# I pit OpalCat - but my heart's not really in it. **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [December 12, 2011, 3:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-opalcat-but-my-hearts-not-really-in-it/605872 "2011-12-12T03:17:16Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 15
**Author:** ![Una\_Persson](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/una_persson/32/346_2.png) [@Una\_Persson](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Una_Persson)\ **Post date:** [December 16, 2011, 6:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-opalcat-but-my-hearts-not-really-in-it/605872/281 "2011-12-16T18:05:46Z")
> [@MsWhatsit](#): > > NO! YOU MUST SELL YOUR HAIR IF THE ALTERNATIVE IS GIVING YOUR CHILDREN ONLY THIRTY DOLLARS’ WORTH OF CHRISTMAS PRESENTS! YOUR HAIR! SELL IT! SELL IT NOW! > > (Is hair-selling a big thing these days? I don’t even know where one would go in order to sell off one’s hair.) Oh yeah? My mom didn’t sell her hair, she cut it and knitted it into socks for us. That was the warmest Christmas ever! ---
**Author:** ![Vihaga](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/b4bc9f/32.png) [@Vihaga](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Vihaga)\ **Post date:** [December 16, 2011, 6:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-opalcat-but-my-hearts-not-really-in-it/605872/282 "2011-12-16T18:17:14Z")
I feel kind of bad for her, but if you make a big deal out of telling everyone how much you’ve changed, well, 1) you’re kind of bringing that kind of scrutiny upon yourself, and 2) perhaps you shouldn’t start start off your new, improved lifestyle by posting the exact same annoying bullshit that pissed people off in the first place. I don’t think the response is overly surprising, even if it maybe is kind of harsh. Personally, refraining from opening any thread where she asks for advice has eliminated 90% of my annoyance with her antics. ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Whisperer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cat_whisperer/32/4839_2.png) [@Cat\_Whisperer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Whisperer)\ **Post date:** [December 16, 2011, 6:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-opalcat-but-my-hearts-not-really-in-it/605872/283 "2011-12-16T18:46:04Z")
> [@Koxinga](#): > > I think the takeaway here is if anyone lays their entire life bare on the intertubes, they’re liable to reap the bitchy whirlwind. Opal, you’ve shared too much of yourself. I think this is the bottom line. Most of us acknowledge that there are lines we shouldn’t cross; if you are incapable of telling where the lines are, maybe you need to put some procedures in place to help you with that; it’s not like the internet is going away any time soon. > [@Ichbin\_Dubist](#): > > \ > The idea that if I say reveal a dumb or embarrassing thing about myself, that there are 500 people on maybe 3 message boards who will devote massive amounts of time to reproducing it, reveling in it, and carrying it into every thread I’m in for the next 10 years makes me want to be here even less than I am, not more. We all say dumb or embarrassing things occasionally; most of us don’t make a lifestyle of it, though. > [@MsWhatsit](#): > > NO! YOU MUST SELL YOUR HAIR IF THE ALTERNATIVE IS GIVING YOUR CHILDREN ONLY THIRTY DOLLARS’ WORTH OF CHRISTMAS PRESENTS! YOUR HAIR! SELL IT! SELL IT NOW! > > (Is hair-selling a big thing these days? I don’t even know where one would go in order to sell off one’s hair.) There was a spammer here recently (I think it was called **The Brush** ) who wanted to buy our hair. ---
**Author:** ![Amber\_in\_Treasury](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/bc79bd/32.png) [@Amber\_in\_Treasury](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Amber_in_Treasury)\ **Post date:** [December 16, 2011, 7:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-opalcat-but-my-hearts-not-really-in-it/605872/284 "2011-12-16T19:29:03Z")
> [@Cat\_Whisperer](#): > > There was a spammer here recently (I think it was called **The Brush** ) who wanted to buy our hair. Really? ---
**Author:** ![Shodan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/9f8e36/32.png) [@Shodan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shodan)\ **Post date:** [December 16, 2011, 7:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-opalcat-but-my-hearts-not-really-in-it/605872/285 "2011-12-16T19:31:06Z")
FYI, there is an organization called [Locks of Love](http://www.nytimes.com/books/first/s/stanley-millionaire.html) that makes hairpieces for people undergoing chemotherapy from donated hair. My sister grew her hair out and then cut and donated it. Regards, Shodan ---
**Author:** ![Damuri\_Ajashi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/898d66/32.png) [@Damuri\_Ajashi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Damuri_Ajashi)\ **Post date:** [December 16, 2011, 7:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-opalcat-but-my-hearts-not-really-in-it/605872/286 "2011-12-16T19:39:53Z")
> [@Clockwork\_Jackal](#): > > I know I’m a mom. And I know I would work two jobs, sell my own crap, hell, I’d sell my own fucking HAIR to buy my kid a nice Christmas gift. I would go without just to get him one. > > That is what I know. There is almost no cahnce that your son is going to grow up with a sense of entitlement and expect the world to give him nice things just because he wants them. I am having the same problem with my wife’s desire to make sacrifices our son. not so he can have books to go to school, or so he can have clothes to wear but instead, she is making sacrifices so he can have a playdate with some kid that lives 20 miles away or stop having sunday brunch (which she really enjoys) so he can go to an overpriced version of Gymboree or start looking at homes with (or near) stables (and consequently increase my commute by an hour) so you can buy him a fucking pony. At some point I think our son would be better off if his mother cared more about herself and a little less about him. Why do some moms do this? Its not good for your child. ---
**Author:** ![carnivorousplant](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/carnivorousplant/32/3563_2.png) [@carnivorousplant](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/carnivorousplant)\ **Post date:** [December 16, 2011, 7:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-opalcat-but-my-hearts-not-really-in-it/605872/287 "2011-12-16T19:48:53Z")
> [@Damuri\_Ajashi](#): > > At some point I think our son would be better off if his mother cared more about herself and a little less about him. Why do some moms do this? Its not good for your child. At think it has to do with biology. Have you noticed folks telling each other how beautiful and intelligent their children are? No Mother ever says, “Dear G-d, I have the ugliest child in the city!” ---
**Author:** ![Ichbin\_Dubist](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/51bf81/32.png) [@Ichbin\_Dubist](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ichbin_Dubist)\ **Post date:** [December 16, 2011, 7:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-opalcat-but-my-hearts-not-really-in-it/605872/288 "2011-12-16T19:50:33Z")
> [@Cat\_Whisperer](#): > > Most of us acknowledge that there are lines we shouldn’t cross; if you are incapable of telling where the lines are, maybe you need to put some procedures in place to help you with that; it’s not like the internet is going away any time soon. I agree there are lines. But I don’t personally think that being a careless idiot is notable worse than being a belligerent asshole. It’s probably not as personally damaging or foolish as naked pictures, but I think there are a hundred people on the SMDB who’d be embarrassed if their long history of hurling vicious insults at strangers was attached to them. I guess being smart enough to stay anonymous is worth something. > [@Cat\_Whisperer](#): > > We all say dumb or embarrassing things occasionally; most of us don’t make a lifestyle of it, though. I don’t know shit about her lifestyle, though, and I really don’t care. Or that of anyone here. I find the whole good kids/mean kids thing that goes on here not that interesting. ---
**Author:** ![Spice\_Weasel](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/spice_weasel/32/5435_2.png) [@Spice\_Weasel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Spice_Weasel)\ **Post date:** [December 16, 2011, 7:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-opalcat-but-my-hearts-not-really-in-it/605872/289 "2011-12-16T19:55:02Z")
> [@the lone cashew](#): > > ~joins **yams!** fanclub~ I’ll join the fanclub too, and together we’ll be an unstoppable team of cutesy self-righteous edibles. > [@](#): > > I think this is the bottom line. Most of us acknowledge that there are lines we shouldn’t cross; if you are incapable of telling where the lines are, maybe you need to put some procedures in place to help you with that; it’s not like the internet is going away any time soon. Yeah, and not everybody knows where those lines are, and some of us don’t understand why those lines exist in the first place and only accept them grudgingly and imperfectly. And none of these facts make this level of cruelty and nastiness defensible. Over the years here I’ve seen plenty of jackasses basically justify their jackassery with, ‘‘Well, that’s what happens. It’s the internet.’’ Really? The internet _made_ you (general you) act like a dickwad? It absolves you of responsibility for your behavior? No. ---
**Author:** ![Hbns](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/8edcca/32.png) [@Hbns](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hbns)\ **Post date:** [December 16, 2011, 8:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-opalcat-but-my-hearts-not-really-in-it/605872/290 "2011-12-16T20:05:16Z")
> [@Amber\_in\_Treasury](#): > > Well that’s…strange. Not that you want to give your kid a nice gift, of course, but that you apparently think nice gifts must be expensive. Deary, it isn’t that these people think nice gifts have to be expensive, it is that Opal solicits shopping advice and is massively dismissive toward the input she gets. As always with these requests there were many great suggestions meeting the criteria and as is Opal’s way, additional reasoning is trotted out to dismiss most of them in kind. Attempts to help her identify what the recipient might enjoy were brushed aside as well. Basically it boils down to not being able to help those who aren’t open to assistance. After trying to be helpful in several of these threads of hers and all going the same way, I am convinced she starts these threads simply so we can marvel at what great gift ideas Opal has. ---
**Author:** ![Hbns](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/8edcca/32.png) [@Hbns](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hbns)\ **Post date:** [December 16, 2011, 8:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-opalcat-but-my-hearts-not-really-in-it/605872/291 "2011-12-16T20:07:44Z")
> [@Ichbin\_Dubist](#): > > I don’t know shit about her lifestyle, though, and I really don’t care. Or that of anyone here. I find the whole good kids/mean kids thing that goes on here not that interesting. So why are you participating as a “good kid”? ---
**Author:** ![bucketybuck](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/898d66/32.png) [@bucketybuck](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bucketybuck)\ **Post date:** [December 16, 2011, 8:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-opalcat-but-my-hearts-not-really-in-it/605872/292 "2011-12-16T20:25:28Z")
> [@yams](#): > > Why on earth would you post this? Would you say this in real life, knowing the person whose looks you are trashing was standing right there and could hear every word? Meh. Its what I thought, so thats what I said. I cant remember ever getting involved in any Opal drama, but if you are all going to clutter up the boards with this drama-of-the-week bullshit then I am going to offer my opinion should I feel like it. And as a horny young man, my opinion was mainly concerned with whether or not she was as hot as all the kitty fuckers seemed to think. ---
**Author:** ![Amber\_in\_Treasury](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/bc79bd/32.png) [@Amber\_in\_Treasury](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Amber_in_Treasury)\ **Post date:** [December 16, 2011, 8:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-opalcat-but-my-hearts-not-really-in-it/605872/293 "2011-12-16T20:28:37Z")
> [@Hbns](#): > > Deary, it isn’t that these people think nice gifts have to be expensive, it is that Opal solicits shopping advice and is massively dismissive toward the input she gets. > > As always with these requests there were many great suggestions meeting the criteria and as is Opal’s way, additional reasoning is trotted out to dismiss most of them in kind. Attempts to help her identify what the recipient might enjoy were brushed aside as well. > > Basically it boils down to not being able to help those who aren’t open to assistance. After trying to be helpful in several of these threads of hers and all going the same way, I am convinced she starts these threads simply so we can marvel at what great gift ideas Opal has. Deary, I get what you mean and also find Opal’s attention-seeking behaviour highly irritating. My post wasn’t meant as a defense of Opal so much as it was a reaction to Clockwork Jackal’s earlier post (which I found to be rather snobby and ridiculous). (A mild hijacking, in other words.) ---
**Author:** ![Giraffe](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/giraffe/32/129_2.png) [@Giraffe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Giraffe)\ **Post date:** [December 16, 2011, 8:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-opalcat-but-my-hearts-not-really-in-it/605872/294 "2011-12-16T20:30:09Z")
> [@bucketybuck](#): > > Meh. Its what I thought, so thats what I said. I cant remember ever getting involved in any Opal drama, but if you are all going to clutter up the boards with this drama-of-the-week bullshit then I am going to offer my opinion should I feel like it. And as a horny young man, my opinion was mainly concerned with whether or not she was as hot as all the kitty fuckers seemed to think. [Internet Male Syndrome](http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Internet%20Male%20Syndrome) ---
**Author:** ![bucketybuck](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/898d66/32.png) [@bucketybuck](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bucketybuck)\ **Post date:** [December 16, 2011, 8:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-opalcat-but-my-hearts-not-really-in-it/605872/295 "2011-12-16T20:34:42Z")
> [@Giraffe](#): > > [Internet Male Syndrome](http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Internet%20Male%20Syndrome) Oh its true, I am desperate, and I would fuck anything. Or as they say here, “He’d get up on a shuck ditch”. ---
**Author:** ![Hbns](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/8edcca/32.png) [@Hbns](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hbns)\ **Post date:** [December 16, 2011, 8:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-opalcat-but-my-hearts-not-really-in-it/605872/296 "2011-12-16T20:48:33Z")
> [@Amber\_in\_Treasury](#): > > Deary, I get what you mean and also find Opal’s attention-seeking behaviour highly irritating. My post wasn’t meant as a defense of Opal so much as it was a reaction to Clockwork Jackal’s earlier post (which I found to be rather snobby and ridiculous). (A mild hijacking, in other words.) I get where you are coming from. Just wanted it to be clear that her desires in these sort of requests usually outpace her budget so you get a lot of comments along the lines of, “That’s the right price but not quite what I want.” “That’s what I want but too expensive.” After the cycle gets repeated several times in various iterations, it isn’t surprising that some get fed up and tell her that her budget isn’t realistic to her desires. Hell I nearly hit a home-run in the earrings for mom thread. Acceptable style, color, material, price… just not large enough apparently. Of course being small was necessitated by the price point. :-/ For my part I learned my lesson and won’t participate again. As the saying goes. You can please some of the people some of the time, but there is always that one pain in the ass that you can’t please no matter what the fuck you do. ---
**Author:** ![armedmonkey](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/d6d6ee/32.png) [@armedmonkey](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/armedmonkey)\ **Post date:** [December 16, 2011, 8:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-opalcat-but-my-hearts-not-really-in-it/605872/297 "2011-12-16T20:52:16Z")
> [@Amber\_in\_Treasury](#): > > > [@Cat Whisperer](#): > > > > There was a spammer here recently (I think it was called The Brush) who wanted to buy our hair. > > Really? It wanted fetish videos of Koreans combing their hair, offered to give us dandruff prevention tips, and holds an insane prejudice. From [here](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?p=14559590#post14559590) > [@the brush](#): > > Anyone know of any quality adult haircombing websites? Some guys are into feet, I’m into haircombing. If you have any amateur haircombing videos and are between the ages of 36 and 52 and are also Korean please pm me. Also pm me if you have dandruff and want tips on how to have sexy full luxurious hair. > > bald people are not people at all. > > —the brush ---
**Author:** ![elninost0rm](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/ed655f/32.png) [@elninost0rm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/elninost0rm)\ **Post date:** [December 16, 2011, 9:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-opalcat-but-my-hearts-not-really-in-it/605872/298 "2011-12-16T21:20:19Z")
> [@A Monkey With a Gun](#): > > It wanted fetish videos of Koreans combing their hair, offered to give us dandruff prevention tips, and holds an insane prejudice. From [here](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?p=14559590#post14559590) Made my day. ---
**Author:** ![Electric\_Warrior](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/ee7513/32.png) [@Electric\_Warrior](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Electric_Warrior)\ **Post date:** [December 16, 2011, 10:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-opalcat-but-my-hearts-not-really-in-it/605872/299 "2011-12-16T22:36:35Z")
> [@Shodan](#): > > FYI, there is an organization called [Locks of Love](http://www.nytimes.com/books/first/s/stanley-millionaire.html) that makes hairpieces for people undergoing chemotherapy from donated hair. [hijack] FYI, [no they don’t](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Locks_of_love#Criticisms). They sell your hair to people who make hairpieces for men with alopecia. I looked around briefly and it appears [Pantene Beautiful Lengths](http://www.pantene.com/en-US/beautiful-lengths-refresh/Pages/default.aspx) is a much better program. [/hijack] ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Whisperer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cat_whisperer/32/4839_2.png) [@Cat\_Whisperer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Whisperer)\ **Post date:** [December 16, 2011, 10:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-opalcat-but-my-hearts-not-really-in-it/605872/300 "2011-12-16T22:45:01Z")
> [@Ichbin\_Dubist](#): > > \ > I don’t know shit about her lifestyle, though, and I really don’t care. Or that of anyone here. I find the whole good kids/mean kids thing that goes on here not that interesting. I meant the lifestyle that she seems to have made out of over-sharing here. I guess describing her bowel movements and sex life to us is in detail is okay, but looking at naked pictures of her that are on the internet (and not very well secured) isn’t. It’s hard to tell where the line is if someone dances back and forth over it. > [@A Monkey With a Gun](#): > > It wanted fetish videos of Koreans combing their hair, offered to give us dandruff prevention tips, and holds an insane prejudice. From [here](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?p=14559590#post14559590) See, spammers like that make me regret the policy of deleting their posts - it was hysterical, how weird that poster was. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-opalcat-but-my-hearts-not-really-in-it/605872.md?page=14) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-opalcat-but-my-hearts-not-really-in-it/605872.md?page=16)