# I stole a guy's hat a long time ago. **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [March 6, 2014, 9:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-stole-a-guys-hat-a-long-time-ago/683050 "2014-03-06T21:49:01Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 6\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![elbows](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/b3f665/32.png) [@elbows](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/elbows)\ **Post date:** [March 11, 2014, 2:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-stole-a-guys-hat-a-long-time-ago/683050/21 "2014-03-11T14:47:21Z")
You know when he’s telling the story it ends, “…but it was totally worth it because she was smoking hot!” ---
**Author:** ![Just\_Asking\_Questions](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/ba9def/32.png) [@Just\_Asking\_Questions](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Just_Asking_Questions)\ **Post date:** [March 11, 2014, 5:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-stole-a-guys-hat-a-long-time-ago/683050/22 "2014-03-11T17:28:36Z")
> [@Soylent\_Juicy](#): > > Thank you for your replies, everyone. I guess I can clear my conscience because I genuinely wanted to return the hat but simply never got the opportunity. I feel better now, 15 years later. 🙂 Did you miss the posts where guys said they were upset in similar situations? Because there were a lot of them. Just because you never had “hat closure”, that doesn’t mean they guy isn’t still upset. Fifty bucks in 1999 is a pricey hat! But hey you gave it to another boyfriend, so I guess that makes it OK. ---
**Author:** ![Yumblie](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/y/76d3ee/32.png) [@Yumblie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Yumblie)\ **Post date:** [March 12, 2014, 6:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-stole-a-guys-hat-a-long-time-ago/683050/23 "2014-03-12T06:51:39Z")
I have a story like this from the other side. At the beginning of my sophomore year of college I went to the dept office to fill out a form. I asked a guy standing next to me if I could quickly borrow a pen. After I finished the form, the guy was gone. I ended up using that pen for the rest of my college career. There wasn’t anything particularly special about the pen, but it was free, so that counted for a lot. ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [March 12, 2014, 10:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-stole-a-guys-hat-a-long-time-ago/683050/24 "2014-03-12T10:21:18Z")
Strange “memory” that I haven’t thought about in years . . . and a correction of that memory. When I was in college, back in the 60s, I lived in a rooming house. One of my housemates borrowed a vest from me. It was part of a suit, corduroy with leather buttons. He never gave it back. Now wait. There’s something wrong about that memory, and I just discovered what. I never had a corduroy suit with leather buttons, but one of my housemates did. I was the one who borrowed this guy’s vest and never gave it back. I don’t know what happened to it, I haven’t seen it in a couple of decades. I probably gave it away when I realized it would never again fit me. I have no idea why I took it or why I never returned it. But at least, after almost 50 years, I’ve corrected that “memory.” The mind works in mysterious ways. ---
**Author:** ![handsomeharry](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/e9c0ed/32.png) [@handsomeharry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/handsomeharry)\ **Post date:** [March 12, 2014, 10:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-stole-a-guys-hat-a-long-time-ago/683050/25 "2014-03-12T10:39:46Z")
> [@Soylent\_Juicy](#): > > When I was 25 (so, 15 years ago) I met some guy at the bar and he offered me a ride home. He was wearing a new ball cap and he was so happy about it because it had cost him $50 and was specially sized (not the adjustable kind). Anyway, I managed to talk him into giving me the hat, because drunk-me thought that was brilliant - he’d HAVE to call me for a date so I could give the hat back. I gave him my number but didn’t get his. I hung the hat on my bed post and waited for this guy to call. He never did. Now, maybe he did - I had a horrible tenant at the time so it’s very possible that I never got the message. I kept that hat for years hoping this dude would phone even just so I could return it to him. He was from out of town and we had no friends in common so I couldn’t track him down even if I wanted to back then. I eventually gave the hat to a later boyfriend. But to this very day I still feel bad about stealing some random stranger’s new hat. > > What I need to know is: Do guys really care about that sort of thing? > > A guy-friend told me that he probably wrote it off when it happened, but I still feel guilty. You “talked him into giving it to you.” Case closed. ---
**Author:** ![Omar\_Little](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/omar_little/32/269_2.png) [@Omar\_Little](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Omar_Little)\ **Post date:** [March 12, 2014, 2:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-stole-a-guys-hat-a-long-time-ago/683050/26 "2014-03-12T14:48:00Z")
I had a girl return a hat that she had taken from me about 10 years after the fact. Just received it in the mail one day with a very nice note. Hadn’t really missed it, but the gesture was nice. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-stole-a-guys-hat-a-long-time-ago/683050.md?page=1)