# I love my wife dearly but she is a brainwashed Evangelical Trump supporter **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [December 22, 2021, 1:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-love-my-wife-dearly-but-she-is-a-brainwashed-evangelical-trump-supporter/956477 "2021-12-22T13:48:46Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 7
**Author:** ![SuntanLotion](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/suntanlotion/32/16165_2.png) [@SuntanLotion](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SuntanLotion)\ **Post date:** [December 24, 2021, 3:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-love-my-wife-dearly-but-she-is-a-brainwashed-evangelical-trump-supporter/956477/121 "2021-12-24T15:41:17Z")
Lolcat bible is awesome. ---
**Author:** ![dolphinboy](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dolphinboy/32/330_2.png) [@dolphinboy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dolphinboy)\ **Post date:** [December 24, 2021, 3:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-love-my-wife-dearly-but-she-is-a-brainwashed-evangelical-trump-supporter/956477/122 "2021-12-24T15:44:21Z")
Would you be more miserable with or without her in the long run? That may mean you’ll be alone for a while, but there are a lot of wonderful women in the world looking for a loving companion. Don’t feel you have to stay together if you know it’s not in your best interest. The idea of being alone is scary, but you’ll survive with the help of friends and relatives. You’ll know when it’s time to move on with your life, and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. ---
**Author:** ![JohnT](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/johnt/32/15048_2.png) [@JohnT](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JohnT)\ **Post date:** [December 24, 2021, 4:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-love-my-wife-dearly-but-she-is-a-brainwashed-evangelical-trump-supporter/956477/123 "2021-12-24T16:29:35Z")
That ‘filter all posts’ feature comes in handy, and OP? The time to get divorced is long past. Should have been done in 1974. Or when the last kid graduated high school (assuming this happened prior to 2010). As to why you waited the 36 years between her conversion and your disability, that’s known only to you. If I’m adding the numbers right, 47 years from 1974 to now implies you are around 70… right? So, all you can really do is stick with the situation your inaction placed you in. ---
**Author:** ![CaptainE](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/71c47a/32.png) [@CaptainE](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CaptainE)\ **Post date:** [December 24, 2021, 4:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-love-my-wife-dearly-but-she-is-a-brainwashed-evangelical-trump-supporter/956477/124 "2021-12-24T16:31:21Z")
Regarding the Cons , you have loneliness at times in a marriage too, and having direction shouldn’t be dependent upon another, you need to find that yourself. ---
**Author:** ![damarp](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/damarp/32/9770_2.png) [@damarp](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/damarp)\ **Post date:** [December 24, 2021, 6:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-love-my-wife-dearly-but-she-is-a-brainwashed-evangelical-trump-supporter/956477/125 "2021-12-24T18:08:25Z")
> [@lobotomyboy63](#): > > keep looking. I’ve invested so much > [@dolphinboy](#): > > The idea of being alone is scary, It’s more than just scary. I am not sure that I am capable enough to live alone anymore since my disability. ---
**Author:** ![dolphinboy](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dolphinboy/32/330_2.png) [@dolphinboy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dolphinboy)\ **Post date:** [December 24, 2021, 6:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-love-my-wife-dearly-but-she-is-a-brainwashed-evangelical-trump-supporter/956477/126 "2021-12-24T18:13:47Z")
I understand. Life is full of trade-offs. Either accept the situation as the best you can hope for, or make changes to get to where you want to be. ---
**Author:** ![damarp](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/damarp/32/9770_2.png) [@damarp](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/damarp)\ **Post date:** [December 24, 2021, 6:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-love-my-wife-dearly-but-she-is-a-brainwashed-evangelical-trump-supporter/956477/127 "2021-12-24T18:14:09Z")
> [@JohnT](#): > > Should have been done in 1974. She wasn’t brainwashed into becoming a Trump supporter until 2015. The Evangelicalism was simply an annoyance until then. I don’t despise Evangelicals only Trump and all he stands for. ---
**Author:** ![damarp](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/damarp/32/9770_2.png) [@damarp](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/damarp)\ **Post date:** [December 24, 2021, 6:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-love-my-wife-dearly-but-she-is-a-brainwashed-evangelical-trump-supporter/956477/128 "2021-12-24T18:22:29Z")
> [@JohnT](#): > > Instead of requiring her to understand your POV I don’t require it. I am annoyed that she denies verifiable FACTS. ---
**Author:** ![Thudlow\_Boink](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/thudlow_boink/32/320_2.png) [@Thudlow\_Boink](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Thudlow_Boink)\ **Post date:** [December 24, 2021, 6:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-love-my-wife-dearly-but-she-is-a-brainwashed-evangelical-trump-supporter/956477/129 "2021-12-24T18:46:23Z")
What’s her reaction to Trump being pro-vaccination? ---
**Author:** ![damarp](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/damarp/32/9770_2.png) [@damarp](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/damarp)\ **Post date:** [December 24, 2021, 6:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-love-my-wife-dearly-but-she-is-a-brainwashed-evangelical-trump-supporter/956477/130 "2021-12-24T18:54:52Z")
“My Spiritual Knowledge tells me not to get the vaccine.” ---
**Author:** ![dolphinboy](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dolphinboy/32/330_2.png) [@dolphinboy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dolphinboy)\ **Post date:** [December 24, 2021, 7:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-love-my-wife-dearly-but-she-is-a-brainwashed-evangelical-trump-supporter/956477/131 "2021-12-24T19:08:13Z")
“My Spiritual Knowledge tells me not to get the vaccine.” I find it strange that people who shun a vaccine because they have divine knowledge will head directly to the ER if they get sick enough, have a heart attack, or have a stroke. If they don’t believe in modern medical science they should go directly to a church and pray they get better. Their hypocrisy is amazing. They want it both ways. ---
**Author:** ![damarp](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/damarp/32/9770_2.png) [@damarp](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/damarp)\ **Post date:** [December 24, 2021, 7:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-love-my-wife-dearly-but-she-is-a-brainwashed-evangelical-trump-supporter/956477/132 "2021-12-24T19:09:39Z")
> [@dolphinboy](#): > > people who shun a vaccine because they have divine knowledge will head directly to the ER if they get sick enough, Hypocrisy is strong with these. ---
**Author:** ![DesertDog](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/desertdog/32/11503_2.png) [@DesertDog](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DesertDog)\ **Post date:** [December 24, 2021, 8:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-love-my-wife-dearly-but-she-is-a-brainwashed-evangelical-trump-supporter/956477/133 "2021-12-24T20:35:19Z")
> [@Dinsdale](#): > > And even if the issue is Trump - that’s what - going on 5 yrs at least? Six. He rode that damn escalator down in June of 2015. ---
**Author:** ![Turek](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/turek/32/18782_2.png) [@Turek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Turek)\ **Post date:** [December 24, 2021, 8:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-love-my-wife-dearly-but-she-is-a-brainwashed-evangelical-trump-supporter/956477/134 "2021-12-24T20:53:26Z")
> [@damarp](#): > > I’ve invested so much > **[The Sunk Cost Fallacy - The Decision Lab](https://thedecisionlab.com/biases/the-sunk-cost-fallacy)** > > The Sunk Cost Fallacy describes our tendency to follow through on an endeavor if we have already invested time, effort, or money into it, whether or not the current costs outweigh the benefits. ---
**Author:** ![damarp](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/damarp/32/9770_2.png) [@damarp](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/damarp)\ **Post date:** [December 25, 2021, 9:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-love-my-wife-dearly-but-she-is-a-brainwashed-evangelical-trump-supporter/956477/135 "2021-12-25T09:20:30Z")
Thank you. ---
**Author:** ![lobotomyboy63](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lobotomyboy63/32/2900_2.png) [@lobotomyboy63](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lobotomyboy63)\ **Post date:** [December 25, 2021, 1:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-love-my-wife-dearly-but-she-is-a-brainwashed-evangelical-trump-supporter/956477/136 "2021-12-25T13:52:13Z")
> [@CaptainE](#): > > Regarding the Cons , you have loneliness at times in a marriage too, and having direction shouldn’t be dependent upon another, you need to find that yourself. I’m painting with a broad brush, of course. Do you think that married people are (on average) as lonely as singles? And we all have our druthers, but if you want to share your life with someone, compromises are part of the plan. I’ve learned that it’s best for me to be in a relationship and that means coordinating with a partner to find a mutually agreeable direction. YMMV. ---
**Author:** ![Sam\_Stone](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ecccb3/32.png) [@Sam\_Stone](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sam_Stone)\ **Post date:** [December 26, 2021, 7:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-love-my-wife-dearly-but-she-is-a-brainwashed-evangelical-trump-supporter/956477/137 "2021-12-26T19:28:56Z")
The questions I would ask are: 1. Is she a nice person? 2. Does she treat you well? 3. If you don’t bring up politics or religion, does she? Frankly, I think you might want to consider counselling. For you. Leaving someone that you have been married to for 47 years because of politics is not a normal response. If she has done nothing wrong other than to support a President you don’t like, abandoning her in retirement over politics is to me a sign that you have let politics become an unhealthy obsession. The damage of divorce to both of you will be orders of magnitude worse than anything Trump could have done. And I think people who are recommending divorce to a person they don’t even know are being irresponsible. Divorce at this point of your life would be extremely hard on both of you. Part of the reason for marriage is to have people look after each other in their old age. Abandoning your wife now is an extremely serious thing to do. Of course, maybe the political differences are just the last straw in a bad marriage that has many other problems. Only you can be the judge of that, But in my opinion, if everything else is fine but you want to leave your wife because Trump, you need to see someone about your obsession. The guy’s not even President anymore. ---
**Author:** ![damarp](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/damarp/32/9770_2.png) [@damarp](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/damarp)\ **Post date:** [December 27, 2021, 2:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-love-my-wife-dearly-but-she-is-a-brainwashed-evangelical-trump-supporter/956477/138 "2021-12-27T14:18:40Z")
> [@Sam\_Stone](#): > > Leaving someone that you have been married to for 47 years because of politics It’s more than just politics. The assassination of TRUTH for one is very dangerous and a very real concern foe me. likewise with decency and compassion. Before Trump she was true, decent and compassionate now less so. I suppose my great disappointed makes me feel betrayed. ---
**Author:** ![Procrustus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/procrustus/32/2994_2.png) [@Procrustus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Procrustus)\ **Post date:** [December 27, 2021, 4:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-love-my-wife-dearly-but-she-is-a-brainwashed-evangelical-trump-supporter/956477/139 "2021-12-27T16:32:26Z")
> [@Sam\_Stone](#): > > If she has done nothing wrong other than to support a President you don’t like, abandoning her in retirement over politics is to me a sign that you have let politics become an unhealthy obsession. Once again, as a non-American I don’t think you have any idea how destructive the Trump presidency (and the people who caused it) was to the US and the fabric of our nation. There have been many president’s we don’t like. You refuse to conceed that Trump’s presidency was not abhorrent because of “politics.” (In reality, I’m not his political positions were that much worse than others). But when half the country elevates an ignorant grifter to high office, and worships the fact he’s an ignorant grifter, we have a threat to our democracy unlike anything that’s come before. People have been willing to fight and die for their country. Divorcing for love of country seems a small sacrifice and one that would be absolutely necessary for me in order to keep sane. ---
**Author:** ![Jay\_Z](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/a3d4f5/32.png) [@Jay\_Z](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jay_Z)\ **Post date:** [December 27, 2021, 4:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-love-my-wife-dearly-but-she-is-a-brainwashed-evangelical-trump-supporter/956477/140 "2021-12-27T16:39:50Z")
But Trump isn’t president NOW. Is his wife going on and on about Trump NOW? OP has admitted he is initiating most of the discussion here. I think there’s a difference between “This person is doing something offensive” and “We need to actively grill people so we can shun them.” IMO OP is doing a lot of picking at scabs. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-love-my-wife-dearly-but-she-is-a-brainwashed-evangelical-trump-supporter/956477.md?page=6) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-love-my-wife-dearly-but-she-is-a-brainwashed-evangelical-trump-supporter/956477.md?page=8)