# I need to rant. And I need Doper input. **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [July 20, 2005, 2:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-need-to-rant-and-i-need-doper-input/313237 "2005-07-20T02:47:42Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 4\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Annie-Xmas](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ecc23a/32.png) [@Annie-Xmas](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Annie-Xmas)\ **Post date:** [July 21, 2005, 5:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-need-to-rant-and-i-need-doper-input/313237/21 "2005-07-21T17:50:28Z")
“I can’t listen now. Why don’t you go to your office and I’ll let you know when I’m free.” “I said I can’t listen now. Please leave my office.” “Which part of “I CAN’T LISTEN NOW” do you not understand?” ---
**Author:** ![wonky](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/wonky/32/393_2.png) [@wonky](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wonky)\ **Post date:** [July 21, 2005, 7:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-need-to-rant-and-i-need-doper-input/313237/22 "2005-07-21T19:08:57Z")
There are good ideas in this thread. Because of my personality, I usually use fake exasperation. “Don’t you come in here distracting me from my work, missy! I’m so behind and you’re going to tempt me away from concentrating on this. Begone! Shoo! Shoo! I’m not listening! La! Lalala!” It works, and it generally gets the other person laughing as well. ---
**Author:** ![Nawth\_Chucka](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/c57346/32.png) [@Nawth\_Chucka](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nawth_Chucka)\ **Post date:** [July 21, 2005, 8:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-need-to-rant-and-i-need-doper-input/313237/23 "2005-07-21T20:42:36Z")
> [@Tenar](#): > > Yeah, she probably DOESN’T fit in the shower. Or, she fits, but hasn’t had the brains to buy a long-handled brush for the parts of her body she can’t reach anymore. Or she doesn’t dry herself properly, or she sweats after she dries herself (horrifyingly enough, the existence of rolls does lend itself to the growth of fungal infections). This is a woman who NEEDS to have her lbathroom modified (actually, she needs gastric bypass. Badly. But at the least, she should look into having her bathroom modified.] Can’t modify the bathroom - she lives in a rented apartment, her first one. It took her awhile to save up the security deposit because she spends about $30-$50 a day on fast food. I thought she was kidding until I glimpsed the inside of her van. (“My mom never cooks, so I have to buy it.”) We’re sure that her mom used to tell her to shower when it was really necessary and now that she doesn’t live w/ her mom… Sadly, this woman’s 33 years old and oughta know better. She once had the same hairstyle all week because she had it done on Monday night. Wore that same hair right through Friday night for BBW dart night. I’ll end this hijack now because this lady could fill her own Pit rant, just on her sex stories. :eek: ---
**Author:** ![Aeschines](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aeschines/32/16251_2.png) [@Aeschines](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Aeschines)\ **Post date:** [July 22, 2005, 5:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-need-to-rant-and-i-need-doper-input/313237/24 "2005-07-22T05:17:11Z")
Lots of good advice in here, but here is what I would do. Go “meta” on the situation and be up front with her. Say, “We have different work habits; I want to create a system that works for both of us.” See, you don’t have to be judgemental at all. Then tell her your needs, let her tell you hers. You might even find that, given the right rules, you can be pals. Good luck! [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-need-to-rant-and-i-need-doper-input/313237.md?page=1)