# I think I'm being stalked

**URL:** <https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-think-im-being-stalked/383245>\
**Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\
**Created:** [December 7, 2006, 6:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-think-im-being-stalked/383245 "2006-12-07T18:20:37Z")\
**Posts on this page:** 4\
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**Author:** ![Nava](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/da6949/32.png) [@Nava](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nava)\
**Post date:** [December 8, 2006, 9:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-think-im-being-stalked/383245/21 "2006-12-08T09:15:48Z")

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[QUOTE=The New and Improved Superman]  
Although it was uncomfortable, I saw him as being more desperately needy than threatening. To be perfectly honest, I felt a little sorry for the schmuck.  
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That description fits perfectly the guy who approached me once in the Ramblas in Barcelona, offering me handfuls of money for I-didn’t-have-time-to-hear-what-before-Dad-saw-I’d-been-left-behind-and-fell-on-him-like-a-balding-blonde-thin-guy-out-of-Hell.

I was 9.

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**Author:** ![Freudian\_Push\_Up\_Bra](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/edb3f5/32.png) [@Freudian\_Push\_Up\_Bra](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Freudian_Push_Up_Bra)\
**Post date:** [December 8, 2006, 10:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-think-im-being-stalked/383245/22 "2006-12-08T10:59:02Z")

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Yikes, **Superman** , having a stalker, a violent one in particular is like my worst nightmare. The above posters have been very right; protect yourself and please keep us updated so we know you’re safe!

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**Author:** ![Annie-Xmas](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ecc23a/32.png) [@Annie-Xmas](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Annie-Xmas)\
**Post date:** [December 8, 2006, 1:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-think-im-being-stalked/383245/23 "2006-12-08T13:10:00Z")

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[QUOTE=The New and Improved Superman]

And just for the record, I’m a guy myself. I don’t know if that makes a difference. I noticed a couple of posts referred to me as ‘she’. Not that I’m offended, but I felt I should mention it. I know part of me would like to think that I shouldn’t worry about it, or should be tough enough to take care of this by myself. Still, I have to admit, I was more than a little disturbed when I saw him outside my office.  
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That fact makes absolutely no difference. The law forbids discrimination based on gender identity and/or sexual orientation. If you are being stalked, there is everything wrong with that.

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**Author:** ![ivylass](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/9de053/32.png) [@ivylass](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ivylass)\
**Post date:** [December 8, 2006, 1:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-think-im-being-stalked/383245/24 "2006-12-08T13:25:37Z")

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[QUOTE=Annie-Xmas]  
She said he told him “as nice as she could.” She shouldn’t be nice. He’ll interpret that as interest, and maybe she’ll change her mind. I’m advising her to tell him flat out NO.  
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> [@From the OP](#):
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> That’s when I let him have it. I yelled at him, stating bluntly that he gave me the creeps, that I didn’t appreciate getting drunken calls in the middle of the night, that - then he hung up.

Sorry I thought you were a female. My advice still stands.

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