# I mailed big-bucks Christmas gift cards to 2 pals. I never got acknowledgements. Do I say something? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [January 6, 2013, 12:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-mailed-big-bucks-christmas-gift-cards-to-2-pals-i-never-got-acknowledgements-do-i-say-something/646213 "2013-01-06T00:38:08Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 7\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![gracer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/8e7dd6/32.png) [@gracer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gracer)\ **Post date:** [January 6, 2013, 7:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-mailed-big-bucks-christmas-gift-cards-to-2-pals-i-never-got-acknowledgements-do-i-say-something/646213/21 "2013-01-06T19:39:23Z")
Ah, results! She replied: “Oh my word yes!!! Thank you so much 🙂 what a lovely treat. It was so nice to see you XXX” I’m hoping the “Oh my word” part is an acknowledgement that a thank-you could’ve been more forthcoming. Yeah… I’m a meanie… 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Cinnamon\_Imp](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/58956e/32.png) [@Cinnamon\_Imp](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cinnamon_Imp)\ **Post date:** [January 6, 2013, 7:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-mailed-big-bucks-christmas-gift-cards-to-2-pals-i-never-got-acknowledgements-do-i-say-something/646213/22 "2013-01-06T19:40:23Z")
Personally, I think you rock 🙂 Well shamed!Go find the FB post she invited you to have a drink in now, and reply to it, tagging some key people 😛 ---
**Author:** ![Sevencl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/d9b06d/32.png) [@Sevencl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sevencl)\ **Post date:** [January 6, 2013, 7:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-mailed-big-bucks-christmas-gift-cards-to-2-pals-i-never-got-acknowledgements-do-i-say-something/646213/23 "2013-01-06T19:51:54Z")
> [@gracer](#): > > Ah, results! > > She replied: “Oh my word yes!!! Thank you so much 🙂 what a lovely treat. It was so nice to see you XXX” > > I’m hoping the “Oh my word” part is an acknowledgement that a thank-you could’ve been more forthcoming. > > Yeah… I’m a meanie… 😉 Guess she could’ve been too distracted by being on vacation with her partner, but still, who doesn’t have facebook on their phone these days for a quick thank-you. ---
**Author:** ![gracer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/8e7dd6/32.png) [@gracer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gracer)\ **Post date:** [January 6, 2013, 8:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-mailed-big-bucks-christmas-gift-cards-to-2-pals-i-never-got-acknowledgements-do-i-say-something/646213/24 "2013-01-06T20:52:18Z")
> [@Cinnamon\_Imp](#): > > Personally, I think you rock 🙂 > > Well shamed! Go find the FB post she invited you to have a drink in now, and reply to it, tagging some key people 😛 😛 I’d love to, but that was a PM unfortunately! ---
**Author:** ![Rushgeekgirl](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/rushgeekgirl/32/3715_2.png) [@Rushgeekgirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rushgeekgirl)\ **Post date:** [January 6, 2013, 11:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-mailed-big-bucks-christmas-gift-cards-to-2-pals-i-never-got-acknowledgements-do-i-say-something/646213/25 "2013-01-06T23:47:28Z")
> [@Jake\_Jones](#): > > It’s not about ulterior motives, it just seems like it would lead to an awkward conversation. > > “Hey Kaio, it’s Jake. Happy New Year! What’s new? Did you buy something cool for yourself at Amazon with that gift card I sent?” > “Gift card? No, I didn’t get anything from you. Did you email it to me?” > “No, I put in your Christmas card.” > “Sorry, I never got a card from you, either.” > “Seriously? That sucks. I sent it a week before Christmas.” > “That does suck. I never got it.” > > And then what? It’s just awkward if you have no recourse in replacing the card. Not for anyone’s bad behavior or assuming ulterior motives, it just is. That’s why I suggested checking with Amazon first. If the card hasn’t been redeemed, by all means, ask your friend about it. If it has been, maybe they can confirm whether or not it was used by the recipient. If they can’t do that, all you know is that someone used the card and it can’t be replaced. > > In that case either the person used the card themselves and will feel bad for you “reminding” them that they never acknowledged your gift or the card was stolen and they will feel bad that you spent money on them for a gift they never received. I’m just having a hard time seeing the upside of inquiring about the gift under those circumstances. It seems simple enough to me to replace the card if it was never received. Even if it costs the giver double. After all, it’s not the receiver’s fault they didn’t ever get it. Of course this is all water under the bridge now. . . ---
**Author:** ![Kaio](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/c68b51/32.png) [@Kaio](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kaio)\ **Post date:** [January 7, 2013, 1:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-mailed-big-bucks-christmas-gift-cards-to-2-pals-i-never-got-acknowledgements-do-i-say-something/646213/26 "2013-01-07T01:01:11Z")
> [@gracer](#): > > 😛 I’d love to, but that was a PM unfortunately! Reply to the PM: “So glad you had a lovely time. Was great to catch up over drinks!” 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Whisperer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cat_whisperer/32/4839_2.png) [@Cat\_Whisperer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Whisperer)\ **Post date:** [January 7, 2013, 4:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-mailed-big-bucks-christmas-gift-cards-to-2-pals-i-never-got-acknowledgements-do-i-say-something/646213/27 "2013-01-07T04:36:51Z")
> [@Jake\_Jones](#): > > It’s not about ulterior motives, it just seems like it would lead to an awkward conversation. > > “Hey Kaio, it’s Jake. Happy New Year! What’s new? Did you buy something cool for yourself at Amazon with that gift card I sent?” > “Gift card? No, I didn’t get anything from you. Did you email it to me?” > “No, I put in your Christmas card.” > “Sorry, I never got a card from you, either.” > “Seriously? That sucks. I sent it a week before Christmas.” > “That does suck. I never got it.”\ I think that’s a great way to phrase it. And yes, I think you should check in with the people who haven’t acknowledged your gifts. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-mailed-big-bucks-christmas-gift-cards-to-2-pals-i-never-got-acknowledgements-do-i-say-something/646213.md?page=1)