# I pit AMOR -- specifically, the 19-yr.-old variety. **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [December 18, 2004, 10:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-amor-specifically-the-19-yr-old-variety/280509 "2004-12-18T10:02:02Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 7\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![threemae](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/5f9b8f/32.png) [@threemae](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/threemae)\ **Post date:** [December 21, 2004, 10:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-amor-specifically-the-19-yr-old-variety/280509/21 "2004-12-21T22:53:29Z")
> [@Tracy Lord](#): > > So I gave him a call today, planning to be casual and mellow, you know, ask if he wanted to do lunch or a movie or something. Fellow’s mother picked up the phone, said they were making gingerbread houses, and asked if he could call me back later, “in a few hours,” and I said “of course.” That was at three. It’s now almost midnight. > > You know, I don’t care what your deal is, mister, that’s just _rude_. You’re a big callous loser who’s too self-important to even give the “sorry, I’m really busy over break” brush-off? BITE ME. Take your eighteen-year-old fucktardedness and GO DATE THAT BLONDE AGAIN FOR ALL I CARE. > > _fume_ Relax, maybe he’s obsessing over the gingerbread house he’s going to build _you_. Seriously, you’ll live for another 6 hours if he doesn’t call you. After 6:00 AM? Call 911. ---
**Author:** ![CarnalK](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/carnalk/32/486_2.png) [@CarnalK](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CarnalK)\ **Post date:** [December 22, 2004, 1:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-amor-specifically-the-19-yr-old-variety/280509/22 "2004-12-22T01:51:39Z")
I’m all for giving him the benefit of the doubt but-\> what **Cerri** said. Unless the mother totally forgot, he’s avoiding you. He _could_ be going through the same thing as you- wants to talk but just nervous. But you made the first move- it seems more than once. Onthe other hand maybe you’ll get the best of both worlds. Perhaps his time away allowed him to realize he is gay. Then you can break up with him and have wild young fun AND form a life long relationship with him. Just like “Will&Grace”, what fun. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Bricker](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/977dab/32.png) [@Bricker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bricker)\ **Post date:** [December 24, 2004, 2:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-amor-specifically-the-19-yr-old-variety/280509/23 "2004-12-24T02:50:25Z")
No update? ---
**Author:** ![lavenderviolet](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/cdc98d/32.png) [@lavenderviolet](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lavenderviolet)\ **Post date:** [December 24, 2004, 9:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-amor-specifically-the-19-yr-old-variety/280509/24 "2004-12-24T09:35:23Z")
I personally would try one more time after Christmas before writing him off completely. With the holidays, you never know what might have happened that affected his behavior. Yeah, he should have still made an effort even if he was busy, but so many times guys that age can be flaky without meaning any harm by it. Whatever happens, I’m sure it will turn out for the best. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Tracy\_Lord](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ec9cab/32.png) [@Tracy\_Lord](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tracy_Lord)\ **Post date:** [December 27, 2004, 8:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-amor-specifically-the-19-yr-old-variety/280509/25 "2004-12-27T08:25:46Z")
Six days and no call – I think I can consider myself well and thoroughly blown off. In which case, I hereby redirect my pitting from AMOR to MENFOLK. All of them, even the good-looking, smart, and funny ones. They are stupid and insensitive, and they smell. Except for Jon Stewart, he can hang around for a while. – In any case, now I’m determining whether to sacrifice my pride on the altar of infatuation and call him _one more time_ before I go back to school next week, hoping that maybe somehow both messages went astray, or to toss my hair and wash him out of it. Ha! As if it’s as easy as that. ---
**Author:** ![Rilchiam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/2bfe46/32.png) [@Rilchiam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rilchiam)\ **Post date:** [December 27, 2004, 12:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-amor-specifically-the-19-yr-old-variety/280509/26 "2004-12-27T12:02:17Z")
Screw him; it’s his loss. Look at it this way: Which is more likely to be an unpleasant memory: calling him again and getting blown off again? Or regretting not calling him because he _might possibly_ have reciprocated? Gingerbread houses, indeed. ---
**Author:** ![Ethilrist](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ethilrist/32/4604_2.png) [@Ethilrist](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ethilrist)\ **Post date:** [December 27, 2004, 2:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-amor-specifically-the-19-yr-old-variety/280509/27 "2004-12-27T14:23:10Z")
> [@MrDibble](#): > > I’d not be married and expecting a baby on Monday if I’d waited for her to call… just saying. See? SEE? THIS is what happens when you call back. Married and pregnant! Well, I don’t know for sure about the married part, but pregnant, certainly! Just as well he didn’t call back. Or maybe… he’s _reading this thread right now!_ Good luck, howsomeever it turns out. Plenty of fish in the sea and all that. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-amor-specifically-the-19-yr-old-variety/280509.md?page=1)