Thank you Starving!
But on that "toooo " much issue…the thread is pretty deep so I think it’s been long forgotten, but the original point was that even eating all the carbs in the world, I long ago stopped eating unreasonable amounts of food, and still I managed to stay morbidly obese.
This thread started as a response to so many OTHER threads about obesity and fat people in general that would turn into debates about whether it was ok to be shitty to fat people in one way or another because, after all, we ask for it, since our problem is that we’re gluttonous sloths who stuff ourselves and lie around watching TV.
In those threads and in other conversations everywhere, fat people try to say, hey, I really don’t eat as much as you think… and the response is always: “Yeah, keep kidding yourself” or “Liar” or “deluded” or whatever, because, as everyone knows, it’s calories in, calories out, and so you MUST be stuffing your face to weigh 300 pounds!
So, this thread was opened to say: guess what, turns out I’m really not bullshitting myself. I’ve counted the calories, and I’m not losing a thing eating 1400 calories per day.
So, aside from the bigger conversation of how many calories I would have to eat in order to actually lose weight, and whether carbs vs. protein, etc. the point is this: If that’s all it takes to maintain 300 pounds, is it really fair, or just, or compassionate, or reasonable on any level at all, to consider me or other fat people as “asking for” the derision, judgment, and outright cruelty they weather?
That was the actual point of the thread.
So I started by saying: look, the counting calorie thing is even more brutal than it used to be, and this is disheartening.
Then someone brought up Taubes’ book, and Angel (who is evidently an actual angel!) sent me a copy, I opened it up an started reading… and yeah, the light dawned. Wow. I’m not imaging things!
Anyway, just wanted to get back to that. Because all this noise about how deluded I am because I think I can freakin’ relax and eat in a way that doesn’t leave me physically in pain, weak, and obsessed with food and actually reduce my weight seems to be coming from an assumption that I will, want to, or WAS stuffing my face with big piles of food to begin with and I’m somehow looking for an excuse to do that.
So, simplified:
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[li]Didn’t eat unreasonably to start. (But no one believed it)[/li][li]Stayed fat.[/li][li]Wanted to lose fat.[/li][li]Been beaten up about the calories for years, decided to measure carefully.[/li][li]Ate few calories.[/li][li]Stayed fat.[/li][li]Was very uncomfortable, too.[/li][li]Reported this to say: see. I ain’t eatin that much to be so fat anyway, now I’ve proved it.[/li][/ul]
Before anyone brings it up: Yes, I ate unreasonably as a child and a young woman, I have never remotely denied that. And I can certainly still overeat occasionally. But when I was STUFFING MY FACE day after day after day, so much that I was ill (I was unhappy, it was a drug, duh) …my weight was 180 to 220. (ages 12-37) NOW that I am NOT stuffing my face and haven’t for years, not even CLOSE, my weight has fluctuated between 275 and 340. Imagine my frustration.
So Taubes’ book explains THAT, as well, because it explains how my body is making me fat, not my behavior. My behavior may have started the job, but my body has continued it on its own.