# I pit people who defend jerks. **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [July 29, 2010, 10:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-people-who-defend-jerks/548437 "2010-07-29T10:38:59Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 8\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![Rigamarole](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/77aa72/32.png) [@Rigamarole](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rigamarole)\ **Post date:** [July 30, 2010, 2:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-people-who-defend-jerks/548437/41 "2010-07-30T02:40:06Z")
> [@John\_Mace](#): > > I’m here to defend the OP. What a jerk. In fact, I’m going to _refuse_ to defend the OP because of what a fucking jerk he is. That means he should like me, right? ---
**Author:** ![Guinastasia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guinastasia/32/5751_2.png) [@Guinastasia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Guinastasia)\ **Post date:** [July 30, 2010, 3:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-people-who-defend-jerks/548437/42 "2010-07-30T03:36:22Z")
Let’s not forget him going to the Giraffe boards and asking us to help him spam the mods. Oh, but wait – we’re just a bunch of gossips and assholes whose only purpose is to cause trouble. Until it worked in his favor, that is. ---
**Author:** ![supergoose](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/aeb1de/32.png) [@supergoose](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/supergoose)\ **Post date:** [July 30, 2010, 4:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-people-who-defend-jerks/548437/43 "2010-07-30T04:04:14Z")
> [@olivesmarch4th](#): > > **BigT** , a word of advice from someone who’s been there. You can’t change what the Pit is. You can’t change what the Dope is. Sometimes the harsh demeanor and periodic rudeness can be really bad for people with psychological issues… we tend to overreact. I have and did and occasionally still do. But the thing is, the Dope is not responsible for how we feel. If you find yourself getting too hurt and emotionally invested in some drama unfolding, chances are this is an indication that you need some time away or perhaps in need of a paradigm shift before this is going to be a healthy pursuit for you. . I also find that when I get disproportionately effected emotionally by a topic/thread/post, it often means there’s a personal issue lurking somewhere in it for me that I’m always better off for having rooted out and dealt with, or at least been made conscious of. ---
**Author:** ![zut](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/zut/32/2875_2.png) [@zut](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/zut)\ **Post date:** [July 30, 2010, 11:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-people-who-defend-jerks/548437/44 "2010-07-30T11:41:57Z")
> [@AClockworkMelon](#): > > What situation triggered this thread? **Maas** ’ thread? I’m reasonably sure it was [this one](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=572580), where **BigT** points out that praising someone for doing something is a basic social skill. So… good job asking that question! A tremendous addition to the thread! ---
**Author:** ![snoopygal](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/b487fb/32.png) [@snoopygal](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/snoopygal)\ **Post date:** [July 30, 2010, 11:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-people-who-defend-jerks/548437/45 "2010-07-30T11:54:23Z")
I think the whole notion of having to go to a separate forum to criticise someone is kind of weird. ---
**Author:** ![MTCicero](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/a4c791/32.png) [@MTCicero](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MTCicero)\ **Post date:** [July 30, 2010, 12:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-people-who-defend-jerks/548437/46 "2010-07-30T12:01:21Z")
> [@snoopygal](#): > > I think the whole notion of having to go to a separate forum to criticise someone is kind of weird. This. ---
**Author:** ![digs](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/digs/32/14889_2.png) [@digs](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/digs)\ **Post date:** [July 30, 2010, 7:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-people-who-defend-jerks/548437/47 "2010-07-30T19:14:58Z")
> [@Ace309](#): > > > [@BigT](#): > > > > Yeah, I’ve already wasted all my energy, so all you’re going to get is a tepid, lukewarm post here. Could be moved to MPSIMS if people don’t start insulting me. > > > > … > > > > Hope I don’t wind up banned, since apparently I’m not that good at the above. > > You’re not enjoying the boards lately, are you? You’ve seemed very distressed by board conduct recently. Why not take a vacation from The Dope then? I recently left the country to… well, to do nothing, and was away from all computers for weeks. It was good for me. ---
**Author:** ![Munch](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/munch/32/5281_2.png) [@Munch](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Munch)\ **Post date:** [July 30, 2010, 11:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-people-who-defend-jerks/548437/48 "2010-07-30T23:35:30Z")
Is it ironic that BigT won’t come back to defend himself in this thread? [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-people-who-defend-jerks/548437.md?page=2)