# I pit southern girls **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [June 4, 2012, 6:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-southern-girls/624062 "2012-06-04T18:35:17Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 8\ **Page:** 11
**Author:** ![Zsofia](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/7bcc69/32.png) [@Zsofia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Zsofia)\ **Post date:** [June 15, 2012, 12:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-southern-girls/624062/201 "2012-06-15T00:44:58Z")
> [@Sir\_T-Cups](#): > > No, but to your and everyone else’s defense…I am in college and therefore hang around college guys Most of the cool, decent guys I know once were college guys. ---
**Author:** ![Sampiro](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/2acd7d/32.png) [@Sampiro](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sampiro)\ **Post date:** [June 15, 2012, 12:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-southern-girls/624062/202 "2012-06-15T00:59:25Z")
> [@Zsofia](#): > > Most of the cool, decent guys I know once were college guys. I’ll bet they weren’t Yankees, though… 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Ibn\_Warraq](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/e19b73/32.png) [@Ibn\_Warraq](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ibn_Warraq)\ **Post date:** [June 15, 2012, 5:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-southern-girls/624062/203 "2012-06-15T05:03:13Z")
> [@Sir\_T-Cups](#): > > No, but to your and everyone else’s defense…I am in college and therefore hang around college guys Believe it or not, there are plenty of college guys who don’t behave the way you’re describing. Again, I’m reminded of someone squealing that they can’t stand women because all they do is blab about soap operas and complain about menstrual cramps. ---
**Author:** ![Try2B\_Comprehensive](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/try2b_comprehensive/32/65_2.png) [@Try2B\_Comprehensive](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Try2B_Comprehensive)\ **Post date:** [June 15, 2012, 6:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-southern-girls/624062/204 "2012-06-15T06:07:34Z")
I have the kind of girl friend you describe. We go places, we drink beers, we keep track of each other’s cats. She’s my ex gf! We dated for awile, I felt like I would rather be pals, she was able to get used to it and we’ve had all kinds of fun, platonic adventures. You could do it too. I dunno though, I still think your current circumstances are tough. Stay in a place for awhile and you can have some kind of reputation, even if it is only, “There’s that guy.” If nobody really knows you then no one can vouch for you in even a casual way, which might make it difficult to establish trust quickly enough to get through the gf part and get to the platonic part of my plan before your time is up. Of course I am friends with my gf too. Would you consider finding a gf if it came with a good ‘friend’ part? ---
**Author:** ![Southern\_Yankee](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/southern_yankee/32/2800_2.png) [@Southern\_Yankee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Southern_Yankee)\ **Post date:** [June 15, 2012, 10:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-southern-girls/624062/205 "2012-06-15T10:19:46Z")
> [@Sampiro](#): > > I’ll bet they weren’t Yankees, though… > > 😉 Hey! 🆒 ---
**Author:** ![Zsofia](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/7bcc69/32.png) [@Zsofia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Zsofia)\ **Post date:** [June 15, 2012, 1:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-southern-girls/624062/206 "2012-06-15T13:02:43Z")
> [@Sampiro](#): > > I’ll bet they weren’t Yankees, though… > > 😉 Eh, a few of them. Nobody I knew from college, though - I went to a southern _women’s college_, the idea of which must make the OP extraordinarily twitchy. ---
**Author:** ![BottledBlondJeanie](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/0ea827/32.png) [@BottledBlondJeanie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BottledBlondJeanie)\ **Post date:** [June 15, 2012, 2:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-southern-girls/624062/207 "2012-06-15T14:11:12Z")
> [@Sir\_T-Cups](#): > > I still don’t see your point in that statement, or why you think the problem lies with me. > > I’m doing absolutely nothing other than talking to these girls. “Hi How are you, where do you live? What do you do? Are you from here? Oh, that’s interesting..tell me about…” There is nothing in those lines of questions that is hitting on them, I don’t mention their looks, ask for their number, do any of that stuff. I’m making conversation and they shun me for it simply because I don’t have a drawl. Dear, read that again. And you’re saying you mostly do this at bars? You are hitting on them. They will certainly think you are, and there’s no way to dissuade them of this in the 10 seconds you get to make a first impression. Plus, your protestations of it all being platonic ring hollow, bless your heart. ---
**Author:** ![Sampiro](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/2acd7d/32.png) [@Sampiro](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sampiro)\ **Post date:** [June 15, 2012, 5:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-southern-girls/624062/208 "2012-06-15T17:29:34Z")
[QUOTE=BottledBlondJeanie] bless your heart. [/QUOTE] There’s no need for that kind of language in here; take it outside. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-southern-girls/624062.md?page=10)