# I need something sentimental but not too sappy to read at a wedding. Suggestions? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [September 5, 2008, 4:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-need-something-sentimental-but-not-too-sappy-to-read-at-a-wedding-suggestions/462128 "2008-09-05T04:16:34Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 8\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Hazle\_Weatherfield](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/e9bcb4/32.png) [@Hazle\_Weatherfield](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hazle_Weatherfield)\ **Post date:** [September 5, 2008, 5:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-need-something-sentimental-but-not-too-sappy-to-read-at-a-wedding-suggestions/462128/21 "2008-09-05T17:18:01Z")
> [@Jodi](#): > > **i carry your heart with me** > > i carry your heart with me(i carry it in > my heart)i am never without it(anywhere > i go you go,my dear; and whatever is done > by only me is your doing,my darling) > i fear > no fate(for you are my fate,my sweet)i want > no world(for beautiful you are my world,my true) > and it’s you are whatever a moon has always meant > and whatever a sun will always sing is you > > here is the deepest secret nobody knows > (here is the root of the root and the bud of the bud > and the sky of the sky of a tree called life;which grows > higher than the soul can hope or mind can hide) > and this is the wonder that’s keeping the stars apart > > i carry your heart(i carry it in my heart) > > \*\*ee cummings \*\* Same. We had that read at our wedding. Also “Touched by an Angel” by Maya Angelou. Crappy title, beautiful poem. ---
**Author:** ![burundi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/3ec8ea/32.png) [@burundi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/burundi)\ **Post date:** [September 5, 2008, 5:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-need-something-sentimental-but-not-too-sappy-to-read-at-a-wedding-suggestions/462128/22 "2008-09-05T17:47:22Z")
> [@Jodi](#): > > **i carry your heart with me** Oh, I love this poem. We read it at our wedding. We had a reading from 1 Corinthians 13. Like **Zsofia** , I’m not particularly religious, but that passage is so beautiful and true. The other reading was Shakespeare’s Sonnet 116 (“Let not me to the marriage of true minds admit impediments”). ---
**Author:** ![Inigo\_Montoya](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/inigo_montoya/32/124_2.png) [@Inigo\_Montoya](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Inigo_Montoya)\ **Post date:** [September 5, 2008, 7:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-need-something-sentimental-but-not-too-sappy-to-read-at-a-wedding-suggestions/462128/23 "2008-09-05T19:48:19Z")
From Italo Calvino’s _Invisible Cities_: > [@](#): > > Marco Polo describes a bridge, stone by stone. > “But which is the stone that supports the bridge?” Kublai Khan asks. > “The bridge is not supported by one stone or another,” Marco Answers, “but by the line of the arch that they form.” > Kublai Khan remains silent, reflecting. Then he adds: “Why do you speak to me of the stones? It is only the arch that matters to me.” > Polo answers: “Without stones, there is no arch.” Perfect for a wedding, I think. ---
**Author:** ![sandra\_nz](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/eada6e/32.png) [@sandra\_nz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/sandra_nz)\ **Post date:** [September 5, 2008, 8:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-need-something-sentimental-but-not-too-sappy-to-read-at-a-wedding-suggestions/462128/24 "2008-09-05T20:24:07Z")
John Cooper Clarke - I wanna be yours I wanna be your vacuum cleaner breathing in your dust I wanna be your Ford Cortina I will never rust If you like your coffee hot let me be your coffee pot You call the shots I wanna be yours I wanna be your raincoat for those frequent rainy days I wanna be your dreamboat when you want to sail away Let me be your teddy bear take me with you anywhere I don’t care I wanna be yours I wanna be your electric meter I will not run out I wanna be the electric heater you’ll get cold without I wanna be your setting lotion hold your hair in deep devotion Deep as the deep Atlantic ocean that’s how deep is my devotion ---
**Author:** ![Jennyrosity](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/2bfe46/32.png) [@Jennyrosity](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jennyrosity)\ **Post date:** [September 5, 2008, 9:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-need-something-sentimental-but-not-too-sappy-to-read-at-a-wedding-suggestions/462128/25 "2008-09-05T21:06:54Z")
We had these two at our wedding in July: **The Bargain** My true love hath my heart, and I have his, By just exchange one for another given: I hold his dear, and mine he cannot miss, There never was a better bargain driven: My true love hath my heart, and I have his. His heart in me keeps him and me in one, My heart in him his thoughts and senses guides: He loves my heart, for once it was his own, I cherish his because in me it bides: My true love hath my heart, and I have his. Sir Philip Sidney (1554-86) and \*\* From “The Irrational Season” by Madeleine L’Engle \*\* But ultimately there comes a moment when a decision must be made. Ultimately two people who love each other must ask themselves how much they hope for as their love grows and deepens, and how much risk they are willing to take…It is indeed a fearful gamble…Because it is the nature of love to create, a marriage itself is something which has to be created, so that, together we become a new creature. To marry is the biggest risk in human relations that a person can take…If we commit ourselves to one person for life this is not, as many people think, a rejection of freedom; rather it demands the courage to move into all the risks of freedom, and the risk of love which is permanent; into that love which is not possession, but participation…It takes a lifetime to learn another person…When love is not possession, but participation, then it is part of that co-creation which is our human calling, and which implies such risk that it is often rejected. But I also loved this one: **Our great adventure** We are today still dizzy with the astonishment of love. We are surrounded by affection - by smiles and kindliness, by flowers and music and gifts and celebration. Yet they enclose a silence where we are close with one another. My eyes see only you. I hear nothing but the words we speak to one another This is the day we start out life together. This is our new beginning. Pamela Dugdale And this one: \*\* From Captain Correlli’s Mandolin:\*\* Love is a temporary madness; it erupts like volcanoes and then subsides. And when it subsides you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots have so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is. Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the promulgation of eternal passion. That is just being in love, which any fool can do. Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away, and this is both an art and a fortunate accident. Those that truly love have roots that grow towards each other underground, and when all the pretty blossom have fallen from their branches, they find that they are one tree and not two. Oh, and this one: \*\*An excerpt from “A Farewell to Arms” by Ernest Hemingway \*\* At night, there was the feeling that we had come home, feeling no longer alone, waking in the night to find the other one there, and not gone away; all other things were unreal. We slept when we were tired and if we woke the other one woke too so one was not alone. Often a man wishes to be alone and a woman wishes to be alone too and if they love each other they are jealous of that in each other, but I can truly say we never felt that. We could feel alone when we were together, alone against the others. We were never lonely and never afraid when we were together. Sorry. I could go on…but I won’t! ---
**Author:** ![Northern\_Piper](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/northern_piper/32/5304_2.png) [@Northern\_Piper](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Northern_Piper)\ **Post date:** [September 5, 2008, 11:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-need-something-sentimental-but-not-too-sappy-to-read-at-a-wedding-suggestions/462128/26 "2008-09-05T23:53:16Z")
if you’re looking for something Shakespearean, [Feste’s Song from Twelfth Night](http://en.wikiquote.org/wiki/Twelfth_Night#Act_II) is a good one: > [@](#): > > O mistress mine, where are you roaming? > O stay and hear: your true-love’s coming, > That can sing both high and low: > Trip no further, pretty sweeting; > Journeys end in lovers’ meeting, > Every wise man’s son doth know. > > What is love? 'Tis not hereafter; > Present mirth hath present laughter; > What’s to come is still unsure: > In delay there lies no plenty; > Then come kiss me, sweet-and-twenty: > Youth’s a stuff will not endure. And then there’s Yeats: [Aedh Wishes For The Clothes Of Heaven](http://www.readprint.com/work-1577/William-Butler-Yeats), which is great for a young couple just starting out: > [@](#): > > Had I the heavens’ embroidered cloths, > Enwrought with golden and silver light, > The blue and the dim and the dark cloths > Of night and light and the half light, > I would spread the cloths under your feet: > But I, being poor, have only my dreams; > I have spread my dreams under your feet; > Tread softly because you tread on my dreams. ---
**Author:** ![Paul\_in\_Qatar](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/ccd318/32.png) [@Paul\_in\_Qatar](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Paul_in_Qatar)\ **Post date:** [September 6, 2008, 12:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-need-something-sentimental-but-not-too-sappy-to-read-at-a-wedding-suggestions/462128/27 "2008-09-06T00:00:37Z")
The 3rd to 13th verses of Paul’s First Letter to the Corintiahns. ---
**Author:** ![MLS](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/919ad9/32.png) [@MLS](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MLS)\ **Post date:** [September 6, 2008, 2:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-need-something-sentimental-but-not-too-sappy-to-read-at-a-wedding-suggestions/462128/28 "2008-09-06T02:17:41Z")
This is the reading I did at my daughter’s wedding last year: > [@](#): > > Fidelity by D.H. Lawrence > Man and woman are like the earth, that brings forth flowers > in summer, and love, but underneath is rock. > Older than flowers, older than ferns, older than foraminiferae, > older than plasm altogether is the soul underneath. > And when, throughout all the wild chaos of love > slowly a gem forms, in the ancient, once-more-molten rocks > of two human hearts, two ancient rocks, > a man’s heart and a woman’s, > that is the crystal of peace, the slow hard jewel of trust, > the sapphire of fidelity. > The gem of mutual peace emerging from the wild chaos of love. I also considered this one: > [@](#): > > On Marriage > Kahlil Gibran > > Then Almitra spoke again and said, “And what of Marriage, master?” And he answered saying: > You were born together, and together you shall be forevermore. > You shall be together when white wings of death scatter your days. > Aye, you shall be together even in the silent memory of God. > But let there be spaces in your togetherness, > And let the winds of the heavens dance between you. > Love one another but make not a bond of love: > Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls. > Fill each other’s cup but drink not from one cup. > Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf. > Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone, > Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music. > Give your hearts, but not into each other’s keeping. > For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts. > And stand together, yet not too near together: > For the pillars of the temple stand apart, > And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other’s shadow. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-need-something-sentimental-but-not-too-sappy-to-read-at-a-wedding-suggestions/462128.md?page=1)