# I pit my roommate, redux **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [January 20, 2008, 11:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-my-roommate-redux/434305 "2008-01-20T23:06:21Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![Cat\_Whisperer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cat_whisperer/32/4839_2.png) [@Cat\_Whisperer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Whisperer)\ **Post date:** [January 21, 2008, 2:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-my-roommate-redux/434305/41 "2008-01-21T14:26:45Z")
[QUOTE=saoirse] I’m assuming that he was never foolish enough to go bareback with her. He mentions nothing about it in this thread or the previous one. Maybe we should assume the guy has a little sense. \ [/QUOTE] Based on what? ---
**Author:** ![Bryan\_Ekers](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bryan_ekers/32/183_2.png) [@Bryan\_Ekers](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bryan_Ekers)\ **Post date:** [January 21, 2008, 2:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-my-roommate-redux/434305/42 "2008-01-21T14:45:55Z")
[QUOTE=Smapti] Who the fuck invites a perfect stranger into the house one shares with a significant other and then spends a week having sex with him, while ignoring and mocking that SO for feeling slighted by it? [/QUOTE] You assume way too much. You’re an IO, at best. ---
**Author:** ![bbs2k](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/e495f1/32.png) [@bbs2k](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bbs2k)\ **Post date:** [January 21, 2008, 3:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-my-roommate-redux/434305/43 "2008-01-21T15:46:16Z")
Did you at least get to fuck her in the ass?! What’d it sound like? Details! Concerned parties from the previous thread need to know. ---
**Author:** ![DiosaBellissima](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/a8b319/32.png) [@DiosaBellissima](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DiosaBellissima)\ **Post date:** [January 21, 2008, 4:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-my-roommate-redux/434305/44 "2008-01-21T16:09:31Z")
You are WAY too obsessed with this girl who clearly just wants to be fuck buddies (if that) with you. Frankly, your behavior is incredibly creepy. Move on, dude. ---
**Author:** ![saoirse](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/5daacb/32.png) [@saoirse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/saoirse)\ **Post date:** [January 21, 2008, 4:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-my-roommate-redux/434305/45 "2008-01-21T16:30:56Z")
[QUOTE=featherlou] Based on what? [/QUOTE] A general principle of assuming people aren’t utter morons until they indicate that they are. ---
**Author:** ![Wolfian](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/7ea924/32.png) [@Wolfian](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Wolfian)\ **Post date:** [January 21, 2008, 5:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-my-roommate-redux/434305/46 "2008-01-21T17:54:20Z")
[QUOTE=Diomedes] Yeah. It doesn’t matter what the ‘reality’ of the situation is, in terms of how he deals with it. No matter what you or anyone else says, or tries to convince **Smapti** of, he’s going through the same emotional response of a cheated-upon boyfriend. So we should counsel him in that light. ETA: Hanging the ‘cheating bitch’ tag on someone has always made me feel better. You oughta try it sometimes… blaming others is a remarkably effective way of getting over them [/QUOTE] I reject your reality and substitute my own. ---
**Author:** ![Plynck](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/3e96dc/32.png) [@Plynck](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Plynck)\ **Post date:** [January 21, 2008, 5:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-my-roommate-redux/434305/47 "2008-01-21T17:58:39Z")
[QUOTE=Heffalump and Roo] Just a suggestion. In your next sexually exclusive relationship, you might want to consider the possibility that sex is happening if someone sleeps in your SO’s bed with them in your house. If the relationship were truly platonic, this person could have slept on the couch, on the floor or even in your bed while _you_ slept with your SO. [/QUOTE] Perhaps we’ve gone back to the more wholesome times of Lucy and Desi in separate beds, but I’m trying to understand how you think of her as anything other than a roommate if she has her own bedroom. ---
**Author:** ![VinylTurnip](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/b2d939/32.png) [@VinylTurnip](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/VinylTurnip)\ **Post date:** [January 21, 2008, 6:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-my-roommate-redux/434305/48 "2008-01-21T18:44:44Z")
[QUOTE=saoirse] A general principle of assuming people aren’t utter morons until they indicate that they are. [/QUOTE] I’ve got a different principle to tell you about. You won’t _believe_ the time you’ll save! ---
**Author:** ![Happy\_Scrappy\_Hero\_Pup](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/ea5d25/32.png) [@Happy\_Scrappy\_Hero\_Pup](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Happy_Scrappy_Hero_Pup)\ **Post date:** [January 21, 2008, 6:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-my-roommate-redux/434305/49 "2008-01-21T18:58:16Z")
Dude- She’s fucking other people. You don’t want her to fuck other people. But she’s obviously going to keep fucking other people. So… a. Stop fucking her, find someone else who wants to fuck only you or b. Fuck her when she’ll let you and put up with the others when she won’t. Choosing either option will make you feel bad. But I guarantee you that you’ll stop feeling bad about (a) long before you stop feeling bad about (b). But, if you do decide to go with (b), quit your fucking whining. Because now you know it’s coming. Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me- and all that. Oh, and IMHO, it doesn’t really matter what relationship you had versus what relationship you think you had. You, **Smpati,** don’t have the relationship you WANT, and (and I cannot stress this enough) _you aren’t going to get the relationship you want._ So stop trying to make a silk purse out of a sow’s ear and either suck it up or move on. ---
**Author:** ![Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e99b99/32.png) [@Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Diogenes_the_Cynic)\ **Post date:** [January 21, 2008, 8:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-my-roommate-redux/434305/50 "2008-01-21T20:20:46Z")
> [@](#): > > Oh, and by the way, it’s OVER. “You can’t fire me, I QUIT!” It never started, dude. She was never your “SO.” She was just a roommate who sometimes let you fuck her. It sounds like you’ve had some difficulty handling that concept in the past and freaked out on her when she decided to proceed with the terms you had already both agreed to. Let this be a lesson about “friends with benefits.” Maybe it can work sometimes but as often as not, one person ends up getting more emotionally attached than the other. ---
**Author:** ![wring](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/838e76/32.png) [@wring](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wring)\ **Post date:** [January 21, 2008, 8:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-my-roommate-redux/434305/51 "2008-01-21T20:37:28Z")
yea, agreeing w/ **DIo** - in order for “It’s over” to be true, there had to be an “it” started. Don’t see that there was. ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Whisperer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cat_whisperer/32/4839_2.png) [@Cat\_Whisperer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Whisperer)\ **Post date:** [January 22, 2008, 1:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-my-roommate-redux/434305/52 "2008-01-22T01:17:14Z")
[QUOTE=saoirse] A general principle of assuming people aren’t utter morons until they indicate that they are. [/QUOTE] You totally stepped on my snark. See, my point was that **smapti** proved he had very little sense in the first thread on this subject, and now he’s slamdunked it and spiked the ball. In my opinion, of course. ---
**Author:** ![saoirse](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/5daacb/32.png) [@saoirse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/saoirse)\ **Post date:** [January 22, 2008, 1:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-my-roommate-redux/434305/53 "2008-01-22T01:51:47Z")
[QUOTE=featherlou] You totally stepped on my snark. See, my point was that **smapti** proved he had very little sense in the first thread on this subject, and now he’s slamdunked it and spiked the ball. In my opinion, of course. [/QUOTE] Oh. fair enough then. I still maintain, though, that we’re talking about two completely different brands of stupid. ---
**Author:** ![fisha](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/da6949/32.png) [@fisha](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/fisha)\ **Post date:** [January 22, 2008, 2:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-my-roommate-redux/434305/54 "2008-01-22T02:05:28Z")
[QUOTE=saoirse] Oh. fair enough then. I still maintain, though, that we’re talking about two completely different brands of stupid. [/QUOTE] There’s a lot of cross pollination with stupid. ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Whisperer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cat_whisperer/32/4839_2.png) [@Cat\_Whisperer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Whisperer)\ **Post date:** [January 22, 2008, 6:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-my-roommate-redux/434305/55 "2008-01-22T06:43:48Z")
[QUOTE=saoirse] Oh. fair enough then. I still maintain, though, that we’re talking about two completely different brands of stupid. [/QUOTE] Hmm, good question. I think the stupid probably has a lot of carry-over - not interfacing with reality, wishful thinking, making bad decisions - all present in both situations. ---
**Author:** ![Heffalump\_and\_Roo](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/heffalump_and_roo/32/7691_2.png) [@Heffalump\_and\_Roo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Heffalump_and_Roo)\ **Post date:** [January 22, 2008, 7:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-my-roommate-redux/434305/56 "2008-01-22T07:09:00Z")
[QUOTE=saoirse] Oh. fair enough then. I still maintain, though, that we’re talking about two completely different brands of stupid. [/QUOTE] For those of us playing along at home, what are the different brands of stupid? There’s more than one brand? Why am I thinking of different kinds of ketchup. . .so alike but with different labels? ---
**Author:** ![Malacandra](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/45deac/32.png) [@Malacandra](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Malacandra)\ **Post date:** [January 22, 2008, 4:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-my-roommate-redux/434305/57 "2008-01-22T16:10:36Z")
[QUOTE=Rhubarb] I know you didn’t ask for my advice, but I _soooo_ love giving it. I see three basic choices for you; 1.) Move out and move on. Look for a more satisfying relationship elsewhere. 2.) Bring home your own “vagina-du-jour” for a week or two. Make sure she’s noticeably hotter than “Dee”. Never sleep with “Dee” again and start cultivating new friends with benefits. Move out at the end of the lease. 3.) Put up with her shit. [/QUOTE] I’ve got five simoleons here saying that if this kid could \*get \* any vagina du jour, he wouldn’t be settling for being Dee’s fallback penis. :dubious: It’s tragic the shit you’ll put up with when you’re twenty-five and think you can’t get any pussy elsewhere. ---
**Author:** ![Scissorjack](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/c67d28/32.png) [@Scissorjack](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Scissorjack)\ **Post date:** [January 22, 2008, 9:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-my-roommate-redux/434305/58 "2008-01-22T21:04:08Z")
[QUOTE=featherlou] I bet she isn’t. [/QUOTE] He could always follow her up to Anchorage: north, to a lass-cur. ---
**Author:** ![iamthewalrus\_3](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/258eb7/32.png) [@iamthewalrus\_3](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/iamthewalrus_3)\ **Post date:** [January 23, 2008, 10:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-my-roommate-redux/434305/59 "2008-01-23T22:57:27Z")
[QUOTE=Smapti] I had a conversation this morning with a second mutual friend of ours, who i’ll call “Greg”. I met Greg through Dee about two years ago - she’s told me of him that they’ve known each other for years and they have a completely Platonic relationship, and that he’s slept in her bed before but she’d never think of having sex with him. Greg also knew Dee was spending all her time with Sam and was pretty agitated about it as well, and told me that he felt hurt and insulted by the whole affair. His words were so emotional and heartfelt, I asked him if he had romantic feelings for her. His response - not only did he, but he’d been dating her on and off for the entire time her and I have had our relationship! When I asked him if he knew about Dee and I, he answered in the negative - she’d also told him, apparently, that she and I were platonic friends who liked to have dinner and play laser tag sometimes. [/QUOTE] > [@](#): > > I only met Greg through Dee and we don’t really interact much aside from when the three of us are all hanging out together. So, just to be perfectly clear: Both you and Greg thought you were dating this girl, exclusively, for the last two years, and you sometimes hang out together. Are you and Greg blind or retarded? How is it possible to hang out in mixed company both thinking you have the same girlfriend _for years_?! The average character in a sitcom can’t even keep that kind of masquerade up for 10 minutes. ---
**Author:** ![bbs2k](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/e495f1/32.png) [@bbs2k](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bbs2k)\ **Post date:** [January 23, 2008, 11:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-my-roommate-redux/434305/60 "2008-01-23T23:28:06Z")
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