# I think it's me, because everybody can't actually be as annoying as I find them **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [November 22, 2004, 5:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-think-its-me-because-everybody-cant-actually-be-as-annoying-as-i-find-them/276127 "2004-11-22T17:05:17Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Qadgop\_the\_Mercotan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/qadgop_the_mercotan/32/83_2.png) [@Qadgop\_the\_Mercotan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Qadgop_the_Mercotan)\ **Post date:** [November 22, 2004, 11:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-think-its-me-because-everybody-cant-actually-be-as-annoying-as-i-find-them/276127/21 "2004-11-22T23:21:59Z")
**Indygrrl** , you’re letting waaaaay too many people live rent-free in your head. You’ve got to let it roll off your back like a duck! 😉 ---
**Author:** ![The\_Devil\_s\_Grandmother](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/74df32/32.png) [@The\_Devil\_s\_Grandmother](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Devil_s_Grandmother)\ **Post date:** [November 22, 2004, 11:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-think-its-me-because-everybody-cant-actually-be-as-annoying-as-i-find-them/276127/22 "2004-11-22T23:27:23Z")
> [@Elysian](#): > > So I spent the rest of my time there bumping people out of the way and saying loudly “EXCUSE ME!!!” and shoving my cart around corners _without_ looking, and you know what? It was the most liberating experience that I’ve had in a while. I think that most of my frustration arises when I try to be polite. When I give up on being polite I feel much better, and actually grinned a bit when I managed to bump two shopping carts at once. Dude, you are one angry cog. ---
**Author:** ![Left\_Hand\_of\_Dorkness](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/left_hand_of_dorkness/32/7156_2.png) [@Left\_Hand\_of\_Dorkness](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Left_Hand_of_Dorkness)\ **Post date:** [November 22, 2004, 11:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-think-its-me-because-everybody-cant-actually-be-as-annoying-as-i-find-them/276127/23 "2004-11-22T23:34:24Z")
People think computer games are just trivial timewasters, but I tell ya, there is **nothing** more therapeutic than engaging in the occasional bloody massacre. If you’ve not tried it, **Indygrrl,** you sound like a prime candidate for a little bit of the pixellated old ultraviolence. Daniel ---
**Author:** ![Contrapuntal](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e274bd/32.png) [@Contrapuntal](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Contrapuntal)\ **Post date:** [November 22, 2004, 11:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-think-its-me-because-everybody-cant-actually-be-as-annoying-as-i-find-them/276127/24 "2004-11-22T23:38:52Z")
> [@Left Hand of Dorkness](#): > > People think computer games are just trivial timewasters, but I tell ya, there is **nothing** more therapeutic than engaging in the occasional bloody massacre. If you’ve not tried it, **Indygrrl,** you sound like a prime candidate for a little bit of the pixellated old ultraviolence. > > Daniel Well said, my droogie. ---
**Author:** ![Antigen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/848f3c/32.png) [@Antigen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Antigen)\ **Post date:** [November 22, 2004, 11:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-think-its-me-because-everybody-cant-actually-be-as-annoying-as-i-find-them/276127/25 "2004-11-22T23:43:56Z")
> [@stretch](#): > > My depression frequently manifests itself as anger, frustration with everything, etc. As far as dealing with day-to-day crap, I’ve discovered that I just prefer not to put myself in situations where I’m likely to get pissed off. Seriously. I’ve noticed myself getting irritated and angry at stupid little things more and more on the days where I’m not in a depressed dark bubble. I’m critical and negative and _mean_ all the time now, and that’s not like me. I never considered that it might _all_ be part of the depression. Now, if only I could convince someone to treat me for it. ☹ For now I’ll continue the chocolate regimen and try to work out my anger in video games. Excuse me, I have some Sims to drown. ---
**Author:** ![Profane](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/e47774/32.png) [@Profane](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Profane)\ **Post date:** [November 22, 2004, 11:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-think-its-me-because-everybody-cant-actually-be-as-annoying-as-i-find-them/276127/26 "2004-11-22T23:44:02Z")
> [@Indygrrl](#): > > Haha, thanks. I know I’m thoroughly depressed in life. I take medicine for it, but it doesn’t seem to help, especially this time of year. I should be in anger management or something because I really feel like all of those things. I’m really very upset today over several things, and yesterday I cried for an hour over the Target thing. I’m not sure what to do except hold on and wait for it to get better after the evil holidays. Maybe you need to change your meds. I acted a lot like you (due to depression also) until I started taking Zoloft. It really chilled me out, without making me a zombie. I hope things get better for you soon. ---
**Author:** ![Ms\_Boods](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/5e9695/32.png) [@Ms\_Boods](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ms_Boods)\ **Post date:** [November 22, 2004, 11:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-think-its-me-because-everybody-cant-actually-be-as-annoying-as-i-find-them/276127/27 "2004-11-22T23:48:55Z")
**Indygrrl** , I hope [this](http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/world/europe/4030795.stm) makes you smile – I would certainly participate! 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Elza\_B](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/6a8cbe/32.png) [@Elza\_B](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Elza_B)\ **Post date:** [November 23, 2004, 12:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-think-its-me-because-everybody-cant-actually-be-as-annoying-as-i-find-them/276127/28 "2004-11-23T00:23:35Z")
> [@Antigen](#): > > I’ve noticed myself getting irritated and angry at stupid little things more and more on the days where I’m not in a depressed dark bubble. I’m critical and negative and _mean_ all the time now, and that’s not like me. I never considered that it might _all_ be part of the depression. > > Now, if only I could convince someone to treat me for it. ☹ > > For now I’ll continue the chocolate regimen and try to work out my anger in video games. Excuse me, I have some Sims to drown. Why won’t someone treat you for this? (And if you drown them, they just come back as ghosts and scare people - it’s annoying:(). I’ve decided to go get put back on anti-depressants on Friday - my husband’s going with me to the doctor to talk to him. I’ve noticed the same symptoms as **Indy** - anger, snapping very easily, being annoyed by everyone. It’s not fair to me, and it’s not fair to my family. It’s not hard anymore to get prescribed A/Ds - honestly, I have a history of depression and anxiety, so my doctors usually prefer that I’m on them anyway. If you have a history, it shouldn’t be such an issue. E. ---
**Author:** ![Antigen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/848f3c/32.png) [@Antigen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Antigen)\ **Post date:** [November 23, 2004, 12:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-think-its-me-because-everybody-cant-actually-be-as-annoying-as-i-find-them/276127/29 "2004-11-23T00:46:59Z")
> [@Elza B](#): > > Why won’t someone treat you for this? (And if you drown them, they just come back as ghosts and scare people - it’s annoying:(). > > I’ve decided to go get put back on anti-depressants on Friday - my husband’s going with me to the doctor to talk to him. I’ve noticed the same symptoms as **Indy** - anger, snapping very easily, being annoyed by everyone. It’s not fair to me, and it’s not fair to my family. > > It’s not hard anymore to get prescribed A/Ds - honestly, I have a history of depression and anxiety, so my doctors usually prefer that I’m on them anyway. If you have a history, it shouldn’t be such an issue. > > E. I don’t have a family doctor. I usually go to the walk-in clinic for my general aches and pains and throat infections, but when I approached a doc there a couple of weeks ago about my depression, she said she couldn’t prescribe me anything because I’d need someone to follow my treatment and make sure the dose is right, etc. Which makes sense… But I can’t afford therapy, and I can’t seem to find a family doctor who’s taking new patients. There’s a place where I can get some very short term therapy for free, but because I’m English-speaking in a French province, it’s a long waiting list. The school nurse suggested I go to a free clinic at one of the hospitals in town, but it’s very far out of my way, and I know myself - I’d never manage to go when I was supposed to. Part of the problem is not being able to drag your sorry ass anywhere. So I’m waiting on that list… best I can do for now, I guess. And I only have the old Sims… they die and stay good and dead. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Jayn\_Newell](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/f9ae1b/32.png) [@Jayn\_Newell](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jayn_Newell)\ **Post date:** [November 23, 2004, 1:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-think-its-me-because-everybody-cant-actually-be-as-annoying-as-i-find-them/276127/30 "2004-11-23T01:13:18Z")
I’m not going to comment on the rest of this thread, but I just have to say > [@Indygrrl](#): > > The other day he acted all drunk in a meeting because he had taken _cold medicine_. Give me a break. Who gets high on cold medicine? I do. A couple months back I had a bad cold, and asked if a friend if he had anything I could take so I wouldn’t be sniffling all through my last class of the day. He gave me some pills and they cleared my sinuses in about a half hour. However, they put me really out of it. I could barely concentrate on class at all, and it wasn’t until the pills started wearing off that I was able to start thinking straight again. It did feel a bit like being drunk. So yeah, it happens. ---
**Author:** ![Green\_Bean](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/green_bean/32/1760_2.png) [@Green\_Bean](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Green_Bean)\ **Post date:** [November 23, 2004, 2:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-think-its-me-because-everybody-cant-actually-be-as-annoying-as-i-find-them/276127/31 "2004-11-23T02:52:55Z")
**Indy** –I’ll just echo what others have said about looking into switching your meds or your dosage. I used to be extremely irritable. I changed meds and now I’m only moderately irritable. 🙂 Of course, the seasonal component is not to be discounted, either. Anyway, I’ve been in your shoes and have an idea what you’re going through. Hang in there. We’re here for you. (And feel free to vent all you want here. If anyone tells you that your annoyances are too trivial to rant about, I’ll kick 'em in the pixels for ya.) ---
**Author:** ![joyfool](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/df788c/32.png) [@joyfool](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/joyfool)\ **Post date:** [November 23, 2004, 5:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-think-its-me-because-everybody-cant-actually-be-as-annoying-as-i-find-them/276127/32 "2004-11-23T05:12:38Z")
> [@stretch](#): > > I also have started carrying thank you cards in my car so when I get great service I can reward it immediately. This perpetuates the great service because it makes the under-appreciated retail worker feel better and then they give better service to the next customer. I just wanted to say a hearty THANK YOU to this. I didn’t work very long in retail and unfortunately, the small amount of selfish, rude, bad customers had a way of overshadowing the many polite, grateful nice ones. However, I remember one time getting a specific customer comment card that said how helpful, friendly and energetic I was. Then it went on to say, “bosses take notcice” because I should get/deserve a raise. 😃 And I swear, this wasn’t anyone I knew or was considered a loved one. Nor was any money exchanging hands directly to me. So, this was a definite confidence booster and a small glim of gratitude when I needed it most. Ya, woohoo! Therefore, I think this is a wonderful idea and you an awesome person for thinking of this then actually following through and letting us lowly service folks know that we could really be doing a good job and trying our best. May lots of positive karma descend on you for this completely altruistic act. 'Specially right here around the holidays. Every floor clerk worldwide would probably send you a hug if they could. 🙂 In closing, some Thanksgiving cheer to return in kind… Have A Great One filled with plenty of great food, terrific fellowship and plenty to be thankful for. ---
**Author:** ![joyfool](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/df788c/32.png) [@joyfool](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/joyfool)\ **Post date:** [November 23, 2004, 5:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-think-its-me-because-everybody-cant-actually-be-as-annoying-as-i-find-them/276127/33 "2004-11-23T05:21:42Z")
Oh dammit, I forgot to add something directly related to the OP. :smack: First of all, I wish **Indygrrl** only the best and pray that things get better soon. In time for Christmas would be nice, huh? Also, I’ll second/fourteenth, that you should check into switching medications or upping your dosage or maybe even just changing part of your presciption. I hear cocktails can do wonders. 😉 No one should be on or pay for drugs that don’t work. That is truly a travesty. Same feelings go out to **Antigen**. You guys just stay as strong as you can and hang in there. It’ll be better before you know it. Hopefully. Lastly, also in reference to what other things **Antigen** said, is that for us living paycheck to paycheck (or much, much worse), we can’t necessarily afford to choose where we shop. Wal\*Mart usually can’t get any lower in price than it already is. I suppose that’s sometimes an inevitable trade-off considering the alternatives. I would _love_ to be able to at least forever buy from Target’s clearance specials. But considering I _must_ get them cheaper elsewhere to survive, no matter how I feel or what’s needed, off to the wasteland I go. ::: sigh ::: In the future, I’m sure (again, hopefully) this will change. Until that time though, I applaude you for standing by your convictions and going the extra mile. I wish that all of us could do that more frequently. Where’s the spiritual, “help everyone,” smilie when you have to have it? ---
**Author:** ![WhyNot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/c77e96/32.png) [@WhyNot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/WhyNot)\ **Post date:** [November 23, 2004, 12:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-think-its-me-because-everybody-cant-actually-be-as-annoying-as-i-find-them/276127/34 "2004-11-23T12:27:37Z")
Have you guys considered doing your holiday shopping online? There’s still time. Wal-Mart and Target have websites, with delivery and even gift-wrapping, I believe. You can look at your local circular on-line and get the same prices there. Browsing is just a few clicks. Just a thought. Save your going out for a walk in the park or a trip to the Ben and Jerry’s. ---
**Author:** ![ouisey](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/9fc29f/32.png) [@ouisey](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ouisey)\ **Post date:** [November 23, 2004, 6:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-think-its-me-because-everybody-cant-actually-be-as-annoying-as-i-find-them/276127/35 "2004-11-23T18:07:25Z")
I’ve been getting annoyed very easily lately as well. In my case, I think maybe it has something to do with getting old and crotchety. However, it helps when you make it a strict policy to only shop when the store is about to close or the football game is on. Life’s a lot easier when I’m only one of ten in the SuperTarget. ---
**Author:** ![auntie\_em](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5e9695/32.png) [@auntie\_em](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/auntie_em)\ **Post date:** [November 23, 2004, 6:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-think-its-me-because-everybody-cant-actually-be-as-annoying-as-i-find-them/276127/36 "2004-11-23T18:46:04Z")
> [@ouisey](#): > > I’ve been getting annoyed very easily lately as well. In my case, I think maybe it has something to do with getting old and crotchety. **ouisey** , I actually thought I was experiencing early-onset menopause a few weeks ago (speaking of _old_ and _crotch_)–I even joined an online menopause forum! Thanks to the lovely ladies there (and subsequent internet research, and a chat with my doctor), I have decided that it was my birth control, so I’m switching in December. If nothing changes, I’ll know it’s just me. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![SkipMagic](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/skipmagic/32/20706_2.png) [@SkipMagic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SkipMagic)\ **Post date:** [November 23, 2004, 7:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-think-its-me-because-everybody-cant-actually-be-as-annoying-as-i-find-them/276127/37 "2004-11-23T19:41:52Z")
> [@auntie em](#): > > If nothing changes, I’ll know it’s just me. 😉 :eek: 😉 ---
**Author:** ![auntie\_em](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5e9695/32.png) [@auntie\_em](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/auntie_em)\ **Post date:** [November 23, 2004, 7:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-think-its-me-because-everybody-cant-actually-be-as-annoying-as-i-find-them/276127/38 "2004-11-23T19:53:36Z")
> [@SkipMagic](#): > > :eek: > > 😉 On the other hand, it might be YOU . . . :dubious: 😛 ---
**Author:** ![ouisey](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/9fc29f/32.png) [@ouisey](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ouisey)\ **Post date:** [November 23, 2004, 9:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-think-its-me-because-everybody-cant-actually-be-as-annoying-as-i-find-them/276127/39 "2004-11-23T21:16:44Z")
Maybe you’re on a roll with that menopause idea. How else can I explain why one of my coworkers gappy teeth annoy me? Its not that he’s got a cute little gap between the two front teeth…his teeth are just spaced very widely apart. It annoys the hell out of me. ---
**Author:** ![Mirror\_Image\_egamI\_rorriM](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/e56c9b/32.png) [@Mirror\_Image\_egamI\_rorriM](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mirror_Image_egamI_rorriM)\ **Post date:** [November 24, 2004, 4:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-think-its-me-because-everybody-cant-actually-be-as-annoying-as-i-find-them/276127/40 "2004-11-24T04:25:06Z")
I doubt it’s menopause, because I mostly hate everyone too, and I’m only 18. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-think-its-me-because-everybody-cant-actually-be-as-annoying-as-i-find-them/276127.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-think-its-me-because-everybody-cant-actually-be-as-annoying-as-i-find-them/276127.md?page=3)