# I pit the sorry asshole that hit my daughter's car last night. **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [April 26, 2005, 7:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-the-sorry-asshole-that-hit-my-daughters-car-last-night/301215 "2005-04-26T19:01:21Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![GaWd](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/f08c70/32.png) [@GaWd](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GaWd)\ **Post date:** [May 16, 2005, 4:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-the-sorry-asshole-that-hit-my-daughters-car-last-night/301215/41 "2005-05-16T16:55:11Z")
user- 2x the medical is not in play in California anymore. I’d thought it was an industry-wide thing, but maybe not. Here you’re lucky to get your note paid off completely, and doubly lucky if you have any money for your pain, trouble, and loss of a beloved car that they totaled-even with an attorney after they take their fees and the insured has maxed out their policy. Sam ---
**Author:** ![harmless](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/2acd7d/32.png) [@harmless](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/harmless)\ **Post date:** [May 16, 2005, 6:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-the-sorry-asshole-that-hit-my-daughters-car-last-night/301215/42 "2005-05-16T18:37:45Z")
> [@Clothahump](#): > > Once we are done with the insurance folks, though, there’s still the matter of a 22 year old asshole who nearly killed my daughter. I imagine the only reason the twat showed up at all was because he was prompted to do so by a phone call from the police after they ran the tag. The asshole. :mad: What I’m curious about is what the _fuck_ did this miserable excuse for a fucklette have to say for his sorry ass? Did the police say, or have you had the chance to ask his pathetic ass for yourself? ---
**Author:** ![Quartz](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/quartz/32/267_2.png) [@Quartz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Quartz)\ **Post date:** [May 16, 2005, 9:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-the-sorry-asshole-that-hit-my-daughters-car-last-night/301215/43 "2005-05-16T21:02:52Z")
I don’t suppose it was some young twerp driving his father’s car? ---
**Author:** ![Clothahump](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/51bf81/32.png) [@Clothahump](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Clothahump)\ **Post date:** [May 17, 2005, 6:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-the-sorry-asshole-that-hit-my-daughters-car-last-night/301215/44 "2005-05-17T18:19:59Z")
> [@harmless](#): > > I imagine the only reason the twat showed up at all was because he was prompted to do so by a phone call from the police after they ran the tag. > The asshole. :mad: > > What I’m curious about is what the _fuck_ did this miserable excuse for a fucklette have to say for his sorry ass? > Did the police say, or have you had the chance to ask his pathetic ass for yourself? Not yet. SWMBO has, very reasonably, suggested that I keep myself leashed until we have settled with the insurance company. I will then make myself known to him, to the point where he will have the screaming heebie-jeebies if anyone mentions my name around him for the rest of his life. But before I light him up, I’m going to use the “reasonable, rational” approach on him and suggest that we meet and talk. I will then, quite calmly, ask him to justify his nearly killing my daughter. I really want to hear his pathetic attempts to do so. Then I’ll lose it. :mad: ---
**Author:** ![Clothahump](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/51bf81/32.png) [@Clothahump](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Clothahump)\ **Post date:** [May 17, 2005, 6:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-the-sorry-asshole-that-hit-my-daughters-car-last-night/301215/45 "2005-05-17T18:21:13Z")
> [@Quartz](#): > > I don’t suppose it was some young twerp driving his father’s car? Nope. He owns the car. Or will until I get through with him. ---
**Author:** ![wnorthr](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/ecccb3/32.png) [@wnorthr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wnorthr)\ **Post date:** [May 17, 2005, 6:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-the-sorry-asshole-that-hit-my-daughters-car-last-night/301215/46 "2005-05-17T18:23:08Z")
Clothahump, when I had my car totaled the insurance just wrote a check for what the rental car should have cost for however many days it took to resolve. If I had known that I would have just bought a new car immediately an I could have kept the money for the rental. Your daughter might be able to do the same thing if she has access to another car. ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Whisperer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cat_whisperer/32/4839_2.png) [@Cat\_Whisperer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Whisperer)\ **Post date:** [May 17, 2005, 7:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-the-sorry-asshole-that-hit-my-daughters-car-last-night/301215/47 "2005-05-17T19:32:03Z")
Um. what you seem to be talking about sounds illegal, **clothahump** , however justified it may be. Are you sure you want to go down that road? If you were to do something to this guy, they would throw the book at you. He did a very bad thing; you doing bad things won’t fix that, and it could get you imprisoned. ---
**Author:** ![GingerOfTheNorth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/cdc98d/32.png) [@GingerOfTheNorth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GingerOfTheNorth)\ **Post date:** [May 17, 2005, 11:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-the-sorry-asshole-that-hit-my-daughters-car-last-night/301215/48 "2005-05-17T23:07:27Z")
> [@Clothahump](#): > > At that point, I think my daughter’s back is going to start hurting again, but I’m not sure. This is insurance fraud. Don’t do it. ---
**Author:** ![Cheesesteak](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cheesesteak/32/3694_2.png) [@Cheesesteak](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cheesesteak)\ **Post date:** [May 18, 2005, 12:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-the-sorry-asshole-that-hit-my-daughters-car-last-night/301215/49 "2005-05-18T00:49:05Z")
Clothahump, I know you’re still upset, but insurance fraud, harassment and battery are not the way to deal with it. ---
**Author:** ![Clothahump](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/51bf81/32.png) [@Clothahump](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Clothahump)\ **Post date:** [May 18, 2005, 3:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-the-sorry-asshole-that-hit-my-daughters-car-last-night/301215/50 "2005-05-18T15:45:20Z")
> [@featherlou](#): > > Um. what you seem to be talking about sounds illegal, **clothahump** , however justified it may be. Are you sure you want to go down that road? If you were to do something to this guy, they would throw the book at you. He did a very bad thing; you doing bad things won’t fix that, and it could get you imprisoned. Nope. If you’ll read back a few messages, I was soliciting input from the Collective DoperBrain on _legal_ things I could do to make his life miserable. I have a list, I would simply like to add to it, and the level of creativity on this board should come up with some truly awesome stuff. ---
**Author:** ![Clothahump](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/51bf81/32.png) [@Clothahump](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Clothahump)\ **Post date:** [May 18, 2005, 3:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-the-sorry-asshole-that-hit-my-daughters-car-last-night/301215/51 "2005-05-18T15:48:25Z")
> [@Cheesesteak](#): > > Clothahump, I know you’re still upset, but insurance fraud, harassment and battery are not the way to deal with it. No fraud whatsoever. Simply a bargaining point. And no battery, either. Although I will admit that it would do my soul a world of good to visit him in the middle of the night and introduce his kneecaps to my crowbar, it just ain’t gonna happen. Blowing off steam here on the board is as close to it as I’ll get. ---
**Author:** ![Cheesesteak](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cheesesteak/32/3694_2.png) [@Cheesesteak](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cheesesteak)\ **Post date:** [May 18, 2005, 4:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-the-sorry-asshole-that-hit-my-daughters-car-last-night/301215/52 "2005-05-18T16:15:41Z")
I assume you’re just blowing off steam here, but a lot of the things you’re hinting you might do are illegal or unethical and, if traced back to you, can get you in a lot of trouble. Your daughter’s injuries are not a bargaining chip to get a better deal on the car settlement. If she’s injured, she should get a settlement for that, regardless of good a deal she got on the car. I don’t think you can make this guy’s life miserable legally. As far as YOU are concerned, this was nothing more than a traffic accident, and whether he ran a red light, or did something else to cause the accident, all you can do is sue him for damages, which his insurance will most likely cover. The authorities may make his life hell with the criminal charges he deserves, but you don’t make those decisions. ---
**Author:** ![Critical1](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/3e96dc/32.png) [@Critical1](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Critical1)\ **Post date:** [May 18, 2005, 4:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-the-sorry-asshole-that-hit-my-daughters-car-last-night/301215/53 "2005-05-18T16:29:44Z")
Get your Daughter to a doctor/Chiropracter ASAP. in 2000 some retard pulled his car out of a parking lot directly into my lane and stopped. it was pretty minor as accidents go, about 25ish mph head on (or almost) I am STILL having back and neck issues over this. on another note (and I aint tryin to be a dick here) when the light turns green Turn your head and LOOK left and right BEFORE you enter. light changes are the most common point for colisions at intersections and are very dangerous due to the right angle type of crash. (I teach defensive driving) I repeat have your daughter checked out, even if shes 100% aok you still need to confirm this. ---
**Author:** ![GaWd](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/f08c70/32.png) [@GaWd](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GaWd)\ **Post date:** [May 18, 2005, 4:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-the-sorry-asshole-that-hit-my-daughters-car-last-night/301215/54 "2005-05-18T16:46:12Z")
I second what others have said about seeing a doctor. My wife was lucky after her accident-a T-bone total by some old bag(with a cast on her foot), who ran through a WAY red light(way red as in my wife was the second car into the intersection)-because my mom was her chiro, and was able to continue treatment even after her medpay ran out. After 3 years, her whiplash injuries are finally healed enough that she doesn’t experience crushing headaches and neck pain on a daily basis. Sam ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Whisperer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cat_whisperer/32/4839_2.png) [@Cat\_Whisperer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Whisperer)\ **Post date:** [May 19, 2005, 12:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-the-sorry-asshole-that-hit-my-daughters-car-last-night/301215/55 "2005-05-19T00:09:49Z")
Understood. It must be horribly frustrating for you as a parent to have somebody endanger your child and not be able to do anything about it. ---
**Author:** ![Martin\_Hyde](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/47e85d/32.png) [@Martin\_Hyde](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Martin_Hyde)\ **Post date:** [May 19, 2005, 2:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-the-sorry-asshole-that-hit-my-daughters-car-last-night/301215/56 "2005-05-19T02:23:46Z")
> [@Clothahump](#): > > Not yet. SWMBO has, very reasonably, suggested that I keep myself leashed until we have settled with the insurance company. I will then make myself known to him, to the point where he will have the screaming heebie-jeebies if anyone mentions my name around him for the rest of his life. > > But before I light him up, I’m going to use the “reasonable, rational” approach on him and suggest that we meet and talk. I will then, quite calmly, ask him to justify his nearly killing my daughter. I really want to hear his pathetic attempts to do so. > > Then I’ll lose it. :mad: If I was the guy our meeting would go like this. “I’m sorry I hit your daughter and then didn’t stop, that was wrong and I completely apologize.” “However, I had no intention of killing your daughter. I ran the red light accidentally, this was an accident, there was no malice on my part. You are a very unpleasant person, if you try to contact me again in any way, or act threateningly again, I will get an order of protection against you. Good day.” ---
**Author:** ![lorinada](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/b5e925/32.png) [@lorinada](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lorinada)\ **Post date:** [May 19, 2005, 3:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-the-sorry-asshole-that-hit-my-daughters-car-last-night/301215/57 "2005-05-19T03:49:13Z")
What **Martin Hyde** said. She walked away without even needing to see a physician, that’s hardly “almost killed”. Walk through any busy emergency room and see the kids who really have been “almost killed” and then get down on your knees and thank your higher power that the only thing that happened to your daughter was that her car was wrecked. If you had said that the day after the accident I would pass it off as shock, but as it’s been…what…three weeks? I think you need to get a grip and get some perspective. ---
**Author:** ![Martin\_Hyde](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/47e85d/32.png) [@Martin\_Hyde](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Martin_Hyde)\ **Post date:** [May 19, 2005, 7:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-the-sorry-asshole-that-hit-my-daughters-car-last-night/301215/58 "2005-05-19T19:33:03Z")
I’d be pissed as hell if I was in his situation. But the thing is he didn’t try to “kill your daughter” unless you think he ran the red light with the intention of t-boning her. He was reckless, and after being reckless he was stupid (by running away from the scene.) I’ve seen nothing to indicate he was a killer though. I’d say he owes you an apology and you should probably milk him for money too. But the hyperbolic comment “tried to kill my daughter” just doesn’t sit right for me. ---
**Author:** ![Skywatcher](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/skywatcher/32/254_2.png) [@Skywatcher](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Skywatcher)\ **Post date:** [May 19, 2005, 7:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-the-sorry-asshole-that-hit-my-daughters-car-last-night/301215/59 "2005-05-19T19:47:13Z")
**lorinada**? **Martin**? **Clothahump** is just blowing off steam, says so at the top of this page. Nothing to get worked up about. ---
**Author:** ![Clothahump](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/51bf81/32.png) [@Clothahump](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Clothahump)\ **Post date:** [May 20, 2005, 3:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-the-sorry-asshole-that-hit-my-daughters-car-last-night/301215/60 "2005-05-20T15:10:18Z")
> [@\*\*lorinada\*\*](#): > > What **Martin Hyde** said. She walked away without even needing to see a physician, that’s hardly “almost killed”. Walk through any busy emergency room and see the kids who really have been “almost killed” and then get down on your knees and thank your higher power that the only thing that happened to your daughter was that her car was wrecked. > > If you had said that the day after the accident I would pass it off as shock, but as it’s been…what…three weeks? I think you need to get a grip and get some perspective. Hey, up yours, **lorinada**. He was driving an SUV, she was driving a Saturn. He hit her directly over the left rear tire. The only reason he didn’t T-bone her right over the driver’s door was that she saw him out of the corner of her eye and stomped the gas. If he had T-boned her on her door, he would have killed or hideously injured her. That is “almost killed”. Let me draw you a parallel. You’re walking down the street and somebody shoots at you. The bullet hits the wall next to you, about an inch away from your ear. Are you going to tell me you weren’t “almost killed”? :wally [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-the-sorry-asshole-that-hit-my-daughters-car-last-night/301215.md?page=2) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-the-sorry-asshole-that-hit-my-daughters-car-last-night/301215.md?page=4)