# I think I may have lost my only guy friend **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [August 8, 2015, 1:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-think-i-may-have-lost-my-only-guy-friend/727288 "2015-08-08T01:49:24Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 23
**Author:** ![raventhief](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/raventhief/32/4_2.png) [@raventhief](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/raventhief)\ **Post date:** [August 26, 2015, 4:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-think-i-may-have-lost-my-only-guy-friend/727288/441 "2015-08-26T16:56:15Z")
> [@IvoryTowerDenizen](#): > > IMHO, emotional cheating is when you routinely turn to another person to satisfy sexual and intimate \*\*emotional \*\*\*\*needs \*\*that you would normally be getting from your partner. > > No has ever described what you listed as emotional cheating. > [@April\_R](#): > > And? What of it? It’s b.s. **Porn does the same thing.** Is the all enlightened SDMB claiming that is cheating as well? You can’t call what I did cheating and not call porn cheating too Emphasis added. Wait a minute, what emotional need does porn fill for you? ETA this is a serious question, and I hope you will answer it without saying I am just going to twist what you say. I am honestly bewildered that you say porn fills an intimate emotional need for you. ---
**Author:** ![Enderw24](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/ba9def/32.png) [@Enderw24](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Enderw24)\ **Post date:** [August 26, 2015, 5:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-think-i-may-have-lost-my-only-guy-friend/727288/442 "2015-08-26T17:00:16Z")
You know what I enjoy about this thread? The trip is in December so we’re practically guaranteed 6 months of constant updates since April simply won’t stop updating to this thread. You know what I hate about this thread? It’s going to be about 4 months before the collective audience gets resolution on the story. Can we all just skip to the climax here? ---
**Author:** ![April\_R](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/3da27b/32.png) [@April\_R](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/April_R)\ **Post date:** [August 26, 2015, 5:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-think-i-may-have-lost-my-only-guy-friend/727288/443 "2015-08-26T17:09:32Z")
Done. I lost my cool. This thread has run it’s course. Ttyl ---
**Author:** ![DummyGladHands](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/49beb7/32.png) [@DummyGladHands](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DummyGladHands)\ **Post date:** [August 26, 2015, 5:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-think-i-may-have-lost-my-only-guy-friend/727288/444 "2015-08-26T17:20:58Z")
OK, just let us know all the sexing details!!! ---
**Author:** ![Merneith](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/57b2e6/32.png) [@Merneith](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Merneith)\ **Post date:** [August 26, 2015, 5:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-think-i-may-have-lost-my-only-guy-friend/727288/445 "2015-08-26T17:24:58Z")
> [@raventhief](#): > > Show your husband this entire thread and then ask him if there’s been an impact. We’ll wait. Forget the husband. Show your therapist this thread, April. ---
**Author:** ![Enderw24](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/ba9def/32.png) [@Enderw24](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Enderw24)\ **Post date:** [August 26, 2015, 5:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-think-i-may-have-lost-my-only-guy-friend/727288/446 "2015-08-26T17:55:56Z")
> [@April\_R](#): > > Done. I lost my cool. This thread has run it’s course. > Ttyl Damnit. I broke the thread. I’m sorry guys, totally my bad. Party foul here. Sorry April. Let’s get this back on track. Why are you leaving your husband alone with the kids like that? Has he ever babysat them before? You sure he can manage things around the house while you’re away on your well deserved Platonication? ---
**Author:** ![Helena330](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/helena330/32/531_2.png) [@Helena330](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Helena330)\ **Post date:** [August 26, 2015, 6:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-think-i-may-have-lost-my-only-guy-friend/727288/447 "2015-08-26T18:17:50Z")
> [@Enderw24](#): > > **Damnit. I broke the thread. I’m sorry guys, totally my bad. Party foul here.** > > Sorry April. Let’s get this back on track. Why are you leaving your husband alone with the kids like that? Has he ever babysat them before? You sure he can manage things around the house while you’re away on your well deserved Platonication? No worries. She’ll be back with more denials and baseless accusations in her attempts to deflect from her taking any responsibility for her behavior. She’s feeding off the attention. Feeling bored? Lacking attention? Bump the thread. ---
**Author:** ![Living\_Well\_Is\_Best\_Revenge](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/6bbea6/32.png) [@Living\_Well\_Is\_Best\_Revenge](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Living_Well_Is_Best_Revenge)\ **Post date:** [August 26, 2015, 6:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-think-i-may-have-lost-my-only-guy-friend/727288/448 "2015-08-26T18:30:16Z")
> [@Helena330](#): > > No worries. She’ll be back with more denials and baseless accusations in her attempts to deflect from her taking any responsibility for her behavior. She’s feeding off the attention. Feeling bored? Lacking attention? Bump the thread. Yep, of course she will be back. She is getting off on this attention probably as much as she gets from platonic friend. ---
**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\ **Post date:** [August 26, 2015, 6:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-think-i-may-have-lost-my-only-guy-friend/727288/449 "2015-08-26T18:40:54Z")
> [@Enderw24](#): > > Damnit. I broke the thread. I’m sorry guys, totally my bad. Party foul here. > > Sorry April. Let’s get this back on track. Why are you leaving your husband alone with the kids like that? Has he ever babysat them before? You sure he can manage things around the house while you’re away on your well deserved Platonication? Taking care of your own children is not in any sense babysitting. ---
**Author:** ![Enderw24](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/ba9def/32.png) [@Enderw24](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Enderw24)\ **Post date:** [August 26, 2015, 6:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-think-i-may-have-lost-my-only-guy-friend/727288/450 "2015-08-26T18:52:05Z")
> [@Anaamika](#): > > Taking care of your own children is not in any sense babysitting. I hooked the wrong person here. Sorry Anaamika, but I’m throwing you back and I’ll have to cast off again. ---
**Author:** ![elbows](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/b3f665/32.png) [@elbows](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/elbows)\ **Post date:** [August 26, 2015, 8:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-think-i-may-have-lost-my-only-guy-friend/727288/451 "2015-08-26T20:03:15Z")
Or maybe I did? By the way, I was only implying he doesn’t care for his own children, y’know, like Duggar men and their ilk. Who leave all childcare to the women folk. Now if I’d compared him to Josh Duggar, that might have implied child molesting. But I didn’t. Because that’s not what I was implying. Next time you could try reading for comprehension before flying into an impotent rage maybe? Or not. As you wish. ---
**Author:** ![leftfield6](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/leftfield6/32/18780_2.png) [@leftfield6](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/leftfield6)\ **Post date:** [August 26, 2015, 8:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-think-i-may-have-lost-my-only-guy-friend/727288/452 "2015-08-26T20:20:16Z")
> [@elbows](#): > > Or maybe I did? > > By the way, I was only implying he doesn’t care for his own children, y’know, like Duggar men and their ilk. Who leave all childcare to the women folk. > > Now if I’d compared him to Josh Duggar, that might have implied child molesting. But I didn’t. Because that’s not what I was implying. > > Next time you could try reading for comprehension before flying into an impotent rage maybe? > > Or not. As you wish. To be fair, I read it the same way April R took it. And no, I’m not flirting with April now!! ---
**Author:** ![Idle\_Thoughts](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/838e76/32.png) [@Idle\_Thoughts](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Idle_Thoughts)\ **Post date:** [August 26, 2015, 8:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-think-i-may-have-lost-my-only-guy-friend/727288/453 "2015-08-26T20:23:24Z")
Let’s stop the snarking on the posters here, please. If you want to do nothing but poke fun at a poster, please do so in the Pit. ---
**Author:** ![April\_R](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/3da27b/32.png) [@April\_R](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/April_R)\ **Post date:** [August 28, 2015, 2:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-think-i-may-have-lost-my-only-guy-friend/727288/454 "2015-08-28T02:52:53Z")
I thought about this whole situation a lot the past two days. Today I made the very hard and still painful decision to stop contact with Guy Friend. I told him as much, he was confused and didn’t understand why I “was being so dramatic.” I just told him I couldn’t keep feeling so attached to him anymore and breaking it off was the best thing to do right now. He said he’d be there if I needed to talk, but I don’t see that happening. You all were right when you said my feelings were all over the place. After deleting him from social media and my phone, I did have a few hours of feeling like a big jerk and like I really lost something important, but I’m trying to do the right thing. It sucks, but I am hoping I didn’t hurt him as much as I’m hurting right now. I hoping I can be at peace with my decision sooner than later. I really thought about what is most important to me, and my family comes first, so I did what I had to do even if it sucks. ---
**Author:** ![Cazzle](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cazzle/32/75_2.png) [@Cazzle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cazzle)\ **Post date:** [August 28, 2015, 5:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-think-i-may-have-lost-my-only-guy-friend/727288/455 "2015-08-28T05:55:24Z")
I hope things work out well for you, April. ---
**Author:** ![April\_R](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/3da27b/32.png) [@April\_R](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/April_R)\ **Post date:** [August 28, 2015, 12:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-think-i-may-have-lost-my-only-guy-friend/727288/456 "2015-08-28T12:00:22Z")
Thanks Eliahna. ---
**Author:** ![QuickSilver](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/quicksilver/32/7832_2.png) [@QuickSilver](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/QuickSilver)\ **Post date:** [August 28, 2015, 12:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-think-i-may-have-lost-my-only-guy-friend/727288/457 "2015-08-28T12:23:22Z")
It’s the right decision, to start. But you’ve only dealt with the symptom, not the cause. I hope you find it in yourself to seek out the help that you need to really deal with these issues. Once again, good luck. ---
**Author:** ![Bricker](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/977dab/32.png) [@Bricker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bricker)\ **Post date:** [August 28, 2015, 1:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-think-i-may-have-lost-my-only-guy-friend/727288/458 "2015-08-28T13:38:26Z")
> [@QuickSilver](#): > > But you’ve only dealt with the symptom, not the cause. I hope you find it in yourself to seek out the help that you need to really deal with these issues. Once again, good luck. +1 Heck, +100. ---
**Author:** ![dropzone](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dropzone/32/7515_2.png) [@dropzone](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dropzone)\ **Post date:** [August 29, 2015, 12:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-think-i-may-have-lost-my-only-guy-friend/727288/459 "2015-08-29T00:28:23Z")
> [@April\_R](#): > > I really thought about what is most important to me, and my family comes first, so I did what I had to do even if it sucks. Being an adult sucks, doesn’t it? But I’m pleased with you. I just wish you hadn’t forced me to agree with **Bricker**. ☹ ---
**Author:** ![April\_R](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/3da27b/32.png) [@April\_R](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/April_R)\ **Post date:** [August 29, 2015, 2:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-think-i-may-have-lost-my-only-guy-friend/727288/460 "2015-08-29T14:42:15Z")
So he drunk texted me last night. Nothing gross or flirty, just attempted to have a conversation with me at 3am my time. I was polite but told him I needed to sleep. I will never understand guys. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-think-i-may-have-lost-my-only-guy-friend/727288.md?page=22) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-think-i-may-have-lost-my-only-guy-friend/727288.md?page=24)