# I Pit My Wife-Beating So-Called Father

**URL:** <https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-my-wife-beating-so-called-father/281699>\
**Category:** The BBQ Pit\
**Created:** [December 26, 2004, 7:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-my-wife-beating-so-called-father/281699 "2004-12-26T19:36:25Z")\
**Posts on this page:** 4\
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**Author:** ![Milkman\_Dan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/3da27b/32.png) [@Milkman\_Dan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Milkman_Dan)\
**Post date:** [December 27, 2004, 11:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-my-wife-beating-so-called-father/281699/21 "2004-12-27T23:06:07Z")

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> [@ivylass](#):
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> **Clothahump** has been here awhile. I was just trying to help a newbie out, **Milkman**. No offense meant. 🙂

Sorry **ivylass** , I didn’t mean to get defensive… no offense taken.

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**Author:** ![Alice\_The\_Goon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ed8c4c/32.png) [@Alice\_The\_Goon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Alice_The_Goon)\
**Post date:** [December 28, 2004, 12:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-my-wife-beating-so-called-father/281699/22 "2004-12-28T00:24:07Z")

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> [@Yeticus Rex](#):
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> Yikes!
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> A few questions I have…
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> Was your dad born on July 3rd, 1938 or 1939?  
> Is his initials MKMK the 3rd, or MMK the 3rd?  
> Did your dad leave Tucson in late 80’s, early 90’s?
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> There are a few coincidences here and I’ve been looking for my father for years now. I HOPE it’s not him, but he’s been missing (or not wanting to be found) since about 1990. He too is an abuser.

Nope. My father had a family with two kids before my mom, but his initials are CMC jr. Consider yourself lucky it’s not him. And he never lived in Tucson.  
Believe me, everyone… violent scenarios have been considered. However, I have my own kids to think about and I’d like to shield them from violence as much as I can.

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**Author:** ![villa](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/bc79bd/32.png) [@villa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/villa)\
**Post date:** [December 28, 2004, 12:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-my-wife-beating-so-called-father/281699/23 "2004-12-28T00:37:14Z")

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> [@Clothahump](#):
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> Go back and take a baseball bat with you. Use it. Consider it therapy for yourself and your mother.

Is this tempting? Yes. Deserved? Quite possibly. Sensible? That’s a much harder call. After all, once the beating has been delivered, the beater has gone, and the mother is still in the situation. And who do you think will suffer the retribution for the attack?

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**Author:** ![Yeticus\_Rex](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/y/a698b9/32.png) [@Yeticus\_Rex](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Yeticus_Rex)\
**Post date:** [December 28, 2004, 9:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-my-wife-beating-so-called-father/281699/24 "2004-12-28T21:23:21Z")

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> [@trublmakr](#):
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> Nope. My father had a family with two kids before my mom, but his initials are CMC jr. Consider yourself lucky it’s not him. And he never lived in Tucson.  
> Believe me, everyone… violent scenarios have been considered. However, I have my own kids to think about and I’d like to shield them from violence as much as I can.

Ok.

My mom took my brother and I and moved away from my father, leaving him in Tucson. Things improved tremendously (physically) for us when we moved a large distance (between us and him). I suggest the same for your family and your mom.

Retaliatory violence is really not a long term answer, but it seems you already know that.

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