# I shouldn't read the SDMB when I'm drunk...
**URL:** https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-shouldnt-read-the-sdmb-when-im-drunk/168147
**Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share
**Created:** [April 12, 2003, 12:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-shouldnt-read-the-sdmb-when-im-drunk/168147 "2003-04-12T00:02:31Z")
**Posts on this page:** 8
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### Author:  [@Khadaji](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Khadaji)
#### Post date: [April 12, 2003, 12:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-shouldnt-read-the-sdmb-when-im-drunk/168147/1 "2003-04-12T00:02:31Z")
Coming home from beers with the boys from work, I felt pretty good. Great actually. It was a busy week, but very productive. We went out and blew off steam and had a lot of laughs. It is a good team. Then I came home and checked the SMDB and then some threads that I had posted to. This [one](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?s=&postid=3271087#post3271087) was one of them. Reading that post in the state I’m in really brought me down. ☹
Mind you, I also just posted that Life can be good if you let it…
But I’m a little drunk and the thread hit too close to home and I confess I’m sitting here with tears in my eyes.
Life can be good if you let it, but sometimes its a bitch.
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### Author:  [@norinew](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/norinew)
#### Post date: [April 12, 2003, 2:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-shouldnt-read-the-sdmb-when-im-drunk/168147/2 "2003-04-12T02:56:54Z")
Well, Khadaji, for whatever it’s worth, I have tears in my eyes, too, and I’m not even drunk!
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### Author:  [@Ruby](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ruby)
#### Post date: [April 12, 2003, 3:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-shouldnt-read-the-sdmb-when-im-drunk/168147/3 "2003-04-12T03:38:27Z")
I posted this in the other thread too you both should know that you are not alone. I, too, lost my dad to emphysema and it’s miserable. The pain of losing a parent is something that effected me on a very base level. Without going into a long monologue, suffice it to say I took the opportunity to make some changes in my life and am now remembering to be grateful for each day that I have on this earth.
Bless you both. If you want to talk, my email addy is in my profile.
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### Author:  [@norinew](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/norinew)
#### Post date: [April 12, 2003, 1:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-shouldnt-read-the-sdmb-when-im-drunk/168147/4 "2003-04-12T13:11:37Z")
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> \*Originally posted by norinew \*
> \*\*Well, Khadaji, for whatever it’s worth, I have tears in my eyes, too, and I’m not even drunk! \*\*
**Khadaji** , after posting this, it occurred to me that it might have sounded snarky. If so, I apologize. I don’t even know what I meant by this comment. I certainly didn’t mean to downplay or belittle your feelings. I hope that you have people you can lean on and turn to. I have such people in my life, and am counting them as true blessings right now.
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### Author:  [@Khadaji](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Khadaji)
#### Post date: [April 12, 2003, 1:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-shouldnt-read-the-sdmb-when-im-drunk/168147/5 "2003-04-12T13:14:25Z")
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> \*Originally posted by norinew \*
> \*\ ***Khadaji** , after posting this, it occurred to me that it might have sounded snarky. If so, I apologize. I don’t even know what I meant by this comment. I certainly didn’t mean to downplay or belittle your feelings. I hope that you have people you can lean on and turn to. I have such people in my life, and am counting them as true blessings right now. \*\*
It didn’t sound snarky at all - I took it to mean that I wasn’t alone.
And now that it is morning and the sun is shining (and I’m sober) I am back to my usual (mostly) cheerful self.
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### Author:  [@Davebear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Davebear)
#### Post date: [April 12, 2003, 1:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-shouldnt-read-the-sdmb-when-im-drunk/168147/6 "2003-04-12T13:35:55Z")
I’ve been surprised by how often someone will post something like “I’m a little tipsy”, or “I’m kind of drunk”, here. Seems more common than I remember from other boards. Maybe the honesty level is higher, here.
FWIW, I thought it was a nice post you made to **norinew** ’s thread. I tried, but couldn’t come up with anything I thought was worth posting, other than a general sympathy post. And, he doesn’t know me, so it seemed inappropriate, at the time.
But, both of you have my deepest sympathies.
I lost my father when I was seven. He went to work one morning and never came home. The first we knew about it was when a state policeman showed up at our door, with a priest standing behind him. He’d suffered a heart attack while driving on the highway, and managed to pull over and climb into the back seat, where he died. I didn’t even get to see him, that morning, because he’d left before I got up. So, if there’s anything good about your situations, it’s that you at least have/had the opportunity to say goodbye. It doesn’t sound like much, now, but it will offer _some_ comfort, in the future.
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### Author:  [@norinew](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/norinew)
#### Post date: [April 13, 2003, 11:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-shouldnt-read-the-sdmb-when-im-drunk/168147/7 "2003-04-13T11:10:48Z")
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> _Originally posted by Davebear_
> if there’s anything good about your situations, it’s that you at least have/had the opportunity to say goodbye. It doesn’t sound like much, now, but it will offer some comfort, in the future.
I totally agree. I really dreaded calling my father. I didn’t want to. But I’m so glad now that I did. It is very comforting to know that we said goodbye properly. My sympathies on the loss of your father.
BTW, I’m a woman.
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### Author:  [@Davebear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Davebear)
#### Post date: [April 13, 2003, 1:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-shouldnt-read-the-sdmb-when-im-drunk/168147/8 "2003-04-13T13:06:46Z")
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> \*Originally posted by norinew \*
> \*\*I totally agree. I really dreaded calling my father. I didn’t want to. But I’m so glad now that I did. It is very comforting to know that we said goodbye properly. My sympathies on the loss of your father.
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> BTW, I’m a woman. \*\*
I’m sorry. I guess I didn’t read your post thoroughly enough. I don’t know why I assumed you were a man. And, thank you. In my case, it was so long ago, it’s no longer painful, really.
One of my biggest regrets in life, possibly the biggest, is that I didn’t say goodbye to my mother, properly. I won’t bore people with the details. I’ll just wish that others don’t make the same mistake.