# I think this is why middle aged (and older) adults have a hard time making friends. **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [February 25, 2017, 5:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-think-this-is-why-middle-aged-and-older-adults-have-a-hard-time-making-friends/780754 "2017-02-25T17:30:33Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 13\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Grrr](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/grrr/32/146_2.png) [@Grrr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Grrr)\ **Post date:** [February 25, 2017, 5:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-think-this-is-why-middle-aged-and-older-adults-have-a-hard-time-making-friends/780754/1 "2017-02-25T17:30:33Z")
A couple of days ago I hired a guy to hang a TV on my wall (found him via Google). When he got here, we cliqued fairly well, as we shared a lot of common interests. We wound up talking each other’s ears off the whole time he was here. And after he left, I remember thinking to myself: “That’s a pretty cool dude. I like that guy.” So today, I get a text from the guy: “Look what I found” (He then shows me a pic of an old engineer’s book we were talking about.) Then I couldn’t help thinking to myself: “Why is this weirdo texting me?” Pretty sure the fault lies with in myself and not the guy. :smack: ---
**Author:** ![Gatopescado](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/gatopescado/32/5711_2.png) [@Gatopescado](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gatopescado)\ **Post date:** [February 25, 2017, 5:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-think-this-is-why-middle-aged-and-older-adults-have-a-hard-time-making-friends/780754/2 "2017-02-25T17:35:44Z")
And all this time I thought it’s just 'cause I’m an asshole! ---
**Author:** ![John\_Mace](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/john_mace/32/185_2.png) [@John\_Mace](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/John_Mace)\ **Post date:** [February 25, 2017, 6:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-think-this-is-why-middle-aged-and-older-adults-have-a-hard-time-making-friends/780754/3 "2017-02-25T18:07:48Z")
Bromance, and it isn’t even spring yet! ---
**Author:** ![VinylTurnip](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/b2d939/32.png) [@VinylTurnip](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/VinylTurnip)\ **Post date:** [February 25, 2017, 6:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-think-this-is-why-middle-aged-and-older-adults-have-a-hard-time-making-friends/780754/4 "2017-02-25T18:10:24Z")
Cheer up. One day you’ll get a guyfriend. ---
**Author:** ![Fruitbat2](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/5e9695/32.png) [@Fruitbat2](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Fruitbat2)\ **Post date:** [February 25, 2017, 6:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-think-this-is-why-middle-aged-and-older-adults-have-a-hard-time-making-friends/780754/5 "2017-02-25T18:26:30Z")
Haha! Oh yes, I am far more suspicious and leery than I used to be even though I do want to make new friends. I used to pretty much hang out with anybody. If they were weird or mean, it would just be a funny story for later. What changed that fun open door personal policy was probably just getting something that could be taken away and had to be protected, like a decent job and a family of my own. Can’t have everything? ---
**Author:** ![Mean\_Mr.Mustard](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mean_mr.mustard/32/3865_2.png) [@Mean\_Mr.Mustard](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mean_Mr.Mustard)\ **Post date:** [February 25, 2017, 6:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-think-this-is-why-middle-aged-and-older-adults-have-a-hard-time-making-friends/780754/6 "2017-02-25T18:54:01Z")
For Gawd sake I hope you waited a day or two before texting him back. mmm ---
**Author:** ![Grrr](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/grrr/32/146_2.png) [@Grrr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Grrr)\ **Post date:** [February 25, 2017, 7:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-think-this-is-why-middle-aged-and-older-adults-have-a-hard-time-making-friends/780754/7 "2017-02-25T19:42:48Z")
> [@John\_Mace](#): > > Bromance, and it isn’t even spring yet! > [@VinylTurnip](#): > > Cheer up. One day you’ll get a guyfriend. > [@Mean\_Mr.Mustard](#): > > For Gawd sake I hope you waited a day or two before texting him back. > mmm Lol. I love this board. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Amateur\_Barbarian](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/59ef9b/32.png) [@Amateur\_Barbarian](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Amateur_Barbarian)\ **Post date:** [February 25, 2017, 8:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-think-this-is-why-middle-aged-and-older-adults-have-a-hard-time-making-friends/780754/8 "2017-02-25T20:24:17Z")
Wouldn’t it be nice to have close friends who never fuggin’ bugged you. :rolleyes: ---
**Author:** ![Sunny\_Daze](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sunny_daze/32/438_2.png) [@Sunny\_Daze](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sunny_Daze)\ **Post date:** [February 25, 2017, 8:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-think-this-is-why-middle-aged-and-older-adults-have-a-hard-time-making-friends/780754/9 "2017-02-25T20:26:29Z")
So, did you text him back? ---
**Author:** ![Urbanredneck](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/ea5d25/32.png) [@Urbanredneck](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Urbanredneck)\ **Post date:** [February 25, 2017, 8:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-think-this-is-why-middle-aged-and-older-adults-have-a-hard-time-making-friends/780754/10 "2017-02-25T20:41:47Z")
With jobs and family who has the time? ---
**Author:** ![Totenfeier](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/4bbf92/32.png) [@Totenfeier](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Totenfeier)\ **Post date:** [February 25, 2017, 8:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-think-this-is-why-middle-aged-and-older-adults-have-a-hard-time-making-friends/780754/11 "2017-02-25T20:54:24Z")
> [@Amateur\_Barbarian](#): > > Wouldn’t it be nice to have close friends who never fuggin’ bugged you. :rolleyes: Yeah. Don’t call me; I’ll call you when I have something deep and heartfelt to talk about with somebody who really cares! 😛 ---
**Author:** ![Grrr](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/grrr/32/146_2.png) [@Grrr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Grrr)\ **Post date:** [February 25, 2017, 8:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-think-this-is-why-middle-aged-and-older-adults-have-a-hard-time-making-friends/780754/12 "2017-02-25T20:54:52Z")
> [@Sunny\_Daze](#): > > So, did you text him back? Lol. Yes. ---
**Author:** ![Siam\_Sam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/d78d45/32.png) [@Siam\_Sam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Siam_Sam)\ **Post date:** [February 25, 2017, 9:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-think-this-is-why-middle-aged-and-older-adults-have-a-hard-time-making-friends/780754/13 "2017-02-25T21:01:54Z")
> [@Gatopescado](#): > > And all this time I thought it’s just 'cause I’m an asshole! Well, let’s not be too hasty in changing our mind.