: ---
**Author:** ![FloatyGimpy](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/floatygimpy/32/7750_2.png) [@FloatyGimpy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FloatyGimpy)\ **Post date:** [October 5, 2012, 4:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-love-my-prenuptial-agreement/636814/19 "2012-10-05T16:13:04Z")
Screw the people who say you’re eeeevil and viiiiile. You made sure to take care of yourself and I think that’s freaking awesome. Awesome, awesome, awesome. ---
**Author:** ![robardin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/43a26b/32.png) [@robardin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/robardin)\ **Post date:** [October 5, 2012, 4:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-love-my-prenuptial-agreement/636814/20 "2012-10-05T16:14:56Z")
Yeah, it’s materially good for you (obviously) and nobody here knows the circumstances of the divorce, but on the surface it lacks class to crow about the windfall of not having to divvy up 16 years or whatever of built-up equity in a shared home over the course of a marriage. It reminds me of the Simpsons episode when Kirk Van Houten (Milhous’ father) got brusquely let go from the “cracker factory” he worked at for 20 years in the wake of a divorce, a job originally given to him by his former father-in-law: **Kirk:** So that’s it, after 20 years? “So long and good luck”? **Executive:** I don’t recall saying “good luck”. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-love-my-prenuptial-agreement/636814.md?page=2)