# I pit my petty, passive-aggressive, occasionally confrontational, bigoted satanspawn of a roommate. **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [December 29, 2010, 8:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-my-petty-passive-aggressive-occasionally-confrontational-bigoted-satanspawn-of-a-roommate/565741 "2010-12-29T20:02:02Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 11
**Author:** ![DiosaBellissima](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/a8b319/32.png) [@DiosaBellissima](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DiosaBellissima)\ **Post date:** [January 6, 2011, 12:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-my-petty-passive-aggressive-occasionally-confrontational-bigoted-satanspawn-of-a-roommate/565741/201 "2011-01-06T00:53:33Z")
> [@rhubarbarin](#): > > She’ll be back, I’m sure. This thread sure went crazy! > > I want to know why she’s not allowed to call someone fat just because she’s really fat. Lots of people consider me way too thin, that doesn’t mean I can’t see when someone else is too thin and think it’s ugly myself. I mean, I suppose calling someone fat while you’re fat isn’t inherently wrong, but what would have happened if I- in my responses to her- called her a fat ass? C’mon, I’d have been mauled like a Hostess cupcake at Jenny Craig. Ultimately, I couldn’t give two shits if she _did_ call me fat, it’s just funny. I can fix my fat a lot easier than she can fix her stupid, so it works out just as well. I mean, since it’s kosher for us to ad hom each other now. 😛 ---
**Author:** ![rhubarbarin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/eb9ed0/32.png) [@rhubarbarin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/rhubarbarin)\ **Post date:** [January 6, 2011, 1:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-my-petty-passive-aggressive-occasionally-confrontational-bigoted-satanspawn-of-a-roommate/565741/202 "2011-01-06T01:01:12Z")
‘People who live in fat houses shouldn’t throw cheeseburgers’ (along with links to posts detailing **rachel** ’s weight and eating habits) isn’t quite as direct as ‘fat ass!’ but it seems like the same sentiment to me. And the only response was some LOLs. ---
**Author:** ![monstro](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/ba9def/32.png) [@monstro](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/monstro)\ **Post date:** [January 6, 2011, 1:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-my-petty-passive-aggressive-occasionally-confrontational-bigoted-satanspawn-of-a-roommate/565741/203 "2011-01-06T01:07:58Z")
> [@rhubarbarin](#): > > ‘People who live in fat houses shouldn’t throw cheeseburgers’ (along with links to posts detailing **rachel** ’s weight and eating habits) isn’t quite as direct as ‘fat ass!’ but it seems like the same sentiment to me. And the only response was some LOLs. No one would have said or done any of that if she hadn’t gone there first. ---
**Author:** ![Freudian\_Slit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/5daacb/32.png) [@Freudian\_Slit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Freudian_Slit)\ **Post date:** [January 6, 2011, 1:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-my-petty-passive-aggressive-occasionally-confrontational-bigoted-satanspawn-of-a-roommate/565741/204 "2011-01-06T01:15:59Z")
Was she, though? I interpreted “the elephants never forget” comment as some people just like to bring up old matters. I didn’t think she was saying the poster was as fat as an elephant. Though maybe I need to go back and reread that post… ---
**Author:** ![expectopatronum](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/expectopatronum/32/173_2.png) [@expectopatronum](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/expectopatronum)\ **Post date:** [January 6, 2011, 1:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-my-petty-passive-aggressive-occasionally-confrontational-bigoted-satanspawn-of-a-roommate/565741/205 "2011-01-06T01:29:45Z")
> [@monstro](#): > > No one would have said or done any of that if she hadn’t gone there first. true story. **freudian slit** , i really don’t see how else it could be interpreted myself when the comment is aimed at a specific poster like that. ---
**Author:** ![elbows](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/b3f665/32.png) [@elbows](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/elbows)\ **Post date:** [January 6, 2011, 2:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-my-petty-passive-aggressive-occasionally-confrontational-bigoted-satanspawn-of-a-roommate/565741/206 "2011-01-06T02:42:27Z")
Well, as I was unaware of the girth of the object of the slight, I also failed to see it as anything other than a reference to ‘never forgetting’ as in holding a grudge. The fat houses cheeseburger crack, was pretty obvious however, even to me. ---
**Author:** ![Freudian\_Slit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/5daacb/32.png) [@Freudian\_Slit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Freudian_Slit)\ **Post date:** [January 6, 2011, 2:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-my-petty-passive-aggressive-occasionally-confrontational-bigoted-satanspawn-of-a-roommate/565741/207 "2011-01-06T02:45:52Z")
> [@elbows](#): > > Well, as I was unaware of the girth of the object of the slight, I also failed to see it as anything other than a reference to ‘never forgetting’ as in holding a grudge. > > The fat houses cheeseburger crack, was pretty obvious however, even to me. But **rachellelogram** isn’t the one who said that… ---
**Author:** ![expectopatronum](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/expectopatronum/32/173_2.png) [@expectopatronum](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/expectopatronum)\ **Post date:** [January 6, 2011, 5:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-my-petty-passive-aggressive-occasionally-confrontational-bigoted-satanspawn-of-a-roommate/565741/208 "2011-01-06T05:18:33Z")
**diosa’s** made a few references to the fact that she’s overweight in some of her posts. even if you weren’t aware of that, if someone calls someone else an elephant in a less than complimentary way, what do you think that could possibly refer to aside from one’s size? it’s kind of silly to sit here and speculate until the cows come home(see what i did there?) about her intent. we’re not a jury, she’s not going to jail over it. a couple of people didn’t like my comment, and that’s fine with me, but don’t pretend she didn’t say what she said. ---
**Author:** ![Turek](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/turek/32/18782_2.png) [@Turek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Turek)\ **Post date:** [January 6, 2011, 1:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-my-petty-passive-aggressive-occasionally-confrontational-bigoted-satanspawn-of-a-roommate/565741/209 "2011-01-06T13:26:54Z")
> [@AnalogSignal](#): > > I certainly did not “off” her but perhaps someone else did. Perhaps you did and are cleverly making accusations to divert attention away from yourself. Actually, I just put her on “pause”. > [@](#): > > Skin So Soft? \“It rubs the lotion on its skin!”\ ---
**Author:** ![digs](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/digs/32/14889_2.png) [@digs](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/digs)\ **Post date:** [January 6, 2011, 2:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-my-petty-passive-aggressive-occasionally-confrontational-bigoted-satanspawn-of-a-roommate/565741/210 "2011-01-06T14:54:56Z")
Anyone else keep checking back, waiting for The (Inevitable?) Post? The one that goes something like: “I cannot beLIEVE this! I came home and the locks were changed! My stuff is out in the front yard! With that legal, ironclad lease thing sitting on top with a big red X through it!” But I am glad we’re not hearing from a homeless doper. So despite the lack of drama, I’m relieved. ---
**Author:** ![elninost0rm](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/ed655f/32.png) [@elninost0rm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/elninost0rm)\ **Post date:** [January 6, 2011, 2:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-my-petty-passive-aggressive-occasionally-confrontational-bigoted-satanspawn-of-a-roommate/565741/211 "2011-01-06T14:57:56Z")
She hasn’t posted in what, a week now? I’m not holding my breath. ---
**Author:** ![Freudian\_Slit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/5daacb/32.png) [@Freudian\_Slit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Freudian_Slit)\ **Post date:** [January 6, 2011, 3:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-my-petty-passive-aggressive-occasionally-confrontational-bigoted-satanspawn-of-a-roommate/565741/212 "2011-01-06T15:08:36Z")
> [@digs](#): > > Anyone else keep checking back, waiting for The (Inevitable?) Post? The one that goes something like: “I cannot beLIEVE this! I came home and the locks were changed! My stuff is out in the front yard! With that legal, ironclad lease thing sitting on top with a big red X through it!” > > But I am glad we’re not hearing from a homeless doper. So despite the lack of drama, I’m relieved. If she’s homeless, she might not have Internet access, though… ---
**Author:** ![AnalogSignal](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/analogsignal/32/1085_2.png) [@AnalogSignal](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AnalogSignal)\ **Post date:** [January 6, 2011, 3:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-my-petty-passive-aggressive-occasionally-confrontational-bigoted-satanspawn-of-a-roommate/565741/213 "2011-01-06T15:09:02Z")
> [@Turek](#): > > \“It rubs the lotion on its skin!”\ Thanks, I didn’t get that reference. ---
**Author:** ![Hentor\_the\_Barbarian](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/8edcca/32.png) [@Hentor\_the\_Barbarian](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hentor_the_Barbarian)\ **Post date:** [January 6, 2011, 3:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-my-petty-passive-aggressive-occasionally-confrontational-bigoted-satanspawn-of-a-roommate/565741/214 "2011-01-06T15:53:45Z")
> [@Freudian\_Slit](#): > > Was she, though? I interpreted “the elephants never forget” comment as some people just like to bring up old matters. I didn’t think she was saying the poster was as fat as an elephant. Though maybe I need to go back and reread that post… You’re right. It could be a veiled insult or it could be completely innocent. If only we had any evidence regarding the OP and a willingness to engage in passive aggressive behavior. ---
**Author:** ![Shot\_From\_Guns](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ccd318/32.png) [@Shot\_From\_Guns](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shot_From_Guns)\ **Post date:** [January 6, 2011, 5:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-my-petty-passive-aggressive-occasionally-confrontational-bigoted-satanspawn-of-a-roommate/565741/215 "2011-01-06T17:46:51Z")
> [@Freudian\_Slit](#): > > Was she, though? I interpreted “the elephants never forget” comment as some people just like to bring up old matters. “[I guess it’s true that elephants never forget](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showpost.php?p=13301970&postcount=138)” makes zero sense unless she’s presupposing that the person she’s addressing is an elephant. It’s a necessary condition of the way she phrased it. (Cf. “I guess it’s true that doctors make more money than cashiers”; “I guess it’s true that men who drive Hummers can’t sustain erections.”) Something like “They say elephants never forget, and I guess you don’t, either,” would have been more ambiguous. ---
**Author:** ![elninost0rm](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/ed655f/32.png) [@elninost0rm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/elninost0rm)\ **Post date:** [January 6, 2011, 6:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-my-petty-passive-aggressive-occasionally-confrontational-bigoted-satanspawn-of-a-roommate/565741/216 "2011-01-06T18:12:11Z")
> [@Shot\_From\_Guns](#): > > “[I guess it’s true that elephants never forget](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showpost.php?p=13301970&postcount=138)” makes zero sense unless she’s presupposing that the person she’s addressing is an elephant. It’s a necessary condition of the way she phrased it. (Cf. “I guess it’s true that doctors make more money than cashiers”; “I guess it’s true that men who drive Hummers can’t sustain erections.”) Something like “They say elephants never forget, and I guess you don’t, either,” would have been more ambiguous. Right, but isn’t it possible that she just misused the cliche? I could be wrong, but it didn’t seem like her aim was to insult her weight. I immediately thought of the old elephant adage after reading that. ---
**Author:** ![MeanOldLady](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/meanoldlady/32/10737_2.png) [@MeanOldLady](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MeanOldLady)\ **Post date:** [January 6, 2011, 6:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-my-petty-passive-aggressive-occasionally-confrontational-bigoted-satanspawn-of-a-roommate/565741/217 "2011-01-06T18:19:51Z")
How the hell would someone with a BMI of **50** be making a fat joke? Seriously now. I really don’t think that was a snipe at anyone’s weight; I think she just spoke poorly. Oh, and **Hentor** : Ha! ---
**Author:** ![Shot\_From\_Guns](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ccd318/32.png) [@Shot\_From\_Guns](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shot_From_Guns)\ **Post date:** [January 6, 2011, 6:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-my-petty-passive-aggressive-occasionally-confrontational-bigoted-satanspawn-of-a-roommate/565741/218 "2011-01-06T18:20:00Z")
@ **elnino** : No shit she’s referencing the old cliche. But she’s doing it in such a way that she’s clearly establishing \*\*Diosa \*\*as being an elephant. The elephantiness of \*\*Diosa \*\*is presupposed and necessary to the way \*\*rachel \*\*phrased her response. It literally doesn’t make sense otherwise. @ **MOL** : Fuck your snipes, woman! On the plus side, I just realized that **elninost0rm** is “ **elninost0rm** ” and not “ **elinost0rm** ,” thus relieving me of a lot of confusion about what an “elino” might be. ---
**Author:** ![elninost0rm](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/ed655f/32.png) [@elninost0rm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/elninost0rm)\ **Post date:** [January 6, 2011, 6:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-my-petty-passive-aggressive-occasionally-confrontational-bigoted-satanspawn-of-a-roommate/565741/219 "2011-01-06T18:32:56Z")
> [@Shot\_From\_Guns](#): > > @ **elnino** : > > No shit she’s referencing the old cliche. But she’s doing it in such a way that she’s clearly establishing \*\*Diosa \*\*as being an elephant. The elephantiness of \*\*Diosa \*\*is presupposed and necessary to the way \*\*rachel \*\*phrased her response. It literally doesn’t make sense otherwise. > > @ **MOL** : > > Fuck your snipes, woman! On the plus side, I just realized that **elninost0rm** is “ **elninost0rm** ” and not “ **elinost0rm** ,” thus relieving me of a lot of confusion about what an “elino” might be. I just don’t find it very likely that someone with a BMI of 50 would take a jab at someone else’s weight. Like **MOL** said, I just think she misspoke. Storm is a bowling ball brand, and El Nino was/is one of their balls released ~10 years ago. I adopted the handle while bowling competitively in high school and it stuck. The 0 is just a result of being young and hip. I haven’t managed to shake the pesky digit, either. ---
**Author:** ![Freudian\_Slit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/5daacb/32.png) [@Freudian\_Slit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Freudian_Slit)\ **Post date:** [January 6, 2011, 6:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-my-petty-passive-aggressive-occasionally-confrontational-bigoted-satanspawn-of-a-roommate/565741/220 "2011-01-06T18:37:12Z")
Well, fat jokes or not, I think **rachellelogram** has some issues going on. I would seriously hope that anyone with a 50 BMI would refrain from those kinds of jokes. (Well, ANYONE should, but it’s just bizarre coming from someone with weight problems like that.) To begin with, I did agree that the roommate was being obnoxious, but how can she not see she’s wrong–even if the roomie was passive aggressive about it–as it’s not her house? Yes, the roommate (landlady, really?) could have been nicer–had it been me, I’d just have asked her to refrain from decorating the rest of the house, but it would never even occur to me to do so to begin with. Really not getting her. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-my-petty-passive-aggressive-occasionally-confrontational-bigoted-satanspawn-of-a-roommate/565741.md?page=10) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-my-petty-passive-aggressive-occasionally-confrontational-bigoted-satanspawn-of-a-roommate/565741.md?page=12)