# I need help please **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [March 13, 2017, 5:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-need-help-please/782104 "2017-03-13T17:54:21Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 10\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Girlundone](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/919ad9/32.png) [@Girlundone](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Girlundone)\ **Post date:** [March 17, 2017, 4:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-need-help-please/782104/21 "2017-03-17T16:42:15Z")
How is your daughter doing, Telli? ---
**Author:** ![Telli](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/9f8e36/32.png) [@Telli](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Telli)\ **Post date:** [March 18, 2017, 7:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-need-help-please/782104/22 "2017-03-18T19:59:03Z")
Thanks for all the replies. It is much appreciated. She is now walking on it with a limp and she holds her foot outward as she walks. I went to the ER again. This time they did 2 more weight bearing X-rays and the DR said it looks fine. If she doesn’t start walking normally in 2 weeks I have to have a referral to orthopaedics. It is so hard trying to guess how she feels etc. I am doing everything possible to help her. ---
**Author:** ![Nawth\_Chucka](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/c57346/32.png) [@Nawth\_Chucka](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nawth_Chucka)\ **Post date:** [March 18, 2017, 8:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-need-help-please/782104/23 "2017-03-18T20:39:20Z")
Thanks for the update, I hope she’s confident and pain-free enough to use it happily again soon! While I’m not one, this board has many parents and other immediate family of people w/ autism, if you haven’t already noticed. I hope you continue to find it a supporting place to read and post. ---
**Author:** ![Rushgeekgirl](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/rushgeekgirl/32/3715_2.png) [@Rushgeekgirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rushgeekgirl)\ **Post date:** [March 18, 2017, 10:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-need-help-please/782104/24 "2017-03-18T22:45:47Z")
> [@Girlundone](#): > > Yes, it is a lifelong condition. They _have_ autism. To say they “are autistic” puts the label before the person, which often makes people forget there is even a person there. Hate to bring this back up again but many autistic people prefer to be called autistic. My daughter is adamant about it. I don’t so much care one way or another. > **[Identity-First Language - Autistic Self Advocacy Network](https://autisticadvocacy.org/about-asan/identity-first-language/)** > > ASAN intern Lydia Brown originally published this article on their blog Autistic Hoya under the title The Significance of Semantics: Person-First Language: Why It Matters. At the Adult Services Subcommittee's final meeting last Wednesday, much to do... ---
**Author:** ![Rushgeekgirl](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/rushgeekgirl/32/3715_2.png) [@Rushgeekgirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rushgeekgirl)\ **Post date:** [March 18, 2017, 10:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-need-help-please/782104/25 "2017-03-18T22:47:37Z")
> [@Telli](#): > > Thanks for all the replies. It is much appreciated. She is now walking on it with a limp and she holds her foot outward as she walks. I went to the ER again. > This time they did 2 more weight bearing X-rays and the DR said it looks fine. If she doesn’t start walking normally in 2 weeks I have to have a referral to orthopaedics. > It is so hard trying to guess how she feels etc. I am doing everything possible to help her. Does she have a regular OT? They could probably work out some confidence building exercises if it turns out to be anxious avoidance. ---
**Author:** ![HMS\_Irruncible](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/hms_irruncible/32/7394_2.png) [@HMS\_Irruncible](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/HMS_Irruncible)\ **Post date:** [March 18, 2017, 11:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-need-help-please/782104/26 "2017-03-18T23:11:11Z")
> [@Rushgeekgirl](#): > > Maybe if she’s seeing an OT they might have some suggestions to speed things along It sounds to me like classic avoidance behavior that will more than likely fade on it’s own after a while. Even if the pain isn’t there she is afraid it will come back. There’s no need to push her. I was going to say that… it could be pain, and it could be just the expectation of pain. I don’t know what to do about that, except treat her like he’s in pain or afraid of pain. Maybe treat it like a sprain, test it gently once a day, but don’t force it. ---
**Author:** ![Guinastasia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guinastasia/32/5751_2.png) [@Guinastasia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Guinastasia)\ **Post date:** [March 19, 2017, 3:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-need-help-please/782104/27 "2017-03-19T03:51:41Z")
Also a heads up – if it was a sprain, chances are it’ll bother her during bad weather, (rain, very cold, etc). So if you spot her limping then, don’t be too alarmed. ---
**Author:** ![Girlundone](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/919ad9/32.png) [@Girlundone](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Girlundone)\ **Post date:** [March 19, 2017, 3:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-need-help-please/782104/28 "2017-03-19T15:01:47Z")
[QUOTE=Telli] Thanks for all the replies. It is much appreciated. She is now walking on it with a limp and she holds her foot outward as she walks. I went to the ER again. This time they did 2 more weight bearing X-rays and the DR said it looks fine. If she doesn’t start walking normally in 2 weeks I have to have a referral to orthopaedics. It is so hard trying to guess how she feels etc. I am doing everything possible to help her. [/QUOTE] Glad to here there is some progress and she is walking on it a bit. I know how you feel with the guesswork. It is indeed hard. My son generally has little response to pain, which is also very scary. I hope things continue to improve with the ankle. [QUOTE=Rushgeekgirl] Hate to bring this back up again but many autistic people prefer to be called autistic. My daughter is adamant about it. I don’t so much care one way or another. [/QUOTE] Yes. Good opinion article. I’m very aware of both sides of the argument. My son is 19 and throughout his life, it often felt like everything was about his autism…the therapies, the evaluations, the constant goals, the push for “normalcy”…so much so that there wasn’t much “him” and every single one of his behaviors, reactions, feelings, utterances was critiqued by others through the lens of autism. Yes, it’s part of who he is and can’t be separated, nor would I want it to be, but the hyperfocus on just one of the qualities that makes up him as a person bothers me and I’m not alone. This is definitely a controversial issues with very valid viewpoints on both sides. Thanks for sharing the article and respecting other viewpoints. ---
**Author:** ![JackieLikesVariety](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jackielikesvariety/32/296_2.png) [@JackieLikesVariety](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JackieLikesVariety)\ **Post date:** [April 22, 2017, 1:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-need-help-please/782104/29 "2017-04-22T01:14:53Z")
> [@](#): > > I was going to say that… it could be pain, and it could be just the expectation of pain. I don’t know what to do about that, except treat her like he’s in pain or afraid of pain. Maybe treat it like a sprain, test it gently once a day, but don’t force it. this sounds good - seems like the doctor who saw her could have suggested more. can you put ice on it? ice helps! ---
**Author:** ![puzzlegal](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/puzzlegal/32/3827_2.png) [@puzzlegal](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/puzzlegal)\ **Post date:** [April 22, 2017, 2:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-need-help-please/782104/30 "2017-04-22T14:24:56Z")
Sprains can be quite painful and they don’t show on x-rays. They can also take a long time to heal. It sounds like she’s healing okay. I sprained my ankle several years ago, and found a simple ankle brace from the drug store very helpful. I wore it every day for weeks, and I wore it before exercise that might put extra strain on the joint for a few years. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-need-help-please/782104.md?page=1)