# I need to get some f\*\*\*in friends

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**Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\
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**Created:** [August 27, 2023, 5:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-need-to-get-some-f-in-friends/989187 "2023-08-27T17:03:42Z")\
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**Author:** ![Spice\_Weasel](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/spice_weasel/32/5435_2.png) [@Spice\_Weasel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Spice_Weasel)\
**Post date:** [August 31, 2023, 4:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-need-to-get-some-f-in-friends/989187/81 "2023-08-31T16:12:49Z")

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> [@DSeid](#):
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> @Spice_Weasel ’s self observation is pertinent I think: the causal arrow may be more often (not always) depression causing the sense of loneliness whether there are objectively lots of real world social connections or not?

I have a friend even more extreme than me who will disappear for months at a time when he’s depressed. It’s not the lack of friends so much as his unwillingness to see them. He has SAD so this happens at least once a year.

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**Author:** ![carnut](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/carnut/32/3531_2.png) [@carnut](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/carnut)\
**Post date:** [September 1, 2023, 3:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-need-to-get-some-f-in-friends/989187/82 "2023-09-01T03:38:39Z")

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I think you are describing me. For the most part I am a confident introvert, at least in summer, but the shorter days are already appearing and I am concerned about what comes next as I am working my way out of my racing hobby and therefore am dropping several of those casual friendships. At least this year I have a south-facing apartment and can get some sun, unlike my north-facing condo. I have fingers and toes crossed that it helps.

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**Author:** ![PatrickLondon](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/patricklondon/32/4422_2.png) [@PatrickLondon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PatrickLondon)\
**Post date:** [September 1, 2023, 7:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-need-to-get-some-f-in-friends/989187/83 "2023-09-01T07:08:45Z")

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> [@LSLGuy](#):
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> SDMB is methadone for social isolation. Not as good as the real thing, but forestalls some of the heebie-jeebies and cravings.

Yup (just saying, for a friend, of course).

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**Author:** ![MortSahlFan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/3bc359/32.png) [@MortSahlFan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MortSahlFan)\
**Post date:** [September 3, 2023, 10:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-need-to-get-some-f-in-friends/989187/84 "2023-09-03T22:41:30Z")

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Same here. What would happen would be something like meeting up Saturday mornings to play basketball, talk, smoke a joint after, but one guy was insistent on watching NFL, and that eventually disappeared like other get-together things with friends. When my car broke down a month into COVID, I didn’t fix it because I don’t leave my house anyway. I don’t think I have enough money to be someone’s friend 🙂

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