# I now have a daughter **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [January 16, 2021, 1:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-now-have-a-daughter/930646 "2021-01-16T01:51:04Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![P-man](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/p-man/32/3606_2.png) [@P-man](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/P-man)\ **Post date:** [January 16, 2021, 1:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-now-have-a-daughter/930646/1 "2021-01-16T01:51:04Z")
This is an anonymous forum, so I’m comfortable posting this. Our older son came out as a trans woman earlier this week. She’s 22, and had been thinking about it for a while. She came out on social media, and the positive response was overwhelming. He called both sets of grandparents before coming out on Facebook/Twitter, and even my 86 year old mom was supportive. We still have the three things we enjoy with each other the most: baseball, BBQ, and beer. It’ll be a long journey, but I’m ok with it. ---
**Author:** ![Max\_S](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/46a35a/32.png) [@Max\_S](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Max_S)\ **Post date:** [January 16, 2021, 1:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-now-have-a-daughter/930646/2 "2021-01-16T01:52:49Z")
Congratulations! ~Max ---
**Author:** ![nearwildheaven](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/90db22/32.png) [@nearwildheaven](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/nearwildheaven)\ **Post date:** [January 16, 2021, 3:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-now-have-a-daughter/930646/3 "2021-01-16T03:26:54Z")
Many hugs to all of you. This has been a rough road for her, and will continue to be, but your support means more than you can imagine. ---
**Author:** ![AHunter3](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ahunter3/32/368_2.png) [@AHunter3](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AHunter3)\ **Post date:** [January 16, 2021, 3:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-now-have-a-daughter/930646/4 "2021-01-16T03:35:10Z")
Congratulations to your entire family. Gender is complex. So is identity, and likewise connections. Maintaining the latter always requires a lot of listening and caring. Looks like you folks are doing well with it. ---
**Author:** ![CairoCarol](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cairocarol/32/3825_2.png) [@CairoCarol](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CairoCarol)\ **Post date:** [January 16, 2021, 3:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-now-have-a-daughter/930646/5 "2021-01-16T03:37:56Z")
Cool! All the best to you and your daughter. ---
**Author:** ![Gatopescado](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/gatopescado/32/5711_2.png) [@Gatopescado](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gatopescado)\ **Post date:** [January 16, 2021, 3:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-now-have-a-daughter/930646/6 "2021-01-16T03:47:09Z")
BBQ and Beer. Can’t go wrong. ---
**Author:** ![Fiendish\_Astronaut](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/fiendish_astronaut/32/3295_2.png) [@Fiendish\_Astronaut](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Fiendish_Astronaut)\ **Post date:** [January 16, 2021, 4:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-now-have-a-daughter/930646/7 "2021-01-16T04:05:42Z")
Fantastic that she has such a supportive and living family. ---
**Author:** ![susan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/susan/32/17537_2.png) [@susan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/susan)\ **Post date:** [January 16, 2021, 4:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-now-have-a-daughter/930646/8 "2021-01-16T04:09:21Z")
All the best to you and yours. ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [January 16, 2021, 4:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-now-have-a-daughter/930646/9 "2021-01-16T04:40:04Z")
Baseball, BBQ and Beer. The 3 B’s! Anyway, congrats on your new daughter, and having such a loving, supportive family. ---
**Author:** ![Snowboarder\_Bo](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/snowboarder_bo/32/229_2.png) [@Snowboarder\_Bo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Snowboarder_Bo)\ **Post date:** [January 16, 2021, 5:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-now-have-a-daughter/930646/10 "2021-01-16T05:38:28Z")
Congrats to your daughter on coming out and on having a terrific family! Congrats to you for having an awesome daughter and for being a fantastic parent! ---
**Author:** ![ekedolphin](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ekedolphin/32/10003_2.png) [@ekedolphin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ekedolphin)\ **Post date:** [January 16, 2021, 5:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-now-have-a-daughter/930646/11 "2021-01-16T05:47:06Z")
Good on you for being accepting. I know it won’t always be easy, but your support means more to her than she can probably put into words. ---
**Author:** ![Die\_Capacitrix](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/die_capacitrix/32/9_2.png) [@Die\_Capacitrix](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Die_Capacitrix)\ **Post date:** [January 16, 2021, 9:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-now-have-a-daughter/930646/12 "2021-01-16T09:32:18Z")
Happy news, especially that the grandparents are also supportive. Congratulations! ---
**Author:** ![Superdude](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/superdude/32/13450_2.png) [@Superdude](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Superdude)\ **Post date:** [January 16, 2021, 9:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-now-have-a-daughter/930646/13 "2021-01-16T09:39:21Z")
Let’s not forget about baseball. Congrats, OP! ---
**Author:** ![Cazzle](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cazzle/32/75_2.png) [@Cazzle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cazzle)\ **Post date:** [January 16, 2021, 10:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-now-have-a-daughter/930646/14 "2021-01-16T10:16:47Z")
Congrats! All love to your daughter, hope this is a wonderful new chapter in her life! ---
**Author:** ![kanicbird](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/5f8ce5/32.png) [@kanicbird](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kanicbird)\ **Post date:** [January 16, 2021, 12:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-now-have-a-daughter/930646/15 "2021-01-16T12:42:54Z")
Is it ‘now you have a daughter’, or you just found out you had a daughter? ---
**Author:** ![not\_what\_you\_d\_expect](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/not_what_you_d_expect/32/3246_2.png) [@not\_what\_you\_d\_expect](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/not_what_you_d_expect)\ **Post date:** [January 16, 2021, 3:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-now-have-a-daughter/930646/16 "2021-01-16T15:25:39Z")
From the very bottom of my heart, I thank you for sharing this. May you enjoy this journey, every inch of it. ---
**Author:** ![DavidNRockies](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/davidnrockies/32/6279_2.png) [@DavidNRockies](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DavidNRockies)\ **Post date:** [January 16, 2021, 3:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-now-have-a-daughter/930646/17 "2021-01-16T15:32:05Z")
> [@P-man](#): > > It’ll be a long journey, but I’m ok with it. Bravo. Understanding, changing patterns, language – things like that – can take some time. But the predicate for all of it is acceptance. Good for you and yours. May she have peace, love, and happiness for all the days of her life. ---
**Author:** ![lobotomyboy63](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lobotomyboy63/32/2900_2.png) [@lobotomyboy63](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lobotomyboy63)\ **Post date:** [January 16, 2021, 3:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-now-have-a-daughter/930646/18 "2021-01-16T15:36:32Z")
I realize that the topic of the story I’m linking is different (gay son, not trans) but it still has to do with the importance parental acceptance. The more you accept her, I suspect, the more she’ll accept herself. Good for you, and best of luck! > **[Lasorda should’ve learned to support his gay son like Miñoso](https://www.outsports.com/2021/1/12/22225668/tommy-lasorda-minnie-minoso-gay-parenting-baseball)** > > Lasorda and Miñoso are baseball legends from the same era. But while Minnie learned how to love his son, Tommy remained stuck in the past. ---
**Author:** ![Dangerosa](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/22d042/32.png) [@Dangerosa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dangerosa)\ **Post date:** [January 16, 2021, 4:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-now-have-a-daughter/930646/19 "2021-01-16T16:00:07Z")
Congrats from someone who discovered I have a “youngest child” several years ago. Pronoun switching is hard, ask for patience. ---
**Author:** ![P-man](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/p-man/32/3606_2.png) [@P-man](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/P-man)\ **Post date:** [January 16, 2021, 4:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-now-have-a-daughter/930646/20 "2021-01-16T16:21:33Z")
I have had practice, because I had a student who it came up with not long ago. Our daughter is probably going to keep her first name, since it works for more than one gender. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-now-have-a-daughter/930646.md?page=2)