# I love sleeping with my wife and spooning her. We've been married for multiple decades. **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [December 9, 2011, 5:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-love-sleeping-with-my-wife-and-spooning-her-weve-been-married-for-multiple-decades/605595 "2011-12-09T05:27:27Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![R.P.McMurphy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/7993a0/32.png) [@R.P.McMurphy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/R.P.McMurphy)\ **Post date:** [December 9, 2011, 5:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-love-sleeping-with-my-wife-and-spooning-her-weve-been-married-for-multiple-decades/605595/1 "2011-12-09T05:27:27Z")
She is still very beautiful. I guess that’s when you realize that life can be good. No further message. ---
**Author:** ![Erdosain](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/erdosain/32/7284_2.png) [@Erdosain](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Erdosain)\ **Post date:** [December 9, 2011, 6:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-love-sleeping-with-my-wife-and-spooning-her-weve-been-married-for-multiple-decades/605595/2 "2011-12-09T06:45:59Z")
What is the current state of your marriage? ---
**Author:** ![Isamu](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/7c8e57/32.png) [@Isamu](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Isamu)\ **Post date:** [December 9, 2011, 6:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-love-sleeping-with-my-wife-and-spooning-her-weve-been-married-for-multiple-decades/605595/3 "2011-12-09T06:47:52Z")
She passed away several months ago. ---
**Author:** ![jjimm](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/ba8739/32.png) [@jjimm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jjimm)\ **Post date:** [December 9, 2011, 6:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-love-sleeping-with-my-wife-and-spooning-her-weve-been-married-for-multiple-decades/605595/4 "2011-12-09T06:58:41Z")
> [@R. P. McMurphy](#): > > I love sleeping with my wife and spooning her. So do I. ---
**Author:** ![Sunspace](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sunspace/32/1250_2.png) [@Sunspace](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sunspace)\ **Post date:** [December 9, 2011, 7:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-love-sleeping-with-my-wife-and-spooning-her-weve-been-married-for-multiple-decades/605595/5 "2011-12-09T07:23:22Z")
:: sigh :: As someone who is not capable of that long-term of a relationship, I’m a little envious. ---
**Author:** ![BigT](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bigt/32/12044_2.png) [@BigT](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BigT)\ **Post date:** [December 9, 2011, 8:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-love-sleeping-with-my-wife-and-spooning-her-weve-been-married-for-multiple-decades/605595/6 "2011-12-09T08:27:00Z")
> [@Erdosain](#): > > What is the current state of your marriage? I’m sure they got a divorce, but are still cuddling anyways. IOW, what are you asking? ---
**Author:** ![Maggie\_the\_Ocelot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/df705f/32.png) [@Maggie\_the\_Ocelot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Maggie_the_Ocelot)\ **Post date:** [December 9, 2011, 8:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-love-sleeping-with-my-wife-and-spooning-her-weve-been-married-for-multiple-decades/605595/7 "2011-12-09T08:39:40Z")
> [@Isamu](#): > > She passed away several months ago. _applauds_ ---
**Author:** ![Lucretia](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/13edae/32.png) [@Lucretia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lucretia)\ **Post date:** [December 9, 2011, 8:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-love-sleeping-with-my-wife-and-spooning-her-weve-been-married-for-multiple-decades/605595/8 "2011-12-09T08:44:24Z")
> [@Isamu](#): > > She passed away several months ago. > **[Carl Tanzler](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Carl_Tanzler)** > > Georg Carl Tänzler, also known as Count Carl von Cosel (February 8, 1877 – July 3, 1952), was a German-born American radiology technologist at the Marine-Hospital Service in Key West, Florida, United States. He developed an obsession with a young Cuban-American tuberculosis patient, Elena "Helen" Milagro de Hoyos (July 31, 1909 – October 25, 1931), that carried on well after her death. In 1933, almost two years after her death, Tanzler removed Hoyos' body from its tomb and lived with the corps Carl, is that you? ---
**Author:** ![Ostrya](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/35a633/32.png) [@Ostrya](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ostrya)\ **Post date:** [December 9, 2011, 9:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-love-sleeping-with-my-wife-and-spooning-her-weve-been-married-for-multiple-decades/605595/9 "2011-12-09T09:53:33Z")
[Your marriage is none of our business!](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showpost.php?p=14525561&postcount=9) ~snort~ ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [December 9, 2011, 1:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-love-sleeping-with-my-wife-and-spooning-her-weve-been-married-for-multiple-decades/605595/10 "2011-12-09T13:36:13Z")
> [@R.P.McMurphy](#): > > . . . spooning her. Turn her over, and you can fork her. ---
**Author:** ![Dolomite](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/8491ac/32.png) [@Dolomite](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dolomite)\ **Post date:** [December 9, 2011, 1:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-love-sleeping-with-my-wife-and-spooning-her-weve-been-married-for-multiple-decades/605595/11 "2011-12-09T13:59:56Z")
> [@the lone cashew](#): > > [Your marriage is none of our business!](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showpost.php?p=14525561&postcount=9) ~snort~ Maybe he is spooning Hillary, and he is Bill. ---
**Author:** ![Ellen\_Cherry](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ellen_cherry/32/3600_2.png) [@Ellen\_Cherry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ellen_Cherry)\ **Post date:** [December 9, 2011, 2:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-love-sleeping-with-my-wife-and-spooning-her-weve-been-married-for-multiple-decades/605595/12 "2011-12-09T14:15:00Z")
> [@panache45](#): > > Turn her over, and you can fork her. Ha! High-fives for panache. ---
**Author:** ![kanicbird](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/5f8ce5/32.png) [@kanicbird](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kanicbird)\ **Post date:** [December 9, 2011, 2:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-love-sleeping-with-my-wife-and-spooning-her-weve-been-married-for-multiple-decades/605595/13 "2011-12-09T14:46:12Z")
Glad to hear it **R. P. McMurphy** 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Covered\_In\_Bees](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/7ab992/32.png) [@Covered\_In\_Bees](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Covered_In_Bees)\ **Post date:** [December 10, 2011, 4:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-love-sleeping-with-my-wife-and-spooning-her-weve-been-married-for-multiple-decades/605595/14 "2011-12-10T04:50:58Z")
While we’re on the topic of spooning, am I the only person that finds that position (of sleeping or cuddling) to be uncomfortable? I am a male and usually behind the girl. The times I’ve spooned with girls their hair is usually all in my face and I can never hear anything they say, from sweet nothings post lovemaking or asking when they’ll get their money\*, can’t hear it. Plus there is the issue of where the arm I’m laying on goes. Curled up and sticking into her back? Stretched out and at her ass? Or is the issue just that I’m terrible at spooning? \*That was a joke son, a joke! ---
**Author:** ![Spice\_Weasel](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/spice_weasel/32/5435_2.png) [@Spice\_Weasel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Spice_Weasel)\ **Post date:** [December 10, 2011, 4:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-love-sleeping-with-my-wife-and-spooning-her-weve-been-married-for-multiple-decades/605595/15 "2011-12-10T04:56:10Z")
> [@Covered\_In\_Bees](#): > > Or is the issue just that I’m terrible at spooning? It’s not just you. Spooning is generally overrated. And cheers to the OP’s endless love. I love love. I look forward to the decades ahead with my beloved. ---
**Author:** ![akennett](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ee59a6/32.png) [@akennett](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/akennett)\ **Post date:** [December 10, 2011, 9:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-love-sleeping-with-my-wife-and-spooning-her-weve-been-married-for-multiple-decades/605595/16 "2011-12-10T21:06:33Z")
> [@Covered\_In\_Bees](#): > > Plus there is the issue of where the arm I’m laying on goes. Curled up and sticking into her back? Stretched out and at her ass? Under her head, then curled back to cup a breast. At least, that’s my default. ---
**Author:** ![Invisible\_Chimp](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/f05b48/32.png) [@Invisible\_Chimp](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Invisible_Chimp)\ **Post date:** [December 10, 2011, 10:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-love-sleeping-with-my-wife-and-spooning-her-weve-been-married-for-multiple-decades/605595/17 "2011-12-10T22:48:05Z")
> [@Covered\_In\_Bees](#): > > Plus there is the issue of where the arm I’m laying on goes. Curled up and sticking into her back? Stretched out and at her ass? [Dexter has the answer](http://m.funnyordie.com/videos/2cd34804dc/how-to-spoon-with-michael-c-hall-from-bill-dawes) ---
**Author:** ![Lust4Life](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/ecc23a/32.png) [@Lust4Life](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lust4Life)\ **Post date:** [December 10, 2011, 11:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-love-sleeping-with-my-wife-and-spooning-her-weve-been-married-for-multiple-decades/605595/18 "2011-12-10T23:02:51Z")
**RP** Good for you mate, you’re a lucky man. ---
**Author:** ![LurkerInNJ](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/ed655f/32.png) [@LurkerInNJ](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LurkerInNJ)\ **Post date:** [December 11, 2011, 12:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-love-sleeping-with-my-wife-and-spooning-her-weve-been-married-for-multiple-decades/605595/19 "2011-12-11T00:16:58Z")
> [@Covered\_In\_Bees](#): > > While we’re on the topic of spooning, am I the only person that finds that position (of sleeping or cuddling) to be uncomfortable? No. I don’t like it either. The idea of it was something I wanted, but the reality was that I couldn’t stand being a human teddy bear for more than 5 minutes. ---
**Author:** ![drewtwo99](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/d07c76/32.png) [@drewtwo99](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/drewtwo99)\ **Post date:** [December 11, 2011, 12:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-love-sleeping-with-my-wife-and-spooning-her-weve-been-married-for-multiple-decades/605595/20 "2011-12-11T00:36:09Z")
I like spooning for a few minutes before rolling over and falling asleep for good for the night. My boyfriend and I take turns on who is the big spoon and who is the little spoon before we both admit that we are uncomfortable and want to fall asleep on our own halves of the bed. However, sometimes if we are both really exhausted and lie down for a nap, we can fall asleep for a good hour or so in eachother’s arms, and it’s kind of a nice feeling waking up holding onto someone. Wish I could get comfortable at night doing that. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-love-sleeping-with-my-wife-and-spooning-her-weve-been-married-for-multiple-decades/605595.md?page=2)