# I Pit Premature Sex and the Importance of Sex (especially in Western culture)
**URL:** https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-premature-sex-and-the-importance-of-sex-especially-in-western-culture/641127
**Category:** The BBQ Pit
**Created:** [November 15, 2012, 8:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-premature-sex-and-the-importance-of-sex-especially-in-western-culture/641127 "2012-11-15T20:53:47Z")
**Posts on this page:** 20
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### Author:  [@R3d\_Anonymous](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/R3d_Anonymous)
#### Post date: [November 15, 2012, 8:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-premature-sex-and-the-importance-of-sex-especially-in-western-culture/641127/1 "2012-11-15T20:53:47Z")
I literally cannot believe what I just heard from a few other people. Some people think that 75 PERCENT of whether or not a girl wants to be with you is based on SEX. WHAT ON EARTH? Is that serious? Because really, what percent of the time are you actually having sex in a love relationship? I mean I can understand LOOKS, and PERSONALITY, but to say sex is 75% of the relationship is like saying looks is only 12.5% and personality is only 12.5%. That’s BIZARRE.
It’s like sexual compatibility is mostly what people care about these days and it’s so sad. This probably also explains the utterly pathetic divorce rate in america: around 50% (I don’t know the exact number). Seriously, that’s as good as we can do? Wow! So you’re telling me that 1 in 2 relationships FAIL!
And I notice it happening in western countries more often too.
But what blew my mind was when people thought it was weird that a 16 year old wouldn’t have sex. Seriously, 16? That’s extremely young. I wouldn’t even think about that until my mid-20’s, or more accurately, until marriage! It’s a severe sin in some religions to have sex before marriage (I believe in one of those!) _CRITICAL READ_ Don’t criticize me for being against sex before marriage, that’s a different story, but it’s safe to assume that what I mean is sex before the age of 21 (that should be the lowest sex age because do you really think that college freshmen are mature enough to be having sex?)
I understand, sex feels good. Don’t argue that and also don’t make assumptions that, “Hey you’re just saying that because you can’t get any sex!” I have parents’ rules and religion to comply with, and even if I didn’t, I would still think a it’s ridiculous idea to be going for sex at such a young age.
I can’t believe that sexual compatibility causes millions of break-ups. Well then that’s not true love. If sexual incompatibility is enough to set off a relationship, then that wasn’t a relationship in the FIRST PLACE. In my opinion, you need a lot more than sexual compatibility in a relationship, and honestly, it only fits for 5% of the criteria. And come on, there’s always kissing/making out! In fact, I value the kissing/making out part for 10% because you do it much more often than just sex. The rest 85% is personality/behavior and looks. And honestly, if they get a “0” on sex and kissing, they would still have an excellent chance of being with me. Like I said, I’m not sexually demanding. I know it takes A HECK OF A LOT MORE than being “good” at sex (what’s that even supposed to mean; how are you “good” at sex?)
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### Author:  [@apollonia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/apollonia)
#### Post date: [November 15, 2012, 8:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-premature-sex-and-the-importance-of-sex-especially-in-western-culture/641127/2 "2012-11-15T20:56:36Z")
You’re fourteen years old. Why do you think you are in any way able to pontificate on this subject?
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### Author:  [@Euphonious\_Polemic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Euphonious_Polemic)
#### Post date: [November 15, 2012, 8:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-premature-sex-and-the-importance-of-sex-especially-in-western-culture/641127/3 "2012-11-15T20:57:43Z")
Don’t worry. A girl will eventually pay attention to you.
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### Author:  [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)
#### Post date: [November 15, 2012, 9:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-premature-sex-and-the-importance-of-sex-especially-in-western-culture/641127/4 "2012-11-15T21:13:57Z")
> [@apollonia](#):
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> You’re fourteen years old. Why do you think you are in any way able to pontificate on this subject?
14 YO, never in a long-term relationship, never had sex, never been married - I’m not one to say “go away grasshopper” but trust me in this you need real experience to be able to speak.
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### Author:  [@Scumpup](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Scumpup)
#### Post date: [November 15, 2012, 9:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-premature-sex-and-the-importance-of-sex-especially-in-western-culture/641127/5 "2012-11-15T21:18:04Z")
“Go,” Marten said gently, “Go and find your hand.”
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### Author:  [@Feyrat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Feyrat)
#### Post date: [November 15, 2012, 9:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-premature-sex-and-the-importance-of-sex-especially-in-western-culture/641127/6 "2012-11-15T21:18:44Z")
Adorable. Mini recreational outrage!
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### Author:  [@Jack\_Batty](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jack_Batty)
#### Post date: [November 15, 2012, 9:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-premature-sex-and-the-importance-of-sex-especially-in-western-culture/641127/7 "2012-11-15T21:20:22Z")
Where do your parents stand on masturbation? Something tells me you’re going to need to fall back on that one for a long time.
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### Author:  [@Robot\_Arm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Robot_Arm)
#### Post date: [November 15, 2012, 9:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-premature-sex-and-the-importance-of-sex-especially-in-western-culture/641127/8 "2012-11-15T21:33:30Z")
> [@Anonymous User](#):
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> I understand, sex feels good. Don’t argue that and also don’t make assumptions that, “Hey you’re just saying that because you can’t get any sex!” I have parents’ rules and religion to comply with, and even if I didn’t, I would still think a it’s ridiculous idea to be going for sex at such a young age.
Not everyone has the same parents you do, or has the same religion you do, or thinks the same things that you do.
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### Author:  [@Smeghead](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Smeghead)
#### Post date: [November 15, 2012, 9:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-premature-sex-and-the-importance-of-sex-especially-in-western-culture/641127/9 "2012-11-15T21:34:42Z")
I’ve stopped believing that anything you’ve ever said here has been in any way sincere.
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### Author:  [@Rollo\_Tomasi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rollo_Tomasi)
#### Post date: [November 15, 2012, 9:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-premature-sex-and-the-importance-of-sex-especially-in-western-culture/641127/10 "2012-11-15T21:39:02Z")
> [@Anonymous User](#):
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> It’s like sexual compatibility is mostly what people care about these days and it’s so sad. This probably also explains the utterly pathetic divorce rate in america: around 50% (I don’t know the exact number). Seriously, that’s as good as we can do? Wow! So you’re telling me that 1 in 2 relationships FAIL!
What if I told you that two of the divorced couples I know were all virgins until their wedding nights?
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### Author:  [@Shagnasty](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shagnasty)
#### Post date: [November 15, 2012, 9:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-premature-sex-and-the-importance-of-sex-especially-in-western-culture/641127/11 "2012-11-15T21:39:10Z")
MIT considers sexual exploration as one of their core values. They are going to be pissed at you when they see this thread.
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### Author:  [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)
#### Post date: [November 15, 2012, 9:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-premature-sex-and-the-importance-of-sex-especially-in-western-culture/641127/12 "2012-11-15T21:43:41Z")
> [@Rollo\_Tomasi](#):
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> What if I told you that two of the divorced couples I know were all virgins until their wedding nights?
Or my parents, who were virgins, met on their wedding day, stuck it together for thirty years AND WERE COMPLETELY FUCKING MISERABLE. And made me miserable!
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### Author:  [@R3d\_Anonymous](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/R3d_Anonymous)
#### Post date: [November 15, 2012, 9:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-premature-sex-and-the-importance-of-sex-especially-in-western-culture/641127/13 "2012-11-15T21:44:41Z")
> [@Shagnasty](#):
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> MIT considers sexual exploration as one of their core values. They are going to be pissed at you when they see this thread.
Give me evidence of that.
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### Author:  [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)
#### Post date: [November 15, 2012, 9:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-premature-sex-and-the-importance-of-sex-especially-in-western-culture/641127/14 "2012-11-15T21:45:43Z")
You’re one to ask for evidence.
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### Author:  [@Lanzy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lanzy)
#### Post date: [November 15, 2012, 9:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-premature-sex-and-the-importance-of-sex-especially-in-western-culture/641127/15 "2012-11-15T21:46:42Z")
Dumbest pit I have ever seen. I mean really, 21 before having sex, that’s a waste of some really powerful years.
Wait, are you really 14? No wonder sex is on your mind all the time.
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### Author:  [@DrFidelius](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DrFidelius)
#### Post date: [November 15, 2012, 9:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-premature-sex-and-the-importance-of-sex-especially-in-western-culture/641127/16 "2012-11-15T21:50:28Z")
Oh, it’s you again. Nevermind.
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### Author:  [@tdn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tdn)
#### Post date: [November 15, 2012, 9:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-premature-sex-and-the-importance-of-sex-especially-in-western-culture/641127/17 "2012-11-15T21:56:34Z")
> [@Anonymous User](#):
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> Give me evidence of that.
You know another value that girls like? A sense of humor.
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### Author:  [@Furious\_Marmot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Furious_Marmot)
#### Post date: [November 15, 2012, 9:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-premature-sex-and-the-importance-of-sex-especially-in-western-culture/641127/18 "2012-11-15T21:57:49Z")
> [@Shagnasty](#):
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> MIT considers sexual exploration as one of their core values. They are going to be pissed at you when they see this thread.
Goddamnit!! I knew I should have gone out for Engineering.
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### Author:  [@Euphonious\_Polemic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Euphonious_Polemic)
#### Post date: [November 15, 2012, 10:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-premature-sex-and-the-importance-of-sex-especially-in-western-culture/641127/19 "2012-11-15T22:03:07Z")
Hey **Anonymous User** : You know that cute girl in your math class? The one that is actually nice to you and smiles at you sometimes?
She’s totally doing it with that basketball guy. I think you should start a pit thread on that.
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### Author:  [@Missy2U](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Missy2U)
#### Post date: [November 15, 2012, 10:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-premature-sex-and-the-importance-of-sex-especially-in-western-culture/641127/20 "2012-11-15T22:23:40Z")
> [@Shagnasty](#):
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> MIT considers sexual exploration as one of their core values. They are going to be pissed at you when they see this thread.
Dude - just choked on what I’m drinking. Thanks! 😃
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