# I Pit Men Who Think Working Women Are There to Service Their Sex Drive **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [April 30, 2012, 7:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-men-who-think-working-women-are-there-to-service-their-sex-drive/620441 "2012-04-30T19:50:01Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![LurkerInNJ](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/ed655f/32.png) [@LurkerInNJ](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LurkerInNJ)\ **Post date:** [April 30, 2012, 9:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-men-who-think-working-women-are-there-to-service-their-sex-drive/620441/41 "2012-04-30T21:19:20Z")
Is this your first time working with the public? If so, accept that a certain percentage of the public is anywhere from clueless to outright mentally ill and don’t get yourself worked up about it. He was a total ass, but by this stage of his life, nothing is going to rectify that. Hand the jerk his shoes, say thanks for using Cobblers Inc. and be deaf and mute as far as he is concerned from that instant on. No need to respond further to him or his inappropriate demands. ---
**Author:** ![billfish678](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/7bcc69/32.png) [@billfish678](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/billfish678)\ **Post date:** [April 30, 2012, 9:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-men-who-think-working-women-are-there-to-service-their-sex-drive/620441/42 "2012-04-30T21:22:53Z")
> [@Bosstone](#): > > . It sounded like **Broomstick** was pissed off with an annoyance and wanted to rant in the Pit, not fearful or threatened. Yeah, this. Hint to OP. Don’t tell half the story then get bent outa shape when people can’t somehow magically conjure up in their mind the stuff you reveal in your second post before you’ve posted it. First post. She was pissed by creepy creeper. Followed by posts that were mostly non mean spirited jokes and general agreement that creepy creeper is creepy. Don’t pull a Paul Harvey. Tell the whole damn story the first go around. ---
**Author:** ![Inigo\_Montoya](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/inigo_montoya/32/124_2.png) [@Inigo\_Montoya](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Inigo_Montoya)\ **Post date:** [April 30, 2012, 9:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-men-who-think-working-women-are-there-to-service-their-sex-drive/620441/43 "2012-04-30T21:26:09Z")
[QUOTE=Septima] I don’t think anyone is making light or fun of you. If they are, fuck them. [/QUOTE] She. Doesn’t. Want. To. **Broomstick** , sorry you had to deal with a creep, my condolences, we’re not all like that, etc. In all seriousness. What bugs me is why people insist on calling these kinds of guys “men.” It kind of poisons the word. Call them creeps, assholes, perverts, kitten lickers, whatever, but it’d be nice if y’all could leave “men” alone to mean, you know, respectful/respectable penis-owners. We try to do the same for females. There are women, and then there are bitches, wimmins, cunts…all kinds of terminology. Bah…nobody asked me though. Carry on. And don’t call the guy. ---
**Author:** ![Drunky\_Smurf](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/drunky_smurf/32/449_2.png) [@Drunky\_Smurf](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Drunky_Smurf)\ **Post date:** [April 30, 2012, 9:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-men-who-think-working-women-are-there-to-service-their-sex-drive/620441/44 "2012-04-30T21:26:38Z")
> [@Bob Ducca](#): > > [We’re sorry.](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K_uRIMUBnvw) Fuck that noise. I ain’t sorry. Why just the other day I went to get my shoes repaired… > [@Inigo\_Montoya](#): > > …kitten lickers… And just what the hell is wrong with licking kittens? :dubious: ---
**Author:** ![Malacandra](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/45deac/32.png) [@Malacandra](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Malacandra)\ **Post date:** [April 30, 2012, 9:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-men-who-think-working-women-are-there-to-service-their-sex-drive/620441/45 "2012-04-30T21:26:46Z")
> [@Myrnalene](#): > > Fucking Dopers, man. _Nothing_ is more important than the opportunity to make an unfunny joke. You know, you’re real pissy since you got the bum’s rush out of the 'Phant. ---
**Author:** ![The\_Man\_With\_The\_Golden\_Gun](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/dc4da7/32.png) [@The\_Man\_With\_The\_Golden\_Gun](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Man_With_The_Golden_Gun)\ **Post date:** [April 30, 2012, 9:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-men-who-think-working-women-are-there-to-service-their-sex-drive/620441/46 "2012-04-30T21:38:21Z")
You should post this idiot’s number on 4chan and let them have their way with him. Or apologize and set up a time in your store you can meet him, but not before placing a land mine under your store’s entrance. The former would probably be a lot less pleasant for him, though, so I’d go with that. ---
**Author:** ![Carmady](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/f04885/32.png) [@Carmady](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Carmady)\ **Post date:** [April 30, 2012, 9:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-men-who-think-working-women-are-there-to-service-their-sex-drive/620441/47 "2012-04-30T21:40:45Z")
> [@The\_Man\_With\_The\_Golden\_Gun](#): > > You should post this idiot’s number on 4chan and let them have their way with him. > > Or apologize and set up a time in your store you can meet him, but not before placing a land mine under your store’s entrance. > > The former would probably be a lot less pleasant for him, though, so I’d go with that. Two wrongs don’t make a right. Three wrongs, on the other hand, do make a right. So I’d go with both of your suggestions. ---
**Author:** ![billfish678](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/7bcc69/32.png) [@billfish678](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/billfish678)\ **Post date:** [April 30, 2012, 9:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-men-who-think-working-women-are-there-to-service-their-sex-drive/620441/48 "2012-04-30T21:43:22Z")
And 4 wongs make a damn good chinese buffet. ---
**Author:** ![emcee2k](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/7bcc69/32.png) [@emcee2k](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/emcee2k)\ **Post date:** [April 30, 2012, 9:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-men-who-think-working-women-are-there-to-service-their-sex-drive/620441/49 "2012-04-30T21:45:28Z")
When I read the OP I just thought “Well that guy’s an obnoxious douche”. It wasn’t until I read post #8 that I figured out that this was an issue of feeling threatened. Maybe that’s the issue here, though, if you’ve actually experience a situation like the one described in the OP, maybe the feelings associated with it are implied. And from the perspective of the person actually dealing with repeated unwanted advances, there probably isn’t much noticeable difference between “obnoxious douche” and “threatening creeper”. ---
**Author:** ![John\_Mace](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/john_mace/32/185_2.png) [@John\_Mace](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/John_Mace)\ **Post date:** [April 30, 2012, 10:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-men-who-think-working-women-are-there-to-service-their-sex-drive/620441/50 "2012-04-30T22:05:50Z")
> [@mhendo](#): > > **ZPG Zealot** , you are one fucking crazy-ass crazy person. She’s the craziest person in the world. When the inmates at Bellevue need to point at laugh, they call her. I don’t always shake hands, but when I do, I wear gloves. Stay paranoid, my friends. ---
**Author:** ![ZPG\_Zealot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/e47c2d/32.png) [@ZPG\_Zealot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ZPG_Zealot)\ **Post date:** [April 30, 2012, 10:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-men-who-think-working-women-are-there-to-service-their-sex-drive/620441/51 "2012-04-30T22:19:12Z")
> [@John\_Mace](#): > > She’s the craziest person in the world. When the inmates at Bellevue need to point at laugh, they call her. > > I don’t always shake hands, but when I do, I wear gloves. Stay paranoid, my friends. It has nothing to do with paranoia. It’s about establishing boundaries. Mine are very clear. If you are male and not a relative, you don’t get to touch my flesh ever outside of a life saving medical procedure. There is no negotiating. There is no room to try to dismiss sexual harassment as a misunderstanding or flirtation because anybody who has spent more than a few minutes in my presensce knows I don’t flirt. ---
**Author:** ![Inigo\_Montoya](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/inigo_montoya/32/124_2.png) [@Inigo\_Montoya](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Inigo_Montoya)\ **Post date:** [April 30, 2012, 10:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-men-who-think-working-women-are-there-to-service-their-sex-drive/620441/52 "2012-04-30T22:25:08Z")
> [@ZPG\_Zealot](#): > > It has nothing to do with paranoia. It’s about establishing boundaries. Mine are very clear. If you are male and not a relative, you don’t get to touch my flesh ever outside of a life saving medical procedure. There is no negotiating. There is no room to try to dismiss sexual harassment as a misunderstanding or flirtation because anybody who has spent more than a few minutes in my presensce knows I don’t flirt. nm. It’s **Broomstick** ’s thread. ---
**Author:** ![Smeghead](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/f1d935/32.png) [@Smeghead](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Smeghead)\ **Post date:** [April 30, 2012, 10:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-men-who-think-working-women-are-there-to-service-their-sex-drive/620441/53 "2012-04-30T22:29:36Z")
> [@ZPG\_Zealot](#): > > anybody who has spent more than a few minutes in my presensce knows I don’t flirt. One of the few statements you’ve ever made that I believe fully, without reservation. ---
**Author:** ![YogSothoth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/y/8edcca/32.png) [@YogSothoth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/YogSothoth)\ **Post date:** [April 30, 2012, 10:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-men-who-think-working-women-are-there-to-service-their-sex-drive/620441/54 "2012-04-30T22:58:19Z")
The only way the guy’s 2nd visit would have some creepiness mitigated is if he just happened to be in the same mall and decided to drop by on a lark. ---
**Author:** ![DiosaBellissima](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/a8b319/32.png) [@DiosaBellissima](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DiosaBellissima)\ **Post date:** [April 30, 2012, 11:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-men-who-think-working-women-are-there-to-service-their-sex-drive/620441/55 "2012-04-30T23:05:15Z")
> [@YogSosoth](#): > > The only way the guy’s 2nd visit would have some creepiness mitigated is if he just happened to be in the same mall and decided to drop by on a lark. Nope, definitely still pretty creepy. ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Whisperer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cat_whisperer/32/4839_2.png) [@Cat\_Whisperer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Whisperer)\ **Post date:** [April 30, 2012, 11:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-men-who-think-working-women-are-there-to-service-their-sex-drive/620441/56 "2012-04-30T23:42:47Z")
> [@Malacandra](#): > > You know, you’re real pissy since you got the bum’s rush out of the 'Phant. In all fairness, she was awfully pissy _before_ that, too. 🙂 Sorry you had your boundaries so rudely ignored, **Broomstick.** ---
**Author:** ![ZPG\_Zealot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/e47c2d/32.png) [@ZPG\_Zealot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ZPG_Zealot)\ **Post date:** [April 30, 2012, 11:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-men-who-think-working-women-are-there-to-service-their-sex-drive/620441/57 "2012-04-30T23:50:59Z")
> [@YogSosoth](#): > > The only way the guy’s 2nd visit would have some creepiness mitigated is if he just happened to be in the same mall and decided to drop by on a lark. The only way the guy’s 2nd visit would have some creepiness mitigated would have been if he had said, “I’m sorry I acted like a jerk, I had a really bad reaction to some new medication.” ---
**Author:** ![Chimera](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/8e8cbc/32.png) [@Chimera](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chimera)\ **Post date:** [April 30, 2012, 11:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-men-who-think-working-women-are-there-to-service-their-sex-drive/620441/58 "2012-04-30T23:51:56Z")
“I gave your number to my husband. He said he was going to call you, but he had to call a few friends first.” “I gave your number to the police. They were very interested in calling you.” “Hey thanks for the number. I spent last night filling out internet surveys and putting your number on them. You should be getting more than a few calls starting any day now.” ---
**Author:** ![TriPolar](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tripolar/32/3008_2.png) [@TriPolar](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TriPolar)\ **Post date:** [April 30, 2012, 11:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-men-who-think-working-women-are-there-to-service-their-sex-drive/620441/59 "2012-04-30T23:59:42Z")
Well I understand why you’re upset **Broomstick**. Men are generally poorly behaved lot, but this guy was an extreme nutjob, and I’d be worried he was dangerous also. This is a far cry from some guy flirting with a girl, and coming back the next day was a real danger signal. I think you should have asked your boss to call the police (to get the business backing you up) or called yourself, though I understand there are practical reasons you might want to avoid that. Also, if I’d been in the thread sooner I’d have been making jokes too, and apologizing for them now also, and trying to convince you they weren’t intended to make you feel bad. I don’t think the others had bad intentions. And…I think a being a cobbler is pretty cool. Whatever post-apocolyptic world we end up in, you’ll have a pretty valuable skill. ---
**Author:** ![Kobal2](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kobal2/32/20_2.png) [@Kobal2](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kobal2)\ **Post date:** [May 1, 2012, 12:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-men-who-think-working-women-are-there-to-service-their-sex-drive/620441/60 "2012-05-01T00:02:59Z")
> [@Drunky\_Smurf](#): > > And just what the hell is wrong with licking kittens? :dubious: You’re supposed to huff them. The orange ones fuck you up real good. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-men-who-think-working-women-are-there-to-service-their-sex-drive/620441.md?page=2) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-men-who-think-working-women-are-there-to-service-their-sex-drive/620441.md?page=4)