# I LOVE my prenuptial agreement! **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [October 5, 2012, 3:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-love-my-prenuptial-agreement/636814 "2012-10-05T15:22:22Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![grude](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/e47774/32.png) [@grude](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/grude)\ **Post date:** [October 5, 2012, 4:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-love-my-prenuptial-agreement/636814/21 "2012-10-05T16:16:13Z")
> [@Foxy40](#): > > Another person that knows nothing of the situation and still feels this is “vile”. If it makes you feel better, he gets to keep half a house that was left to him after his father passed. > > For the record, I have high fived many a male that was prudent enough to get a prenuptial. Not having one in this day and age is far too naive. So wait, why doesn’t he get to keep the WHOLE house he inherited from his father? ---
**Author:** ![Sicks\_Ate](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/258eb7/32.png) [@Sicks\_Ate](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sicks_Ate)\ **Post date:** [October 5, 2012, 4:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-love-my-prenuptial-agreement/636814/22 "2012-10-05T16:17:10Z")
> [@grude](#): > > So wait, why doesn’t he get to keep the WHOLE house he inherited from his father? I would guess the other half is held by a sibling. ---
**Author:** ![Foxy40](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/a9a28c/32.png) [@Foxy40](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Foxy40)\ **Post date:** [October 5, 2012, 4:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-love-my-prenuptial-agreement/636814/23 "2012-10-05T16:18:01Z")
> [@robardin](#): > > Yeah, it’s materially good for you (obviously) and nobody here knows the circumstances of the divorce, but on the surface it lacks class to crow about the windfall of not having to divvy up 16 years or whatever of built-up equity in a shared home over the course of a marriage. If by shared, you mean him sleeping all day and playing games in his “man cave” all night while I paid all the bills then yes, it was a shared home. As I read that line, it makes me feel even worse than I do for having him around so long. ---
**Author:** ![Foxy40](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/a9a28c/32.png) [@Foxy40](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Foxy40)\ **Post date:** [October 5, 2012, 4:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-love-my-prenuptial-agreement/636814/24 "2012-10-05T16:22:36Z")
> [@Sicks\_Ate](#): > > I would guess the other half is held by a sibling. Actually his late father’s girlfriend. I have no financial interest in the house at all. ---
**Author:** ![AK84](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/85e7bf/32.png) [@AK84](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AK84)\ **Post date:** [October 5, 2012, 4:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-love-my-prenuptial-agreement/636814/25 "2012-10-05T16:32:09Z")
You are right, I don’t know the whole deal, but from the facts in evidence you are one classy lady and he is well rid of you.:rolleyes: BTW take this advice.Do not crow like this when you get to court, Judges hate that. And while I do not know your jurisdiction, I do know that family courts have great discretion in most places, including disregarding pre nups. So, don’t count your pre nuptuials before they are enforced. ---
**Author:** ![Shark\_Sandwich](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/f04885/32.png) [@Shark\_Sandwich](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shark_Sandwich)\ **Post date:** [October 5, 2012, 4:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-love-my-prenuptial-agreement/636814/26 "2012-10-05T16:38:52Z")
Who signs a prenuptial agreement when both couples are making “very little”? Was the prenup your idea because you realized at the time that your career was taking off and his was going nowhere? ---
**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\ **Post date:** [October 5, 2012, 4:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-love-my-prenuptial-agreement/636814/27 "2012-10-05T16:39:07Z")
Oh, good luck, Foxy. I mean, sure, it might be a little crass, but who cares? Look out for number one, because no one else will, that’s for sure. ---
**Author:** ![Foxy40](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/a9a28c/32.png) [@Foxy40](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Foxy40)\ **Post date:** [October 5, 2012, 4:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-love-my-prenuptial-agreement/636814/28 "2012-10-05T16:39:55Z")
> [@AK84](#): > > You are right, I don’t know the whole deal, but from the facts in evidence you are one classy lady and he is well rid of you.:rolleyes: Yes, yes he is well rid of me. If he had any brains, he would have left and found someone else to take care of him 15 1/2 years ago. As for the judge, I think the judge may just high five me as well when he hears the details of the case. This thread was to shout from the rooftops how awesome my attorney was. He was looking after me as his client and did a great job. I can’t lay claim to the points that saved me from a world of aggravation. Okay, yes, I am proud of myself that I had the forethought to get the prenup. ---
**Author:** ![Meatros](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/b4bc9f/32.png) [@Meatros](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Meatros)\ **Post date:** [October 5, 2012, 4:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-love-my-prenuptial-agreement/636814/29 "2012-10-05T16:45:16Z")
I don’t know if I understand the details of this or not. Here’s what I think I understand: Your Ex and his father’s girlfriend (FGF) own the house, 50-50. Up until an hour ago you were concerned that you would have to pay (buy out) some of the equity of the house (either 50% or 25%). You found out through the pre-nupt that this isn’t the case - you owe your ex nothing for the house and he owes you nothing for the house and the house is your Ex’s. Is that correct? ---
**Author:** ![steronz](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/steronz/32/11765_2.png) [@steronz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/steronz)\ **Post date:** [October 5, 2012, 4:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-love-my-prenuptial-agreement/636814/30 "2012-10-05T16:45:31Z")
> [@Foxy40](#): > > This thread was to shout from the rooftops how awesome my attorney was. He was looking after me as his client and did a great job. I can’t lay claim to the points that saved me from a world of aggravation. > > Okay, yes, I am proud of myself that I had the forethought to get the prenup. It wasn’t a clause that specifically benefited you at the time, though. Sure, you accurately predicted that you would out-earn him, but it could have gone the other way and then you’d be here bitching about how your ex was screwing you and that your lawyer was an idiot. ---
**Author:** ![Foxy40](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/a9a28c/32.png) [@Foxy40](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Foxy40)\ **Post date:** [October 5, 2012, 4:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-love-my-prenuptial-agreement/636814/31 "2012-10-05T16:47:30Z")
> [@Shark\_Sandwich](#): > > Who signs a prenuptial agreement when both couples are making “very little”? Was the prenup your idea because you realized at the time that your career was taking off and his was going nowhere? I knew he was a very lazy man. I was taking care of him while dating as he lost job after job. He had no degree, skill or ambition. (What a catch!!!). At the time of the prenuptial, he was making $2600 per month with a net worth of $1200 and I was making $3000 per month with a net worth of around $22,000. (I owed my own home and put a nice down payment on it but that would be covered under FL law as mine without a prenup). I had every right to suspect the future would widen that gap by leaps and bounds and that the marriage wasn’t going to work out. It wasn’t something I wanted but I was pregnant and he convinced me that this would be best for our child. HA! ---
**Author:** ![Mr.Excellent](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/f19dbf/32.png) [@Mr.Excellent](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mr.Excellent)\ **Post date:** [October 5, 2012, 5:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-love-my-prenuptial-agreement/636814/32 "2012-10-05T17:03:12Z")
Regardless of the details of this divorce, the OP’s sentiment is a perfectly sensible one: people should get prenups, and review their terms carefully before signing. ---
**Author:** ![DiosaBellissima](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/a8b319/32.png) [@DiosaBellissima](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DiosaBellissima)\ **Post date:** [October 5, 2012, 5:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-love-my-prenuptial-agreement/636814/33 "2012-10-05T17:03:29Z")
> [@Shark\_Sandwich](#): > > Who signs a prenuptial agreement when both couples are making “very little”? Was the prenup your idea because you realized at the time that your career was taking off and his was going nowhere? What? A lot of people do this, particularly ones who assume they won’t spend their lives being broke. I’m not having an annual windfall now, but if I got married, I’d still sign a prenup. Why? I anticipate my assets and income are going to increase. ---
**Author:** ![Foxy40](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/a9a28c/32.png) [@Foxy40](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Foxy40)\ **Post date:** [October 5, 2012, 5:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-love-my-prenuptial-agreement/636814/34 "2012-10-05T17:04:27Z")
> [@steronz](#): > > It wasn’t a clause that specifically benefited you at the time, though. Sure, you accurately predicted that you would out-earn him, but it could have gone the other way and then you’d be here bitching about how your ex was screwing you and that your lawyer was an idiot. Maybe so but when we married, my husband was a member of a working band that he had hopes would make it big. There was always the possibility that he would have been the one to benefit from the legal paperwork. ---
**Author:** ![steronz](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/steronz/32/11765_2.png) [@steronz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/steronz)\ **Post date:** [October 5, 2012, 5:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-love-my-prenuptial-agreement/636814/35 "2012-10-05T17:07:22Z")
> [@Foxy40](#): > > Maybe so but when we married, my husband was a member of a working band that he had hopes would make it big. There was always the possibility that he would have been the one to benefit from the legal paperwork. That’s exactly what I’m saying. You’re praising your lawyer but if your husband had made millions as a rocker, you’d be screwed, so your lawyer just got lucky that your husband’s band sucked. ---
**Author:** ![Meatros](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/b4bc9f/32.png) [@Meatros](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Meatros)\ **Post date:** [October 5, 2012, 5:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-love-my-prenuptial-agreement/636814/36 "2012-10-05T17:08:00Z")
> [@Meatros](#): > > I don’t know if I understand the details of this or not. Here’s what I think I understand: > Your Ex and his father’s girlfriend (FGF) own the house, 50-50. > Up until an hour ago you were concerned that you would have to pay (buy out) some of the equity of the house (either 50% or 25%). > You found out through the pre-nupt that this isn’t the case - you owe your ex nothing for the house and he owes you nothing for the house and the house is your Ex’s. > > Is that correct? Actually I think I am confusing things. It looks like you were referring to your house: \*(I owed my own home and put a nice down payment on it but that would be covered under FL law as mine without a prenup). \* Your ex has a separate house that he owns 50-50 with FGF. You were concerned with having to pay him 1/2 of your house. Right? ---
**Author:** ![Ibanez](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/a4c791/32.png) [@Ibanez](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ibanez)\ **Post date:** [October 5, 2012, 5:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-love-my-prenuptial-agreement/636814/37 "2012-10-05T17:09:14Z")
Tiger Woods loved his prenupt too, until their divorce happened and she didn’t like the original prenupt and it was changed. 80 million instead of 5 million, not bad for never even picking up a golf club for a living. ---
**Author:** ![Taomist](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/53a042/32.png) [@Taomist](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Taomist)\ **Post date:** [October 5, 2012, 5:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-love-my-prenuptial-agreement/636814/38 "2012-10-05T17:11:51Z")
> [@Foxy40](#): > > If by shared, you mean him sleeping all day and playing games in his “man cave” all night while I paid all the bills then yes, it was a shared home. > > As I read that line, it makes me feel even worse than I do for having him around so long. Hehe, been there, done that, though only for 6 months, which was 5 months too long. Track that lawyer down and send him that champagne! ---
**Author:** ![Foxy40](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/a9a28c/32.png) [@Foxy40](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Foxy40)\ **Post date:** [October 5, 2012, 5:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-love-my-prenuptial-agreement/636814/39 "2012-10-05T17:12:34Z")
> [@Meatros](#): > > Actually I think I am confusing things. > > It looks like you were referring to your house: > \*(I owed my own home and put a nice down payment on it but that would be covered under FL law as mine without a prenup). \* > > Your ex has a separate house that he owns 50-50 with FGF. > > You were concerned with having to pay him 1/2 of your house. > > Right? Right. There are three separate pieces of property I mentioned in this thread. The house I bought after we were married and held in my name only. This is the house I get to keep. The house I owned prior to the marriage that was in my name only. That one was sold to put the down payment on the current home. The house that my husband owns with his late father’s girlfriend. ---
**Author:** ![Shark\_Sandwich](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/f04885/32.png) [@Shark\_Sandwich](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shark_Sandwich)\ **Post date:** [October 5, 2012, 5:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-love-my-prenuptial-agreement/636814/40 "2012-10-05T17:16:39Z")
> [@DiosaBellissima](#): > > What? A lot of people do this, particularly ones who assume they won’t spend their lives being broke. I’m not having an annual windfall now, but if I got married, I’d still sign a prenup. Why? I anticipate my assets and income are going to increase. Yes, I understand that people do this, and not all of them are wealthy. I worded it incorrectly. My point was supposed to be more along the lines of, “who can afford to have attorneys draw up prenups (not a canned prenup) if they’re making very little?” In this case, **Foxy40** didn’t suggest a prenup because she wanted to make sure she was protected if the marriage didn’t succeed. She did it because she wanted to be protected because she suspected the marriage would fail. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-love-my-prenuptial-agreement/636814.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-love-my-prenuptial-agreement/636814.md?page=3)