# I was addicted to escorts - ask me anything **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [March 27, 2018, 8:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-was-addicted-to-escorts-ask-me-anything/811295 "2018-03-27T20:37:38Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Penfeather](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/penfeather/32/384_2.png) [@Penfeather](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Penfeather)\ **Post date:** [March 27, 2018, 9:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-was-addicted-to-escorts-ask-me-anything/811295/21 "2018-03-27T21:33:15Z")
> [@Davidngrk](#): > > I was regularly seeing escorts for about 5 years. I was married the entire time. It was really easy to do and surprisingly wasn’t that costly. > > Ask me anything about my experiences. Cool. [Here’s an Escort owners club.](https://www.facebook.com/Ford-Escort-Mk1-Mk2-Owners-170277259785823/) Old Escorts from the 70s are going for crazy prices now, [but this purple one is pretty sweet.](https://www.trademe.co.nz/motors/used-cars/ford/auction-1579138437.htm?rsqid=ed5ddf383cc143d09f65f6b83c25a127) ---
**Author:** ![Dewey\_Finn](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dewey_finn/32/4222_2.png) [@Dewey\_Finn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dewey_Finn)\ **Post date:** [March 27, 2018, 9:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-was-addicted-to-escorts-ask-me-anything/811295/22 "2018-03-27T21:37:28Z")
> [@Davidngrk](#): > > Ask me anything about my experiences. You’ve never posted to this message board prior to this, but chose today to post for the very first time about your experience cheating on your wife with prostitutes. Why? What drove you to this particular site? Isn’t the Penthouse Forum still available for this sort of thing? ---
**Author:** ![Davidngrk](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e47c2d/32.png) [@Davidngrk](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Davidngrk)\ **Post date:** [March 27, 2018, 9:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-was-addicted-to-escorts-ask-me-anything/811295/23 "2018-03-27T21:40:16Z")
> [@Dewey\_Finn](#): > > You’ve never posted to this message board prior to this, but chose today to post for the very first time about your experience cheating on your wife with prostitutes. Why? What drove you to this particular site? Isn’t the Penthouse Forum still available for this sort of thing? Answered this above but will add I found this site thru unrelated search. ---
**Author:** ![Beckdawrek](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/beckdawrek/32/3647_2.png) [@Beckdawrek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Beckdawrek)\ **Post date:** [March 27, 2018, 9:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-was-addicted-to-escorts-ask-me-anything/811295/24 "2018-03-27T21:40:22Z")
You should tell the new girl. Y’all could do some role-play games. It could be fun. ---
**Author:** ![Wesley\_Clark](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/wesley_clark/32/20581_2.png) [@Wesley\_Clark](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Wesley_Clark)\ **Post date:** [March 27, 2018, 9:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-was-addicted-to-escorts-ask-me-anything/811295/25 "2018-03-27T21:47:31Z")
What do you mean it wasn’t that costly? My understanding is that even the low quality hookers start at $60 (it is closer to $100+ to visit one who is halfway decent, the good ones are even more obviously, several hundred per session). That would add up, unless you are upper middle class and spending $100-200 here and there isn’t a big deal. Have you considered traveling to Germany? That is supposedly the mecca of prostitution now. What do you mean by > [@](#): > > The experience was an incredible rush and disappointment at the same time. I’ve heard guys who visit escorts say sometimes it is just like a more risky, more expensive version of masturbation and sometimes it is really great and you become obsessed with it. Was it like that? What do you mean exactly? ---
**Author:** ![xizor](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/xizor/32/102_2.png) [@xizor](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/xizor)\ **Post date:** [March 27, 2018, 9:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-was-addicted-to-escorts-ask-me-anything/811295/26 "2018-03-27T21:50:48Z")
You said it was not that costly. What are the going rates for the various services in your area? Did you pay more for better looking companions? ---
**Author:** ![Dewey\_Finn](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dewey_finn/32/4222_2.png) [@Dewey\_Finn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dewey_Finn)\ **Post date:** [March 27, 2018, 9:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-was-addicted-to-escorts-ask-me-anything/811295/27 "2018-03-27T21:55:57Z")
> [@Davidngrk](#): > > > [@Dewey\_Finn](#): > > > > You’ve never posted to this message board prior to this, but chose today to post for the very first time about your experience cheating on your wife with prostitutes. Why? What drove you to this particular site? Isn’t the Penthouse Forum still available for this sort of thing? > > Answered this above but will add I found this site thru unrelated search. In that case, you may be disappointed to learn that this site really has nothing to do with marijuana. ---
**Author:** ![Davidngrk](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e47c2d/32.png) [@Davidngrk](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Davidngrk)\ **Post date:** [March 27, 2018, 9:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-was-addicted-to-escorts-ask-me-anything/811295/28 "2018-03-27T21:57:55Z")
> [@Wesley\_Clark](#): > > What do you mean it wasn’t that costly? My understanding is that even the low quality hookers start at $60 (it is closer to $100+ to visit one who is halfway decent, the good ones are even more obviously, several hundred per session). > > That would add up, unless you are upper middle class and spending $100-200 here and there isn’t a big deal. > > Have you considered traveling to Germany? That is supposedly the mecca of prostitution now. > > What do you mean by > > I’ve heard guys who visit escorts say sometimes it is just like a more risky, more expensive version of masturbation and sometimes it is really great and you become obsessed with it. Was it like that? What do you mean exactly? I make good money, not wealthy but upper middle class. I didn’t like long sessions. I typically did half hour - anywhere from $60-$140. I really preferred the “blow-n-go”. I got that for $30-$80. I did a $400 session once but it wasn’t worth it at all. It was a rush because 1. you spend time finding a provider, researching to see if she’s been reviewed, exchanging texts, setting up time and place. Arriving and getting a little nervous this might be the time it’s a set up. The sex was never that great but I was with some pretty hot women. Some were much younger than me. I am was in my 40s and was with some hot girls that were in their early 20s and one 19 year old. Incredible bodies. I felt unsatisfied a lot after sex so I preferred the bj only. But there is some truth to it is an expensive version of masturbation. ---
**Author:** ![Davidngrk](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e47c2d/32.png) [@Davidngrk](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Davidngrk)\ **Post date:** [March 27, 2018, 10:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-was-addicted-to-escorts-ask-me-anything/811295/29 "2018-03-27T22:04:32Z")
> [@xizor](#): > > You said it was not that costly. What are the going rates for the various services in your area? Did you pay more for better looking companions? The city I use to live had a lot of good looking providers and good rates. It’s supply demand. Basically rates were: BJ only, blow-n-go - $30-$80 Half Hour - oral + sex $60-$140 Hour - $150 on up. I was with some very hot girls that were on the cheaper side. I would say they were not career escorts. Some escorts have their own website and travel to different cities. They are very expensive. I saw a smoking hot Russian blonde that was $400 but not worth it. I had a regular girl I got bjs from. One time she only charged $30 and it was one of the best bj’s I ever had. ---
**Author:** ![CurtC](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/ce73a5/32.png) [@CurtC](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CurtC)\ **Post date:** [March 27, 2018, 10:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-was-addicted-to-escorts-ask-me-anything/811295/30 "2018-03-27T22:11:12Z")
Why do you call the sex workers “escorts”? I have always thought of escorts as rent-a-babes that you hire to accompany you to parties, dinners, etc. But what you’re describing is more like prostitution. ---
**Author:** ![Fleetwood](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/fleetwood/32/271_2.png) [@Fleetwood](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Fleetwood)\ **Post date:** [March 27, 2018, 10:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-was-addicted-to-escorts-ask-me-anything/811295/31 "2018-03-27T22:12:16Z")
> [@Davidngrk](#): > > The city I use to live had a lot of good looking providers and good rates. It’s supply demand. Basically rates were: > > BJ only, blow-n-go - $30-$80 > Half Hour - oral + sex $60-$140 > Hour - $150 on up. > > I was with some very hot girls that were on the cheaper side. I would say they were not career escorts. Some escorts have their own website and travel to different cities. They are very expensive. I saw a smoking hot Russian blonde that was $400 but not worth it. > > I had a regular girl I got bjs from. One time she only charged $30 and it was one of the best bj’s I ever had. Did the Russian like to gamble? ---
**Author:** ![Davidngrk](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e47c2d/32.png) [@Davidngrk](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Davidngrk)\ **Post date:** [March 27, 2018, 10:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-was-addicted-to-escorts-ask-me-anything/811295/32 "2018-03-27T22:17:52Z")
> [@CurtC](#): > > Why do you call the sex workers “escorts”? > > I have always thought of escorts as rent-a-babes that you hire to accompany you to parties, dinners, etc. But what you’re describing is more like prostitution. You’re right in some sense but most escorts are prostitutes. Backpage use to have a “escort” section but they were all prostitutes. Escort = call girl = prostitute Hooker = street walker = prostitute ---
**Author:** ![VinylTurnip](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/b2d939/32.png) [@VinylTurnip](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/VinylTurnip)\ **Post date:** [March 27, 2018, 11:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-was-addicted-to-escorts-ask-me-anything/811295/33 "2018-03-27T23:54:38Z")
> [@Dewey\_Finn](#): > > In that case, you may be disappointed to learn that this site really has nothing to do with marijuana. Well. I wouldn’t say _that_… ---
**Author:** ![Little\_Nemo](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/little_nemo/32/3120_2.png) [@Little\_Nemo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Little_Nemo)\ **Post date:** [March 28, 2018, 5:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-was-addicted-to-escorts-ask-me-anything/811295/34 "2018-03-28T05:02:03Z")
> [@Davidngrk](#): > > I guess I rationalize it as not sex. It’s just a massage and hj. In some countries that is common. Actually her married friend who is a girl got a happy ending during her massage in Italy. My gf said she would have done the same thing when married bc she was in sexless marriage. If it really was no big deal then your girlfriend would know about it. She apparently does not know (at least as far as you know). That means you realize she wouldn’t want you doing this. But you’re doing it anyway and trying to conceal it from her. That’s a problem in a relationship. ---
**Author:** ![Beckdawrek](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/beckdawrek/32/3647_2.png) [@Beckdawrek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Beckdawrek)\ **Post date:** [March 28, 2018, 5:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-was-addicted-to-escorts-ask-me-anything/811295/35 "2018-03-28T05:08:41Z")
I fear it won’t end well for you and new girl. ---
**Author:** ![elbows](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/b3f665/32.png) [@elbows](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/elbows)\ **Post date:** [March 28, 2018, 12:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-was-addicted-to-escorts-ask-me-anything/811295/36 "2018-03-28T12:26:50Z")
So tell us, when you date non prostitues, do you tell them of your extensive experience with prostitutes? ( Because, as a woman, I’d want to know that before I bed a man! ) What percentage of the time, when with prostitutes, are you wearing protection? How do you think women feel about a man who carries on like this for years, while married, and still sexing the wife? ---
**Author:** ![Davidngrk](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e47c2d/32.png) [@Davidngrk](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Davidngrk)\ **Post date:** [March 28, 2018, 2:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-was-addicted-to-escorts-ask-me-anything/811295/37 "2018-03-28T14:00:17Z")
> [@elbows](#): > > So tell us, when you date non prostitues, do you tell them of your extensive experience with prostitutes? ( Because, as a woman, I’d want to know that before I bed a man! ) > > What percentage of the time, when with prostitutes, are you wearing protection? > > How do you think women feel about a man who carries on like this for years, while married, and still sexing the wife? I am not proud of what I did and I know it’s easy to judge and condemn me. But it was an addiction like drugs or alcohol. I guess there’s more understanding and compassion for drug and alcohol addiction. I have told nobody about my experiences with prostitutes. I am sure men will not divulge this info to you before you bed them. Usually (98%) of the time with oral it was bare back. I was in bad place in my life and seeking a greater rush (high) and I did have bare back sex with about 5 providers. Just like a heroin addict wanting a better high no matter the risks. This was very stupid I know. I am sure women look down upon this. People have flaws, make mistakes, some very bad mistakes. ---
**Author:** ![elbows](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/b3f665/32.png) [@elbows](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/elbows)\ **Post date:** [March 28, 2018, 2:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-was-addicted-to-escorts-ask-me-anything/811295/38 "2018-03-28T14:04:26Z")
You keep saying providers and escorts, does that makes it more acceptable for you? ---
**Author:** ![Gatopescado](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/gatopescado/32/5711_2.png) [@Gatopescado](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gatopescado)\ **Post date:** [March 28, 2018, 2:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-was-addicted-to-escorts-ask-me-anything/811295/39 "2018-03-28T14:06:28Z")
Best damn radar detector I’ve ever had. Saved me thousands in speeding tickets. ---
**Author:** ![Davidngrk](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e47c2d/32.png) [@Davidngrk](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Davidngrk)\ **Post date:** [March 28, 2018, 2:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-was-addicted-to-escorts-ask-me-anything/811295/40 "2018-03-28T14:09:30Z")
> [@elbows](#): > > You keep saying providers and escorts, does that makes it more acceptable for you? We all know what it is - sex for money. What you call it doesn’t matter. There are discussion forums for “hobbyist” and the common term used there is “providers”. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-was-addicted-to-escorts-ask-me-anything/811295.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-was-addicted-to-escorts-ask-me-anything/811295.md?page=3)