# I need advice for working at 7-Eleven **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [October 15, 2022, 12:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-need-advice-for-working-at-7-eleven/973276 "2022-10-15T00:16:54Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 24
**Author:** ![ekedolphin](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ekedolphin/32/10003_2.png) [@ekedolphin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ekedolphin)\ **Post date:** [December 9, 2022, 1:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-need-advice-for-working-at-7-eleven/973276/461 "2022-12-09T13:20:47Z")
Looking back on yesterday, I’m diagnosing myself with hypermania. My hypermania manifests itself in four ways, two positive and two negative. 1. Hyperproductivity. Eight Rewards sales, including five in my first half-hour. That’s not normal. 2. Friendliness to an excessive degree. 3. Overspending. 4. Undereating. When I’m hypermanic, I have a hard time reining myself in. I’m at an 11 when my baseline is a 4. I have trouble grounding myself in the moment, and cope by singing a lot. ---
**Author:** ![BippityBoppityBoo](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bippityboppityboo/32/5745_2.png) [@BippityBoppityBoo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BippityBoppityBoo)\ **Post date:** [December 9, 2022, 4:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-need-advice-for-working-at-7-eleven/973276/462 "2022-12-09T16:31:03Z")
> [@ekedolphin](#): > > Looking back on yesterday, I’m diagnosing myself with hypermania. You are not the first to know. I would have put money on that 4 days ago. Consult with your prescriber~try to avoid the train wreck. I’ll be holding a good thought for you. ---
**Author:** ![Just\_Asking\_Questions](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/ba9def/32.png) [@Just\_Asking\_Questions](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Just_Asking_Questions)\ **Post date:** [December 9, 2022, 4:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-need-advice-for-working-at-7-eleven/973276/463 "2022-12-09T16:57:53Z")
> [@ekedolphin](#): > > I will not tolerate … disciplinary action from Boss Lady or anyone else. The store needs me much more than I need it, and I know it. I hold all the cards. > [@ekedolphin](#): > > And I get attitude for trying to help train on something as simple as restocking the goddamn fountain machine. I will not tolerate this. I’m telling you, if I got texts like this then > [@ekedolphin](#): > > I can get paid a lot more money doing almost anything else I want, and I’ll be happier too I would give you the option to pursue these other jobs, starting immediately. ---
**Author:** ![The\_Undeposable\_Hand](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/the_undeposable_hand/32/8502_2.png) [@The\_Undeposable\_Hand](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Undeposable_Hand)\ **Post date:** [December 9, 2022, 7:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-need-advice-for-working-at-7-eleven/973276/464 "2022-12-09T19:23:55Z")
I predict this career sojourn will not be ending well unless OP can moderate his mouth immediately. ---
**Author:** ![BippityBoppityBoo](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bippityboppityboo/32/5745_2.png) [@BippityBoppityBoo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BippityBoppityBoo)\ **Post date:** [December 9, 2022, 7:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-need-advice-for-working-at-7-eleven/973276/465 "2022-12-09T19:48:53Z")
> [@ekedolphin](#): > > Looking back on yesterday, I’m diagnosing myself with hypermania. It’s more likely ‘ **hypo** mania’ rather than hy **per** mania. You’re not displaying hallucinations or delusions. Here’s some differentiations: > **[What are Hypomania and Mania?](https://www.healthline.com/health/mania-vs-hypomania)** > > Mania and hypomania are both symptoms of bipolar disorder. Here's how these conditions are similar and different. Hypomania can be tricky~it can sneak up on you and it can be fun to be inside of because you feel so clever and successful. It is much less fun to be subject to someone else’s hypomania and can cause a lot of problems, like with customers, co-workers and employers. Again, I’m keeping a good thought for you but check in with your provider. ---
**Author:** ![pulykamell](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/pulykamell/32/3166_2.png) [@pulykamell](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pulykamell)\ **Post date:** [December 9, 2022, 8:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-need-advice-for-working-at-7-eleven/973276/466 "2022-12-09T20:17:15Z")
> [@BippityBoppityBoo](#): > > It’s more likely ‘ **hypo** mania’ rather than hy **per** mania. I was wondering that myself. The 4 points listed before pretty much describes how I experience my own hypomanic states, including a bit of a lack of the usual conversational or thought filter. ---
**Author:** ![Dallas\_Jones](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dallas_jones/32/3277_2.png) [@Dallas\_Jones](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dallas_Jones)\ **Post date:** [December 9, 2022, 11:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-need-advice-for-working-at-7-eleven/973276/467 "2022-12-09T23:10:07Z")
> [@The\_Undeposable\_Hand](#): > > I predict this career sojourn will not be ending well unless OP can moderate his mouth immediately. He/she/they needs to quit categorizing people with cute little names. This is highly offensive, like being labled by race, creed, or color. It is a symptom of the larger problem in his life and very unprofessional. Work Ethic Woman, Boss Lady, Mentor, Cute Puerto RIcan Guy, Hispanic Girl, The Kid, Journey Man, Slow Old Lady. etc. are all offensive labels that are not appropriate for the work place. And it is not helpful for his understanding of how to deal with other people. Despite **ekedolphin** ’s declarations of excelling at customer service that is not a good self appraisal. I think that the exact opposite is true, you should not be singing at work to people that pretend to like it, not stepping in to guide co-workers in how to do thier jobs, that is a boss’ role and you aren’t one. So much more in this thread. Would **ekedolphin** be ok if he found out that his co-workers refered to him as No Cashews or Almonds, Just Plain Nuts? I don’t think so. This approach of labeling people and putting them in little boxes says more about the issues they are having than anything else. ---
**Author:** ![D\_Anconia](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/67e7ee/32.png) [@D\_Anconia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/D_Anconia)\ **Post date:** [December 9, 2022, 11:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-need-advice-for-working-at-7-eleven/973276/468 "2022-12-09T23:35:07Z")
> [@Dallas\_Jones](#): > > This is highly offensive, like being labled by race, creed, or color. It is a symptom of the larger problem in his life and very unprofessional. Yes, like referring to some customers as The Hispanics. It’s just as bad as someone referring to The Blacks, The Jews, or The Gays. ---
**Author:** ![Dung\_Beetle](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dung_beetle/32/7945_2.png) [@Dung\_Beetle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dung_Beetle)\ **Post date:** [December 10, 2022, 12:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-need-advice-for-working-at-7-eleven/973276/469 "2022-12-10T00:36:50Z")
Oh, I don’t think the names are so bad. You ought to hear what I call my coworkers. ---
**Author:** ![Helena330](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/helena330/32/531_2.png) [@Helena330](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Helena330)\ **Post date:** [December 10, 2022, 12:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-need-advice-for-working-at-7-eleven/973276/470 "2022-12-10T00:52:57Z")
I agree that some of his names are offensive, but when pointed out, he changes them e.g “Journey man”. I doubt this is how he thinks about these people. The nicknames are merely storytelling devices. How else is he supposed to tell his stories so we understand which person he means? ---
**Author:** ![doreen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/858c86/32.png) [@doreen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/doreen)\ **Post date:** [December 10, 2022, 1:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-need-advice-for-working-at-7-eleven/973276/471 "2022-12-10T01:50:49Z")
He could just use names - even fake names. Most of the time , the name is pretty irrelevant to the story he’s telling > [@ekedolphin](#): > > Mentor is still not feeling well. could just as well have been " Bill is still not feeling well" . I assume the reason for “Work Ethic Woman” must have been explained at some point, but if so, I can neither remember it nor find it and therefore using that name adds nothing - wouldn’t matter if he called her “Sandy” Is “Boss Lady” the owner? Manager? Either of those would sound better than “Boss Lady” and why does the Assistant Manager get referred to by title? I think the fact that he came up with these names means that he’s thinking of them that way on some level - “Journey man” isn’t particularly offensive or descriptive but I’m sure he thinks of “slow old lady” as just that. And at some point it’s going to come through in his interactions - maybe this bit of inappropriateness wouldn’t have happened if **ekedolphin** didn’t think of him as Cute Puerto Rican Guy > I told CPRG that we’re just having a teaching moment about store business, and I can’t talk about it, even with someone I love as much as CPRG. I said that, too. I told him I loved him. ---
**Author:** ![Helena330](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/helena330/32/531_2.png) [@Helena330](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Helena330)\ **Post date:** [December 10, 2022, 2:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-need-advice-for-working-at-7-eleven/973276/472 "2022-12-10T02:04:59Z")
I’d have a lot of trouble remembering generic Bill, Sandy, etc. and what their characteristics/positions are from day-to-day. Perhaps I’m in the minority. ---
**Author:** ![Atamasama](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/atamasama/32/12961_2.png) [@Atamasama](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Atamasama)\ **Post date:** [December 10, 2022, 2:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-need-advice-for-working-at-7-eleven/973276/473 "2022-12-10T02:09:13Z")
> [@Helena330](#): > > Perhaps I’m in the minority. No you’re not. The descriptions are useful. ---
**Author:** ![pulykamell](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/pulykamell/32/3166_2.png) [@pulykamell](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pulykamell)\ **Post date:** [December 10, 2022, 2:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-need-advice-for-working-at-7-eleven/973276/474 "2022-12-10T02:17:08Z")
Ditto. When I tell stories or hear stories from others, these sorts of shortcut devices are often employed (but usually much more crassly and editorialized.) This is relatively neutral. ---
**Author:** ![StGermain](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/stgermain/32/2868_2.png) [@StGermain](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/StGermain)\ **Post date:** [December 10, 2022, 2:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-need-advice-for-working-at-7-eleven/973276/475 "2022-12-10T02:35:37Z")
I’m sorry, it wouldn’t be “wrongful termination” with the attitude and conversations you’ve posted here. Talk about someone thinking they’re hot shit! You don’t have any right to dress down a fellow employee, especially one who’s worked there as long as the underage kid. You have no position to tell anyone, especially an old lady, to take the trash out. Because “you’re the face of customer service”? “They need me more than I need them”. You’re over-reaching, and it may be part of your disability, but it still won’t fly. StG ---
**Author:** ![Atamasama](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/atamasama/32/12961_2.png) [@Atamasama](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Atamasama)\ **Post date:** [December 10, 2022, 2:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-need-advice-for-working-at-7-eleven/973276/476 "2022-12-10T02:43:38Z")
> [@StGermain](#): > > I’m sorry, it wouldn’t be “wrongful termination” with the attitude and conversations you’ve posted here. I believe that in all likelihood, ekedolphin can be fired for any reason or no reason at all, unless there is a clear case of discrimination. That can be extremely difficult to prove, even if it was the case. Being fired for texts critical of a boss doesn’t seem like it’s even in sniffing distance of such a situation. I worked for years in retail jobs, I worked at a movie theater, and so on. I know what it’s like in those kinds of jobs. Frankly, people are disposable. ---
**Author:** ![pulykamell](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/pulykamell/32/3166_2.png) [@pulykamell](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pulykamell)\ **Post date:** [December 10, 2022, 4:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-need-advice-for-working-at-7-eleven/973276/477 "2022-12-10T04:19:40Z")
> [@Atamasama](#): > > Frankly, people are disposable. Yep. The idea that “you need me more than I need you” is not a helpful one. While maybe not everyone can do the job as well as you, many can do the job, and the less stress to management, the better even if the work is somewhat sub-par. It’s dangerous to get in that sort of mindset unless you truly don’t give a fuck if you don’t have a job the next day. And, to be honest, I can appreciate that attitude to some extent. But no matter how good you are or how good you think you are, there’s someone good enough to take the job. And for many jobs, “good enough” is enough. ---
**Author:** ![LSLGuy](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lslguy/32/5813_2.png) [@LSLGuy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LSLGuy)\ **Post date:** [December 10, 2022, 4:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-need-advice-for-working-at-7-eleven/973276/478 "2022-12-10T04:24:47Z")
Following up on the sage advice just above. Management at a 7-11 is used to most of their employees being problem children. Either they have unreliable cars, or are unreliable about bothering to come to work, or are unreliable about handling their cash drawer correctly or … Management expects they’re sorta stuck with that crap. Fixing it would require paying a lot more for a better class of worker and they’re just not willing to do that. So they tolerate the constant shenanigans from the adult-aged behavior-children they’re stuck dealing with. What they’re also used to is employees who “get uppity” and push back: “I’m too good for this place, you need me more than I need you, etc.” From Management’s POV that is a much more dangerous sort of worker. Those you fire ASAP just to get them off the property. I sincerely hope our OP doesn’t hand Management an axe and dare them to take his head off with it. They _will_ take you up on your kind offer. Gleefully so. ---
**Author:** ![carnut](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/carnut/32/3531_2.png) [@carnut](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/carnut)\ **Post date:** [December 10, 2022, 9:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-need-advice-for-working-at-7-eleven/973276/479 "2022-12-10T21:33:06Z")
> [@purplehorseshoe](#): > > (There’s a lot of value in biting your tongue rather than sending novella-length texts, especially when you’re in a bad head-space.) Yes, yes, yes. Sometimes though, only sometimes, it is good to let them know your point of view. I do recommend dialing back the communication. And if you receive another text on your day off, please ignore it. Don’t even bother reading it until your next scheduled work day. That is one of your rights as a human. ---
**Author:** ![needscoffee](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/needscoffee/32/1076_2.png) [@needscoffee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/needscoffee)\ **Post date:** [December 12, 2022, 1:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-need-advice-for-working-at-7-eleven/973276/480 "2022-12-12T01:18:36Z")
Also, please bear in mind that some customers may not want to have a dialog. Sometimes I just want to buy my stuff and get out and not have to chitchat or have homilies directed at me. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-need-advice-for-working-at-7-eleven/973276.md?page=23) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-need-advice-for-working-at-7-eleven/973276.md?page=25)