# "I saw her again last night..." **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [January 13, 2003, 7:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-saw-her-again-last-night/148346 "2003-01-13T19:11:09Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 5\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Algernon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a183cd/32.png) [@Algernon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Algernon)\ **Post date:** [January 13, 2003, 7:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-saw-her-again-last-night/148346/1 "2003-01-13T19:11:09Z")
“… and I knew that I shouldn’t.” (Phillips-Doherty) And it wasn’t the first time. She was my high school and college sweetheart. We were, more or less, a steady couple for seven years. After all that time, the breakup was like a divorce. Essentially, I left her for another woman, to whom I’ve now been married for over 20 years. Before anyone jumps on my case, I have to point out that I saw her in a dream, not in reality. It’s weird. For over 20 years, I’ve had a recurring dream about her. On average I’d say the dream occurs about once a month. The dream theme is always similar and it always ends the same way… where her and I are together. This used to disturb me, but it no longer does. I recognize that it is just my unconscious mind “escaping”, because these dreams seem to occur when I’m under some sort of stress. [This thread](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?s=&threadid=156135) describes my current stress. Driving in to work this morning, recalling the dream, this sprung into my head… “When I find myself in times of trouble, then she comes and visits me, speaking words of wisdom, be with me. Be with me.” (With apologies to Lennon/McCartney.) That’s all. Mindless, pointless, and all that. ---
**Author:** ![Legomancer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/779978/32.png) [@Legomancer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Legomancer)\ **Post date:** [January 13, 2003, 7:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-saw-her-again-last-night/148346/2 "2003-01-13T19:17:25Z")
I’ve had the same thing. High school sweetheart, first love, etc. And a recurring dream that we’re together, or that we have the potential to be. Similarly, I get the dreams when under stress. I wake up feeling like I’ve been punched in the stomach. ---
**Author:** ![World\_Eater](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/f04885/32.png) [@World\_Eater](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/World_Eater)\ **Post date:** [January 13, 2003, 7:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-saw-her-again-last-night/148346/3 "2003-01-13T19:18:08Z")
For some reason I can only picture Mr. Burns floating through the window. ---
**Author:** ![WavyDavy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/3da27b/32.png) [@WavyDavy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/WavyDavy)\ **Post date:** [January 13, 2003, 8:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-saw-her-again-last-night/148346/4 "2003-01-13T20:05:06Z")
Yup. I have a similiar dream periodically. I had the best relationship with my high school and college sweetheart. After it eventually ended, I spent a long time searching for the same thing again before realizing I might let my entire life slip by. Later on I got married. It’s a different relationship and probably better for the long term. We’ve been married sixteen years. But I still miss my HS sweetheart, and I still have those dreams. These days I just figure I was pretty lucky to have had a time like that in my life. ---
**Author:** ![Algernon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a183cd/32.png) [@Algernon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Algernon)\ **Post date:** [January 13, 2003, 8:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-saw-her-again-last-night/148346/5 "2003-01-13T20:13:03Z")
It is reassuring to discover that I am not the only one who experiences this phenomenon. Fascinating.